Now that I’ve been subscribed to the full-time package for adulting for almost a decade I feel like I can part some wisdom on you younger bloggers out there. I’m not sure why I said that but it sounded cool in my head so I will be leaving it in. Back in my day, I didn’t have bloggers give me advice about adulting I did so I thought I would do the younger generation a favour and tell them a few harsh things about adulting
There are certain things that we learn when we are younger that we need to unlearn as we get older. It’s hard to do that sometimes because we are so accustomed to these things and it’s hard to come to terms with the fact that adulting is not like you imagined when you were a kid or like the things we see on TV/movies.
Here are some myths that you need to unlearn as an adult:
1. You’ll know what career you want as an adult
This may come to some people as a surprise but adults have no idea what they’re doing either. We try to keep things together and yes we do know better about certain things but at the same time we are not always fully prepared for life.
To be honest, university prepares you for a lot of stuff but you may end up doing something other than what you got a degree in and thought you would be doing in the future and that’s totally okay because so many people go through multiple career changes as an adult.
So, don’t expect to always know what you want and be sure of your career because people change and with that change your passions/ambitions may change as well. That’s part of growing up and growing as a human being.
2. Everyone has some good in them
No, they don’t. People say this so much to kids to keep them optimistic about life but let’s be real this is not true. I know this one sounds super pessimistic but hear me out. Yes, a lot of people are good people and it’s normal for the best of people to occasionally do bad things but the truth is that not everyone is a good person. Not everyone has some good in them. In fact, as you grow up you’ll realise that some people are just bad people. There’s nothing you can do to change that and there is no fixing them. Try to cut these people out of your life and move on because they will only drag you down with them.
3. Be kind/nice to everyone
This is similar to the last one. I often heard as a child that I should be kind or nice to everyone but no one told me there are exceptions to that rule until I got much older. I would still strongly suggest being nice to everyone but have your limits. If someone takes advantage of your niceness or kindness they don’t deserve that anymore. You being kind to others is not their right it’s a privilege and if someone takes that for granted they should lose that privilege especially if they show you multiple times that they don’t deserve your kindness/niceness.
Another thing to look out for, especially if you identify as a woman, is being kind/nice may end up making it unsafe for you. There are people out there who don’t have the best intentions for you and they generally prey on people who are too polite to show clear boundaries. If someone makes you uncomfortable or doesn’t respect your boundaries you should no longer be nice. Make your stance very clear and if possible stay as far away from them as you can.
3. Do what you’re passionate about
Yes, always to do what your passionate about but also get your head down from the clouds every once in a while and have a way that you can take care of yourself financially. It’s always a good idea to have a plan B when it comes to adulting and finances so always be careful that you have a net to fall on if things don’t go as planned.
4. Education is the most important thing
Education is extremely important, there’s no denying that. I would definitely recommend that people get as much education as possible including higher education and post-graduate education. That being said, education- at in school and higher educational institutions- is not going to teach you everything you need to know in life. In fact, it’s going to teach you an insanely low amount of life skills needed to survive as an adult.
So, while you’re studying make sure you’re picking up some life skills as well and don’t fully rely on school to teach you everything because I guarantee it will not. Also, the information you learn at school is only the tip of the iceberg so if you want to really learn and grow your knowledge you may want to read books, peer reviewed articles, stuff available on the internet (preferably from reliable sources and not some annoying girls blog on WordPress…), talk to your teachers and basically try to study things that aren’t always mentioned in textbooks.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post and I’m sorry if I destroyed anyone’s youthful innocence but think of it as me saving you some time down the road. Being an adult is awesome in so many ways and I am loving it but at the same time it comes with its own set of challenges and it’s best to be prepared for them.
What are some things you had to unlearn as an adult? What advice would you give to anyone reading this that isn’t an adult? What would you tell them to unlearn? What are some great things you love about being an adult? Let me know in the comments below because I love chatting with you guys and if you don’t want to answer the questions simply stop by and say hi!
If you enjoyed this post don’t forget to like, follow, share and comment!
Enjoyed this post? Then follow me on social media:
Email me on(guest posts welcome!): firstname.lastname@example.org