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Airing My Festivus Grievances

I had a completely different post prepared for today but then I had a very weird dinner experience and wanted to share it. And it happens to be Festivus which is why I thought would be the perfect time to air my grievances! So without further ado, here are my Festivus grievances, or I guess just the one grievance…

My Festivus Grievances

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So, I went to dinner with my cousins and one of their husbands as she’s married. I wrote about that some time ago. Anyway, we were all trying to enjoy the dinner and experience when the conversation turned to who will take which car home. We had carpooled and taken two cars. Well, unprompted her husband mentions how we won’t all fit and starts talking about everyone’s weight. He points to my cousin (his wife) and proceeds to call her fat (she’s pregnant in her final trimester not fat), calls three other cousins thin, calls me “kind of fat” and calls my cousin seated next to me “very fat.”

For those of you that have followed my blog since the beginning, you’ll know that people calling me fat or mentioning my weight is very triggering for me. I had disordered eating as a teen (due to being called fat so constantly). And a very unhealthy relationship with food till very recently. I was very triggered and offended by his comment, I’ve hung out with him like twice in my entire life and to call me “kind of fat” is so rude. Not to mention calling his own pregnant wife fat which in my opinion is just cruel. He’s like 5″2 or 5″3, I could have easily responded with something rude about that. But of course I didn’t because I’m not going to stoop to his level and I also don’t think a persons height and weight matters at all as long as they have a good heart.

Final Thoughts

In the end, I decided to let it go and move past the comment. I don’t really care what someone like him has to say. He is not someone of value to me. One thing my Stoic readings have taught me is to not be offended by people that don’t deserve even a second of your attention.

"Betimes in the morning say to thyself, This day I shalt have to do with an idle curious man, with an unthankful man..." Marcus Aurelius Quotes From Meditations Book 1
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I love myself exactly as I am, my relationship with food is healthier than ever, I have great people in my life. I don’t need his approval and I don’t need to be thin.

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119 responses to “Airing My Festivus Grievances”

  1. Carol anne Avatar
    Carol anne

    what a jerk Pooj! I understand how a comment about your weight would trigger you, I hate discussing my weight, because I am overweight, and some people love to point that out, so I hate it!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, it can be triggering when it’s something we’re already self conscious about. Thanks, it’s best to leave people like that alone and protect our peace!

      Reply
  2. John Avatar
    John

    Dang, Pooja. That was a severely rude thing for him to say to all of you, I would be triggered too! You certainly took the “high road” and were very mature. By the way, you look very beautiful! 💕🥰

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, so rude and just odd to say that. Thank you so much, that’s so sweet of you to say ☺️❤️

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      1. John Avatar
        John

        You are welcome, Pooja! Hugs. 💕❤️

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          🤗🤗

          Reply
  3. clcouch123 Avatar
    clcouch123

    Good, fine-whining, Pooja! From where does this person grab permission to judge others according to his own self-designed inconvenience. And to call his wife fat while she is pregnant? As if preganancy isn’t challenging enough. And I think you look great and you eat healthy, also treat-filled stuff (that’s healthy, too). Thank goodness you and food get along, and no one should be threatening that, aware of that or not. Feeling some sort of privilege to condemn while, by the way, avoiding it on himself, is–you’re right–cruel. It’s also misplaced, and I’m you Stoically have a realistic, countering perspective. Sheesh. And Happy Festivus (for the rest of us)!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you! I don’t know where some people find the audacity. It’s so bizarre to say that to people especially when there isn’t a single thing about him that’s traditionally attractive either. Anyway, I’ll just be avoiding him for the foreseeable future lol!

      Reply
  4. BSw Avatar
    BSw

    …stoop to his level (???). Well struck Pooj. 4 runs 🦉😅

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Haha thanks, honestly he just isn’t worth feeling bad about myself over 😅

      Reply
      1. BSw Avatar
        BSw

        Step right over him 😜

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Lolllll 😅😑🤭

          Reply
  5. Mike Adams Avatar
    Mike Adams

    There is nothing wrong with your look, and as long as you are happy with yourself — that is really ALL that matters. I am a rather large person myself, but when criticized — I tend to try to deflect with humor. Sometimes it is amazing just how often people just give it up when jokes come out.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks and for sure. I’m very happy with how I look and that’s been a long journey, I’m not going to let someone like him mess that up for me. I used to be bigger so I understand, I would do the same thing but internally it still hurt. I think this triggered some of those wounds but not to the extent that it would do long-term damage.

      Reply
  6. trE Avatar
    trE

    wOW! I’m just sitting here thinking about all the trauma waiting to be experienced by your cousin and their child she’s carrying because her husband is A PIECE OF WORK!

    I’m proud of you for not giving him any fuel, and you look amazing!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      To be honest, she was warned by multiple people about him and still chose to marry him. I still feel bad for her but more so for the child.

      Thank you!

      Reply
      1. trE Avatar
        trE

        That’s usually what happens in most cases such as this. They’re warned by others, and still choose to follow the rose-colored glasses.🥺

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Yeah, I think she was somewhat manipulated into it which is pretty sad. I hope she’s able to set strong boundaries especially for the child’s sake. 🙁

          Reply
  7. MaryG Avatar
    MaryG

    “He is not someone of value to me. “
    You nailed it! Excellent that you realized this so early on so that you can begin avoiding and sidestepping him.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you and yes I usually do avoid him anyway but will be making more of an effort from now on.

      Reply
  8. Christopher Hall Avatar
    Christopher Hall

    Yes! Happy Festivus! (*In Frank Costanza voice*) LOL! I LOVE IT! 😂Your Stoicism is serving you so well here like always! Although, it doesn’t matter what I or any other man or woman thinks, because it’s YOUR body that belongs to YOU! For what it’s worth, I think you’re physically attractive in my book! So anyone else who doesn’t think so, can just take a nice and friendly middle finger, as you strut off into the sunset! LOL! But regardless of all of that, that’s not what’s important anyway. Certain people unfortunately just can’t get past the surface levels of things. We should be with someone who loves us regardless of what the world around us calls “deficiencies.” No one of us are perfect. Nor are our bodies perfect. Nor should they ever be. Because that’s not reality. Reality is what’s really sexy if we choose to see it that way! I’m sorry you had to temporarily endure that. We have to do better as people! You keep on being your awesome self! 💗😀

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Haha thank you!
      I totally agree, none of us are perfect inside or out so we should really think it through before criticising someone else’s appearance. I thought it was ironic too considering that he is not traditionally attractive at all but still felt comfortable talking about others.

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      1. Christopher Hall Avatar
        Christopher Hall

        Absolutely! That’s why it’s so important to be humble and look at ourselves in the mirror first! Otherwise, it’s just a projection!

        Reply
  9. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    I am so sorry this happened to you. That was hurtful, unnecessary, and never okay, especially knowing how hard you have worked to heal. Your strength, self respect, and grace really show, and your worth has never been tied to anyone’s careless words. I am glad you know who you are and stand firm in that.

    Happy Festivus, Merry Christmas Eve, and Feliz Navidad 🎄

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. Yes, very unnecessary and odd to say to people no matter what. It’s taken a lot of work but I’m trying to no longer let people like that get to me.

      Thank you and Merry Christmas Eve to you as well!

      Reply
  10. L.G. Avatar
    L.G.

    Sorry about that

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much.

      Reply
  11. Rochelle | Adventuresfromelle Avatar
    Rochelle | Adventuresfromelle

    You’re a better person than me! I would’ve answered back with a snide comment, but when I grow up I aim to be more mature lol. Anyway, you didn’t ask but you’re absolutely gorgeous! I do feel sorry for his wife having to endure that type of negativity in her pregnancy/marriage. Sigh

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      The main reason I hold back and don’t respond to people like him is because they usually do it for the attention and I don’t want to give them that. Aw thank you!

      Reply
  12. CattleCapers Avatar
    CattleCapers

    If that photo is you, you look beautiful. Sorry to hear that you had such an awful experience. Some people simply have no clue how to be kind.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, that’s me and thanks so much. I think some people are just miserable and want to spread their misery.

      Reply
      1. CattleCapers Avatar
        CattleCapers

        Sadly true! Stay strong, please! You have a lot to contribute if you keep cutting off those chains of unkindness others try to put around your ankles. God bless.

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Thank you!

          Reply
  13. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    Pooja you are attractive and your weight is no problem at all because its normal. You need some self appreciation when others see you this way. As for that rude remark? Very inappropriate.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. Yes, definitely inappropriate and also very odd coming from someone who isn’t traditionally attractive themselves.

      Reply
  14. Warren Avatar
    Warren

    well said….you are you and that’s all that matters..and beautiful just as you are….happiness, is, us

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, all we can do is be ourselves and if someone has an issue with our existence that’s their problem.

      Reply
  15. ReadWrites222 Avatar
    ReadWrites222

    You are beautiful. Don’t let that asshat bother you. Font waste another second on him. Your poor cousin though

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much, yup he’s just not worth feeling bad about myself over. I definitely feel bad for my cousin and their child, what a sad way to live.

      Reply
  16. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    Seems like someone (him) is very insecure. What a shame for him and his wife, for sure! You are beautiful just as you are! We love you!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, he’s not what people would consider traditionally attractive and I feel like he’s just projecting his insecurities onto others. Thank you so much, lots of love!

      Reply
  17. thomasstigwikman Avatar
    thomasstigwikman

    Your cousin’s husband is not only short, he is extremely immature. I am glad you took the high road. It isn’t worth stooping to his level even though revenge may feel good in the shortrun. I’ve met a lot of people who belittle other people, I guess most people have come across such people. Their mind lack something important.

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    1. Alex Diaz-Granados Avatar
      Alex Diaz-Granados

      I concur!

      Reply
    2. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, very much so. I don’t think mature and happy people say things like that. I think the truth is they’re very insecure and project that onto others.

      Reply
  18. Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/ Avatar
    Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/

    Many men have severe fat phobias stemming from their own insecurities and limitations. He’s height challenged, and can’t do anything about it, so externalities his inner hatred helps him to get through his life. Men can be merciless to other men in regards to their height, so he’s passing all that onto others. Women are a good target for him. They always pick on the ones they see as weaker than them, who can’t fight back.

    My ex had been like that. I became anorexic to try to avoid his comments about my weight. It was only when my doctor was saying she wanted to send me to a nutritionist because I was underweight, did I realize that I didn’t have the problem, it was all his perception. He was externalizing the inner garbage he was living with inside of himself.

    I chose in that moment to be healthy. I chose to eat in a way that nourished me and to allow my weight to adjust itself and I decided to accept myself.

    Choose just to be healthy, for you, and screw what an insecure person chooses to say about you because he’s trying to feel superior and bigger than he is.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I completely agree, secure and happy people don’t feel the need to tear others down. It’s usually people that are miserable that try to make others miserable. I’m so sorry you experienced that with you ex but so glad you ended up moving past it and are now in a much healthier place both physically and mentally. For sure, it’s never a good idea to take what people like that say seriously because at the end of the day it’s all just projection of their own issues.

      Reply
  19. Quantez Xihuitl Avatar
    Quantez Xihuitl

    If he makes another cruel statement, talk to him personally and verbally cut him down for the wife.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      For now, I’m just going to make sure I’m never around him again.

      Reply
  20. Geoff Stamper Avatar
    Geoff Stamper

    I feel sorry for the unborn child.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Same here, imagine growing up with a parent like that.

      Reply
  21. katiemiafrederick Avatar
    katiemiafrederick

    SMiLes Dear Pooja Hehe i Bet
    Your Cousin’s Husband Who

    Was Disparaging the Women
    at the “Festivus’ Dinner Table Has

    Never Been Compared
    To the Face of Mona Lisa

    And True Curves Are Most
    Definitely Beautiful the Standard

    Indeed Of Mona Lisa Renaissance

    Days of

    Beauty True too

    Yes A Real Classic

    SMiLes We Have a Family Relative Who
    Actually Seems to Gain ‘Sadistic Pleasure’

    From Making Comments to Bring Others Down
    Particularly Cringeworthy How He’s Treated Wait

    Staff Before

    Yet there was a Day
    When He confessed the
    Origin Of His Behavior as
    He Said His Father Made Him
    Feel He Was Never Good Enough

    And the Same Man Was the Stepfather
    of my Father too i Remember Being in the
    Waiting Room When my Only Child an Infant
    Was Going into Surgery and the Surgeon With
    Huge Hands Said Kiss Your Baby Goodbye True

    He Lived a While Longer After the Surgery Yet Not Many Days
    More Anyway my Father Who Left When We Were Three to Find
    A Woman Who Would Make Him Money as my Mother Wanted to
    Stay Home and Raise me and my Sister Said in the Waiting Room During

    The Surgery
    Yep He Said
    Make Sure You
    Raise Him Like a Man

    Intimating my Mother Raised
    A Humam Too Kind With Empathy

    Not Particularly Wanting to Join
    The Military as my Father Said that
    Would Make me a Man to Go Fight
    In an Unwarranted War Like Vietnam

    Among Others of Course too Yes many

    Basically to Kill Non-White Folks and take What they Own

    Not Unlike a Looming conflict Now As Well from the ‘Old Boy USA

    Oil GRinching Way’

    So Anyway

    After i Held my

    Child Taking His Last Heart

    Beat in my Arms i Notified my
    Father That He Passed Away And

    my Father Said He Could not Bear
    to Hear Any More ‘Bad News’ So What

    Is it that Makes a Man And or Woman Fully Human

    Empathy And Compassion For All Regardless of Size
    Shape Form or Any Other Label of Human Differences

    Love Wins
    With Peace

    When LoVE iN Peace
    Breathes as Human For Real

    True All i Ever Wanted to be is Human

    Human is Enough No Matter What Naked
    Enough Whole Complete Breathing Empathy

    And
    Compassionate
    LoVE in Peace For All

    You Are Spectacularly
    Beautiful Just the Way
    You Are Flaws and All

    Yet i Don’t See Any mY FRiEnD

    Just a Mona Lisa Smile

    Genuine

    True and
    Authentic For Real…

    Hehe all i Plan on Leaving
    Behind is a Cheshire Cat Smile

    Yes
    that
    Lastttsss…

    Happy Festivus!
    Yes! With Mona Lisa SMiLes..:)

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Oh for sure, back when beauty standards were realistic and not everyone had to look like they’re on ozempic.
      I’m so sorry to hear that, that sounds like a very difficult way to grow up. And it’s cruel of your dad to imply you’re not masculine enough when in reality it takes much more strength to be humble, kind, compassionate and empathetic. I hate that people believe you have to lack emotions to be masculine, that’s really not the case.

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      1. katiemiafrederick Avatar
        katiemiafrederick

        SMiles It’s All Good Now Free
        To Marry The Night and Merry
        The Day Happy Christmas

        And
        New Year
        To All That
        You Love And

        Cherish With
        SMiles Dear Pooja☺️🙌

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          A very Merry Christmas, I hope you had a wonderful one 😊

          Reply
          1. katiemiafrederick Avatar
            katiemiafrederick

            We Did Thank
            You so Much☺️

            Reply
            1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
              P. J. Gudka

              You’re most welcome 😊

              Reply
              1. katiemiafrederick Avatar
                katiemiafrederick

                ☺️🙌

                Reply
  22. shivatje Avatar
    shivatje

    🙏🌹

    Aum Shanti

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      🙏🙏

      Reply
  23. Kevin James Wholley Avatar
    Kevin James Wholley

    Hard not to react but always best you don’t, good for you. For the show, Seinfeld, good choice. Best show ever

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. Yup, such a good show- one of my favourites.

      Reply
  24. glenmckenzie(justabitfurther) Avatar
    glenmckenzie(justabitfurther)

    Good for you. To give people time and focus when they don’t deserve or warrant it, is a waste of energy.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. Absolutely, he’s not worth my energy.

      Reply
      1. glenmckenzie(justabitfurther) Avatar
        glenmckenzie(justabitfurther)

        Exactly.

        Reply
  25. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    I am glad to hear that you took the high road. If you find yourself in that situation again you can use this method to calm yourself and bring a smile to your face. Imagine a beautiful lake scene with the soothing sound of a babbling brook. Now picture the face of the person causing you grief, next imagine their face while you hold them under the water. 🙃 Merry Xmas.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much. Haha yes, will be doing that if he says something stupid around me ever again 😅 Merry Christmas 🎄

      Reply
  26. Bookstooge Avatar
    Bookstooge

    That poor wife. She’s going to have a rough life with a boor like that. Sadly, I suspect she’s going to be socially ostracized because of her husband’s bad behavior.

    So good for you for not escalating the situation. I hope you can avoid that guy in the future.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I definitely feel bad for her but she was warned a lot before marrying him and still chose to. Sigh. Thanks and I definitely hope to avoid him as much as possible. This isn’t the first unseemly thing he’s done and I doubt it’ll be the last.

      Reply
  27. Dawn Avatar
    Dawn

    I do believe that moron needs his eyes checked. I feel sorry for his wife and their unborn child. So glad you didn’t take his words to heart, you are simply beautiful inside and out! 💞

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I think he needs some therapy, happy secure people don’t treat others that way. Thank you! 💗

      Reply
  28. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    weight
    wait
    an ass
    and it came
    to pass
    a fruedian slip too
    ignore
    dont not go more
    there eh?
    joy to you and yours

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, will definitely be avoiding him in the future.

      Reply
      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        your choice. your voice. good thing too.

        Reply
  29. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    That was extremely rude of him to say, especially about his wife. People like him make my skin crawl. Good for you, Pooja, for not escalating the situation.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yup, I feel like they’re just high school bullies who never grew up. Thanks so much.

      Reply
      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        You’re welcome, Pooja.

        Reply
  30. Mr. Ohh's Sideways View Avatar
    Mr. Ohh’s Sideways View

    Well that’s rude. I hope you have a Great holiday anyway. 🤣😎🙃

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Haha I did despite him 😅

      Reply
  31. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    He sounds very mean spirited. I feel bad for his wife. Glad you didn’t let him get you down.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, I do too but she chose to marry him despite multiple warnings. Thanks.

      Reply
  32. .Killa. Avatar
    .Killa.

    You’re incredible 🤩🤩

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you ☺️

      Reply
      1. .Killa. Avatar
        .Killa.

        You are welcome Pooja ☺️💙💙. Once you love yourself, you are unstoppable 🤟😄

        Merry Christmas🎄☃️🎊

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Merry Christmas 🎄🎅🏻

          Totally agree, it’s all about how we feel about ourselves 😊

          Reply
          1. .Killa. Avatar
            .Killa.

            “Merry Christmas 🎄🎅🏻”

            Thank you very much 🤟😆😍🫶

            “Totally agree, it’s all about how we feel about ourselves 😊”

            Exactly 💯☺️💙💙

            Reply
            1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
              P. J. Gudka

              😊😊😊

              Reply
  33. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    What a j**k he is. I would also endorse not paying any attention to his remarks. But in your place I’d not be in his company again. You’re perfectly fine as you are

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you. Yes, I’ll definitely be avoiding him from now on.

      Reply
      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        I really dislike such people.

        Reply
        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Me too, they’re just adult bullies.

          Reply
          1. Sadje Avatar
            Sadje

            Absolutely right.

            Reply
  34. writinstuff Avatar
    writinstuff

    Good on you for not clapping back b/c that is very difficult for me, even if it wasn’t aimed at me. I can’t stand a bully and would’ve told him we could solve the problem by putting him in the trunk. A++ for biting your tongue. Also…screw him!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      This year has made me way too patient lol 😂

      Reply
  35. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    LOL Pooj – you certainly aren’t fat!! Some people are just stupid, thoughtless and plain mean. There should not be room in your life for such people. What’s your cousin doing with such a crass man?? You did right. Ignore him. He’s a creep.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, some people are just rude for no reason- will definitely be keeping my distance from now on!

      Reply
  36. JR Avatar
    JR

    That’s terrible, I really hope you tried to not let it ruin your night. What a jerk, even if it was some kind of attempt at humour, that’s just idiotic.. Happy Festivus anyway!!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, jokes are usually funny and not plain mean so this was a pretty dumb thing to say. Thank you!

      Reply
  37. destiny Avatar
    destiny

    You handled it well , Pooja …not us nor anyone else needs to tell you that you’re gorgeous… you know it…😋
    but still i want to say…looking beautiful as always…🤍🤗🌷

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Aw thanks so much 😊🤗

      Reply
      1. destiny Avatar
        destiny

        🤗🌷🤍

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  38. SiriusSea Avatar
    SiriusSea

    I would have choked so hard! I’m going to say … how blessed he was to be surrounded by beauty and grace, nothing of which he extended towards his guests and let’s not forget his wife! I would have died (spontaneous combustion) knowing I married and carrying life with a person who views humans in such disregard! I’m sorry you were subjected to that! You are beyond gorgeous and that takes inner beauty (they forget that counts)! Women are tired of being objectified. period. Ugh! I do appreciate you sharing because for the next week, we’ll all be judged yet can’t say anything back for fear of hurting someone’s ill intended feelings. Another good reason I’m an introvert (lol)! Love to you, always, and flash them your gorgeous smile ~ 😀

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      She was warned multiple times but I think sometimes we make the wrong decisions without realising how badly it’ll effect our life 🙁 Thank you and yes we’re beyond tired of it. Don’t let those comments get to you, I’ve never met a happy, secure person who has to make others feel bad about their appearance 💗

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      1. SiriusSea Avatar
        SiriusSea

        You are so right!!! Just had to let you know … “we” can buy those pills to lose weight (no long-term test studies) for now $300 a month!!! Forget about buying healthy food and sometimes the weight loss is so quick and drastic that surgery (not cheap) to remove skin isn’t as safe or expected from some patients. It’s a double edge sword that I will avoid, but I know plenty of women who btw don’t need these medications taking them to lose holiday weight. Or the people who truly need the care can’t afford. Sorry for the rant but love when you air your grievances!!!

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          That’s so true, I have a friend who’s taking them too but hers is because her weight is causing other health issues. It’s for sure not a great idea to lose weight so quickly unless you absolutely have to and also if you don’t need to use those medications it’s best to stay away. They have some serious side effects. Lol you know you’re always welcome to whine here!

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  39. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    Haters will hate. There is no other way to put it.
    My sister is pregnant now and her father in law said, you are eating too much. it’s no good.

    This is the doctor saying, he is 76 literally dying from cancer. His only son finally made an heir and all he can worry about is how fat his pregnant daughter in law is. Some people’s kids

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Wow, that’s crazy considering he’s a doctor. That’s so disappointing. He should know that pregnant and breastfeeding women need much more food.

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      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        I guess he knows it very well, still can be mean

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        1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
          P. J. Gudka

          Some people are just mean and cruel.

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          1. Milena Alien Avatar
            Milena Alien

            Unfortunately it is true

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  40. LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙 Avatar
    LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙

    You’re perfectly fine, Pooja. Beautiful ❤️

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much ❤️

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  41. K. Ravindra Avatar
    K. Ravindra

    That’s awful—hoping it didn’t spoil your evening. What a total jerk; even if it was “humor,” it’s straight-up dumb. Happy Festivus regardless!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks, definitely won’t let someone like that mess up my energy although initially I was annoyed.

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  42. Mary K. Doyle Avatar
    Mary K. Doyle

    Sorry about the body shaming, Love. Maybe, he thought he was funny, but it certainly isn’t especially for women. You are perfect, Pooja.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, definitely not funny even if he was attempting to be humorous. Thanks, I’m pretty happy with my looks overall.

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  43. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    Some people are just asses. Loved that you were able to let the comment go though!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Agreed, some people like being mean and it’s best to not pay attention to them!

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  44. Pennize Pics Avatar
    Pennize Pics

    Yes people who are rude like that do not deserve any breath that is given in a response. You were the better person in that situation.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Agreed, no point in responding to people like that.

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