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Have you ever dealt with someone who can never change their mind about something or can never admit when they’re in the wrong? Even with tiny little things. Like you can say it’s 1 p.m and they say no it’s actually 2 p.m and so you show them your watch and prove that it’s 1 p.m. And instead of just being like “oh my bad” they decide to say something infuriating like “well it’s 2 p.m somewhere…” Every time something like that happens, I’m just left thinking- why are people like this? What’s so bad about being wrong?

In my personal opinion, not being able to admit when you’re wrong is a sign of low emotional intelligence. Someone that is secure in themselves and knows how to process their emotions wouldn’t behave that way. It’s also incredibly manipulative to try to gaslight people into thinking you’re right when you’re not

I’ve dealt with someone like this in my life and it’s genuinely exhausting to be around people who can literally never admit they’re wrong even though they often are. I had to start keeping my distance because it was messing with my head and I started feeling like I was going crazy and maybe I was the one in the wrong. Moving forward, I want to stay away from people like this. I can’t be around people who are stuck and never want to evolve.

But seriously, why are people like this. Geez.

Have you ever met someone like this? Please share your craziest manipulation/gaslighting stories in the comments because I need to know I’m not the only one dealing with this lol. Or simply stop by and say hi!

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134 responses to “Why Are People Like This?”

  1. Jixi Fox Avatar
    Jixi Fox

    They do exist…

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  2. Jixi Fox Avatar
    Jixi Fox

    I run into a bunch every other weekend. It be draining my energy. I just be like WHY?

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol I feel the same way, I’m so curious as to why they behave that way 😂

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      1. Jixi Fox Avatar
        Jixi Fox

        Frfr

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  3. Warren Avatar
    Warren

    I once worked with someone, even if you just gave up and pretended to agree with them, they’d just keep arguing….and I may have done that once or twice, I can still remember arguing about the proper way to pronounce Al Pacino….and COVID was a mine field, I lost friends.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, honestly some people just want to argue, it’s so odd. Best to let those kind of people go or at least stay away from them.

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  4. Gina Avatar
    Gina

    The only time that phrase is appropriate is if you say “It’s 5 o’clock somewhere”. But that may only be a US saying. lol Seriously, people do not deserve your friendship if that is the way they act.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol yeah I haven’t heard that used here much which may be a good thing because it would drive me mad. For sure, I’ve distanced myself because I can’t deal with someone who can never take responsibility or change.

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      1. Gina Avatar
        Gina

        It’s an old country music song about it’s never to early for a beer. Not a fan of beer, but I like the idea of doing what you want. Lol.

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          I think people also say “it’s happy hour somewhere” lol 😆

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  5. thomasstigwikman Avatar
    thomasstigwikman

    I am not sure I’ve come across people who refuse to acknowledge they are wrong all the time, well, other than on-line. On-line I’ve come across people who just vanish when proven wrong, or who say something like “bless your heart”, or some silly insult.

    However, I know several people who have a very hard time to acknowledge they are wrong sometimes, or even often. For example, on one occasion I overheard a relative helping a child with homework and she stated that Mars is a star. Not wanting the kid to go to school and claiming that Mars is a star I interjected that Mars is a planet, the fourth planet from the sun. Despite knowing that I knew something about Astronomy she dismissively insisted that I was wrong and that Mars was a star. So I took out Encyclopedia Brittanica and showed her the entry for Mars. She was not happy and did not acknowledge that she was wrong. However, she stopped arguing. I think it is insecurity or a strong sense of wanting to be right.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      They are definitely everywhere online but I feel some may be bots and not real people.

      Oh wow, glad you corrected her because that kid would be so embarrassed at school. I don’t know why people take being corrected is a personal attack, if anything she should have been grateful to learn something new. It’s most likely insecurity, I think that’s where the need to always be correct stems from.

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      1. thomasstigwikman Avatar
        thomasstigwikman

        Yes I certainly agree with you and you may be right about the bots. They are so common on social media now a day that you don’t really know what you are trying to argue with. They intentionally saw discord and are often programmed to be rude. I wonder how many bots I’ve argued with.

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Yup, I see them everywhere in the comments on social media spewing really hateful stuff. Most of the negative comments seem to be bots.

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  6. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    It’s their deep insecurity showing up, it’s also called small dick mentality. They walk thru the park, see the statue and say: Look, what a shitty artist! I could do better! At which point I wanna interrupt and say: why do you even care? It’s a statue for crying out loud, leave it alone .
    Small dick mentality is a pain in the ass. ( Today I’m feeling very vocal ) And for some reason this kind of people always want to lead, if only they could follow… Sigh

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol, definitely small dick energy. I think they delude themselves into believing they’re better than everyone and hate to be proven wrong so they just argue and argue.

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      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        Honestly I’m not sure what’s worse: to better than everyone or worse? Possibly it’s exactly the same

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          I think both extremes aren’t great.

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          1. Milena Alien Avatar
            Milena Alien

            Right

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  7. Shahbaz Ashraf Avatar
    Shahbaz Ashraf

    I think most of us have crossed paths with someone like that, and it can be mentally exhausting.
    In my professional life, I’ve had to deal with people who simply refused to admit even the smallest mistake. Over time, I realized that preserving my own peace was more important than winning every argument. Sometimes the wisest response is just to let it go and move on. Thanks for sharing this thoughtful reflection.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Definitely mentally exhausting. And I agree, regardless of whether it’s in a professional setting or in life it’s best to prioritise our sanity instead of arguing with people that will never admit they’re wrong. Thanks so much for your wonderful comment.

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      1. Shahbaz Ashraf Avatar
        Shahbaz Ashraf

        Absolutely. Sometimes protecting our own sanity matters more than winning an argument. You cannot convince someone who has already decided that their crow is white, no matter how much evidence you present.
        Thanks!

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          That’s exactly it!

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  8. Stephanie Avatar
    Stephanie

    I remember being so frustrated in some university settings, that argument was the dominate way people dialogued. They get on a train and can’t get off, even if you’re having a casual conversation, because they’re always proving their intelligence or that they have a right to be there. Maybe I’d take it as a compliment. A frustrating one, to be sure. But maybe there’s insecurity on their part.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Omg yes, I felt that way in uni too. I think a lot of people argue in bad faith at university/college and it ends with everyone being frustrated or unsatisfied since no one is willing to actually listen.

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      1. Stephanie Avatar
        Stephanie

        It was frustrating because one feels like “If there’s not going to be real conversation here, then where?”

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          It’s true, campuses should be where real conversations thrive but it’s no longer that way. I think it also has to do with youth, when you’re young and fresh out of high school you think you’re really smart but are actually just argumentative.

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          1. Stephanie Avatar
            Stephanie

            Right. Overrunning someone isn’t being persuasive, just ending a conversation.

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  9. Darryl B Avatar
    Darryl B

    This is really a nit, but “randy” is an English term that means racy, excited, lustful.
    My friend insists it’s “ranty.” So at coffee…

    “Did you see X flick? Pretty randy.”
    “Yeah, it WAS pretty ranTY.”

    5 min later

    “Hey, that lady is giving that guy a RANTY look.”
    “Wow, that IS pretty RANDY.” (bold font)

    And so on. Guess I gotta find it in writing 😂

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol I had a similar conversation with someone because I told them it’s “tidbit” and they were like no it’s “tibbit” 😂

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  10. Vic Crain Avatar
    Vic Crain

    Yes these people exist. No, you don’t have to make room for them in your life.

    One of the things that I learned early in business is that there are clients you don’t want. Those who drain more in resources then they will ever give. To be successful means knowing when to send them on their way.

    The same is true in personal life. Your time and energy has value and you don’t need to give what you have to someone who gives nothing in return. (If this sounds familiar, Taylor Swift said something quite similar in an interview not long ago.)

    There are people who sap your energy and sink your morale. So you take a break from them. You don’t make a big deal of it. You don’t ask for their time and you’re busy when they ask for yours. How long the break lasts depends on whether their behavior changes or your needs change. It could be a few weeks or forever. That’s not a choice that you need to make up front.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s so true, they are not worth our time and energy. We should focus on the people in our life that are actually worth having around.

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  11. Harry Katz Avatar
    Harry Katz

    Daniel Kahneman, the Nobel-prize winning psychologist & author of Thinking Fast and Slow once said something like “Being wrong is the only way I feel sure I’ve learned anything.” He looked at being wrong not as a personal failure but as a step on the way to improved understanding. I love that and I think it’s really healthy.

    People who cannot admit they’re wrong at best lack curiosity and at worst are gaslighting you. Keeping your distance from them makes perfect sense to me.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I agree, that’s such a healthy way to look at failure. And it’s true, that’s how we learn and grow. For sure, I just don’t want those sort of people around me.

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  12. shivatje Avatar
    shivatje

    🙏🌹

    Aum Shanti

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      🙏🙏

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  13. Lokesh Avatar
    Lokesh

    Take care of yourself.

    Avoid the people who drain you.
    When someone have decided something in their head no one can change their point of view.

    I feel ignorance is some sort of ragebait.😂

    Many things are obvious and well known. Collectively we call them common sense.
    It is applicable on a wider level, and can be tested & proved when required.

    ‘You can wake up a sleeping person. You can’t wakeup a person who pretends to sleep. There is a difference in these two.’

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol so true, it does feel like ragebait lol! 😂

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    2. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      And I agree, some people are wilfully ignorant and no amount of arguing will change their mind.

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  14. amidlifeadventure Avatar
    amidlifeadventure

    As I’ve grown older I’ve realised that who we interact with, be friends with and include in our life is a personal choice.
    Negativity is draining and something I don’t need in my life. I’ve learnt to disconnect.
    On a surface level I cleanse my Facebook friends and Instagram connections roughly every 6 months because I don’t want to read posts that grate on me or bring down my mood.
    Don’t get me wrong everyone has times in their life when life isn’t going well and I’m there to support them but constantly thinking they are right or being negative, no sorry I don’t need that

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I completely agree, it’s best to let go of people we have outgrown or that don’t bring anything positive into our life. The constant negativity is definitely the issue, if it’s 24/7 it’s exhausting.

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  15. katiemiafrederick Avatar
    katiemiafrederick

    Sadly Dear Pooja Some Folks Are Wired Practically from Birth Or Soon After
    By Environment to Treat Other Humans and Other Animals and the Rest of

    Nature as Tools Only to Use

    Yes Manipulate and Gaslight too

    Particularly for the Vulnerable who
    Have No Practical way to Escape and

    Others still Who Voluntarily Submit

    To ‘Trump Like Meme’ Behavior

    As the Vulnerability may be

    Mutual in Power Greed
    And Only Selfish Needs

    This is the Human Condition
    Far From Rational and Emotionally
    Driven AS Whole Far Beyond whatever
    reasons we come up with for what we do next

    Yet of course We May Get Wired for a Much Better
    Place of Kindness from Birth and Beyond If It is a Village

    Of LoVE iN Peace
    Rather than Love for
    War in All the Colors of
    Fear Anger and Hate

    Human
    War
    Does
    continue
    to come
    throughout our
    Archetypical Ages

    As Hero Faces off With Villain
    As True Both may go both ways too..:)

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      So true, I very much agree. We just have to stay authentic and be as honest as possible.

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      1. katiemiafrederick Avatar
        katiemiafrederick

        Indeed With
        SMiles
        Dear Pooja☺️🙌

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  16. safia begum Avatar
    safia begum

    A very relatable observation about human behavior. Sometimes pride, habits, or the fear of admitting mistakes can prevent people from seeing another perspective. Open-mindedness and humility are valuable qualities that help us build healthier relationships. Thank you for sharing this insightful reflection.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Very much agree. Thanks so much.

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  17. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    I had a boss sort of like that. He would tell you how something worked, but when you pointed out it was wrong he would wait a few days then call everyone in to explain the theory of how it worked as if he invented the thing. He would never admit he was wrong, lol. I found it kind of entertaining to argue with him, but most people would warn me not to get him started and just agree with him.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol yeah sometimes it’s amusing to keep arguing haha.

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  18. Bookstooge Avatar
    Bookstooge

    Yeah, those people suck the life right out of everyone around them. And it is one thing if you can just walk away from that person and stop dealing with them, but if the situation is such that you can’t do that, man, that is exhausting beyond all belief.
    I’ve learned that if someone really wants to argue about stuff, I just cut off ties with them as fast as possible. Disagreement and discussion is one thing, arguing just to argue is quite another.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, beyond exhausting is about right. Best to keep our distance as much as possible because it’s like arguing with a brick wall.

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  19. Kevin James Wholley Avatar
    Kevin James Wholley

    I think it is an insecurity thing with them and believe people will think they are lacking intelligence.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I agree, I think it has to do with internal insecurities.

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  20. trE Avatar
    trE

    BINGO!!!

    “In my personal opinion, not being able to admit when you’re wrong is a sign of low emotional intelligence. Someone that is secure in themselves and knows how to process their emotions wouldn’t behave that way.”

    Recently, I had to distance myself from someone I love who can’t do this… And also, they’ll never actually apologize. They’ll say, “Oh, that sounds fair,” or “Fair enough”, or “I see.” If you’re ever waiting for an actual apology from them, it’s not coming. I don’t need anyone around me like that; don’t want it, either.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I had the same experience last year. They’re incapable of taking any responsibilities and it’s best never to wait for an apology.

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  21. Dawn Avatar
    Dawn

    DEFINITELY have had people like this. So beyond exhausting!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Absolutely, it’s best to keep your distance!

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  22. mylittlehawk Avatar
    mylittlehawk

    Oh, I HAVE people like that in my life, and it drives me insane, but also sometimes I just laugh in their face, because they’re very consciously trying to make a fool out of me, and I’m just not having it!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Same here, it’s so exhausting. Lol sometimes you just have to laugh and move on!

      Reply
  23. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    I know people like that and they drive me crazy. I feel they must be insecure and they have to prove their point. Plus, some people just like to argue just for the sake of arguing. I don’t need those types in my life.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I agree, I think it stems from insecurity. Best to stay away from people like that.

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      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        Yep, who needs more stress in their life.😧

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  24. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Sorry you have to deal with this. It must be hard.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. It’s tough but I’ve decided to just let go and move on from those people.

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  25. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    I’ve stop arguing with such people.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It’s best not to argue with them, they’ll never see your side of things.

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        Exactly. 👍🏼

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  26. cupcakecache Avatar
    cupcakecache

    Sometimes you need to focus with laser focus on yourself. I have met lots of people along the way like this. If I thought of them too much, I wouldn’t have finished two novels, travelled, taught, and enjoyed my life. Sometimes people don’t deserve a second thought even if they don’t keep promises to you, no one is obligated. That is on them. Even family. In the end, we face our mirror and mirrors are like leaks.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Agreed, it’s best to focus on yourself. Speaking of your novel, I’m half way through Quest for Absence and seriously loving it. Hope to read and review it this week.

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      1. cupcakecache Avatar
        cupcakecache

        Wow, You must have telepathy! I just send you an email about a few things! Amazing! I could write a novel about this, I believe and telepathy. I am so happy you are enjoying it! I really needed to hear that today. I have a pretty busy week coming up which I explained in the email.

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          What a cool coincidence! I just replied to your email too and hope everything goes well!

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          1. cupcakecache Avatar
            cupcakecache

            Thank you!

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            1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
              P. J. Gudka

              You’re most welcome!

              Reply
  27. Author Jan Sikes Avatar
    Author Jan Sikes

    People are always gonna be people. 🙂 There are many who absolutely refuse to admit they are wrong when the facts are clear. Lots of background programming going on there. 🙂

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, totally agree. They are who they are and we can’t change that 🙂

      Reply
  28. Mark Edward Jabbour Avatar
    Mark Edward Jabbour

    From the very last page of my last book: “‘Being right isn’t a valued trait unique to narcissists. It’s a trait shared by all people; it’s universal. It’s just a matter of degree. The stick-to-it-ness, the “never give an inch” part of being right, that is so dominant in narcissists is what separates them from ordinary folks. It (being right) is a survival mechanism to be right, to not give in or up, to not quit until you’re proven right. “There’s water in this direction [true, if you don’t give up], I know it. Follow me or die trying.” Those that don’t quit will succeed. Those that believe in themselves will win, unless they don’t have the stamina or the talent. That is the law of natural selection, the law of the jungle: never give up or in, never quit, and keep fighting. Narcissists are the best! “‘ (p. 323)
    So there you have it. It’s a primal instinct. AND YES! it can be very frustrating in our world today. Probably always was. And yes, sometimes it is just insecurity. Hang in there. PS – it’s especially frustrating when it’s someone close to you. That hurts..

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s very well said, it’s best to avoid people like that for our own peace of mind. Definitely hurts a lot when it’s someone close to you but I’ve learnt to distance myself as much as I can.

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  29. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    My ex used to gaslight me all the time. He’d say, “but you said…” and if I could remember my exact words, they might, somehow, be interpreted like that, but generally I was just like, who would interpret my words like that? Nine times out of ten I couldn’t remember my exact words (who does?) and I would just argue back that I never said that. What a nightmare! We no longer hang out! I just pray for him! He may have learned that from his parents!

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    1. Samuel Avatar
      Samuel

      I am so sorry! One of the people who raised me (I don’t want to name them) could be just like that. It was someone whom I also loved, couldn’t avoid and whom also had many wonderful qualities, but the gaslighting was often just crazy and it often drove me crazy, litterally… they had been terribly abused and never fully matured I think. And I know they genuinly loved me and they did try (and did) get better (or less bad) over time but still it was almost imposible to deal with. Yes they did grow emotionally and admit to mistakes, but this quality remained with them to a substancial if lesser degree untill near the end. I am still haunted and in long term recovery. Makes me very sad to think about!

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    2. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Wow, that’s so awful and incredibly abusive. I’m so sorry you experienced that, I can’t imagine going through so much gaslighting.

      Reply
  30. Samuel Avatar
    Samuel

    OMG yes! I try to not be close to such people in general, but can’t always avoid them, –and some are people who I still like and care about who are only SOMEtimes like this. Much worse though IMHO, is that so many of our politicians, professionals and other leaders so often have this very same tendency, and this often directly reflects in many of their “leadership” decisions… sorry not wanting to go on any big rant or anything but this just gets to me! Thanks for bringing this issue up.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I literally can’t be around people like that anymore because it’s so triggering. Honestly, I would say the majority of politicians/leaders are that way. Like 99.9% of them. It’s awful.

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  31. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    That’s so much worse! Yuck! I just came to agree that I was the problem and just couldn’t get along with anyone. That turned out to be untrue. On the upside, my faith grew exponentially. Very, very painful time in my life, but I am coming out of it and healing. This is good. Hope you are healing too.

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  32. Samuel Avatar
    Samuel

    Forgot to add in my comment above that one of those who was sometimes (often) like this and could gaslight like crazy, but other times could admit to being wrong and be genuinely remorseful, was someone who raised me. I became pretty crazy and sometimes acted really like crap myself in time (to them and to others) which I deeply regret. But I am on a long term healing journey.

    They were mentally ill and had been abused, and I know they really tried too and loved me genuinely, but I became so messed up from this.. Just makes me very sad to think about.. but I am also greatful for the sacrafices they made for me and the many good things they taught me!

    And I do mean all of the above. I am not making any excuses for them, and there is no contradiction in the above. Some people really are such a mixed bag though many refuse to believe it.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I’m so sorry to hear that, having someone like that in your family is incredibly difficult. I can relate. It stays with us for a long time.
      I think in most cases they have serious trauma of their own. And at the same time we can’t fully excuse their behaviour.

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  33. Wynne Leon Avatar
    Wynne Leon

    Oh, I know exactly what type of people you mean. I remember telling someone during Covid that I was able to catch a bus without touching anything because the buses were free for a time so that no one had to deal with money. The doors opened automatically, I just walked on and sat down. The other person responded in a way that was so typical for them, “Well, you touched the seat.”

    I think you’re right that it’s not a sign of emotional health. It’s also kind of sad because it’s another layer of armor between them and the world!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Geez, what a rude thing to say to you. I hope that person is no longer in your life. It’s definitely sad because I think that sort of behaviour often stems from internal shame and insecurity.

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  34. Opher Goodwin Avatar
    Opher Goodwin

    LOL – some people are incredibly frustrating! Ride with it Pooj. The flaws all theirs!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, totally agree!

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  36. Aptivi Avatar
    Aptivi

    Unfortunately, we have people who can’t admit that they’re wrong. It’s a sign of low intelligence. Well said! 👍

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, I think it’s from not being able to process their own emotions well. Thanks!

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      1. Aptivi Avatar
        Aptivi

        You’re most welcome! And you’re right 👍

        Have a very wonderful week!

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Have a wonderful week too!

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          1. Aptivi Avatar
            Aptivi

            Thank you so much! ☺️

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            1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
              P. J. Gudka

              You’re most welcome! 😊

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  37. chanél desirée Avatar
    chanél desirée

    I’ve tried to avoid such people. They don’t deserve my attention. If they’re never going to grow, why continue to entertain them?

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Totally agree, there’s no point in being around people that are stuck and never want to grow.

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  38. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    I have two colleagues who are just like that. perhaps the universe is trying to spite me. What is interesting, is when they both argue with each other… contesting the same thing, with the same arguments from different perspectives. but they do drive me bonkers.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Oh geez, it must be exhausting to be around them. Best to keep your distance as much as possible.

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      1. byngnigel Avatar
        byngnigel

        Headphones… just turn up the music lol.

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Lol that works 😂

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          1. byngnigel Avatar
            byngnigel

            It works very well. 😄

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  39. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar
    The Mindful Migraine Blog

    Ugh – I just had a builder make excuses for his mistake and tried to tell me I wouldn’t understand… when he said “reading drawings can be tricky”, I replied “maybe for you, I have a PhD in architecture “… he stopped mucking around and finished the job!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      LOL I would have loved to see the look on your face when you said that 😂

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      1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar
        The Mindful Migraine Blog

        h just turned a bit mean… ugh… some men!

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Oof, I can guarantee that has to do with their own insecurities!

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          1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar
            The Mindful Migraine Blog

            I know… it’s a bit tedious NGL! 🙃

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  40. Swamigalkodi Astrology Avatar
    Swamigalkodi Astrology

    Impressive

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks

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  41. .Killa. Avatar
    .Killa.

    LOL, that seems like a mixture or immaturity, mixed with insecurity and a dash of being too sensitive 🤣😂

    I feel your pain Pooja, I feel your pain having to deal with a situation like this 🤭😅

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol thank you 🙌🏽💗

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      1. .Killa. Avatar
        .Killa.

        You are welcome my dear 🙌🏽💗😸🥰

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          🥰💕

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          1. .Killa. Avatar
            .Killa.

            💘🤗😘💕

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  42. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    I met them every day in my administration years. If they are useful, you keep them and tolerate their foolishness, if not and they are disruptive to the group they have to go.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, I think that’s the best way to handle people like that.

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  43. Victoria Avatar
    Victoria

    Oof! Yes. The folks who will dig in and hold their position, even when they’re obviously wrong. When I see that behavior in my personal life, I immediately create distance — however I can. Even if the person in question rebounds and realizes they’ve made an utter *ss of themselves, I never forget. My life’s too full of beautiful, authentic souls at this point to waste time on someone mired in their own senseless insecurity.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I think that’s for the best, getting too close with people like that is exhausting regardless of whether they eventually realise they’re in the wrong or not. Exactly, focus on the authentic people that bring you joy!

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      1. Victoria Avatar
        Victoria

        Sending hugs! Yes!!! ❤️😊❤️

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Hugs! 🤗💕

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  44. clcouch123 Avatar
    clcouch123

    I have met a couple of folk like this. They cannot admit to being wrong and, you’re also right, it might be about the smallest things. I actually watched one of these persons literally splutter (now I know how that sounds) over a minor detail missed in a program that was hers to cover and that someone else was correcting. There was no penalty of any kind involved; and the response to the correcting could have been, you know, thank you. I don’t know–maybe the compulsion has to deal with having right or wrong in anything perceived as a competition to win, no matter what. Even at the sacrifice of real truth. Sigh.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, even when there’s no consequences to being wrong they continue to insist they’re right. Sort of digging themselves into a hole they can’t climb out of. A sad way to live.

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  45. Renate Wiseforward Avatar
    Renate Wiseforward

    You said it already…emotionally stunted! Set your boundaries and stick with it.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s exactly it, they don’t have the emotional maturity to admit they’re wrong about anything ever. Boundaries are so important!

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  46. BellaDharma an BellaSita Mum Avatar
    BellaDharma an BellaSita Mum

    Hello Pooja! Oh yeah I know someone like this! Upstairs neighbor. She is always right even when she KNOWS full well she is worng. She will get into an arguement to ‘prove’ she is right over the silliest things. I too, felt I was going crazy with her behaviour towards me. And thenI realized she is liek this with everybody! And her mother is the same…And her grown children are the same & her grandchildren…It’s like some sort of genetic weirdness passed on. It IS a learned behaviour…no doubt about it! I too, distance myself from this person. Just to preserve my sanity….Thank you for such an insightful & honest post. ((hugs))BellaSita Mum (Sherri-Ellen) & **purrss** BellaDharma

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  47. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
    Vanya Wryter Consulting

    Now that I’m older I no longer play the “No, I didn’t.” “Yes, you did.” “No, I didn’t.” “Yes, you did.” game.
    I also find that borders on gaslighting, which people have done to me.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, absolutely- it’s best not to engage.

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  48. K. Ravindra Avatar
    K. Ravindra

    Nice

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks

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  49. Gertrude_n Avatar
    Gertrude_n

    One of the reasons why someone would behave like this is trauma.
    They grew up where there opinion never mattered, now that they are grown they feel like all their opinions are right.
    It’s just sad.

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  50. SiriusSea Avatar
    SiriusSea

    Such a good post and maddeningly true … I have a hearing impairment from birth and sometimes, I hear B’s & D’s even T’s differently, like you had earlier tidbit. My mum would mess me up with things like Sudoku vs Suduko and I would fall for it every time, to the fact that I have numerous examples and get them wrong even still. “They” would say teasing, but that’s not funny! Yes – I can apologize, correct, and avoid this type of battle for control or power over another. It is a sign of low emotional IQ and to my knowledge, it only can be overcome by the individual themselves seeing how that behavior isolates them or worse institutionalizes them in some compacity (prison, hospital, meds, closed off). I also know that the condition they endure isn’t good nor their end. You are blessed to know your worth, truth, and value your time ~ <3 always

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  51. Alex Diaz-Granados Avatar
    Alex Diaz-Granados

    My half-sister is such a person.

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  52. Pramod M Avatar
    Pramod M

    Exactly what you said, I met lot of them in my life, very very bad behaviour, I think ego and self appreciation is the main problem, they don’t know this type of behaviour affects others.

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