What Really Grinds My Gears: Veganuary Edition

What Really Grinds My Gears

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I wasn’t sure if I wanted to share this post with you guys but decided to anyway because I haven’t had a good whine in a while. So, todays edition of what grinds my gears is about veganism.

Recently, I was going through the vegan hashtag on my Reader. I like to browse through it in the hopes of finding some good recipes. That’s when I came across a post that really pissed me off. Like pissed me off so much I was actually making a fist while reading it.

The post was about how much the author hates vegans and how we’re stupid because veganism is stupid and has no benefits. They get vegetarianism, it’s just veganism this person seems to have a problem with. This person went on to rant about vegans for the rest of the post. And at the end they explained why that post was created. Because apparently they saw something on social media about how vegans don’t eat honey for ethical reasons. Apparently that’s “stupid” because this person thinks it’s ethical to eat honey.

The whole point of this person, straight up spewing so much hate about vegans (I don’t even want to repeat some of the stuff they said) was because of honey. And some people choosing not to eat honey.

My Thoughts

The reason I was so mad is because I see so much hate towards vegans and veganism online. I don’t understand why someones personal dietary choices are so offensive to people. Like have people really run out of things to be offended and angry about? Because let me tell you, there are some actual things out there that should piss you off. And none of those reasons include honey or diets.

This person went on to say they don’t eat pork for religious reasons. But that’s totally okay because they believe in a higher power. Whereas (according to them) vegans don’t believe in anything so we don’t have a reason to not eat animal products.

How insanely self-absorbed do you have to be to think it’s okay for you to pick and choose what you can and cannot eat while no one else gets the same privilege? How insanely hypocritical is it to make such assumptions about vegans while being on a specific diet yourself.

The world is filled with people who are going to have different beliefs than you. In fact, here’s a little newsflash, no one is going to have the same exact values and beliefs as you all the time. We all have our own thoughts and opinions about things. What others choose to eat or not eat does not concern you in the least bit. If you want to eat something go out and do it. No one is tying you to a chair and force feeding you plant based food.

My advice to people who are so obsessed with controlling others is this: stop being a little bitch about everything and live your own life instead of policing other peoples.

Conclusion

I just wanted to also clarify that a lot of vegans do believe in a higher power. A lot of us are religious or spiritual. And a lot of vegans I know eat honey while some vegetarians I know don’t lol.

I have never treated someone differently because of their dietary choices even as a vegan. I try to make Lifesfinewhine an inclusive place where everyone feels appreciated and seen. And normally my posts are more positive. But when I read things like this it feels like a personal attack on my beliefs. And that’s something I’m not okay with. It also reminds me of all the times I’ve been treated differently and that really hurts.

So let’s stop putting people in little boxes. And judging each other so harshly. We’re all stuck on this planet with each other so let’s be kind and understanding instead of making each others lives hell. Let’s try and spread love instead of hate.

Hope you guys enjoyed this edition of “What Really Grinds My Gears.” I’ve been watching a lot of Family Guy lately and I felt like this was an appropriate title for my rant. Should I do more “What Really Grinds My Gears” posts about things that piss me off? Let me know in the comments below! Or simply stop by and say hi.

Ps I didn’t link the post for obvious reasons (I don’t want to spread any hate their way). But I have seen this person write hateful things about vegans multiple times. And I ended blocking them because I’m done with toxic things. I don’t need stuff like that in my life.

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110 thoughts on “What Really Grinds My Gears: Veganuary Edition

  1. Yours made a lot more sense than whatever that person was going on about…what are they talking about?😭 All of that is convoluted. I don’t know how I feel about meat or anything (I’m not a vegan) but I think their argument is ??? Why do they care about what other people are doing? The only vegans you should worry about are the ones that worry about you in a toxic way. Most vegans are harmless and usually are doing things for a good cause. It’s not like they were mad about that..just their own confusion? Like 🤔 that doesn’t make sense.

    1. Thanks. I have no idea what this person was ranting about. I have a feeling they were just and about something else and were just projecting their hate. I genuinely don’t understand either how people can be so mad about other peoples choices that have nothing to do with them. How ridiculous.

  2. Sounds like a whole lotta nonsense coming out of someone who has done nothing to earn your give a damn. I always just respond with, “Sorry. I don’t get all worked up over trolls. Give up.” And then I walk away and think I should block them but I can’t cause then they wouldn’t see my comment and they go on thinking they have the power to anger people at their will. So I just let my comment ride

    1. I just blocked the site because it was filled with random hate posts about vegans. I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life. I find talking about it on blog posts helps me process stuff so I would rather do that than engage with this person.

  3. My husband said this year is the year of “worry about yourself” and this guy needs to worry about himself. Like what does he care? How does your decision affect him? It doesn’t. I enjoyed this, and think you should do more.

  4. Oh my goodness! Unreal! I respect your ability to choose your own food. You are, after all, an adult. I couldn’t do it, as we have so many allergies. However, I do try to include some vegan-friendly recipes from time to time. We are all different – that’s what makes life interesting! Keep veganing on!

    1. Thanks so much. We are all unique and need different things. I think it’s best to choose diets that suit us specifically. Plant based food works perfectly for me but I know it’s not for everyone. Thanks!

  5. Hi Pooja! I just want to say, this is an epic post. You’re 100% right. I’m not vegan (not even vegetarian) and it burns me when people are just plain old nasty about this kind of stuff. Like, why does it matter so much to some folks, what others do? Or eat? Or believe? Or what kind of accent they have? Or their body shape? Here in Cape Breton we say “mind yer business”. Some people are just jerks, is all. Peace and love!

  6. Love it!!! You just Writ about a lot of things I am often thing King but never say out loud. People get so passionate about stupid things that don’t concern them at all, while ignoring the real issues concerning us all. Much better things to worry about then what some One else is having for lunch… Blessings, and bon appetit!

  7. Good ol Pooja.
    Love the blog, it’s been a while since I saw/read this version of you.
    .
    About veganism, people see it differently. I’ve seen many posts, that make fun of veganism and treat it differently.
    Clearly it’s person’s own choice and we should respect and appreciate everyone’s preference of food.
    .
    I urge you to not get bothered with such shit, because it will keep annoying you.
    They don’t deserve your attention.

    1. Lol thanks. Yes, I agree people are really mean about veganism sometimes since it’s so different from the norm. That’s what really grinds my gears 😂

      Thanks and yeah I almost always ignore it but this time I had something to say and get out there.

      1. People talk about veganism out of ignorance and lack of knowledge. They think it’s all about eating veggies. Sooner or later they will become vegan as well.
        You keep your calm PG, because I don’t want you to take unnecessary stress. You already have a lot in your plate.
        But, I also love the whinning, sorry 😝

  8. People don’t always have the same opinions. And that’s fine, till the time you respect the differences in opinion and not target that group of people with hate comments.
    But oh well, not everyone understands that simple fact! *shrugs*
    Totally support you Pooja!

  9. It’s unfortunate you had to stumble upon that Pooja.

    Personally, I think the choice to go vegan is a difficult one and requires a great deal of self discipline and someone taking up that choice should be respected and admired. 🤍

    1. Thanks so much. It’s definitely a difficult choice and I don’t think it’s fair to hate on someone just because of something so insignificant.

  10. Wow, Pooja, this person seems to be very unstable. My sister, my niece are vegans and I would never come at them about this. It’s just not my business. Feel better soon! Hugs.

    1. Yes, I think this person seems like they have anger problems and are projecting their issues on others. Yeah, I don’t think what someone eats is anyone else’s concern. Just eat whatever you want and be happy 🤷🏻‍♀️
      Thanks 😊

  11. I think it might be because some vegans are “holier than thou” and make people feel sinful for making different choices. It’s difficult not to take hateful comments to heart, but we all need to make choices that are best for our individual health.

    1. Yes, it’s true some vegans are like that but if you think about it all groups have people like that and it’s unfair to hate a whole group of people over stuff like that. Absolutely and I usually ignore such hate but I think this just really pissed me off.

  12. “stop being a little bitch about everything and live your own life instead of policing other people”
    This is the best piece of advice for those who have got this bad habit of poking their nose in every matter. Such toxic people can’t help spreading toxicity wherever they go.
    No person has the right to judge others on the basis of their personal choices, be it faith or food, or anything else for that matter.
    But still there are people who take upon themselves to meddle in the affairs of each and every other person. May be they derive some sadistic pleasure in taunting others. Such morons must sternly be taken to task, otherwise they’ll never stop hurting you.

    1. Thanks and I think so too. Some people just have a very bad habit of judging others no matter what. Instead of wasting time on others you should be looking at yourself and thinking of how you can be a better version of yourself. What others do is not your business.
      I agree, people like that need to learn a lesson otherwise they never stop.

      1. Yes, internet has become such a place for people to unleash their hatred in relative obscurity. I mean such a person may not do the same thing in his or her own community since everybody knows everybody, but he or she can do this on internet just because he or she doesn’t have to feel responsible for the consequences. Sometimes it feels like the ugly side of human nature is put on full display when there’s no restraint…I guess probably this person is dating a vegan or dating somebody who tries to be a vegan. And then there are conflicts or frictions, as usually the case when human relationship rolls on…

        1. Yes, people always say the world is getting worse but as a historian I actually think it’s getting better. It’s just that the hate is much more in our face now thanks to the internet. The hate was always there, it’s just people didn’t have platforms like this one to spread it.

  13. That’s the whole thing about the state that we’re in…no one accepts others differences and feel they are entitled to criticize others because their way is the right way. Closed mindsets who only see black or white. Sad.

  14. It might be that there’s too much virtue signalling and hypocrisy. Yes, it is very annoying. People on all sides can be very irrational. They all feel threatened in some way. Let them eat crow.
    [there is a verbal joke pun– it requires that you hear “seafood”] I’m on a see-food diet. Everything I see I eat. But… The grass said to the sheep, “Don’t eat me.” The sheep said to the cook, “Don’t eat me.” The cook said to the critic, “Don’t kill me.” The critic said to the warrior cannibal, “Don’t eat me.” The cotton plant said, “Don’t make me into a T-shirt.” The politician sold virtue signalling t-shirts with slogans for all of them, and he hired tax collectors who said, “Don’t eat at all.”

  15. Yeah I will never understand people like this, my mantra in life is “not my circus, not my monkeys” what others do, eat, wear, say, etc.. is no concern of mine unless it directly affects me. Which generally it does not. Live & let live. xo

  16. Hi Pooja, I think you did the right thing by blocking that person. Too much hate in the world, and it’s best to block it out and focus on the good — which there’s a lot of, too!

  17. Hi Pooja! I’m with you. I find the berating of vegans absurd. Sorry that person’s post got under your skin. I’m not a vegan, but I have very good friends who are. It matters not to me what someone eats or doesn’t. I’m ok with whatever you believe and why you are vegan or not. To me, the most important part is who you are as a person. Are you kind, good and supportive? Or do you prefer to be angry, self-absorbed and myopic? Because, like you, we’re going to surround ourselves with the kind, good and supportive people. I’m glad you blocked the offender. Nobody needs to deal with mean people. We all just need to get along and support each other. Big hugs. Good post!

    1. Thanks so much! Many of my closest friends are vegan and many are non-vegan. It really doesn’t matter to me because we have found other things we have in common. We need to realise the world doesn’t revolve around us and that there are lots of different people out there!

  18. I’m glad you blocked them. People feel so superior when they judge others. I love that you’re vegan and I respect the heck out of you! It’s not an easy path but so worthwhile. Which I guess is why people have strong reactions. Seems irrational but it is threatening to them on some level.

    1. Yeah, I just don’t need that kind of negativity in my life and I knew I had no interest in seeing anything from them ever again. Thanks so much! Yes, I think that could be it.

  19. WellsFiction

    I can’t stand people who misjudge others and make up ridiculous statements such as everyone is like that. Each person has their own individual likes and dislikes no matter if I agree or disagree with them. You can’t sit there and claim one hundred percent of people based on their gender, race, religion, political views or whatever think the same way because that is pure insanity and straight up hate. Ugh now I’m getting heated lol.

    1. Lol, I was the same way. Things like this piss me off so much even though I try to stay calm. Some people just want to hate for no reason. It’s ridiculous.

  20. File it under ‘tribalism’ and let go of it. Also, after assessing your community’s attitudes toward Pakistanis, you might then discharge your resentment of tribalism. We’re all tribal. It comes with the trim package. All persons of other tribes are dumb, unless they’re cooler than us, in which case we resent them for that, while saying they’re dumb. Unless the tribe at your border is an authentic existential threat, try not to go to war over it. That’s really dumb, and not just in an abstract sense. Peace.

    1. I’m Kenyan so I don’t understand the reference to my community’s “attitude” towards Pakistani’s considering my community is extremely open and friendly towards them. In fact, my very best friend is Pakistani. And no, I don’t believe we’re all “tribal.” And we certainly don’t all think all other “tribes” are dumb or resent them. Perhaps that’s “normal” to some but I believe that hate and prejudice are learnt behaviours not biological. Even if they are biological, many of us have evolved to the extent that we understand the irrationality of hating someone just because they are racially different than ourselves. In many countries the concept of tribes may not have been created by colonisers but they it was definitely exaggerated and exploited for their gains. “Divide and conquer” I believe they called it. I’m guessing you assumed I’m Indian and so I’ll use the Indian-Pakistani disputes as an example. So much of the hate and issues that India and Pakistan have was largely created by colonisers in an attempt to “divide and conquer.”

      1. I did think you were Indian. The reference clearly missed the mark, although I see you understood it. Tribalism isn’t about race, it’s about values, and everyone IS tribal. Your tribe apparently values inclusion, among other things. You think of your tribe as ‘evolved’ and, I suspect, superior to tribes not so inclined. I’m not shaming you. Guitar players believe themselves superior to drummers. That’s how people are.

        ‘Coloniser’ is a word used to denounce migrants for being successful at moving to another place. It’s a pejorative commonly applied to persons of Western European extraction for the presumed sins of their ancestors, a tribal sin, if you will, frowned upon by persons of other tribes.

        Anglo-Europeans have been taking a lot of heat for a history of ‘exploitation’, during which time their tribes shared the means by which the entire world was lifted out of abject hunger and poverty.

        1. As to prejudice, ‘irrational, preconceived, unreasonable judgements or convictions’ – such feelings are a survival strategy, and a useful one. Soccer enthusiasts are known to be rowdy following a game. May I be allowed to take a detour around the stadium without accusation of hatred and intolerance? Tribal affiliation comes with an explicit contract of mutual support and non-aggression. Fear and suspicion of other tribes is sometimes grounded in a history of unfortunate outcomes. Will you walk fearlessly down a street among boisterous young men of your own tribe, persons you don’t know? I would respect rather than condemn you for making a different choice.

        2. “Colonisers” and migrants are two very different things. Colonisers went out of their way to exploit people of colour all around the world. And they often did not live in the countries they exploited so migration isn’t even an appropriate term. And to be clear, it is perfectly possible to successfully migrate to countries without exploiting, robbing and enslaving them. And the sins of Western Europeans are far from pressumed. They killed, robbed and exploited for centuries. Till this day they continue to keep our jewels, gold, art, statues and more in their museums instead of returning them to their rightful owners. Items that they stole.

          The entire world was lifted out of abject hunger and poverty? What world are you even talking about? Colonization caused so much draught and famine as it destroyed native/local farming methods. Thousands of people literally starved to death while colonisers filled their pockets with items they had stolen and money made from people they sold as property. You can deny colonisation all you want and call it “migration” if that’s what helps you sleep at night. But it doesn’t change the very real fact that colonisation existed, colonisers committed atrocious acts, they stole, exploited, murdered and tortured people of colour around the world. And these countries that the colonisers destroyed still face hunger and poverty because of colonisation. If they were so open to sharing why did they feel the need to strip bare the lands that they colonised till thousands died of hunger before their very eyes. The only people that have ever and will ever benefit from colonisation is colonisers and their descendants.

            1. I spent thousands of dollars studying for years to become a historian. I know my history very well. And I know the world is a lot more one-sided than people like to admit.

  21. Duh…your blog is called “Lifesfinewhine” so whining you must 🤣. It’s okay and regarding the other person’s post, that’s what happens when people write about things they don’t understand or haven’t taken the time to research.

    1. Lol, yes I need to do at least some whining. Agreed, this person didn’t even take the time to do any basic research. This is what happens when you get your news from social media 🤷🏻‍♀️

  22. Yeah people who obsess over other people’s lifestyle choices are a bunch of killjoys. Good that you block him/her/zer because you don’t need that negativity. This reminds me of a quote from Marcus Aurelius:

    Ignoring what goes on in other people’s souls—no one ever came to grief that way. But if you won’t keep track of what your own soul’s doing, how can you not be unhappy?

    1. I love that quote. It’s extremely accurate and I think a lot of people would benefit from ignoring what goes on in other people’s souls.

      I usually block negative people like that. I don’t need that sort of thing in my life or on my Reader.

  23. It’s a shame isn’t it. I think it is a fine thing for people to share what is having a positive impact on their health – so I do actually enjoy reading and trying out other people’s vegetarian and vegan recipes. I am a little intimidated by some very strong worded articles on veganism that are quite condemnatory even of vegetarians. Perhaps it is that sort of content that has really annoyed some provoking a negative backlash. But it does seem such a shame. Too much anger and self-righteousness about.

    1. Yes, some articles online are just pure hate against vegans and even vegetarians as you mentioned. I don’t think it’s fair to hate diets that don’t affect you in any way and articles like that often promote attacks on vegans/vegetarians. We should all just do what we feel is best and let others live as they want. Yes, there is no shortage of anger and self-righteousness these days.

  24. Hi Pooja, Sorry that person’s post annoyed you so much. I have been vegan for a really long time and we do indeed hear lots of negativity. I think a lot of the time people really don’t understand what veganism is and frequently, when people don’t understand they can feel threatened or offended – whether that is related to veganism or some other issue. Really, whatever their reasons, it is their stuff to figure out, so I am glad you blocked them as you don’t need to put up with that. Veganism is so much more than a diet. I have friends who are vegan and so eating a plant-based diet, friends who are vegetarian and friends who are carnist. I would never dictate to another person what they should believe or what they should eat and I expect the same respect in return. We don’t have to share the same world view as others to treat each other with respect. I hope you find some nice vegan recipes! I love finding new recipes and I also like ‘veganizing’ recipes I like the sound of where I can. I have varying success with this! Enjoy veganuary and all the new products and recipes about.

    1. Yes, there is so much negativity out there towards vegans. It’s almost a little bizarre since I don’t see other types of diets get that sort of response. I think that not understanding is a big part of the hate.
      And yes, I think it’s important to keep your space positive and ignore people that try to spread hate. It definitely has more to do with them than us.
      I have lots of non-vegan friends too and I agree. It’s all about mutual respect for one another. You can always find common ground if you try.
      Thanks and hope you do too.

  25. People seem to need scapegoats to be able to unload the anger that is coursing through them. Honey is inconsequential, certainly not important enough to merit vitriol, so that points to the person’s own anger that was seeking an outlet. Whenever I see someone’s anger out of proportion to the situation, I see someone who has been deeply wounded, and is very angry as a result. They lack any life skills to be able to deal with what is churning inside, so they lash out. I try to let those people go, as much as possible, but I’m not always successful.

    1. Yes, I think the same thing. This person was clearly very angry and used veganism as an excuse to project their anger on a group of people that have nothing to do with it. I blocked him for that exact reason. It has nothing to do with me and I don’t need that sort of negativity projected my way.

  26. I can understand your anger for post that you read. There is too much hate out there and labeling everything doesn’t help either. God made us all different for a reason. Our differences are there for us all to learn from not judge. Why some people have to be so judgemental and hateful is beyond me. Knowledge and understanding is what more people need.

    1. Yes, there is just so much hate in the world for every silly little thing. It’s ridiculous. We need to learn that we’re all unique and it’s okay for others to be different than us.

  27. that was a great rant. People are free to do whatever they choose whether anyone agrees with it or not. It’s unbelievable that people try and publicly shame those who are different than they are.

  28. Oh my, I think this post would have annoyed me so much as well – and I’m not even vegan! I just don’t understand why people feel the need to focus on other people’s behaviours that don’t hurt anyone or anything… It’s so infuriating!

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