Overcome Bad Habits: The Power of the 90-Second Pause

By Karin Andrea Stephan

Are you tired of feeling like your bad habits have control over you? Whether it’s reaching for unhealthy snacks, a cigarette or an energy drink when you’re stressed or you find yourself mindlessly scrolling through social media for hours on end, we’ve all struggled with habits we wish we could break. But what if I told you there’s a simple yet powerful technique you can use to regain control? Enter the 90-second pause.

A relieved young woman in a yellow shirt, holding an alarm clock discovered how to break bad habits with the 90-second-pause

Unveiling the Science Behind Bad Habits

The Neuroscience of Cravings and Impulses

To understand how the 90-second pause works, let’s first delve into the science behind bad habits. Our brains are wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain, and this often leads us to engage in behaviors that provide instant gratification, even if they’re not good for us in the long run. This is where neurotransmitters like dopamine and stress hormones like cortisol come into play.

Dopamine is often referred to as the “feel-good” neurotransmitter because it’s released when we experience pleasure or reward. When we engage in a habit that triggers a dopamine release, such as eating sugary foods or checking our phones, we’re more likely to repeat that behavior in the future. Similarly, cortisol, often dubbed the “stress hormone,” can drive us to seek out comfort and distraction during times of stress or anxiety, leading to bad habits like stress eating or excessive screen time.

The 90-Second Pause: Your Secret Weapon Against Bad Habits

How Taking a Brief Pause Can Disrupt the Cycle of Cravings

Now that we understand the science behind bad habits, let’s talk about how the 90-second pause can help break the cycle. Research has shown that cravings and intense emotions typically last for about 90 seconds before subsiding. By taking a brief pause when you feel the urge to engage in one of your typical bad habits, you can disrupt the automatic response and give yourself a chance to make a more conscious decision.

Breaking bad habits is hard: Selective focus of woman holding cigarette by ashtray on the table

Riding Out the Wave: Why 90 Seconds is All it Takes

You might be wondering why 90 seconds specifically? Well, it all comes down to the biochemical processes happening in your brain. When you experience a craving or intense emotion, your brain releases neurotransmitters and hormones that create the urge to act. However, these chemical reactions only last for a short period of time, typically around 90 seconds. By riding out the wave of intensity for just 90 seconds, you can allow the urge to pass without giving in to it and start breaking the bad habits you want to get rid of.

Practical Applications of the 90-Second Pause

Managing Stress Eating: Strategies for Overcoming Cravings

One of the common bad habits many of us struggle with is stress eating. When we’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious, it’s easy to turn to food for comfort. However, this often leads to overeating, selecting junk instead of healthy food, and feelings of guilt afterwards. The next time you find yourself reaching for that bag of chips or pint of ice cream, try implementing the 90-second pause.

Take a moment to breathe deeply, go for a short walk, or engage in a calming activity. Chances are, by the time those 90 seconds are up, the urge to stress eat will have subsided. With every time you outsmart one of your bad habits with a pause, you’ll inch a step closer to breaking free from it.

Breaking bad habits: A young woman in a white summer dress rejecting donuts and choosing a healthy green apple.

Late-Night Temptations: Bad Habits Around Snacking

Late-night cravings can be especially challenging to resist, but they don’t have to derail your healthy habits. Instead of giving in to the temptation to raid the pantry before bed, try implementing the 90-second pause. Sip on a cup of herbal tea, do some light stretching, or engage in a relaxing bedtime routine. By the time those 90 seconds are up, you’ll likely find that the urge to snack has diminished, allowing you to enjoy a restful night’s sleep without unnecessary calories.

Mindless Scroll Syndrome: Combating Social Media Addiction

Scrolling through social media can quickly turn curiosity into bad habits. You’ll find yourself mindlessly consuming hours of shorts without even realizing it. But with the help of the 90-second pause, you can regain control over your screen time. The next time you feel the urge to endlessly scroll through your feed, try taking a brief pause instead. Put your phone down, go have a glass of water and engage with real people in the real world. By the time those 90 seconds are up, you’ll likely find that the urge to check your phone has passed, allowing you to focus on more fulfilling activities.

Two colleagues taking a break in the sun, holding beverages, and having a refreshing conversation

What If Temptations Seem To Last FOREVER?

Oftentimes bad habits are driven by impulses, cravings, or obsessive thoughts that seem to outlast those 90 seconds. There’s a simple reason why. Imagine this: when you get hit with a thought or feeling, like wanting pizza or feeling super excited about a new gossip, it’s like a little electric spark in your brain. Surprisingly, that spark only lasts about 90 seconds before it fizzles out. 

But here’s the trick: your brain quickly sends another spark that feels just like the first one. So, it seems like it’s one long experience if you do not proactively interrupt it. 

Let’s say you’re obsessed with a crush or stressing over a test. By intentionally switching gears and starting to play your favourite game or chatting with friends, that initial spark can fade away—at least for a bit. 

It’s like changing the channel on TV to shake off a boring show. So, next time you’re stuck in a loop of emotions, thoughts, or cravings, try to remember that you’ve got the remote control to switch things up!

Beyond Cravings: Using the 90-Second Pause for Mental Health

Building Emotional Resilience to Navigate Intense Feelings

The 90-second pause isn’t just for managing cravings or getting rid of bad habits – it can also be a powerful tool for improving your overall mental health. When we experience intense emotions like anger, frustration, or sadness, it’s easy to let them overwhelm us. But by practicing the 90-second pause, you can learn to ride out these emotions and bad impulses without letting them dictate your actions. 

The next time you find yourself amid a heated argument or feeling overwhelmed by stress, try taking a step back and counting to 90. Use that time to breathe, collect your thoughts, and respond in a calm and rational manner. 

If your emotions run really high, try venting them to your personal AI chatbot before going back to interacting with people you could offend in the heat of the argument. You’ll be amazed at how much more in control you feel.

Overcoming Overwhelm: Coping with Stress and Anxiety

Finally, the 90-second pause can be a valuable tool for coping with stress and anxiety. When life gets busy and overwhelming, it’s easy to feel like we’re drowning in our responsibilities. Stress itself and becoming addicted to “busyness” can quickly create new bad habits. 

Again, take just 90 seconds to pause, breathe, and remind yourself that this feeling won’t last forever. And that you do not want stress to be your new normal. That way you can regain a sense of calm and perspective. Whether you’re facing a looming deadline, a challenging presentation, or just the everyday stresses of life, remember that you have the power to hit pause and take back control.

Empowering Yourself is 100% Possible

Breaking free from bad habits is possible – and the 90-second pause can help you get there. By understanding the science behind cravings and impulses, implementing practical strategies for managing them, and using the 90-second pause to build emotional resilience, you can take control of your habits and improve your overall well-being. 

So the next time you feel yourself being pulled towards a bad habit, remember to hit pause, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you have the power to choose a healthier path.


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95 responses to “Overcome Bad Habits: The Power of the 90-Second Pause”

  1. Great post Pooja.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Glad you found it helpful, Kate!

  2. I once read some tips where it said whenever you’re going to engage in a bad habit, stop and do some pushups. While pushups are not always practical, the premise is definitely the same. Great post, Pooja! 😊

    1. I once used pushups during lockdown to avoid something.

      I said to Myself, if I overuse phone, I’ll do 10 push-ups for every 10% of the battery.
      It was fun. The fear of countless push-ups made me leave phone

    2. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Great point, Kevin and Devang! The suggestion to substitute a bad habit with a physical activity like pushups aligns with the idea of interrupting automatic behaviors with a deliberate action. While pushups might not always be feasible in every situation, the underlying principle of replacing a negative behavior with a positive one remains significant. It’s about cultivating awareness and actively choosing healthier alternatives when faced with temptations or habits we wish to change.

      1. I have used this technique successfully on myself. I have been backsliding lately with buying and eating unhealthy snacks, so I need to get myself back on track! LOL!

  3. I think the post is awesome and I plan to try this in the future, except for talking to the chatbot, at least not until that technology improves! I might sound crazy but I would honestly rather talk to myself. I sometimes record voice diaries then go back and listen to them again when I’m in a clearer head space. Most of the time, I find out that whatever was concerning me has become irrelevant, but if the same concerns keep coming up, something needs to change.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Talking to a chatbot is just one option of many. You seem to have found a perfect way by recording voice diaries and listening back to them. As you mentioned: most of the time we can find out whatever is concerning us has become irrelevant after working through it. Keep up that proactive mindset, Melodi!

      1. I appreciate your comment! Thanks for writing great posts!

  4. Oh an interesting share !!

    Love the tips.
    Kudos to the writer 👏🏻

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Thank you for commenting, Devang, means a lot to me.

      1. Great job overall!!

        Kudos.

        Keep sharing

  5. Saved! Well written, informative and insightful. Will def try this next time there are some doughnuts around 😎

    Sorta related; I also read that it’s a good idea before sending a flamer to save it in draft mode and revisit it in the morning. Yikes, sometimes I cringe… I was really gonna send that??

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Absolutely, the advice to delay sending heated messages is incredibly wise, Darryl! Emotions can cloud our judgment, leading us to express ourselves in ways we may later regret. Saving a draft and revisiting it with a cooler head can prevent unnecessary conflict and preserve relationships. It’s a practice that acknowledges the importance of emotional regulation and the power of reflection. Many of us have experienced that cringe-worthy moment upon rereading something we almost sent impulsively. Taking that pause allows for a moment of clarity and often leads to more constructive communication.

  6. Great tip, Pooja!💕

  7. I was watching a psychiatrist video and they said it takes three months to retrain the brain to think differently and change those habits.

    1. That’s exactly right! Pooja has it right❣️

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      You’re right, Ian! The concept of retraining the brain to think differently and change habits is fascinating and widely discussed in psychology. While the specific timeframe of three months might vary depending on individual circumstances and the complexity of the habit, the idea aligns with the notion of neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. The 90-second pause is a great way into making lasting changes.

      Forming new habits or altering existing ones typically requires consistent effort and repetition. Research suggests that it can take anywhere from several weeks to several months to establish new behavioral patterns. This timeframe allows for the consolidation of new neural pathways and the weakening of old ones.

      1. I’m fascinated with the way the brain works and the difference between how a man and woman processes sensory inputs. They can actually watch this in process through the use of sophisticated computing tools.

  8. Great post with sound tips.
    More chocolate and wine please..
    and
    Yes
    I’m sure❣️
    Are you sure about out this~!😹

  9. You mean all I had to do all along was wait 90 seconds before eating all those cookies 🤣? I am going to try that next time.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Yes, funny, right? Or wait 90 seconds before the second cookie and use the time to hide the cookie jar under a ton of books;-) Or use the 90 seconds to run to your neighbor and gift her the rest of the cookies, start to chit-chat and completely forget about the craving…
      So many options, but hard to follow through.
      My cookie jar is at risk of being thrown out of the window 🤣

  10. I like the 90-second pause. Thank you for sharing this insight to fight bad habits.

    1. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Thank you for commenting, Edward!

      1. You’re welcome.

  11. Very insightful post.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      So glad you find it helpful, Gertrude!

  12. Wait, have I been doing it wrong the entire time?! I always wondered why the 5-second rule never worked for me. .-.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Yeah, had to ditch my 6-second, my 7-second, my 8-second and many more rules, too 🤣

      1. Haha this is relatable. I’ve tried them all too 😭😂

  13. Perfectly right… thanks for the share.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Happy to hear you found it helpful, JM!

  14. Very informative! I tend to snack all day but I choose healthy food to snack on.

    1. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      That’s a good one, too! Only have healthy snacks in the house and go wild on them:-)
      Problem is, when we’re at work or at an event, it gets tricky to ignore all the temptations surrounding us..

      1. My trick for ignoring all the tempting foods is not an easy one. I had a sugar addiction at one point. It took me over two years but now I can be in a room full of desserts and have no desire to eat anything. If you stop eating something long enough, you lose the craving for them.

  15. I did not realize this was a guest post until the very end where you stated it was. It would helpful if that was an upfront thing, either at the beginning of the post, or in the title itself. I feel like you’ve done that before and I really appreciated knowing from the get-go that a post is or isn’t, from you.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Hope it was of value to you anyway, Bookstooge. I do my very best to share something that resonates with this community.

      1. To be honest, I was skimming along and didn’t even catch that last part by Pooja until I saw you replying to all the comments and I was thinking “Who is this, replying to everyone’s comments on Pooja’s post”. Then it dawned that maybe it WASN’T her post and I read the post more carefully and saw the disclaimer at the end.

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          Karin Andrea Stephan

          Hope you don’t mind me responding to all comments. To me it is gold that you actually read through the whole post – not everyone does in this busy time and age. Thanks for that!

          1. It’s your post, so I’d expect you to respond to the comments.
            But as you can see by other comments, I’m not the only one who didn’t realize this was a guest post.
            Which is why I said that that info should be clearly stated at the beginning of the post or in the title. That’s on Pooja to implement though, not on you.

            1. Yeah, I totally understand where you’re coming from but I decided not to add “guest post” to the title as the title is already reaching the character limit. It would mess up my SEO to make it longer. Hope that explains it. I’ll add a disclaimer at the starting though to clear up any confusion 😀

              1. Thanks Pooja. A statement/disclaimer/whatever at the beginning would be very helpful.

                1. I’ve added one for this post and will keep that in mind for future posts. Thanks for the heads-up about that.

  16. Very useful tip Pooja! Thanks 🙏🏼

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      So glad you find it helpful, Sadje!

      1. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  17. Interesting. The science seems sound. I’ve found that the five year pause works slightly better though.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Five years?! Wow, can you share more about how to succeed with that long a pause? To me 90 seconds sometimes feel like an eternity…so I’m curious how you manage so well, Opher.

  18. Wonderful post to read this morning!

    1. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Happy to hear, Stella! You just made my day with your comment.

  19. coffee in water
    sugar in water
    more!

  20. I love this post so thank you, Pooja and Karin. I’ve previously advised a friend (who’s prone to angry flare-ups via text messages to her many and varied boyfriends) to use this method to save her from sending nasty messages immediately. To wait until the morning when she might be thinking more clearly. She agrees it’s saved whatever relationship she’s in. It became a habit of hers and now she’s happy that she doesn’t get the urge to send any more ugly words.

    I also try to use the 90-second tip to stop me from constantly picking (food) in the evening 🙂

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    Karin Andrea Stephan

    It’s amazing how simple strategies can have such profound effects on our behavior and relationships. Encouraging your friend to save those fiery messages until morning is a brilliant tactic, Carol! It allows for cooler heads to prevail and preserving valuable connections, like you mentioned. It’s inspiring to hear that it’s become a habit for your friend, resulting in healthier communication and happier relationships.

    Similarly, your own application of the 90-second rule to curb evening snacking demonstrates the power of mindfulness in breaking undesirable habits- I definitely need to work on this too!

    Small changes like these can lead to significant improvements in our lives. Keep up the great work!

  22. Great and informative post and thank you for sharing this helpful advice.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Thanks for commenting, so glad you found it helpful, Eugi!

      1. You’re most welcome, Karin.

  23. So true – but not much fun. But neither is a hangover (or any other like biopsychosocial response).
    There are all sorts of gimmicks/tricks etc. to combat addiction (unhealthy habits). The 90 second pause works, so does the “geographic cure”; but both are temporary. So is life. “If everything seems under control, you’re just not going fast enough.” Mario Andretti. 🙂 [born today, “the day of zest”]

  24. I do enjoy what is presented here. It’s informed and reasonable qualities are encouraging. I especially appreciate the advice to drink some water and reach out to someone, presumably someone close and-or trustworthy. We don’t do enough socially to help ourselves, and it is a cynical, negative world. Still, we have each other and should be active and discreet in that. Thanks for sharing this, Pooja!

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      So much truth in what you just said! We can do so much more socially to help ourselves and others.

  25. Good guidance, as always, Pooja. My 90-second pause is to say three Hail Marys, a Catholic prayer. It’s just long enough to stop those words from coming out of my mouth or take an action I’d regret later.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      That’s a really good one, Mary! Three Hail Marys or any other mantra has worked for hundreds of years. Thank you for the reminder!

  26. Hi Pooja, this was a helpful post, so thanks for sharing. And I like the idea of a 90-second pause. 🩷

    1. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      So happy you like the idea. Thanks for commenting, Lauren!

  27. Thanks for sharing. I will try this.

    1. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Great, so happy to hear you will give it a try, Joseph!

  28. Great Post, very useful health tips 👏

    1. Karin Andrea Stephan Avatar
      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Thanks for your kind words, Pramod, I’m happy you found it helpful!

      1. Yes, very much

  29. Great tips. Thank you for explaining. I’m going to try it!

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      All the best for you Cadeegirl, and thanks for sharing!

  30. I appreciate the tip with using the 90 second pause when feeling stressed. I’m going to try to implement it.

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      Karin Andrea Stephan

      Please do, Rachel! I’m so glad you want to try it out. All the best for you.

    1. Thank you 😊

  31. I actually could not guess that this wasn’t you. It sounded like you😢.
    I’m not sure about the 90sec rule when it comes to addictions. I quit smoking some years ago but I needed the 10 minute rule with that one. Even now, thinking about it, 90secs feels too short to dissuade me from something i really feel like doing. But I don’t know too much about the science. Just basic research. Thanks for sharing this, and the A.I chat box has me intrigued. I may give it a try, given my isolation at work.

  32. This is a great post and like the commenter before me, I was sure it was you! I’ve actually been employing the technique a few days and find it simple enough to actually remember. Also it reminds me of a 9-second meditation I did for a while, every 15 minutes through the day.

    Thanks!

    1. Haha yeah, I guess we have similar writing styles.

      That’s great, I think it’s definitely a simple enough method and quite beneficial.

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