Five Things I Have Finally Come To Terms With
I read this post a while ago and promised myself I would do my own version of it as I thought it was a great idea for a post. Do check out the original post too, she’s an awesome blogger. Unfortunately, it’s been lying in my drafts for a while now without ever being finished. Since, it’s the end of the year I wanted to make sure to post it. So, here are five things I have finally come to terms with (in large part thanks to my therapist):
1. Not Everyone Is Going To Like You/You Can’t Please Everyone
If I’m being honest, this has been the hardest one for me to accept. I’m a bit of a chronic people pleaser and it really hurts when someone doesn’t like me. Especially when I’m nothing but nice to them and can’t understand why. And what makes it worse is that I have a very effortlessly friendly sister whom everyone likes. It’s obviously not her fault but it does hurt.
However, I have finally accepted that not everyone is going to like me and that’s okay. You can’t please everyone. There’s always going to be people who don’t like you, even for no reason. But the thing is, maybe that’s for the best. Maybe they’re not people you want in your life either. Thankfully, I have some great friends and family that I am very close too so I don’t really need to expand my circle anyway.
2. Not Everyone Is Going To Be Happy For Your Success
This is sort of a sad one but not everyone is happy for other peoples success and that’s something I have finally come to terms with. We live in a world where jealousy and hate is so normalised. And it’s really heartbreaking. I’m one of those people that tries to help others succeed and support them as much as I can. But over time I realised not many people are like that. Many people actually want you to fail.
3. Friends Come And Go
Another thing I have come to terms with for a few years now is that not all your friends are going to be your friends forever. And that’s okay. You can mourn the loss of their friendship but eventually you just have to move on and appreciate that you made some good memories with them. The opposite spectrum of this is that the friends that are meant to be in your life longterm will be. Nothing is going to take true friends away from you. If someone genuinely wants to be your friend they will do whatever it takes to stay in your life.
4. Nothing Is Black And White
I’ve learnt over the last couple of years that everything is grey. Nothing is really just black and white in this world. And we need to learn to see that instead of positioning ourselves on either extreme.
5. You Can’t Change Fate
One thing I’ve learnt that not everyone may agree with is that you don’t have control over your circumstances and you can’t change your fate. You can make every right decision and still end up failing and vice versa. The truth is, whatever is going to happen is going to happen. We just have to let go and live our lives the best we can. Once I came to terms with this, my anxiety got a lot better. I mean, it’s still there since it’s a disorder but a lot less now.
Conclusion
So, these are five things I have finally come to terms with. Let me know what you’ve come to terms with in the comments below. Or simply stop by and say hi!
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