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Are Blogging Friends Real Or Imagined?

I came across this awesome post from one of my absolute favourite blogs and really wanted to share it with you guys because it’s something I think about a lot. Many people don’t think online friends can be real friends but I think the WP community really proves them wrong because I have met a lot of people I consider friends here and I feel like this community gets me in a way that people may not in real life. Take a look at the post using the link below and let me know what you guys think! Are blogging friends real or imagines?

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I grew to love the connections I made and couldn’t wait to hear what my friends had to say everyday. We grew close and our exchanges were real and genuine, until all of a sudden some of them would disappear into thin air and I was crushed. I used to reach out and see how they were and check in one by one until they were gone completely which always left me a little sad and it still does. I can still remember each of their names and our conversations. As a matter of fact i’m thinking of a few of you right now and i’m hoping you’re ok and doing well.

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Pooja G

84 responses to “Are Blogging Friends Real Or Imagined?”

  1. Third Culture Kid Avatar
    Third Culture Kid

    I get what you mean with the WP community! I’m so glad other people think the same way about this community

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah me too- I thought I was taking it too seriously lol 😆

      Reply
  2. Adédàmọ́lá Badémọsí Avatar
    Adédàmọ́lá Badémọsí

    We Real😌

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      But how can I be sure though… 😂

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      1. TheUnknownReilly Avatar
        TheUnknownReilly

        How do I know you are real? 😮🙈😆

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I’m not… 👻😱

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      2. Adédàmọ́lá Badémọsí Avatar
        Adédàmọ́lá Badémọsí

        Hmmm… Well, i’ll start interacting with your posts more

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Thanks I’d very much appreciate that (and it would help prove you’re real!)

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  3. Movin' it with Michelle Avatar
    Movin’ it with Michelle

    I like to think they are real. At least they are to me!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I feel that way too!

      Reply
  4. Shaunelius Sterns Avatar
    Shaunelius Sterns

    WordPress is a great community. It is like we understand each other, and we can talk about whatever and encourage one another. We learn different things from one another. Friends in the flesh don’t always understand our views and how we feel about things. I think that we all share the same interests when it comes to writing, we all want to put our message our there to share it with the world. Thank you for sharing. Have a wonderful evening. Stay safe.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah absolutely. I have learnt a lot from other bloggers and have met many that I have a lot in common with. Have a wonderful weekend.

      Reply
  5. Tangietwoods Avatar
    Tangietwoods

    I agree “I think the WP community really proves them wrong because I have met a lot of people I consider friends here and I feel like this community gets me in a way that people may not in real life.”

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m very glad to hear that.

      Reply
  6. Hilary Tan Avatar
    Hilary Tan

    This is a very thought provoking article. I have mixed feelings towards online communities. I am deeply rooted in them to the point where my social live revolves around the online community. This leaves me feeling a bit empty because it is just not the same as face-to-face interactions with people. Nothing can truly replace IRL connections. At the same time, I am very grateful for the internet and the ability to connect with people from all over the world.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I really get how you feel. Sometimes I feel like that too since I’m quite invested in this community too and occassionally I think maybe I should be more social in real life lol 😆 But it’s nice to have this community it’s become like a safe space for me.

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      1. Hilary Tan Avatar
        Hilary Tan

        You’re more social than I am. I barely leave the house or see people. Today I made the effort to leave the house and go for a walk. That only lasted 10mins because it was overcast, cold, and started raining. Not my idea of a fun time. I much rather blog lol 😅

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          To be fair winter/start of spring isn’t the best time to be social or leave the house lol 😂

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  7. John Avatar
    John

    Her site is amazing, Pooja, I followed her. Thanks! ❤️

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    1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
      Cindy Georgakas

      You are so Kind John thanks so much … and I followed you back. Looking forward to getting to know you more! 💖💖

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Oh yay I’m glad you liked it! She’s one of my favourite bloggers and such a lovely person ❤

      Reply
  8. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    I like to think that blogging friends are true friends. I mean, I will probably never meet you or any other of my blogging friends in real life. After all, you live halfway around the world and who knows where they live! However, I still treasure our online chats and sharing our wins and losses through our blogs. After all, how else could I share my grandpa’s favorite chocolate fudge cake with people all over the globe?

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I so agree with you and feel the same way! I wish I could meet all of you but it’s probably never going to happen. But I feel very lucky to have met everyone and to be able to interact with you guys.

      Reply
  9. Mr. Ohh's Sideways View Avatar
    Mr. Ohh’s Sideways View

    It is a true community. So why can’t we be friends?
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    Laugh a while. See what happens

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      True- I absolutely think we’re friends even if we aren’t real life friends.

      Reply
      1. Mr. Ohh's Sideways View Avatar
        Mr. Ohh’s Sideways View

        So do I 😃👍

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  10. Prejila Avatar
    Prejila

    very nice post

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  11. oliveunicorn Avatar
    oliveunicorn

    I’ve been so lick to have met really cool and friendly people on WP. Most of which I added to my IG , and its so cool to see their posts . I have a few people in particular who my life is better for meeting them✨

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I feel the same way! I’m very glad to have met a lot of amazing people here.

      Reply
  12. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
    Vanya Wryter Consulting

    I think blogging friends can be real. Technology has allowed us to connect with people around the world – it’s impossible for us to physically travel to all these locations, so being able to connect virtually is such a gift.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I definitely feel that way too. We could never all meet in person but we can meet online which is amazing.

      Reply
  13. keniatotheworld Avatar
    keniatotheworld

    I think WordPress is one of the best platforms. I have formed friendships through it and hoping to meet some of my followers in person. Invites have been made and we just waiting for the appropriate time to meet. <3 from Kenya 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Oh wow that’s amazing too! I’m always happy to meet more Kenyan bloggers and yes this platform us great ☺

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  14. navasolanature Avatar
    navasolanature

    Yes real but also virtual! Think zoom creates same closeness but distance. Some blogger groups do meet up but it is good to have a community of readers and a variety of topics!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah that’s true. Absolutely I know some are lucky enough to be able to meet and hang out in person!

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  15. Helen Avatar
    Helen

    Aww I definitely think they’re real, Pooja! But I also know what this is like, though not so much on WP. I use the international penpal app, Slowly, and I had a really great friend on there for some many years. I still remember his name, his face, his daughters’ faces, everything. We used to chat quite a lot and the banter would always be back and forth, and then one day it just… stopped. There was no goodbye, no “you’ve hurt my feelings and I never want to hear from you again”, nothing, It definitely does hurt because we think we’re really close to these people, but then I suppose have you ever had a real life friend, that you thought was a friend, and wasn’t? I think that hurts more. People get distracted, life takes over, emails and messages get forgotten about and unfortunately people move on. That one real, good “friend” that stabs us in the back though? I think that’s even worse.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Wow that really sucks. I feel like it hurts more when someone disappears without a heads up and you never really get the proper closer you need. Yeah being stabbed in the back by a real friend is worse. Happened to me with someone I was once extremely close to and it really sucked.

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      1. Helen Avatar
        Helen

        I think it depends. I’ve even had penpals tell me they were going through some stuff and don’t have time to write anymore, which then feels like “I don’t have time for YOU anymore”, which obviously can hurt just as much. I just don’t get why people stab people in the back, I think it’s different if they’ve wronged you and you’re calling the out on it but if you’re just jealous or whatever? Not cool. I hope you have better friends now 🙂

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I most definitely have learnt my lesson lol.

          Yeah I’m sure that would suck too. Long distance relationships of any kind even friendships are tough.

          Reply
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  17. Eromonsele Emmanuel Avatar
    Eromonsele Emmanuel

    Thanks for the recommendation Pooja! Blogging friends… hmmm that’s really something to think about. Off to read now.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      My pleasure and hope you enjoy the post!

      Reply
  18. Whatever's On My Mind Avatar
    Whatever’s On My Mind

    WordPress is a great community so far!. As for the question, I like to think we humans have progressed to the point that virtual connections can indeed be valuable:)

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I think so too! Even if we haven’t fully progressed to that point we’re definitely getting there now that so much of our life is online.

      Reply
  19. Carol Avatar
    Carol

    I don’t know if I’d use the term friends but certainly the people I interact with through blogging are usually friendly and interesting acquaintances. That said, I know I’d be sad to loose some of the connections.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah I definitely understand that feeling and I’ve been quite sad to see some of my favourite people stop blogging.

      Reply
  20. mitchteemley Avatar
    mitchteemley

    I wholeheartedly agree!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Glad to hear that!

      Reply
  21. Bingskee Avatar
    Bingskee

    I can consider the blogger friends I meet in person friends. But the meaning of friendship can be subjective. It’s more apt for me to call it as connection.

    Hi! Nice blog you have here.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks! Yeah I definitely agree with that and virtual friendships can sometimes be more connections rather than actual friendships.

      Reply
  22. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    So true. I hate when people leave. I mean leaving WP is a form of leaving too. It leaves such a void behind. It is such an empty feeling. The one who leaves probably doesn’t realize how big a vacuum he or she leaves behind.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      So true. It really hurts and feels like you don’t even have closer since you no don’t know them in real life.

      Reply
  23. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    The WordPress community is amazing. It supports and gives you hope when you are depressed.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree with you.

      Reply
  24. Lia Avatar
    Lia

    I loved reading that post of Cindy’s and am grateful to you for sharing it. Thanks, and thanks also for your like/visit, which enabled me to see it! :)) 🙏💗
    p.s. I adore your new profile pic btw. So lovely 🤗🌸💓

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it and thank you so much for stopping by as well 😊 Thank you so much!! 😊

      Reply
  25. Kirsten Avatar
    Kirsten

    I’ve had a lot of blogging friends over the years… I’ve found personally it’s easier to connect with them on a deeper level vs. my real life friends. I think because we have the common interest of writing and none of my real life friends do haha. So yeah, blogging friends are totally real. 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah I feel that way too. I think we have more in common and feel more comfortable around them since it’s a virtual friendship.

      Reply
  26. TheUnknownReilly Avatar
    TheUnknownReilly

    💀🐴

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  27. Ana Daksina Avatar
    Ana Daksina

    As real as true friendship gets, this WP community goes there!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree!

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      1. Ana Daksina Avatar
        Ana Daksina

        🤗

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  28. surabhikri28gmailcom Avatar
    surabhikri28gmailcom

    That’s amazing to know. I have just started, so don’t know many. But I am looking forward to interacting with you all !!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Welcome to blogging and looking forward to interacting with you too!

      Reply
  29. Lokesh Sastya Avatar
    Lokesh Sastya

    Maybe we like maintaining distances in our relationships.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah that’s true. I know I do.

      Reply
  30. jkaybay Avatar
    jkaybay

    Hope to become your newest friend!
    James

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Hope to become friends too!

      Reply
  31. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji Avatar
    Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji

    They are real
    I’ve also met quite good people and they’ve become my friends some of them, family.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s amazing and I have had a similar experience so I have to agree with you.

      Reply
  32. Krishan Gree Avatar
    Krishan Gree

    Search engine optimization is the process of improving the quality and quantity of website traffic to a website or a web page from search engines. SEO targets unpaid traffic rather than direct traffic or paid traffic.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes.

      Reply
  33. sweetladyloveshouseoflove1812 Avatar
    sweetladyloveshouseoflove1812

    I can’t say the same for bloggers everywhere but in WP I’m a bit new but so far everyone I’ve met here have been way more supportive , compassionate and 💯 than some other platforms. I’m glad to be apart and I appreciate the genuine love from all🤗🙏🤗

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s great and glad you’re liking the platform so far! I feel the same about it 😊😊

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      1. sweetladyloveshouseoflove1812 Avatar
        sweetladyloveshouseoflove1812

        Thank you so 💕much 🥰

        Reply
  34. Maryanne Avatar
    Maryanne

    The internet does put you in a bubble of sorts, but people do tend to forget there are real human beings typing behind their computers (or phones).
    Ever since I’ve been using the internet, from message forums back in the 1990s, to Live Journal in the early 2000s to WordPress, I’ve met some amazing people that I’ve stayed in touch with for decades. One lived close enough that I got to meet her. We’ve hung out several times over the years and are still in touch. Last I saw her was before the pandemic, but we talk on the phone every other month or so and keep in touch via email.
    Of all the negatives on the internet, meeting friends is one of the best it has to offer. It especially gives loners like myself a sense of hope that we’re not at all that different. 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Wow that’s so amazing and I am glad you have been making friends for so many years and have had so many positive experiences. I can be somewhat of a loner too and the internet has really become the best place to socialise for me.

      Reply
  35. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    Well many of the people are actually my friends now outside Wp.
    And it’s not like we are of same age or anything. I’ve found a person who sent me rakhi this year. She is very young and we are connected outside wp. Then there’s another person, with whom I discuss blogging most of the time.
    I’ve actually made some good friends whomever I haven’t talked outside wp, but we appreciate and acknowledge each other. Although, I don’t don’t understand how come most of my friends are female, while in reality I’m very shy.
    I also consider you my friend, although I haven’t talked to you personally at all. But, I like our interactions.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s wonderful. I am always grateful for friends I met on WP and they became real friends. I think of you as a friend too.

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      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        We are connected on ig and LinkedIn, but we are super busy with lives so it’s hard to match time and converse. I first talked to you last year. You were very helpful then by replying to my 10 questions 😛
        I was so scared to text to you. But, you are very humble and polite. I always enjoy these interaction. These keeps such friendship long term. Also, I want to apologise if knowingly or unknowingly I disrespected or bothered you.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah life gets too busy sometimes. Lol happy to help.

          Not a bother at all, I know how confusing blogging can be sometimes so I like to help others if I can.

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          1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
            DEVANG UPADHYAYA

            You are always very generous and supportive.
            I don’t know what you eat in the morning. Must be a bowl of positivity. 🙂
            Keep smiling.

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              I eat literally nothing, that’s the secret 😉😂

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              1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                Air then!!! But, yeah you bring terrific energy 🙂

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