I’m nearing the end of my twenties. I know my perfect skin (sarcasm no one has perfect skin!) doesn’t give it away but I’m almost thirty now. And I’ve met a lot of people in my twenties that I really enjoyed being around. But I’ve also met a lot of people I wish I hadn’t. I thought I would share some advice for people starting their twenties or maybe even for people in general. So, here are some types of people you should avoid in general but especially in your twenties when you’re too young to know better.
The Me, Me, Me’s
I’m sure we all know at least one person like this. The kind of person where every conversation is about them, they only reach out when they need something, somehow what’s happening in their life is always more important then what’s happening with you.
Now, it’s okay to sometimes focus on yourself but if you’re friends or in a relationship with someone that makes everything about themselves all the time it’s best for you to dip. These kind of people don’t have the capacity to take you into consideration the way you deserve. Real relationships shouldn’t be one sided.
Why avoid these people? Because they will drain you and make everything about themselves constantly.
The Self-Proclaimed Good Guys
If someone has to constantly tell you what a good person they are (with no actual proof of it in their behaviour) and brag about everything they do then they’re probably not as good of a person as they think they are. Again, it’s best to avoid people like this because honestly they are exhausting to be around. And most of the time they will screw you over if they need to.
The Faux Type B’s
There’s genuinely type B people out there that are just more free spirited, easy going and not particularly well organised which is totally fine. These aren’t the people I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is the kind of people that use weaponised incompetence to get out of ever taking any sort of responsibility. They will conveniently “forget” to do things or will purposely do them incorrectly in an effort to get you to do everything for them so they can live an easy life.
Avoid people like this at all costs. They will not pull their weight, not because they can’t but because they don’t want to.
The Narcissists
As someone who has been dealing with narcissistic abuse for a long time, I beg of you to please avoid narcissists as much as possible. I know sometimes it’s hard to tell until it’s too late but if you see red flags early on don’t ignore them. Run. If you’re not familiar with narcissistic personality disorder and what red flags to look out for, you can read more about it here.
A narcissist can literally ruin your entire life, they can cause wounds you take a lifetime to heal from. If there’s someone you need to avoid in your twenties more than anything, this one is it.
The Pick Me’s
If you don’t know what a “pick me” is, you can read about it here. Pick me’s are not only annoying but can also compromise your safety. Someone who is focused on getting validation from others and doing things that can endanger you in order to get that validation is not a real friend. They are being unkind to themselves and to you. People like that are usually extremely insecure and have a lot of jealousy towards others in their life as well and if they feel like you have something they don’t things can go south pretty fast.
The Frenemies
I’m not sure why people date or are friends with people they don’t like. It’s becoming more common too, especially with Gen Z. Being a part of Gen Z, I can say I see this very often in relationships and friendships I’ve witnessed. It’s sad actually. But yeah, frenemies is something you want to avoid. If someone is your friend or partner but their actions hint that they don’t actually like you, take their actions more seriously than their words. Usually, people like this are just using you because you have something they need and will stab you in the back when they get a chance.
Final Thoughts
So, those are the types of people you should avoid in your twenties. But keep in mind that nothing is written in stone when it comes to people. We’re all very different. I have based this post on my own experiences that I’ve had in my twenties but others may not have the same. Give people a chance but if you see red flags run, don’t wait for them to change.
What advice would you give to someone in their twenties? What are some other the types of people you should avoid in your twenties? Let me know in the comments below!
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