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I wrote this post about being an adult while I took some time away from blogging and thought I would share it today since I did not have anything else ready to post. So enjoy my whinings for the day.

What I find most depressing about being an adult is that it never ends. You never seem to get a break from it. At least I don’t seem to, maybe some of you are doing better at this than I am.

As an adult we see ourselves so clearly for the first time and we see who we want to be but at the same time we see others more clearly too. We see those that we cherished that never reciprocated that energy, we see those who stand by our side through the ups and downs and we see those trying to pull us down with them. 

It’s lonely and depressing, seeing the world as it is, taking off the rose-coloured glasses. I want to go back to who I was at 16 even for a few minutes but that’s the things about being an adult- it never ends. There are no breaks from it. We just have to keep going.

That’s all for now, I may have seen a spider run under my bed and hide so I’m off to find a new place to live. Toodles.

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121 responses to “About Being An Adult”

  1. John Avatar
    John

    Well said, Pooja, I’d love to stop adulting and be a child again! I’m almost 65 and have seen so many things that life gets boring… I hope it wasn’t a spider under your bed, eew!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. Yeah, I think after a while we get jaded. Fingers crossed it wasn’t a spider! 😭

      Reply
      1. John Avatar
        John

        Jaded, yep.

        Reply
  2. jason.he Avatar
    jason.he

    Hi

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Hi

      Reply
  3. Midna Twili Avatar
    Midna Twili

    As a teen I am often told to enjoy it while it lasts. And I try to remember one day I will have to pay the bills, one day I will have to have a job. And those years are approaching fast.

    Reply
    1. Alex Diaz-Granados Avatar
      Alex Diaz-Granados

      Time doth fly.

      Reply
    2. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Enjoy it while you can, Of course, there’s lots of good things about being an adult but you never get to be carefree without responsibilities again.

      Reply
  4. Alex Diaz-Granados Avatar
    Alex Diaz-Granados

    While my early teens had their share of Sturm und Drang, I wouldn’t mind traveling back in time and experiencing the less demanding daily routine I had when I was in junior and senior high school. Adulting has some benefits, sure. But I sincerely hate fretting about bills and how to pay them.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, the main thing I miss is having more time for hobbies and to spend with friends. I hate having to work so hard and worrying about adult responsibilities all the time.

      Reply
  5. Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/ Avatar
    Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/

    Adulting never ends, until it does, so live well, enjoy life, follow your joy, keep the kid in your alive by nourishing her with lots of love and enjoyment. Take pauses, every day!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Very true, good advice!

      Reply
  6. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    Wait until you turn 45,
    when one can fall into childhood again
    and again and again…
    who can tell you that’s no right?
    no one is watching,
    be your best babushka tonight

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I think you’re more established by then too and know who you are which helps.

      Reply
      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        i guess
        i am only forty two,
        sometimes you know who you are,
        other times you are wondering…

        Reply
  7. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    Adulthood can feel heavy at times, but praise God we don’t walk it alone. Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” – Matthew 11:28.
    Even when life doesn’t give breaks, He gives strength, peace, and hope to keep us going.
    Keep leaning on Him, you’re not alone. 🙏

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you 🙏🙏

      Reply
  8. L.G. Avatar
    L.G.

    Great honest and heartfelt post, thanks for sharing, you’re not alone.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you so much.

      Reply
  9. wrookieschu Avatar
    wrookieschu

    Being an adult is tough but I would hate to go back to being a child / teenager. At least we can make our own decisions.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, that’s very true. I think there’s a lot of pros to being an adult but at times I just end up feeling overwhelmed by it all.

      Reply
  10. thomasstigwikman Avatar
    thomasstigwikman

    I’ve been an adult a long time. You never stop learning. Yes you lose your rose colored glasses but you gain so many insights that you can use. I wish I had those when I was 16.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, that’s so true. A lot of lessons along the way.

      Reply
  11. Italoye Ibukun Avatar
    Italoye Ibukun

    Here in Nigeria, most people believe adulthood is a scam.

    When we were kids, we thought adulthood means freedom to do what you like without being controlled by your parents.

    But in reality, adulthood comes with so much responsibility and challenges that could cripple you if care isn’t taken.

    Nice post, Pooja.

    I’m glad I found your blog again

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      In some ways, I do feel like adulthood is a scam. Like we have a very different understanding of it compared to what it’s actually like. Thank you so much and my apologies for the late response. Your comment was stuck in my spam folder for some reason.

      Reply
      1. Italoye Ibukun Avatar
        Italoye Ibukun

        No problem.

        I understand.

        Sometimes, I had to check the spam folder to get some comments too

        Reply
  12. trE Avatar
    trE

    “If you’re an adult, what are your thoughts on it?”

    I want a full refund, would not recommend. Hard pass if I’m ever offered it again. 😆🤣😂

    Reply
    1. Lokesh Avatar
      Lokesh

      This is rude way to look at it but…

      imagine someone who didn’t evolve mentally, emotionally and physically from one phase of life to another phase.

      Not just you are evolving, everyone else’s around you is evolving.

      Reply
      1. trE Avatar
        trE

        You’ve taken what is actually my humorous response and somehow flipped it into something that’s malicious. Pooja knows my humor and my response is clearly in jest. It is meant to be funny, not a full-on breakdown of what I actually think about adulthood overall. It’s not meant to be advice, it’s not serious.

        I hope this helps.

        Reply
        1. Lokesh Avatar
          Lokesh

          I understand your humour lol.😂

          It’s good to know you get the sense of what you speak/write. Please ignore!

          Reply
          1. trE Avatar
            trE

            Lol. See?! You even got a laugh out of it, too. Yay!

            Reply
        2. Lokesh Avatar
          Lokesh

          Mam! Three billion people have already applied for the refund. Wait in line. Please.

          Reply
          1. trE Avatar
            trE

            😆🤣😂

            Reply
    2. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      If you find out how to get a refund please let me know lol 😂

      Reply
      1. trE Avatar
        trE

        Child, and will! Lol. 😆🤣😂

        Reply
  13. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    I am with you on the spider. Let me know if you find someplace that is truly a spider free zone, lol.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lol, if I ever find a spider free zone I’m going to be telling everybody about it.

      Reply
      1. Joseph Glidden Avatar
        Joseph Glidden

        It might be very, very cold there though, lol.

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          At this point, I’m okay with that lol.

          Reply
  14. vermavkv Avatar
    vermavkv

    Well said.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you.

      Reply
  15. lbrcorner☕︎ Avatar
    lbrcorner☕︎

    I am the opposite. I didn’t quite enjoy youth but did better as an adult. I think because I prefer being around older people. But, yes, with Christ Jesus, He gets me through the tough times and my bestest friend. : )

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I do enjoy being an adult for a lot of reasons but I think for me it’s become very exhausting having to take on so much responsibility. Hopefully, I’ll get used to it over time.

      Reply
      1. lbrcorner☕︎ Avatar
        lbrcorner☕︎

        Oh yes. I understand.

        Reply
  16. shivatje Avatar
    shivatje

    🙏 well written 🌹

    Aum Shanti

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you 🙏

      Reply
  17. chameleon15026052 Avatar
    chameleon15026052

    I think I actually found it harder to give up being a child than to stay an adult. My soul always seemed to revolt against the ties that bind adulthood. I was even told more than once that I acted more like a child than my children.

    Once, my own son asked me to watch his younger brother more closely as he wandered towards a local burn. I wasn’t being careless—I was trying to give him the same kind of freedom I had as a child. That’s where I still struggle: finding the balance between the freedom I believe children should have, and the restraints adulthood demands we place on them.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I miss being a child too, it’s hard adjusting to being an adult and having to give up so much of your time. These days I barely get any time for hobbies.

      Reply
  18. katiemiafrederick Avatar
    katiemiafrederick

    LifeLines We can count on Warm Hands We Trust

    And Eyes that tell no Lies Makes the Journey Through

    Adulting in this Modern World Much More Palatable Indeed

    Dear Pooja

    Yet that’s the
    Problem It won’t
    Happen Without Honesty
    Empathy and Compassion

    Sorely Waning Virtues of Humanity

    AND Competence Yet This Much i Know Feel and Sense

    Even though i can’t Solve This Problem for the World

    What i Can
    And What i
    Will Do is Keep
    Keep on Keeping

    On Lifting Others up
    With Kindness and Never
    Stop a Play of Life that Makes
    it worth Living to me that Much

    i’ve been able to
    Master the Last

    Dozen Years

    Yet if i was still in the
    Modern Working World

    i’m Really Not Sure i
    would have even survived

    Surviving Sadly Doesn’t Always Leave
    Room to do the Human Portion of Adulting Dear Pooja

    Almost All the People i Know are Just surviving i realize
    How Fortunate i am to even have the Energy and Warmth to Lift them up

    And Nah
    i Don’t Expect
    Anything in Return

    Yet in the ‘Real World’
    i’ve Been Pleasantly

    Surprised lately by finding
    Real Humanity wherever

    i go Next and Not So Much
    That i’m overwhelmed with too much
    Happiness

    Yep that
    Can be a
    Challenge too

    Such an Art A Balance
    Life is to Do Indeed Yes
    Always Fine Tuning Change ..:)

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Absolutely, sometimes we just have to keep keeping when times get more difficult.

      Reply
      1. katiemiafrederick Avatar
        katiemiafrederick

        Ah Yes Dear Pooja
        As ‘The Beatles’ Related
        Back in ‘67 too Another
        Day Comes In The Play of

        Life to
        Do Hehe
        Doing my
        Best to Make
        It Epic iN The
        Beginning of

        The “Key
        Of ‘E’” Again☺️🙌

        Reply
  19. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    Gosh – how I would love to go back to that positive world of all possibility when I was eighteen and everything was fresh and an endless series of discoveries. Adults have responsibilities and that makes you look at things differently.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Exactly how I feel. We’re so hopeful at that age but end up jaded over time.

      Reply
  20. Aarya B Avatar
    Aarya B

    I relate with this so much right now! Moving thousands of miles away from home forces you to be an adult and do boring adult-y things. I always tend to super careful when dealing with anyone, it is never easy to differentiate between a friend and a foe. Life is hard, but I don’t hate it (at least not right now). I think it’s just going to get harder from now on, but that’s what life is about!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, there’s so many more responsibilities as we get older. And to be honest a lot of people out there are not trustworthy. Of course, many are but it’s best to be careful. Yup, we just have to keep moving forward!

      Reply
  21. veerites Avatar
    veerites

    Dear Gudka
    I can’t stop praising you for your command on pen.
    Thank you for liking my ‘Left’ 🙏

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you and you’re most welcome 🙏

      Reply
  22. singlikewildflowers Avatar
    singlikewildflowers

    Adulting never ends! But I find that I am happier and more content as I get older. I didn’t feel that way even a few years ago, but I’m feeling more confident about who I am as a person now than when I was younger. But yea. I see more too about myself and others and I realize that we are all flawed! It’s humbling.
    I hope that spider has been found and you can reclaim your space again. 🙂

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I’m really glad to hear that you’re happier and more content now, that’s great!
      I haven’t seen the spider again so at this point I’m just reevaluating my entire life lol 😂

      Reply
  23. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    It gets easier as we grow used to our new role

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I hope so because I’m having a difficult time at the moment.

      Reply
      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        I understand dear friend. Age not only provides wisdom but experience too.

        Reply
  24. Bookstooge Avatar
    Bookstooge

    While it can be a heavy load some times, I’d not go back. My life is now fully mine. Yes, I have to go to work, but outside of that, my time is my time.
    Of course, I feel differently in the middle of a crisis and I’m the one having to deal with things 😀

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s the thing, I’m in the middle of crisis which is why I’m extra whiny lol 😂 Generally, I do like the pros that come with being an adult.

      Reply
      1. Bookstooge Avatar
        Bookstooge

        Yeah, crisis times are the worst. Even though you “know” how it can affect you, there’s nothing that can be done. When I was first dealing with my eye, I couldn’t even deal with someone asking a question on my blog. I “knew” they weren’t attacking me, but I was so frazzled that it felt like it.
        So I hope you’re ok 🙂

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          I know exactly what you mean, I find myself more defensive when I’m going through something too. I’m okay, life goes on- thankfully. 🙂

          Reply
  25. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    There are also some perks to being an adult. Sometimes it can feel never ending though.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, there’s definitely both pros and cons. I do like being an adult, I just don’t like where I’m at in life right now.

      Reply
  26. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    Being an adult has its ups and downs, but, as I get older, I feel I am my own person. I hope that was not a spider that went under your bed. I wouldn’t be able to sleep if I knew a spider was under my bed.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Absolutely, there’s pros and cons to being an adult. I do enjoy a lot of parts of it but right now I think I’m just burnt out and tired and wish I could get a break.
      I have no idea if it was a spider or I was seeing things (my bed only has a tiny space at the bottom so I can’t look to see if there’s a spider there) but at this point I’m genuinely considering just moving lol.

      Reply
      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        That’s scary, not knowing if a spider is there. My bed is high off the floor, and I can see what’s under there. I vacuum under the bed frequently, just in case. 😬

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          I regret not getting a different bed where I can see under it lol 😂

          Reply
          1. Eugi Avatar
            Eugi

            LOL 😱

            Reply
    2. Lokesh Avatar
      Lokesh

      I found a black scorpion running on the floor. I was shocked. Because it was equally large to my hand.✋
      Thank God I noticed it. Otherwise it might have attacked one of us while hiding somewhere.

      Reply
      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        Yikes! Scorpions are scary! 😱

        Reply
    3. Lokesh Avatar
      Lokesh

      I’m just curious… Technically we’re larger, stronger and intelligent than them. Then why do we fear them, so much?

      Reply
      1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
        P. J. Gudka

        Due to evolution, they were a significant threat to us at one point and our body has evolved to be cautious of them.

        Reply
  27. festo_sanjo Avatar
    festo_sanjo

    Actually, being an adult makes the rose colored glasses 🤓 disappear! Like one day you wake up and realize how hard it was… For your parents, and omg, you start regretting every single complaint you had over them Life really isn’t what we see in movies or social media. It’s hard to be alive, we are normally told that we should take life simply but it’s all about survival… Just like animals, the environment is gonna shape us. There’s this thing inside of me that keeps telling me, that I gotta reshape my identity, I know I can but I don’t know how… There’s indeed no strategy, but I keep finding myself wanting to research “how to” live, how to appear, how to be… Which only keeps me insane.

    It is what it is. Growing up into adulthood will only make you see how it is. We gotta roll with the punches. They say caring about what others feel and think about you, will keep you enslaved in a cage that essentially doesn’t exist.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s very true, when we get older we see our parents as human beings while when we’re younger we see them differently. I feel the same way, I know I need to make changes but don’t know where or how to start. Absolutely, we must live for ourselves and stop caring what others say about decisions that don’t effect them.

      Reply
  28. Norwegian Avatar
    Norwegian

    Thanks for sharing thoughts on adulthood. Maybe you’ll find wisdom in Richard Rohr’s book Falling Upward, which speaks of necessary suffering, and the two halves of life.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I’ll definitely check it out, thank you for the recommendation.

      Reply
  29. Mark Edward Jabbour Avatar
    Mark Edward Jabbour

    Ha! Have you watched 1883? The prelude to Yellowstone? There’s a 17 year old girl heading west with a wagon train; and she’s the narrator. So good. Remarks there are two journeys, looking back – and that she didn’t know it at the time but they were on a collision course.
    I’m 75 and starting a new chapter.
    You’re right- it never ends.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I haven’t watched 1883 or Yellowstone yet although I have heard good things about both. Sounds quite interesting. Yeah, I think regardless of our age we’re constantly starting over and have certain struggles.

      Reply
  30. Mary K. Doyle Avatar
    Mary K. Doyle

    And to think we were in a hurry to grow up. I can tell you, at my age, life has more choices. Health makes some restrictions, but if we take care of ourselves and save when young, we have more freedom than when we were younger and caring for a family.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, I can’t believe that I wanted to be an adult so badly when I was younger. True, I think if we’re careful when we’re younger life gets better over time.

      Reply
  31. jesusluvsall Avatar
    jesusluvsall

    Adulting is not easy so I drink coffee 🙂

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Lucky you, I had to cut out caffeine but that’s what chocolate’s for haha 🙂

      Reply
  32. Sensual Sketchwork Avatar
    Sensual Sketchwork

    This is the thing isn’t it? It never ends and it’s more often than not pretty hard.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, exactly. It’s constantly exhausting.

      Reply
      1. Sensual Sketchwork Avatar
        Sensual Sketchwork

        What do you do to switch off from it?

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          I try to read, draw, sing etc. What about you?

          Reply
          1. Sensual Sketchwork Avatar
            Sensual Sketchwork

            I like to draw, or write. Maybe I’ll get outdoors.

            Reply
            1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
              P. J. Gudka

              That’s nice, getting some fresh air always helps.

              Reply
              1. Sensual Sketchwork Avatar
                Sensual Sketchwork

                It definitely helps me

                Reply
  33. clcouch123 Avatar
    clcouch123

    I suppose there are those adults who choose not to see what and who’s around them. You apply your insight, which is both good and challenging. A doctor once told me, on asking after my condition, that I’d rather know. I must have looked puzzled ’cause he commented next on how many don’t want to know. I think you’ve chosen to know, which is good and right and not always easy.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I think I would rather know than live in denial but knowing is definitely the more difficult option. A lot of adults avoid bad medical news and even refuse to get tests done because they can’t accept that something is wrong. I know it’s scary but I think it’s best to know.

      Reply
  34. hereschanelno1 Avatar
    hereschanelno1

    You’re right. It seems like we never get a break, not even on the weekends! But we need to find ways to incorporate play in our lives, even if it’s just for a few minutes. That always helps me. <3

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, absolutely agree. I’ve been taking ten to twenty minute walks for the last couple of days and that’s helping.

      Reply
  35. the press music reviews Avatar
    the press music reviews

    very relatable. thank you

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much.

      Reply
  36. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    I thought my teen years were fulfilling when in actual fact they were just wasted years. Beccoming an adult you begin to recognize its not about self but how to interact with others to get the most satisfaction in life. I’ve always had positive goals and while there were times life hit hard I always knew that it was necessary to get up again and pursue those goals. I’m really happy with what has been accomplished now I have retirement to introspect.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s great, I’m really glad you’ve lived your life well and continue to live in a positive way. I think what I miss most about being a teen is having more free time to pursue hobbies and spending time with friends. As adults, our free time is very limited. At least it is for me.

      Reply
  37. Dawn Avatar
    Dawn

    You couldn’t pay me enough to go back to the teen years again. I think the adult years have brought a little more clarity and (mostly) more maturity.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s totally fair! A lot of pros of being an adult but more than anything I just miss having more energy and free time.

      Reply
  38. Christopher Hall Avatar
    Christopher Hall

    I think I can vouch for all us here by saying we definitely aren’t doing this whole adulting thing any better than you are. I think we all probably suck at this in some form. I know I REALLY suck at it myself! Lol! Since we’re around the same age pretty much, I’m going through these feelings too. Taking off those rose-coloured glasses really does hurt… Really bad sometimes. Though I know it’s necessary for growth and maturity. And yes, thankfully I’ve been accepting the process. But it still doesn’t mean I have to like it! And not ever be grumpy about it when I want damnit! 😂

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Haha yeah I think what we realise as adults is that we’re all imperfect and just trying our best to keep our head up. It does hurt but yeah it’s growing pains, we need to experience it to grow as people. Lol sometimes we just have to do some whining first 😉

      Reply
      1. Christopher Hall Avatar
        Christopher Hall

        HA! I see what you did there! 😉 I heard there was a Stoic on WordPress who runs a blog called, “Lifesfinewhine.” You should definitely check it out sometime! I highly recommend it! She’s pretty cool! 👍😉

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Lol thank you! There’s a great blog called Philosophical Qualms that I think you’ll really like too 😉

          Reply
          1. Christopher Hall Avatar
            Christopher Hall

            Oh wow! I had no idea! Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll go check them out sometime! 😉

            Reply
            1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
              P. J. Gudka

              🤭

              Reply
  39. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    Oh no my dear…it does end, but it’s not very pleasant then 😊.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah but sometimes when you’re in a depressive episode it doesn’t sound so bad. Thankfully, once you snap out of it you realise how great life can be though.

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  40. Swamigalkodi Astrology Avatar
    Swamigalkodi Astrology

    Astrological noir

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  41. Jody Avatar
    Jody

    Such a great post to reflect on!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you!

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  42. Nicole Smith Avatar
    Nicole Smith

    This speaks to me, it never ends and it is nothing like I imagined.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, it’s tough when it’s just one thing after the other every day.

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  43. Ronnie Avatar
    Ronnie

    A long time ago, a friend’s daughter asked me if things got easier once you are older. I told her they get harder, but you learn to cope with life in different ways.

    It used to be quite common in the UK for older people to say how easy young people have it growing up, compared to them. That has taken a strange twist in current times, because older people are now saying, how much better things were for them when they were young, and how difficult it is for younger people nowadays.

    After WW2 there was healing and regeneration, and the sixties and seventies were good times. The NHS and the Welfare State were created. Finding work was easy, so was renting somewhere decent to live. Young couples in general, could get an affordable mortgage to buy a property.

    Then things took a downwards slide. I remember reading an article about depression greatly increasing world-wide, and that if it was something like cancer that was increasing at such an alarming rate, there would be vast sums of money ploughed into investigating it.

    Everything in the downward slide can be traced back to politics. It not easy being happy as long as genocide is being committed.

    It may interest you to know that although I had a great time when I was young, I also had depression, but in-between, I had lots of fun. My friend’s daughter that I mentioned at the beginning had depression, which she ended up self-medicating.

    I think learning new coping strategies as you make your way through life is something that is easier for someone like you, than it is for a lot of other people.

    You have a long road ahead you with the potential for many ups and downs, but it is not so much what actually happens to you in the downs, as how well you learn to cope with them.

    A lot of people seek contentment, by adding to what they already have, but contentment comes from inside, and being comfortable with who you are. There’s a lot to admire about you, never forget that.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Things have certainly changed a lot since the 60’s and 70’s. I think the biggest thing that’s leading to depression rising in young adults and teens is that we no longer make enough to enjoy life. Our entire life is consumed by work and yet we’re barely making ends meet. We can’t travel, pursue our hobbies, many young adults can barely make rent. I think some changes definitely need to be made.

      I agree, so many unnecessary wars happening at the moment. Hearing about things like that can be heartbreaking. Many people are choosing medication because unfortunately there’s not a lot of other options available. Thankfully, in my country therapy and other resources are more affordable and I’m able to find alternatives. I know not everyone is that lucky.

      Thank you so much.

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  44. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    Being adults never ends indeed!
    It’s like childhood ends
    then comes the worst part and no escape

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, it’s never ending and there’s always something we have to deal with!

      Reply

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