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One Sentence Story #13

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One Sentence Story:

In the mirror she saw everyone but herself.

About The One Sentence Story:

This one sentence story was inspired by something I’ve actually been experiencing and an illuminating conversation I had with my therapist. When we’re born, we’re pretty much a clean slate. We haven’t conformed to society yet. We don’t know what’s right or what’s wrong. What’s good and what’s bad. We just exist.

As we get older, we are often poisoned by those around us. I’ve talked about this before but for those of you that don’t know, I grew up chubby. I wouldn’t say I’ve ever had a particularly large body, I was just always chubby and have a rounder/bigger face. I never had an issue with this. However, for whatever reason a lot of people felt the need to point it out to me. Random relatives, neighbours, other kids etc. Literally so many people so much to say about how I looked. And it was overwhelming when I was younger.

Growing up like that and experiencing people constantly talking about your weight/looks can be so damaging. And I was telling my therapist about how I hate how I look. And she explained to me that often we see ourselves through the lenses of others and they project their own insecurities/opinions onto us. That’s why when I look in the mirror I see what people negatively described me as. Not who I actually am. And that’s what this six word story is about. Sometimes we don’t see our true selves in the mirror, we only see other peoples versions of us.

Edit: Also, don’t fat shame kids. Like wtf is wrong with people. As an adult if I saw someone tell a kid what people told me I would straight up sock them in the jaw. Even as a pacifist.

Interestingly enough, I read something about this topic on Lauren Scott’s blog (Baydreamer) today right after I finished this post. Take a look at it by clicking here.

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154 responses to “One Sentence Story #13”

  1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
    Daily Interesting Blogs

    Very True lines and full of reality, Pooja!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much!

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      1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
        Daily Interesting Blogs

        😊🙏

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  2. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    These ‘ well meaning’ people should mind their own business and not shatter the confidence and self image of others.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I completely agree, I think people need to learn that not everything needs to be said outl loud.

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        Or that not everyone needs advice from them.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Absolutely, especially when their advice is not asked for and of no help.

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          1. Sadje Avatar
            Sadje

            Exactly right.

            Reply
  3. Parrotblog Avatar
    Parrotblog

    I don’t know where I stand in this but sometimes I like what I see in the mirror and sometimes I just want to look at mirror at all. I guess mine is related to my mental health

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, mine is related to my mental health too. It’s tough.

      Reply
    2. Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/ Avatar
      Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/

      I used to detest the sight of myself in the mirror. Other people’s negative comments had poisoned my thoughts about myself that I couldn’t see anything nice in the mirror.

      A few short years ago I heard about Louise hay and the mirror work she did with clients. I watched a couple videos, thought they were pretty hokey, but because i was tired of hating on myself I decided to give it a try for a month.

      Wow! That was life-changing! My entire perception of myself had started to shift. I was so amazed by it that I decided to continue doing the exercises. It was a roller-coaster of emotions, but with time they gradually started to level out.

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      1. Parrotblog Avatar
        Parrotblog

        I’m glad that you got out this dark pit

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  4. Nicole Smith Avatar
    Nicole Smith

    Because, people believe there is nothing worse than being fat. I am sorry you experienced that.

    Reply
    1. Rita Avatar
      Rita

      Yes, Nicole. It’s like a fate worse than death, I guess. So sad.

      Reply
    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, people literally treat plus sized people like they’re criminals for having a larger body.

      Reply
  5. Sheri Dye Avatar
    Sheri Dye

    I’m sorry you had to go through that, hun. Such treatment can be so damaging to a child’s confidence and it blows my mind that people, grown adults, are capable of such distasteful behavior.
    Btw—I don’t know wth they were talking about because you are gorgeous. ❤️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I agree, adults should know better than to talk to someone like that and especially a child.
      Thanks so much ❤️

      Reply
      1. Sheri Dye Avatar
        Sheri Dye

        My pleasure, hun.🌹
        I think a lot of adults tend to forget how much of an effect our words have on children, like they don’t matter.. but words always do.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          So true, for us we may say something and forget it but the child may remember its entire life.

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          1. Sheri Dye Avatar
            Sheri Dye

            Exactly. Kids are resilient.. but they’re not unbreakable.

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Yes, thank you! That’s exactly it. Just because they survive doesn’t mean they’ll be okay.

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              1. Sheri Dye Avatar
                Sheri Dye

                Well said!
                They already have so much on their plates as it is.. but I have to wonder whether they’ll be alright these days anyway—the world has lost its damn mind.

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                1. Pooja G Avatar
                  Pooja G

                  The world really has gone crazy, I don’t even know what’s happening to it anymore. Unfortunately, I think lots of people especially the younger generations have serious mental issues but hopefully with therapy etc they’ll be okay for the most part.

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                  1. Sheri Dye Avatar
                    Sheri Dye

                    Sad but true. Only.. I don’t think there is enough therapy in the world to fix all the crazy going on right now.

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                    1. Pooja G Avatar
                      Pooja G

                      Yeah, I agree. And it seems like crazy attracts more crazy and it’s just having like a snowball effect.

                    2. Sheri Dye Avatar
                      Sheri Dye

                      It’s just sad that we can’t just leave things at, ‘You live you’re life and I’ll live mine.’

                    3. Pooja G Avatar
                      Pooja G

                      True, I don’t know why people feel they have to intrude or dictate how others choose to live.

                    4. Sheri Dye Avatar
                      Sheri Dye

                      Control, my friend, it’s always about control.

                    5. Pooja G Avatar
                      Pooja G

                      True, it’s about control.

  6. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    Pooja – You are beautiful! People should just follow the old adage “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I’ve been fighting this fat-shaming thing my entire life. People still think it’s their business! It’s appalling. Hang in there, girl! If enough of us say “Enough!” maybe then things will start to change. It’s always bothered me that the only thing that a comedian doesn’t think is off limits is someone’s weight! It always gets a big laugh! Shameful.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much!
      I’m so sorry you have experienced this too. Honestly, people really need to learnt to keep their mouth shut when it comes to other peoples appearances. I agree, we need to fight back and eventually things will change. It’s true, comedians are extremely insensitive about peoples weight.

      Reply
  7. Renard Moreau Avatar
    Renard Moreau

    🙂 Pooja, you are drop-dead gorgeous.

    And, not everyone was meant to be an extremely skinny model on the catwalk.

    Always remember that beauty comes in all sizes.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much. It took me a long time to realise and understand that. We all have different bodies and that’s totally okay. We’re all beautiful in our own way.

      Reply
  8. Poet of the Light Avatar
    Poet of the Light

    Sometimes you have no choice but to bleach your life in order to remove the unsightly stains placed in it by others to fully cleanse your self-dignity.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, and therapy has been helping me with that.

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      1. Poet of the Light Avatar
        Poet of the Light

        Therapy can be beneficial in the beginning but I posit it is also limited unless you mirror your therapist full belief system at your own expense. I find most therapist are communal narcissist themselves in need of micromanaging their microcosm of patients for profit. Either way, I wish the best for you.

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  9. singlikewildflowers Avatar
    singlikewildflowers

    This was a good post! Appreciate you sharing the backstory to your one sentence story.
    I agree that it’s not cool to comment on other people’s weight or looks… it’s none of their business! And why does the standard of beauty to be thin?! It’s damaging.
    You’re beautiful and I love your smile!!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I absolutely agree, I don’t understand why people are so negative about bigger bodies. All sizes are beautiful. Thank you so much!

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      1. singlikewildflowers Avatar
        singlikewildflowers

        I don’t get it either! Once my jean size went up again this year from last year, I was a big mess. You know what I did after all the self loathing and being uncomfortable in my tight jeans?! I bought larger size jeans and I’m not turning back. 🙂 I agree with your statement: “All sizes are beautiful.”

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I had a similar experience some time ago where one of my jeans didn’t fit anymore and I felt so guilty for some reason. I bought a new one too and it’s become my favourite jeans now. Here’s to bigger sizes when we need them and not feeling guilty about gaining some healthy weight 😊

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          1. singlikewildflowers Avatar
            singlikewildflowers

            Same here! The larger size jeans are my new favorite ones too. Why did I have to go through all that inner turmoil for going up one size?!
            I like what you said in the comment: “Here’s to bigger sizes when we need them and not feeling guilty about gaining some healthy weight 😊” Agree!!

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Absolutely, so weird how we’re very reluctant to buy bigger sizes. Thanks!

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              1. singlikewildflowers Avatar
                singlikewildflowers

                What’s wrong with bigger sizes?! It makes me think too.
                Girl, let’s rock our larger sizes!! It’s beautiful. Keep smiling. Big hugs!!

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                1. Pooja G Avatar
                  Pooja G

                  Society is so obsessed with women remaining an insanely small size and we often get guilted into believing we need to be small too. But yes, it’s time to let go of that and accept our bodies as they are! We’re beautiful in larger sizes too! 🤗

                  Reply
  10. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    Interesting and insightful. Fat shaming, or any type of harassment or bullying, should be frowned upon. I have been obese all my life, I’ve had every possible nickname under the sun. Even though I’ve lost the weight, and generally look after my health and fitness, I still see that chubby dude in the mirror and in my head.
    Great post Poojah. 🙏👏💙

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks for sharing your experiences. I’m sorry you experienced that too. Sometimes it’s tough to see the real us even after we lose the weight.

      Reply
  11. dfolstad58 Avatar
    dfolstad58

    I think mostly people say things without thinking. I know I relate to what you said. Words sometimes reverberate and we can’t forget them, and yet other times others say positive things to us and those get forgotten. I know for me my struggles to survive with renal disease over 40 years effected me. I wonder why I felt I had to hide it, or shame about my scars, or why I laughed when sometime joked about what for me was life and death. I applaud you for seeing a therapist, and being open. I think you are a strong person and inspire others.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sorry you have experienced that and I can understand why you were insecure about the scars. It’s tough to accept ourselves as we are sometimes. Thanks so much, really appreciate that.

      Reply
  12. Barney Rubble Avatar
    Barney Rubble

    🙏 the initial sentence reminds me of short stories by Hermann Hesse. Augustus, in particular. I got no issue with a pacifist stepping up to use force to protect a child (animal or woman too). Prefer not to but some people really don’t see the actions and words that we have the liberty, class, and brains not to do or say.
    In a sense… I AM IRON MAN… made sense 💪😊

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much. Absolutely, we have to protect those that can’t always protect themselves 💪🏽

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      1. Barney Rubble Avatar
        Barney Rubble

        Just as we protect laws for citizens following who may need them intact

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  13. drpoonamchaubey Avatar
    drpoonamchaubey

    Dear comparison kills! we are all born different with a unique finger impression so relax enjoy that status!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Very true, we need to learn to love ourselves as we are.

      Reply
  14. Bahanur Avatar
    Bahanur

    My own family shamed me for being chubby during my adolescence, so I can affirm that it has profound consequences on us. I wish we had lived in a world where our looks mattered less, but our minds and actions mattered more. It won’t seem to happen any soon, but I have a feeling that how we look, and compliments on our physical appearance will be a thing of the past in the distant future.

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    1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
      DEVANG UPADHYAYA

      Knowingly and Unknowingly, people comment about weight and take it very lightly. They don’t see how it affects others.
      Sadly, I don’t know how that mentality will even change.

      Reply
    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Wow, I’m so sorry. It hurts more when a family or friend does the shaming. Yeah, the world we live in is obsessed with outer appearances and it’s really sad. But yes, let’s hope things change over time.

      Reply
  15. CattleCapers Avatar
    CattleCapers

    Sorry to hear that you were criticized so much. But I was mocked for being too thin and having a red mark above my upper lip (went away on its own). Like you said, it’s really a reflection of other people’s tendency to put others down or try to fix someone.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sorry you experienced that. People always have something to say about our appearance no matter what. We’re either fat or too skinny. Exactly, when people comment on your appearance it’s usually just them projecting their issues.

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  16. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    In my view, you are a beautiful young woman.

    It is hard to get the voices of the critics out of our heads sometimes, especially if they are someone close to us.

    When I was a child, my Grandparents constantly encouraged me to eat because I was so skinny. Later I became an emotional eater and put on a lot of weight.

    I have often been addressed as “big guy” by clerks. “Hey, big guy, what can I do for you.”

    In the late 90s, I lost 110 pounds. One day at a gas station, the clerk said, “Hey Slim, what can I do for you.” I found myself triggered by Slim too.

    I have since regained most of the weight, but now I want to lose it for health rather than emotional reasons.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that. It must have been tough for you to deal with both ends of the shaming. But I’m glad you’ve decided to lose weight for the right reasons. Health should be the priority not a specific number on the scale.

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  17. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    such depth in your one sentence story, Pooja.
    sadly these people will continue to exist and try to damage… which means extra layers of strength to look past them and just be…. beautiful as that is what you are🤍✨🤗

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I absolutely agree, there are many people like this out there. And that’s why we have to toughen up and not care too much about what others say. Thanks so much 🤗💕

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      1. Destiny Avatar
        Destiny

        always a pleasure 🤗🤍

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  18. Aditi Verma Avatar
    Aditi Verma

    We live with multiple identities yet we sometimes are unable to recognise the one with our true self. But life moves on and we grow towards the mirror of our inner self. Not seeking validation from society. The more we realise, more easily we can accept the magic we carry🌟 It’s good to know that you have, keep going:))

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You’re totally right. I think at this point I care so much less about what others think or say to me. But back then it was scarring. Thanks and I hope to keep going in that direction.

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  19. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    People have a tendency to find fault in others and make them feel bad about themselves. It’s better to avoid such people, but if you think they are crossing the limit, shut them up.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, people often do that as they are unhappy themselves and want everyone else to feel that way. These days I stand up for myself and don’t even really care much about what others say. But back when I was younger it effected me a lot.

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  20. Ranjana Avatar
    Ranjana

    Good or bad comments received during childhood becomes part of our grown up personality. And these people who give such harsh comments are themselves no Barbie or Ken aka Margot Robbie and Ryan Gosling. 😁

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha very true 😅

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  21. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    The problem is people don’t know that what they are saying or doing, it’s affecting others forever.
    I was called names, been bullied, body shamed and I grew up to be less confident.
    I was scared to go in public (still am). I always feel that people are looking at me. I don’t even like going to places, I always felt I have inability to make friends because I’m fat.
    They are assuming things about me.
    All this because how others see me.

    Whenever I lose weight, I get some confidence. But then this time I’ve realised that people treat you nicely when you have a good physique.
    Like when I was 104 kg, people used to see me with disdainful eyes 😶
    As if they are showing me pity

    Now that at 77 kg, people want to talk to me, they see me with admiration. But still they have unsolicited advice.
    Such a bunch of hypocrites.

    I cannot please everyone. I have written blogs a blog post on it, that this is bitter truth of health industry. People think that fat person is weak and needs pity 🤷🏻‍♂️

    Yes, you cannot find yourself in the mirror. You will always see what others are telling you. And to try to achieve that perticular physique, you lose yourself. 😐

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I feel that way too and is part of the reason for my social anxiety. It sucks. Yeah, people always have something to say even when you’re “perfect” by societies standards.

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      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        Well yeah!
        We can never satisfy people
        And this will never satisfy ourselves. Like we will always be worrying and getting stressed over such futile things 🤷🏻‍♂️

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          With therapy and hard work, it’s become a lot easier for me not to care what others think of me. At this point, I can say I only care like 20%-30% compared to how much I cared before.

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          1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
            DEVANG UPADHYAYA

            Still you care and it disturbs your mental peace.

            I think we should all stop listening to these toxic people, because they are always wrong, and they can’t decide anything for us.

            Take care sis, sending some positive vibes

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              The thing is, as humans we’ll always care to an extent what people think. It’s not possible to completely never care and I think if we get to that point it’s also a bit problematic. I think we should take everything into account and discard the things people tell us that don’t help us grow. And the rest, we need to use as constructive criticism.
              Thanks and take care too.

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              1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                These feelings are natural
                It’s indeed good to have them. But, yes we should know it should not affect our lives.
                Like there are things that still bother you. I know it’s hard for you to stop them. But, I wish you find some inner peace for all this.

                I’m sure now you know that you don’t need anyone to tell you how pretty you are 🤗
                Best wishes

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  22. Doug Avatar
    Doug

    One sentence story:

    Having fat school assignments, vocabulary lists to learn, a last will to write, a girl could be a beast, because this muddy muddled mind puddle was like a dark pudding, chubby girl crying out in the lugubrious night where she fattened up with heavy words, condemned to a plague of loneliness by an evil milieu, an elite rule of classmate cliques of beautiful witches and warlocks who possessed the favors and powers to condemn and ridicule, but she gave Stacey her Will, telling her to burn her Prom Dress and lie to her parents that her death was an accidental overdose, but she didn’t want to take STEM classes anymore because she was too fat to be an Astronaut.

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    1. Doug Avatar
      Doug

      typo: I think the last “but” should be “since” to keep it a dependent cause for the main clause which is “She gave Stacey her Will.”

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      1. Pooja G Avatar
        Pooja G

        Really cool story with the one sentence.

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  23. Man Kun Avatar
    Man Kun

    yeah pooja G . Its very not right to body shame someone . For them its easy to say but for the one hearing it , its not pleasant . Nasty, comments cause the inability to express oneself and that’s a demerit.
    its good you’ve taken a stand on this social stigma through your one sentence story

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I agree, people should never comment on how someone else looks.

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      1. Man Kun Avatar
        Man Kun

        right ✅

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  24. Lokesh Sastya Avatar
    Lokesh Sastya

    This blog post is kinda showing a mirror to such people.

    It seems like subconsciously I’m comparing myself with other people.
    But now ‘I’m happy with the way I look’.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, we often consciously or unconsciously compare ourselves but it’s better to learn to love ourselves as we are.

      Reply
  25. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    Mirrors don’t show the inside and it’s the inside where true beauty lies.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      So true!

      Reply
  26. Maryanne Avatar
    Maryanne

    People say cruel things because they are jealous of you! They see a beautiful, smart, kind woman, and they feel inadequate because of their own insecurities, so they think, “Let me knock her down a notch” and in a dumb twisted way, that makes them feel better about themselves — and yes, even when you are very young! Sadly, it continues well into adulthood.
    Do not let what others think of you define you. Only your thoughts about you count. (And of course most people look in the mirror and want to look like someone else, but once we fall in love with who we are, we will appreciate our own looks, even on a bad day, and what others think will no longer matter!)
    Rock on, Pooja, I think you are GORGEOUS! xo

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! I agree, often people say hurtful things because they’re miserable and can’t see anyone else doing better than them. At this point I care a lot less about other peoples opinions but when I was younger it really effected me a lot.

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  27. WellsFiction Avatar
    WellsFiction

    You’re amazing Pooja. I’m sorry people have done his to you. I think it happens to everyone sadly. Stigmas are so silly cause they’re just some ones twisted and highly dysfunctional view of themselves. You inspire me friend to be myself and shine. I’m thankful to have women like you a part of my life’s journey. Thank you friend and have a wonderful day.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I agree, stigmas are ridiculous and people talking about the appearance of others is just so awful. Happy to have you in my life too and have a wonderful day as well.

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      1. WellsFiction Avatar
        WellsFiction

        You’re welcomed. Although I want more relationships with females, I also feel nervous and fearful of being shamed or betrayed. I’m getting better at opening up about myself and getting closer to my friends which is so good for all of us 🙂

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, it can definitely be daunting but keep trying and I’m sure you’ll make good progress over time 🙂

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  28. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    the mirror cracked
    lacked
    imagine that!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Perhaps for the best…

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      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        things seem closer than they are. except for the curious case of pope st son tom whom thinks donald j trump is a great man. we know different. trump is a piece of shit in an orange jump suit.

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  29. Baydreamer - Lauren Scott Avatar
    Baydreamer – Lauren Scott

    Lots of truth in your sentence, Pooja, and thanks for the pingback. Your post definitely relates to mine for Yvette’s book. Take care of you! Hugs

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! Yes, I thought the topic was so similar and wanted to link back to your post for anyone looking to read someone else’s experience too.

      Reply
  30. Layla Todd Avatar
    Layla Todd

    Loving this powerful and intentioned one sentence story! <3

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
  31. David Avatar
    David

    I grew up with people asking me some version of “why is your face so red??”

    I’ve never had an adequate answer. Yeah. I really resonate with those 12 words. Thank you for your vulnerability, Pooja!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That sucks, sorry you went through that. I’m happy to share my story/experiences, hopefully it’ll help others struggling with body image issues.

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      1. David Avatar
        David

        I feel sure it will!

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  32. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    It’s the inner beauty in a person that matters, Pooja. Those that are judgmental toward others usually lack self- confidence.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree, I think they just project their own self hatred onto others.

      Reply
  33. iambrotherlove Avatar
    iambrotherlove

    people will always find something negative to say, as you get older you learn to ignore others. This one sentence spoke a lot of truth, as we should learn to love ourselves. Other people don’t need to define who we are

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, when I was younger peoples words effected me much more but as I get older I care a lot less. Exactly, we should see ourselves as we are not how others see us.

      Reply
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  35. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    Love your one sentence story. I’ve experienced that too since my narcissistic family is very image conscious and I’ve never lived up to their standard of beauty. Now looking back, I can see all the falsehood they lived in themselves and all the fake images they put up and all the manipulative words.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Sorry about that, I’ve noticed that most people who have commented negatively about my appearance have been huge narcissists. They definitely like to make themselves and those associated with them look perfect. If you don’t look how they want you to they tend to bully you into changing yourself.

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  36. Warren Avatar
    Warren

    you’re so right….we spend too much time listening to, and being judged by others….I grew up with parents that always have done this…i was never good enough, others were always better….the support from friends and strangers helped, but pretty damaging that I’m still dealing with as they both are at an age where they need a lot of help from me…..it’s hard to figure out what to let go and what to keep

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, it gets complicated when they’re older and rely more on you. Some wounds are difficult to heal and the scars remain with us throughout our life.

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  37. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    Love the line and the thoughts you shared with in your conversation with your therapist Pooja. So true. No one gets out “alive” but we can and do make it to the other side.. xo ❤️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I absolutely agree ❤️

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      1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
        Cindy Georgakas

        💗❤️💗

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  38. Tom Crossley Avatar
    Tom Crossley

    Wow great 1 sentence story! I liked the thought and inspiration put behind it too. Well done Pooja <3

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

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  39. wingman2023 Avatar
    wingman2023

    True. When you point a finger at someone, you’re also pointing three fingers back at yourself.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Exactly, when people criticise you it’s generally them projecting their issues on you.

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  40. marouabourni Avatar
    marouabourni

    Beautiful six word story especially the meaning behind it , for which is freaking true.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much 😊

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  41. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    Excellent post

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you 🙂

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  42. britcanwrites Avatar
    britcanwrites

    It’s so true! Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks and glad you agree!

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  43. Steve Avatar
    Steve

    Hey Pooja, thank you for your share. It’s such an important topic. And speaking of Lauren’s blog, I just visited that post too!

    Our society is so driven to lay shame on people, which can be devastating and lead to many years of difficulty. Good on you for working this stuff out, and it’s great that your therapist helped clarify that what you see is really the projections of others.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much and glad you went over to read her post too!

      I absolutely agree, there’s always something people get shamed for. It’s so ridiculous. Therapy has helped a lot.

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  44. judeitakali Avatar
    judeitakali

    That’s so sad. I think you’re just right. I am conflicted about this though. It’s so easy for kids these days to become overweight and the associated problems that come with it. Perhaps one of the better approaches, as carers would be to wait for when they are older like high school age then explain some of the health risks or benefits, after letting them enjoy they more infant childhoods. It is not right though to point this out to someone you do not have a close relationship with as you have no right and it will do more harm than good. However, if just after twenty someone has overweight related issues and the loved ones pampered them into that state, the blame for those illnesses all goes to those caretakers. One needs a good understanding of these things though, so they don’t just look and judge because some plus-size people are perfectly healthy.🙏🏾💕

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I definitely agree with you. I think it’s a misunderstanding that those that are overweight have more health issues. A lot of plus sized people are very healthy whereas many people that are thin are quite unhealthy. They simply have a faster metabolism. And anyway, you never know what health issues someone has and many end up causing weight gain. So it’s best to keep our opinions to ourselves unless someone explicitly asked or as you mentioned someone is living a very unhealthy lifestyle and needs to have a conversation.

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      1. judeitakali Avatar
        judeitakali

        👌🏾🌷🤩

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  45. Brian, Snarebox Avatar
    Brian, Snarebox

    And all those skinny people grew up to get fat AF and you stayed cute so who gets the last laugh lol

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol, you’re not wrong 😜😅

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  46. Ludmilla Louissaint Avatar
    Ludmilla Louissaint

    ✅

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  47. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    Good points Pooja. It’s no fun having someone criticize you or constantly comment about your appearance. The older folks in my family are always doing so, now I’m not afraid to say just “shut up. not nice.”

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, as adults we realise how awful it is to constantly talk about someones appearance and can shut it down much faster. Sometimes you really just have to say “shut up.”

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      1. Janice Reid Avatar
        Janice Reid

        Don’t worry, you’ll get there 😊.

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  48. sentikijamir Avatar
    sentikijamir

    I relate to this so much as someone who has a chubby face. Every time a person points it out, I immediately go into “self-hatred” mode. I am still struggling to appreciate how I look. Great post!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sorry to hear that. It’s really tough when people go out of their way to make you feel bad about how you look. It’s a struggle but don’t let people get you down. You’re beautiful as you are!

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      1. sentikijamir Avatar
        sentikijamir

        And you as well! 💕

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  49. The Wheelchair Teen Avatar
    The Wheelchair Teen

    I can definitely relate. I used to feel like this all the time about my body. ‘Friends’ would point out how weird it looks that my legs are disproportioned to the rest of my body or call me crippled. Everywhere I go people stare, point, and whisper to each other about my body in front of me as if I can’t hear them. It took a long time and lots of self-growth, but I’m finally at the stage where I can look in the mirror and not just see all of society’s messed up ideals about a body like mine. Now I just see me and I love what I see – even if the rest of the world can’t understand it. It may take time, but I believe we all can get there too.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m sorry you went through that. People can be so cruel sometimes and I don’t understand peoples obsession with pointing things out about others. Like, what’s the reason to even do that.
      I’m so glad you’re able to love yourself now as you are. And I agree, I think with enough work we can all love ourselves too.

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  50. CurvyElvie Avatar
    CurvyElvie

    I love the one word story. Sorry to hear all the negativity you went through as a child. You are beautiful and I hope you know that.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate that.

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  51. Reaseaorg Avatar
    Reaseaorg

    Totally agree with this. People come in all shapes and sizes and shouldn’t be stigmatised because they don’t conform to an often impossible “ideal”.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Exactly, “perfect” doesn’t exist and we shouldn’t be made to feel bad that we don’t look like the “ideal” body type.

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      1. Reaseaorg Avatar
        Reaseaorg

        Exactly 🙂

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  53. Shadia Avatar
    Shadia

    It doesn’t matter how you look people will always have something horrible to say, it’s a waste of precious energy to continue focusing on what others think, the best thing we can do is to learn to accept and love ourselves just the way we are.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree, no matter what people will criticise how you look. It’s best to love ourselves and ignore those people.

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  54. Rochdalestu Avatar
    Rochdalestu

    She then questioned the fact she could be a vampire?

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Turns out she was, in fact, a vampire…

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      1. Rochdalestu Avatar
        Rochdalestu

        Always wondered how they get their hair so perfect without being able to look in a mirror?!?

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Vampire hair spray is my best guess…

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          1. Rochdalestu Avatar
            Rochdalestu

            Or their skelecomb 🤦🏽😂

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              That’s probably it 😅

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