Anxiety And Some Changes To Lifesfinewhine

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This is what was found offensive

Due to multiple comments about my awards posts and how they were apparently offensive this blog is now awards free. What was once one of the most fun posts to do have now become a constant trigger for my anxiety. This comment was the first thing I read when I woke up on Sunday and was so taken aback by how someone could misconstrue my words that I had a panic attack after almost four years without them. I have already been stressed and anxious and this felt like the last straw. Now whenever I think of this post or any of my awards posts I feel extremely anxious. Due to this I will most likely delete all my awards posts by the end of the week as my brain has now unfortunately associated them with negativity and I don’t want to feel constantly anxious when I see the awards category on my blog.
I would also like to say that words are very powerful and the way you choose to use them can truly hurt someone especially if they already have mental health problems. I receive quite a few hate comments most of which I delete without really thinking too much about them but this one really hurt my feelings. I have gone out of my way to help bloggers by opening a share and promote page. I answer all the questions bloggers ask me about blogging the best I can. I have tried to spread light and positivity on WordPress.
I don’t understand why people feel justified attacking me and then telling me to get thicker skin. Yes the Internet is going to have people who disagree and I am okay with someone disagreeing with me or with giving me feedback on how to improve my blog but I am not okay with someone attacking my character and accusing me of something I didn’t do. Please choose how you give someone feedback wisely because it could really hurt someone. Also people who are sensitive due to their mental health problems are allowed to do things they enjoy. Why should I stop blogging, put disclaimers or shut off my comments which bring me so much joy just because people don’t know how to just move on instead of leaving negative comments.
Anyway I apologise to anyone who may have found my awards posts offensive I did not mean to offend anyone in anyway. You know that I love all of your blogs and the only reason I don’t nominate people is because I don’t know who accepts awards and who doesn’t, plus I’m usually very busy with school and don’t have time to check everyone’s blogs to see if they accept awards. I’m also sorry to everyone who nominated me for most likely deleting the posts by the end of the week depending on how anxious I feel- I truly appreciate the nomination but the posts have just become a major trigger for my anxiety and panic attacks and I can’t have them on my blog anymore. Thank you for your understanding and thank you to everyone who leaves positive comments/feedback in a positive way on my blog you are very appreciated.

143 thoughts on “Anxiety And Some Changes To Lifesfinewhine

  1. Hi PoojaG,
    I’m sorry to read about how negative comments have triggered anxiety and panic attacks. I’ve learned that in this blogging business, some negative feedback means, people are reading, noticing and in some form helping with the content delivered. I’ve also found that a few filters, can eliminate some of the negative words that may trigger an attack and will make your reading of comments that may be hurtful, less of a thing to worry about.
    It (the negative feedback) comes with the territory, and feeding into it is not healthy. Take the feedback with a grain of salt and keep doing what makes you happy and at peace.
    Sincerely,
    En Towner

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment and I totally agree with that. It definitely comes with the territory and I will definitely not be letting it stop me from doing what I enjoy.

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  2. I’m sorry this happened to you. I hope that you also deleted the person and stopped following them. Remember, you’re in control of you (and your blog). Sending light and love โค

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  3. Hello, I wanted to tell you that I suffer from mental health issues too. I have learned to block all trolls and don’t allow them to touch my person. You can tell a troll is afoot by how they draw attention and make you feel good at first but drop you very quickly, or make you feel bad without any content to prove themselves. There’s another word for that type of content its called “flaming” it feeds the fire for their egos. I wish you wouldn’t change your blog for the evil trolls. If you feel like something doesn’t seem right about something usually it’s true. There are evil people and then there are good people, it’s up to you who you allow into your life. That’s why I delete and ban all trolls and bullying on my blog. I also ask my followers what they think before I do anything. I do understand your anxiety so very well. I have autism so I feel odd communicating with others because I am aware of my unique thought process. I also have sensory overload a lot. I too gave into the trolls at one point but I got tired of feeling badly so I created my current blog and I will never again listen to negative comments. I hope you feel better and Hugs to you and your community. Our followers are very important. Peace and love to you all. ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ™โ˜ฎโฃAlso, I believe we all deserve an award a positive love award. โฃ๐Ÿฅฐ

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    1. Thank you so much! I hate that you had to deal with trolls and bullies too but I’m glad that you get where I’m coming from and understand how it feels. I’ve learnt that like you said it’s more about them then it is about me. I’m going to keep doing me and enjoy posting what I want to and just ignore the haters. It still hurts when people try to bring you down but it hurts less when you understand that what they have to say doesn’t matter, Thanks again for your comment I truly appreciate it!

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      1. You are very welcome. Anytime. Yes, it hurts it can cause damage sometimes that’s why they do it. It’s very pathetic behavior and it needs to be stopped. That’s why we should stick together, warn others and teach people how to stand up and don’t let the trolls win. ๐Ÿ˜Š I learned that love is stronger than anything else and together we build a strong society. Peace and love brings prosperity and success. โฃ

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      2. Yes exactly we need to stick together against any form of bullying. I found the support that my followers showed me with this and another incident a few weeks back so beneficial. It really helps to know that you’re not alone and that people value your work.

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  4. It always surprises me how much more vocal haters seem to be…? Things that make me go Hmmmmm, curious.
    Also if it’s only about 0.01% of the comments, it’s so true that no one can please all the people all the time. So don’t stress it (easier to say) or take it personally. You should be proud of all you hard work and what you’ve achieved with it.
    ๐Ÿ’œ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ’œ

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    1. Yeah I mean people on the Internet will always have something negative to say but I’m not going to let that effect me. Thank you for your kind words!

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  5. It’s your personal blog to do as you damned well please. We love your award posts and there was nothing even slightly conceited about it. Haters will always be haters, trying to discredit your hardwork, making you doubt yourself and bringing stress to what should be a safe space for you but they can have several seats because their opinions really don’t matter, Pooja. Clearly the issue is with them and not you because you’re doing a great job and we love it here. Sending you all my love and light โค๏ธ

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    1. Thank you so much for your support. You’re so right- at the end of the day it really does not matter what haters say because I’m just going to keep doing what makes me happy. And yes these comments say more about them than about me. Thanks again for your support it means a lot to me!

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