The Myth Of The “Perfect” Writing Routine & What ACTUALLY Works In Real Life

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Note: “The Myth Of The “Perfect” Writing Routine & What ACTUALLY Works In Real Life” is a guest post.

I am a sucker for those aesthetic TikTok and YouTube videos where a writer shows us their “day in the life.”

They’re up at 5 or 6 am, ready to greet the day. The ambiance is moody, usually with a hint of rain through a window and a cup of tea or coffee steaming next to their lit up computer. The whole scene is sepia toned, like you’re watching it as a memory. Cue the classical music. And the writer clad in cute outfit, hair and make up done, clicking away at their work in progress.

I don’t know about you, but that’s not me.

When I was working a traditional 9-5, my writing was relegated to those scraps of time when I had energy to eek out a story or work on my novel. And when I was teaching, my writer life was the equivalent of having an affair that’s gone on too long. I’ll meet you in the backroom but don’t expect much.

Now that I am a full-time writer, you’d think my entire day would be centered around writing. I am here to tell you, you’d be wrong.

So, let’s talk about the myth of the “perfect” writing routine, how we can divorce ourselves from such nonsense, and how we can find what’s perfect for us!

Debunking the Myth

Ah. The perfect writing routine.

Up at 6am for breakfast and some reading in bed. Out of the house for a walk by 7am. Cup of tea and seated at the computer for the first round of writing by 8am. Break for lunch at 12pm. Back to writing at 1pm. Break for the day at 4pm. Enjoy your evening.

Sure. In a perfect world that sounds great.

In reality, I have stayed up too late the night before, thus missing that 6am alarm. Breakfast at 9am. Writing in my pajamas because I want to get right to work before something else catches my attention and then writing becomes the least important part of my day.

Some days I spend all day dancing around my computer but never opening it to even sniff at my work in progress.

Any of this sound familiar? Excellent. We are in good company.

We can blame the usual suspects for messing with our vision of what a perfect writing routine looks like: social media, hustle culture, and author interviews (to name a few).

But if we spent a full day or week with these authors, I am CERTAIN the aesthetic they portray in a two minute video on TikTok, a 20 minute video on YouTube, or an interview where they’re recounting their writing days to an audience are not consistently what their writing life looks like off camera.

Gustave Flaubert wrote Madame Bovary at night after everyone had gone to sleep so he wouldn’t be disturbed. But he often recounted in letters how even in those hours scheduled for his writing he was sometimes unable to get more than two pages written.

Jane Austen wrote her novels while in the company of family, being distracted often by guests and other activities that would take her away from devoted writing time.

And Maya Angelou has said that she couldn’t write at home because she liked to keep her home “pretty” and couldn’t work in a “pretty” space. As a result, she always worked in hotel or motel rooms. (From Daily Rituals: How Artists Work by Mason Currey)

The Reality of Writing Routines

I say all this to say that there is no one size fits all approach to a writing schedule. What works for you and your life is the perfect writing schedule. Period.

We all know that comparison is the thief of joy. So, why are we comparing our writing schedules to other people’s when our lives don’t look like theirs? Seems silly when you think about it that way.

The world runs on all different types of people. Night owls. Morning birds. Those of us that need a nap in the afternoon. And those of us who can get by on little to no sleep.

If you did NanoWrimo…ever…you’ve met the people who can happily binge write 50,000 words in a month. And then there are the writers who have been working on their manuscripts for years.

The pantsers and plotters. The storyboarders and note jotters. If there is one thing I’ve learned being fully immersed in the land of the writers, it’s that process is personal. And part of finding your writing process is finding a schedule that matches your lifestyle.

Looking for a Writing Routine? Try This!

There is no right or wrong way to have a writing routine. But if you are trying to find a writing routine that fits with your schedule, might I offer a few suggestions to try on for size…

  • Figure out when you have the most energy and use that time to write.

Through trial and error, I figured out that I was better at generating ideas in the morning, so I use that time to work on new scenes, while the afternoons are for editing and revising.

  • Entire books can be written in 10-minute increments.

If you’re currently struggling with issues of stamina, and the idea of sitting with your work in progress for an hour feels daunting, then give yourself 10 minutes and the freedom to stop when that time is up. Over time, you’ll find that you’re sitting for longer and longer periods. You just have to work the muscle.

  • Consistency can look different every day.

As someone with chronic migraine, having every day look exactly the same is a challenge for me. I don’t know if I’ll wake up feeling like taking on the world, or if I’ll be saddled with immense pain right out the gate. However, where I remain consistent is in the showing up to my work. Not every day needs to be 8 hours spent at the computer. In fact, maybe you’re a Monday thru Friday writer, or a Tuesday/Thursday writer. It’s okay if one day looks different from the next, as long as you’re showing up.

We’ve Got This

There is no universal formula for what makes a “perfect” writing routine.

But I can tell you that the perfect writing routine is one that fits into your life and keeps you enjoying your craft. The last thing we want is to resent something we love so much because we forced ourselves into the land of “should”.

And if you want to learn more about the writing (and artistic) routines of various famous creatives, check out the book, Daily Rituals: How Artists Work by Mason Currey. I have read this book twice in my life and have loved it every time. It’s especially worth a read if you’re looking for a routine or want a little reassurance that you’re doing just fine.

What’s your current writing routine? Let me know in the comments.


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As I mentioned, “The Myth Of The “Perfect” Writing Routine & What ACTUALLY Works In Real Life” is a guest post and it was written by fellow blogger, Robyn Neilsen. If you enjoyed the post and found it helpful, you can read more of her awesome writing on her blog by clicking here.

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87 responses to “The Myth Of The “Perfect” Writing Routine & What ACTUALLY Works In Real Life”

  1. I was going to write a comment but have no energy for writing, today.
    Hey! I just wrote one!

  2. This is so real. Something that has actually helped me is just trying to write a sentence a day, sure it’s slow but it’s better than not doing it at all. And if I feel like writing more, great!

    1. I love this method! Just starting small is so great for building momentum.

  3. When I work on a major project, like a Jim Garraty story, say, I attempt to have a semblance of a regular routine. Sometimes I succeed, oftentimes I don’t.

    1. Does your routine change with each project? What’s your regular routine? I’m fascinated by people’s writing routines!

      1. I have two writing shifts, at least when I’m working on a “major project.” I blog in the morning, take a two-hour (sometimes three) midday break, then work on the literary project for four hours (usually between 2 and 6 PM).

        That’s the “planned” routine. The real-life version? My mileage varies.

  4. I love Ernest Hemingway writing routine, he ran away to Paris, and wrote in cafes traveling thru France. Lots of them writers used to hang out at cote d’azure , the French Riviera. It was cheap and truly inspiring. I wish I could have a peak at what it was like back then

    1. I totally agree! I actually spent a summer in Barcelona in 2015, where I holed up in an apartment in the Gothic Quarter and just wrote. Also, as a teacher on a fixed income for the summer, living in Spain was way less expensive than living in New Jersey. lol But Hemingway had the right idea.

      1. Robyn, you did a cool thing , smart and brave
        Happy to hear about your adventure, and also what you had as an end result. In any case, your story is inspiring

  5. I’ve worked full-time while I wrote my books, so writing in small snatches of time has worked for me. Even when I’m at home I tend to follow that method, but I intersperse it with painting or working with clay. My brain likes to chew on things and then when I sit down to write I allow it just to flow forth, no editing, and then go back over it to massage it, moving paragraphs around, adding and deleting. Kind of like working in the background colors on a painting, then adding in more detail and colors. I suppose I like and need the haphazardness of it, otherwise I start to feel stale. The perfect writing routine? No thanks, sounds like it might get boring for me!

    1. This is so beautiful. I agree. Who needs a perfect writing routine? I love that you take time to marinate with your ideas and then work them out over time. Plus, working on other creative ventures helps, too!

      1. Thanks! Yes, this works so well, I highly recommend it.

    2. @Pooja, I used to suffer with chronic migraines too, and then learned that they could be a symptom of allergies. When I started taking allergy meds, my migraine occurrence dropped way down. I can only use Cetirizine, because others react with my system and make me depressed. If I start to have a migraine, I take an allergy tablet and it usually is enough to knock it out in its tracks. Being properly hydrated, eating regularly, getting adequate amounts of sleep, working on not becoming agitated or stressed, shielding my eyes from too much sunlight or bright lights, are all important factors to managing migraines too. <3

      1. Thanks for letting me know. I think the biggest issue for me is being dehydrated or not being hydrated enough. I’ve noticed that this definitely triggers my migraines. I’ll give allergy meds a try too though. Is there a specific one you take?

        1. Yes dehydration is a biggie. I keep some green tea at my bedside, so when I wake up at night I can drink some, otherwise going that long without drinking will bring on a headache in the morning. I take the generic version of Cetirizine, which I buy at a big box store (Sam’s) I have a membership to. They have their own line of quality products under their own label. Next best price I found was Target’s own label brand.

          1. That’s a good idea, I’ll start keeping something to drink by my bedside too. Ooh okay, I’ll see if I can find those here.

  6. As I I’ve been In the middle of writing as a career, since 2013, (but was labeled as “CRAZY”)… but a hobby all my life since 1973…. First was YA’BORN second was AND THEN WE GROW UP…. SPIT DAT OUT… ( say what you gotta say)….some will read and misunderstand, cause if you don’t know what your punctuation mean.. (then if course you wouldn’t understand…

    1. Why is it that when we choose a creative life people label us as crazy or lazy or strange? I love that you unapologetically live your life out loud.

  7. As I I’ve been In the middle of writing as a career, since 2013, (but was labeled as “CRAZY”)… but a hobby all my life since 1973…. First was YA’BORN second was AND THEN WE GROW UP…. SPIT DAT OUT… ( say what you gotta say)….some will read and misunderstand, cause if you don’t know what your punctuation mean.. (then if course you wouldn’t understand…

  8. Great post, thanks

    1. Great post! Thank you so much for sharing, Pooja! ♥️🥰🌹
      My favorite time to write is late at night 😊.

  9. Even with a Room of Ones Own… teenagers have a habit of interrupting the flow… bless them… progress over perfection! Great post, Linda xx

    1. hahaha…this is so true!

  10. I am so thankful my only writing is for blogging. I couldn’t imagine trying to write a book….

  11. 🙏🌹👍

    Aum Shanti

  12. I’m also a freestyle writer.

    I usually don’t plan what I will be writing and how. I’m not a professional writer.
    I do write when I feel the urge to write. I enjoy writing.

    When it comes to I prefer both reading and writing. Reading itself is a writing guide.
    One needs to get out of that zone/mindset where we pretend to be a great perfectionist writer.

    A good writing is the outcome of open thoughts, reasoning, and light hearted conversations.

    Manytimes I find I’m writing same thing again and again. It happens when you are stuck in your life.
    Just take a pause and reflect.
    I don’t just write live it first.

    I’m a writer or a poet by heart.
    Indirectly, subconsciously, someone else’s writing, which I read previously, guides me, my writing, and behaviour.

    1. Oooo! I love what you said about “I don’t just write live it first.” I TOTALLY agree. It makes the writing so much richer, and it’s so fun to revisit those lived experiences and emotions.

  13. I love the idea of a routine as it would be very helpful with discipline but …I am all over the place, most of my writing occurs very early in the morning before anything can interrupt me so it looks like pyjamas and black coffee h til the sun is up (it’s wi there here) and then I have to peel myself away for a morning run. I think k we do what works and that looks very different ..also now I want to go watch TikTok and writers routines

    1. hahaha…oh TikTok writer routines. So aesthetic. However, I love your writing routine with the pajamas and black coffee until the sun comes up. That’s beautiful and what works for you!

      1. It works because I escape into the gap between night and morning – the magical place where we are no one yet – but have the potential to be anyone 💕

  14. Pooja, this is so insightful, a delightful read for me. I have always believed life is too complicated for one rule to work for everyone and I am glad you cited prominent writers and what worked for them.

    Thanks for sharing 🙏

    1. Hi Benjamin! I’m the guest writer of this post. I am so glad you enjoyed it! And I agree, life is too complicated for everyone to abide by the same set of rules. We have to make them up for ourselves as we go.

      1. Wow, Robyn. I truly enjoyed your post. Very insightful. 👌

  15. I have taken a break from writing, but what I learned when I was in a regular routine was, that it is work. A lot of work. Sometimes things flow and sometimes it becomes blocked. Even if things are blocked there is always something related to your work to do in the meantime. Some days you think you have the greatest first draft ever written and the next day you want to burn it and pretend it never existed. Or maybe that is just me. 🙂

    1. That sounds about right. lol Writing is a lot of work. Everything you said in your comment couldn’t be more true!

  16. Keep writing ❤️

  17. I work better under pressure. The more going on the more my brain seems stimulated. I often wake in the night with an idea rush to the computer and write. I used to scribble notes while teaching a class and then write them out at lunch-time. I used to have a busy schedule with teaching, prep, marking, a young family and wife and do not be able to write until ten at night. I’d write to two or four in the morning and grab three or four hours sleep. The less the time the more I seemed to need to grab bits to write in.

    1. That’s so interesting that pressure made you work better.

  18. Going Home to Creativity

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    Hehe It is No ‘Taco Creativity’

    It Fears Not ‘The Karma’ of
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      1. Loved Your Guest Post!
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  19. thanks for sharing, Pooja… lol, I feel better knowing there isn’t that perfect writing routine 😬 for those days when words are really few lol ..

    🤍

    1. Hey Destiny! I’m the writer of this guest post. I’m so glad it resonated with you!!

      1. Robyn…hi there…
        and thank you for sharing … it helps to know that it’s normal to struggle with these words lol… greatly appreciated…🤍

  20. What an enlightening post, and thank you for sharing, Pooja. I mostly blog, and I’ve written a few poetry books. I like to write in the mornings because I have more energy, and less distraction. A writer’s routine and environment is not one size fits all.

    1. Hi Eugi! I’m actually the guest writer of this post. I’m so glad you enjoyed it. Writer’s routines are definitely not one size fits all. I’m also a morning writer. Congratulations on the poetry books!

      1. It’s good to meet you, Robyn, and thank you for the congrats!

  21. It’s so strange how we fall into the trap of the perfect routine. There is absolutely no perfect way to do anything. We’re humans. We have good and bad days depending on the events and circumstances we face. We don’t have to act a certain way to validate us. We are who we are and that is all that matters. Great post 🙂

    1. Hi there! I’m actually the writer of this guest post. I’m so glad it connected with you. And I couldn’t agree more with your comment. As humans we can keep showing up to our perfectly imperfect process and routine with grace and acceptance. <3

      1. Awesome! Absolutely. Thanks for commenting back friend 🙂

  22. I am glad you wrote this. It’s very thoroughly examined and I adore your articulation — definitely something to consider 👍😆😆

    1. Hi Killa! I’m actually the writer of this guest post. Thank you so much for the kind words, and I am so glad the post resonated with you!

      1. Thanks alot for the reminder Robyn, I became so engrossed with the post that I forgot who it as credited to 🤭😹.

        Kudos to you for writing such a stimulating and thoughtful perspective on the matter 👍💙

  23. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Different things work for different people.

  24. I just want to say thank you so much to Pooja for hosting my blog on her site! It had been so fun reading everyone’s comments and connecting with your subscribers!

    1. It was my pleasure, thank you for the great post that resonated with so many of my readers!

  25. Gosh I love the flexibility and non rigid approach to the issue here! There is a gold mine of wisdom in here. Absolutely fantastic! 👏👍

    1. Thank you so much, Christopher!

      1. You’re very welcome Robyn! 😁

  26. Love your suggestions. Thanks, Robyn!

    1. Thank you, Wynne!

  27. I never had to make a living at writing (although writing was a big part of my job), so it is like any other hobby someone loves. I jump at the chance to write whenever I can. When I retired and had the luxury of many free days, I did get up every morning for several years and banged out something on one of my long term projects. It might be two sentences or two pages but eventually you get the exhilaration of a finished product.

  28. I just needed to write the blog and discover the skill on my own. If you are good at writing and vocabulary you can fit just about any area of writing.

  29. It’s whatever works for you I guess.

  30. I work well in 10-minute bursts. I usually stick to 10 minutes or write for longer, if I feel like it.

  31. The perfect writing routine is the one that works for you. Plain and simple. 🤣😎🙃

  32. My goal is to write every day, so if I start in the morning and it’s not flowing, I do something else, knowing that evening writing it’ll have to be. And my fitness tracker reminds me to get up every 50 minutes to walk around so I have a built-in break even during those long writing drives.

  33. I have never been able to have a writing “routine”. When I was a university student, I would wake up at odd hours ready to write a paper. I get writing ideas for my blog at different times. I would not recommend my way for anyone but it works for me.

  34. Topics to write about come from living. The more I’m out and about, the more I have to write about, so we need to walk away from the laptop to be interesting writers.

  35. I enjoyed this, Pooja, and really, the perfect routine is what works for each individual writer. I work part-time, so writing in the morning works best for me, and some on the weekends or late afternoons, depending on our plans and my energy and inspiration. Thanks for sharing! 💕

  36. Great post. I used to think that nighttime was my best time to write, but it was because my job forced me to write then. I’ve discovered that late morning/early afternoon is the better time since being laid-off.

  37. I enjoyed reading this, Pooja. Finding the perfect writing routine is such a personal journey.

  38. You are spot on, Pooja! The ‘perfect’ routine is whatever works for you. 💞💞💞
    My typical routine I’ve found is timer based – not word count based. I get up, get my coffee, and settle into my comfy chair with my laptop, still in my pjs with my uncombed hair pulled back in a clip. I do my devotions, then start with my 15-30 minute timers, depending on what time I finally hit the chair and what time I need to be out of the house that morning. I read and respond to blogs for one cycle, catch up on Substack for another, and then dive into whatever I’m writing at the time….OR whatever my muse is inspired to write that day. Some days I can write a whole blog post, others I barely get a sentence written. BUT, as long as I’m “kiester in the chair, hands on the keyboard (or pen and notebook in hand) I consider it a win.

    1. Wow, looks like you have a good routine going- that’s awesome! And absolutely, it’s all about what works for you 💕

      1. If it wasn’t for my timer and my routine, weeks would go by and I’d realize I hadn’t written a thing, other than quick notes when my muse poked me throughout the day.

  39. Great post! Thank you so much for sharing, Pooja! 💗🌹
    My favorite time to write is late at night 😊.

    1. Thank you so much, same here! 😊

      1. It’s my pleasure, Pooja! 😊💗🌹

  40. Yes interesting, great post thanks.

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    Oh yes, the writer aesthetic — soft morning light, rain tapping on the window, and a vintage teacup perched next to a spotless laptop. It’s beautiful, inspiring… and about as real as a shampoo commercial.

    Most of us aren’t sipping chamomile in a cashmere cardigan while the muse dances in on cue. We’re dodging life’s interruptions, writing in pajama pants with questionable stains, and trying to remember when we last ate something green. The truth is, the “perfect” writing routine is whatever keeps you turning up to the page — even if it’s in ten-minute bursts between laundry cycles.

    A routine that works for you will always beat the fantasy routine that looks good on TikTok but collapses the moment a migraine, a school run, or a power bill lands on your desk.

    1. Yup, absolutely. The real things is much more different because it accounts for real life and real life is less than perfect.

  42. This shared post was great!

    Hope things are going well for you! You are a very talented young lady.

    1. Thank you, so glad you enjoyed the post!

  43. I was the first one up in a house with four children. I got up before everyone so I could have my coffee and time to myself. Now all the kids are grown and gone, I still my coffee but the early morning alone time is now writing time. I feel like my mind is free and energized in the time just after waking up, and that mental energy is more easily accessed first thing. There is more to my writing practice of course, but it is born of necessity because I work full-time and am too tired after a workday to write then. Thanks for the post.

    1. That totally makes sense, you wrote when you could and it soon turned into a part of your routine. Happy to share the post. Thanks.

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