The terms introvert and extrovert haven’t been used in my life up until about two months ago. I stumbled across a couple of blogs talking about introversion and decided that I wanted to find a definition. All it says on Google is this
and for an extrovert it says this
I’m not shy, but I’m neither socially confident. This could mean that I am an ambivert (a mix of the two) but in the grand scale of things I’m closer to the introvert’s end of the scale and miles away from the extrovert’s.
Looking into unimportant definitions of peoples – from all of my overthinking – I found that I must be more of an introvert. To me, the definition is a broad term for someone who enjoys being around certain people but finds it awkward to build conversation or firmer relationships with people they have only just been introduced to. It takes a long time to a build a friendship, but when thrown into at a stage in life that you are comfortable at, it’s harder. At school you are told to grow and make friends. You may not be aware at your age about who you are going to be, and when you become an introvert it’s harder to make friends later in life (for me, but I’m not socially awkward. I’m a little bit shy and very unconfident but that’s not a definition of an introvert – that’s just me).
What I just described is a stereotype, and people will be different. If you are more confident to open up or to make conversations when thrown into a new situation, you are more of a extrovert. When I, an introvert, is thrown into these conversations I rely on someone else to start the conversation and I make little statements when I think I need to (or I just wont at all, and I’ll hide).
Introversion isn’t a fear to share your opinion. You may, but in a different medium (like written down words or images, rather than speaking loudly), and I try to use disclaimers so that I don’t try to hurt other people. The word is subtle.
An introvert isn’t perfect. Introverts aren’t good. We are not a different species, we are humans. It’s a way of describing yourself.
Introversion is the opposite of extroversion. Neither are wrong. One is not better than the other. You may not think of these adjectives often, or have identified yourself with either, but it’s something to consider and think about.
One of my greatest regrets is being outspoken, or not thinking before I blurt. It hasn’t hurt anyone but myself.
I want to embrace my introvert and not try to be someone I’m not, as an extrovert. This post is directed more at introversion because that is what I know of better. I know it’s late but Happy New Year! I hope you’ve embraced whatever ‘trovert’ you are.
*subtley slurps tea*
I have written this post in collaboration with Pooja! We have both written separate posts to put on each other’s blogs. If you wouldn’t mind checking out my blog to see Pooja’s post about How To Have The Best Experience In University as an Introvert!
Erin is such a great blogger and I had such a great experience working with her for this collaboration. I really hope you take some time to check out her amazing blog because I can assure you it’s going to be amazing.