Don’t fall in love with a writer
They can never love someone
As much as they love their own books
They can never spend as much time with you
As they do on their writing
They will choose their art over you
Any day
They will break your heart into a million pieces
And write a bestseller about it
So don’t fall in love with a writer
Don’t fall in love with me.
Another poem where I am very happy with the title. Surprisingly, perhaps for the first time in my life, I came up with the title before the poem. “Don’t Fall In Love With A Writer” is the first title I am actually very happy with. I guess getting off cough syrup does wonders for the brain too.
The only problem is that I don’t love the poem. I think it could be significantly better. But it is what it is. Nothing is ever perfect I guess.
What can I say about the poem? I have been the writer that has broken someones heart. And I have dated writers that have broken my heart. I have experienced both ends of the spectrum and this poem was something I wrote from my own experiences. I guess it’s not just writers. Most people that create tend to be obsessed with their creations. And that’s okay. It’s just difficult for those that love them.
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Well, that’s depressing. The author’s note makes it better.
I’ve never had romantic love or had someone spew their heart out like they truly loved me. I’ve done it before. I just can’t fathom how ugly I looked doing that.😂
But, man, I don’t understand this from a personal perspective, but I do love the words.
Haha don’t worry I’m sure you’ll be on the receiving end soon. But unfortunately it’s not all flowers and butterflies. Love is really hard. Or maybe I’m the problem 😂
😂 who knows. Romance is only fun I’m books, people seem too needy and frustrating.
Totally, romance in real life is not fun 😂
Me, I’m like, “You love me because I’m a poet, or you’d be with someone more ordinary ~ and now you don’t want me to write it? It’s like saying I have to look good for the party in two minutes! You want beauty, you have to give time for dress and makeup. Want the soul of a poet? Find something interesting to do yourself when I have to write, or go find someone who isn’t a poet.” Right?
It’s like marrying a relief worker ~ you already knew they give everything to their work. Like, quit complaining and find some work to do too. It’s not like there’s any lack of it among us!
Ooh, I get mad when genius is accused of selfishness. Sometimes that reputation never goes away, but in many cases it’s the direct opposite of that ~ total self-sacrifice to a cause.
Take a second look at both your sweet creative self and your expectations of others, this poet advises.
I get that, but if you love someone you put time into it. You can’t complain that you are upset or lonely and someone has to wait for your time to do something. I have tons of visual art friends who I adore, but their communication is only on their time and when they don’t want to talk or even have a conversation they don’t respond. That’s fine for a friendship, but someone who is a spouse or a companion, that’s like having a child, raise them to five then give up and expect them to ask for your attention and work on your time. That’s ridiculous.
If it was the opposite way, would you like a partner that works for countless hours, comes home and doesn’t talk to you and when you ask about them, they put you on Reddit(or similar) and complain for upvotes.
I know I can’t be in a relationship and I have very dodgy vibes so I don’t bother even trying even though being lonely sucks, but if I don’t care about doing anything but doing a solitary activity (I draw and write) I will not waste my time pursuing someone just to look normal.
Don’t know anything about Reddit or upvotes, but so long as a partner of mine is happy, it does not bother me if they don’t feel like speaking. I love my silence.
That said, I think the relationships of the future will not be between exclusively enslaved partners, but between autonomous people. I’ve given up on anything we’re calling a relationship right now too.
That is a platonic relationship or just a companion, but that’s not romantic. At all. Many writers throughout history had companions of people and would stay over their house and hang out. If you’re going to be mostly into your craft, why choose someone who wants romance and attention for someone you bond with but don’t bother you until you need them?
You’re right ~ the fault lies as much with the artist as with the partner for choosing inappropriate mates 👌
I think it’s the fault of the person to not create their own boundaries. If something is a dealbreaker that makes you furious and rant and you stay just because, then that’s your fault. Especially when it’s not an abusive relationship or a codependent one. We all have control over our partners for the most part. Maybe it’s the partner’s fault but since we are both the artist, we will stay with that framework.
Check, on all of those insights. Clear and consistent expectations are key in any interaction, and we almost never provide them for one another, do we?
For real, that’s a good one. I wouldn’t know, I’ve never been in a romantic relationship, I’ve had friends and they are quite similar enough but, I don’t know. Probably? I feel like too many people lie to get someone, but I guess it’s hard during these times to have people care about you at all. We all hope to get attention and care. I know I do, especially when I write something. I expect people to care about me when I talk to them, but not everyone will—in fact, most people don’t because I’m not related to them, someone that helps with self preservation, attractive, useful, or relatable/memorable. I have to cope with the fact that some people aren’t going to listen to me talk, hear me out, care, or find me bearable and that doesn’t make them a bad person, just a person who doesn’t care. Relationships hardly are different, that’s why it’s best to constantly think of your values and see if the person aligns with them and see which ones you’re okay with breaking.
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And I don’t think they’re enslaved but more have a bond that requires patience, attention, care, respect, trust, and romance. Not everyone can give that so it isn’t a requirement.
I love your poem. Shows spunk and self-assuredness.
Thanks so much.
I fell in love with a beautiful woman who was a writer she was a poet just like me
We had the keys to each others hearts and minds we set each others love free
Are words flowed together like two rivers joining together creating a current
This was the romantic interlude of love the both dreamed of words of reassurance
They say a writer is hard to fall in love with writing is how they spend their time
When these two brilliant minds came together Keeping It Magical was like rhythm and rhyme
In one years time they got married and created a web site a YouTube channel and Facebook page
Writers know how to feel and what true love really is Keeping It Magical is the new rage
This writer wrote another writer into the world they penned their hopes and desires
A romance so beautifully written could inspire the world and set hearts and souls on fire
Kevin Killoren
#keepingitmagical
That’s cute! And you’re lucky you found someone that works with you!
You can find us at Keeping it Magical on Facebook YouTube and keepingitmagical.com and our book Keeping It Magical Wanderlove
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I’m not a writer, but If hearts are broken. The lottery odds of two writers loving each other forever is possible.
Thanks and yeah that is true.
Yeah, breaking hearts sounds like it would be easy enough for any artist to do.
My thoughts exactly.
Yeah I think so too.
I really enjoyed this!
Thank you!
Good thing is I’m not a writer but only a blogger. A true writer is someone who can vary their work and writes something different everytime. You have your own style, yet you have the capability to write as if it’s not written by you. You can show beautiful variation with your work, style and genre. That’s something I’m trying to learn, and you are best person from whom I can learn this. As I’ve learn a lot about blogging from you.
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About the poem, it’s beautiful and the reason why you are not satisfied because you are an extremely talented writer/poet. People will agree with me in this: if the writer/poet or an artist is ever satisfied with their work, that means they have stopped thinking about the possibilities. I’m sure Pooja, you can write 20 more variation of this poem and still you will not be satisfied because you will keep thinking how to make it better. That’s the power of yours or any other talented writers capability.
I don’t know, I consider most bloggers writers too. I think you’re a writer but I hope you have better luck with love than I have had.
Thanks and I agree, a writer is never fully satisfied.
Well, I’m trying to find someone.
Marriage age is getting near 😜
I wish you luck in all the aspects buddy.
Keep smiling.
Thanks so much and good luck to you as well 😉😅
If love was a matter of choice, I’d have far fewer scars but I’d also know nothing about love.
That’s the problem with love, we don’t have much choice in it.
Don’t fall in love with a writer because they can break your heart with their words. Written word is so powerful, and words can break a person 💔
Thank you so much and totally agree 💖
He’ll hath no fury like a scorned writer. Lol
He’ll hath no fury like ONE WHO FEELS scorned BY A WRITER…!
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LOL!
Touché…!
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🤔 Pooja, are you telling women around the world not to fall in love with me?
I am a natural-born writer who happens to blog.
On a serious note, that was a lovely piece of writing that you produced.
Haha I will let them know that you’re the exception 🙂
Thank you so much.
🙂 You are most welcome, Pooja.
Great title and poem!
Thank you so much!
I do like the title, Pooja. You’re right, nothing is ever perfect, especially writing, but your ending is as close as it gets! Writers may be hard to love for the reasons you mentioned, but writers/artists sure can love and live passionately! 💞
Thanks so much. Yes, that’s so true and one of the best parts of being a writer/artist! 😊
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Well I love it.
Thank you so much.
Lovely words Pooja 🤍
Thank you so much 😊
Any kind of profession or venture that takes all time and attention can be a marriage destroyer.
Yes, I absolutely agree.
I loved it, Pooja.
For me, i never knew i could write, until the day i randomly created my website.
You can make any work more or more better, you’ll never get satisfied with it, because you have got that talent!
Best decision of making the website, because you write exceptionally well. You have shown multiple times how good you are. If you can come up with 6 different poems a week with different genres, you can do everything. Never stop.
Thank you, D😊
Shine V
Thank you so much. I’m very glad you decided to create the website. It helped you find one more talent of yours.
Yes! 😊
Warning for those who are prone to develop softer feelings for the writers. Ah..
Yes, exactly. It’s sad but true.
Cough syrups are good he he 😛
Haha absolutely.
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Well, I really love the poem and the title is really attractive 😃
Thank you so much 😊
Your welcome😊
I totally disagree with not falling for writer. Why? Because only a writer will surely write about how deeply he or she loves and appreciates lovers. Heartbreak inspires sure. But it is the love which keeps us writers moving. Love, chasing it or sometimes just admiring it from far. I find us writers the deepest lovers who often find solemn and peace in writing. In fact I remember writing something after seeing just a glimpse of glow in someone’s eyes. Besides these days it’s better to rise in love instead of falling. That’s my say. But I still love the poem. It’s one of a kind.
Thank you and I most definitely understand your point of view too.
Nice 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thanks 😊
Well knitted
Thank you so much
I loved this poem, and I see the truth in it. And your point about people who create… I think the poem just applies to artists in general – people who create
Thank you and yes I think it speaks for most people that create.
When you say, “The only problem is that I don’t love the poem. I think it could be significantly better,” I assume it’s not false humility. OK, so don’t blame me if I suggest something.
For feelings of regret, look at something like “You Were Always On My Mind” by Willie Nelson. The chorus is interesting for the intensity of the feeling.
It needs some details and could be more direct. So let me throw out some speculative rambling for you:
Never love someone who writes the day away
’cause they’ll break your heart in two,
oh do the noble thing, guy, and
just walk two steps away, ’cause
you know they’ll hurt you
’cause when over you in time
they’ll choose art or rhyme
in no time for you.
Oh, can you be the fantasy guy
in the writing —
you’ve got the hair
the handsome look
the jaw, and the laugh
But they’ll choose art over you:
choose a hero, a rogue
choose super powers
and they’ll tower over you
Never love someone who writes the day away
’cause they’ll break your heart in two
Write off your love stirrings
and don’t stew, just
ride away from fantasy words
before they break you in two
So don’t fall in love with a writer
Don’t fall in love with me.
I appreciate your suggestions. I really did mean it when I said I didn’t love how it turned out. And I really like your version.
And then we are left without the soul. I have little trust in those who correct the art. Art is art. Learning a craft is essential, but at the heart of it, know your piece and Its voice. No one could “correct” Ansel Adams’s stark photography. It is a passion.
I take the original artist’s original lament seriously that improvement is possible. And I assume the veracity of the response: “I appreciate your suggestions. I really did mean it when I said I didn’t love how it turned out. And I really like your version. ”
Ansel Adams would not ask me for help (only perhaps one of his students might have asked for his help in the past).
This doesn’t call for a deep philosophical discussion. Comments can be rejected or erased when necessary.
Art is not art necessarily. The asterisk in the quotation marks that follows: * is my masterpiece. I require you to praise my art. That asterisk is my soul. I’ll have little trust in you if you correct my art.
I am insulted that you would criticize my asterisk.
Don’t feel insulted Doug… Janet only ‘momentarily lost touch’ of the soul in Pooja’s poem, and couldn’t ‘find’ the soul in your version of the poem… but all is not lost, for your soul, Pooja’s soul, and Janet’s soul shall find communion… for my soul ‘hopes’ to intercede… unless… alas… Pooja is right: ‘Don’t fall in love (or like) with a writer…’
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Great thing about poetry is it doesn’t have to reflect our own ‘stance’. It can be total fiction. So I don’t need to find your outlook in it. I tend to try to not take myself too seriously. I certainly don’t live to write. Anyone who writes anything, in my view is a writer. Others usually like to decide if it’s good or bad. But it is usually within a person, part of their makeup to want to write. Go with it is my view. The poem is an attention getter – well done.
Thank you. Yes, I love that about poetry too. True, I believe everyone who writes is a writer too.
Now you have me wondering if love is possible between two writers…
It may not end well lol…
Nothing new there then…
Yes it is possible… as long as they realize that the wall between them as a small door, and they don’t allow a spider’s web to seal it shut…!
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Hands down one of my favorite poems I’ve read this year. I love it
Thank you so much, really appreciate that.
Nice Poem. I like it.
Thank you so much.
The title is really attractive..It can be taken as a suggestion / advice too😃 I don’t wish to fall in love Pooja I think it’s complicates us..🤣
Thank you so much 😊 Haha I feel the same way 😂
My pleasure 😊
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You really nailed a lot about that. It reminds me of a line in a Catherine Hepburn movie that says, “Lawyers shouldn’t marry other lawyers”. Your poem could easily be applied to lawyers too since they make a living with their words. Did you see the tributes to Ruth Bader Ginsberg from her colleagues on the Supreme Court? Every one of them, except Brett Kavanagh’s, was brilliant! I sometimes feel like I was destined to be a writer because whenever I stood up for myself, my Dad always said to me, “use your words”. Now, I feel like when I do stand up for myself, whoever is insulting me backs off. There are other examples in my life too, not just standing up for myself. Overall, I found being a writer and having a way with words because of it has been the most beneficial thing in my life
Thank you so much. My parents told me the same thing and encouraged me to read and write. I guess that’s how many writers start out.
I think you’re right!
By the way, I was trying to view your site on my Reader and it was being very weird. Like the text was moving around on the page. Search your site on the Reader and click it and you’ll see what I mean. I’m not sure why that’s happening or if it’s just me but I just wanted to let you know.
Oh, thank you. I’ll check it
I love it! Have you seen “Wednesday” on Netflix? It’s all about Wednesday Addams (my forever shero). This poem reminds me of her.
I’ve just seen the trailer and so excited to watch it! I absolutely love her too. Omg thank you, what a compliment!
Let me know what you think after you watch! I loved it 🙂
Will do, I’m sure I will love it too!
Ha! there’s piece in THE WASHINGTON EXAMINER (Nov. 22-29, 2022) by Rob Long titled “Writers Marry up”. Which is funny and something that is wished for but … rarely works out. It’s a true story.
How interesting. Wish I could marry up haha. Just kidding.
I am sure most people reading this will relate to the words of the poem. I like the poem because it captures the challenge of supporting someone to achieve something. Giving without needing or expecting something back. I therefore think both the title and poem are good, however I think since I am such an introvert who has such engaging interests, I think I would be more tolerant of others who are similar, but also require more patience from someone else 🙂
Thank you so much. I am an introvert too and I sympathise with other introverts as well. But I am not someone who has a lot of patience which may perhaps be the problem lol.
Haha yes I see your point. It requires a lot when someone is so into something to support them, and still enjoy a satisfying relationship 🙂 have a lovely weekend
Thanks and you too 🙂
love your Title and happy that you do which is the most important thing.
Great poem too.
Oh for the writers in love…. it does work out at times but most of the time they are in love with love and heartbreaks do occur.
How is it opposites attract and then drive each other crazy too.
Maybe neither work.. hahaha🤣
Thanks so much! Lol I think it works if you find someone with lots of patience 😂
I thoroughly enjoyed the poem (and found it relatable).
Happy to hear that.
Great poem! Got me thinking. I write non-fiction. Maybe that helps. I like to live in and outside of my writing.
Thank you so much. Yes, that could be it.
Haha 😂
Fair warning I must say.
Right? lol 😂
It’s funny how you mention different times that you have trouble coming up with a good title. I for some reason think of my title fairly quickly and can usually work the story after it. Who else thinks of their title first? Good poem though Pooja.
Wow that’s impressive. Often it takes me longer to come up with a title than the poem itself.
Thank you Pooja. It’s still all a learning experience for me though.
Yes, of course but that’s how we get better over time.
Yes of course but that’s how we get better over time.
So true. For example, a writer like Philip Roth will be a disastrous partner. So narcissistic and so insensitive towards women… However a writer like E. B. White is probably a tolerable partner. I am not trying to be pessimistic about it, but it is true that love can be risky for women even with a man one really loves. I mean it is still a lot of work and responsibility etc.
Yes, love is difficult as it is and it is particularly so for women. And writers tend to be so self-absorbed/obsessed with their work so it makes it even more difficult.
And yes, I would not want to be with a writer like Philip Roth lol. That would be a disaster. And he would probably write a bestseller about it.
Love this poem. I always wanted to know what dating a writer would be like. I’ve always fallen for guys who are opposite my personality haha.
Thanks so much. Let me tell you, you are not missing anything lol 😂
Haha! Good to know! 🙂
My thoughts…..poetry is its own beast. Enjoy it as it is. Let it be.
As for relationships, for some, it isn’t easy. I have some depth perspectives to help. My husband adores me, and I love him. We have full-time jobs as well as our arts. Balance, love, and strengthening another–it’s living generously because life is long.
That’s sounds like a great relationship. I’m glad you two have found a balance. And yes poetry is like that and I doubt I will ever be fully satisfied anyway.
Great poem and true. Love and marriage requires choosing self-sacrifice at times, to benefit your partner or the marriage itself. Being an artist sometimes requires selfishness. It’s a tricky balance.
Thank you so much. Yes, that’s absolutely it. Being an artist requires you to spend a lot of time on your own with your art and that can make your partner feel unloved.
Yeah, exactly. Art doesn’t have to be selfish but it often is. It’s difficult to have a career of mining one’s own mind for kernels of truth / beauty / etc. without forgetting to invest / not having time to invest sufficiently in someone else.
Yes, absolutely. It’s easy to forget those you love when you’re so invested in your art. I don’t think we do that on purpose but it does happen.
I agree completely. As a writer, I know that my writing obsesses me and only me. The world I step into is, for a time, the only world that exists. In it I don’t need anyone else. Fortunately I married an artist!
Wow, that’s lucky haha!
Great poem & title suits it well.
Thank you so much.
I don’t know much about falling in love with a writer or artist. It’s never happened to me. I hope my girlfriend doesn’t feel that way, but she might not consider me to be a writer yet. Life is always interesting and every day is something new.
Life is certainly very interesting. I hope your girlfriend doesn’t mind the time you spend writing. Some people genuinely don’t have a problem with relationships with writers.
This was great Pooja and somewhat true!
Thanks so much!
Or you both are writers and have a shared cruel Mistress: Writing. 😉😆🤦
Somehow that makes it even worse 🥲
I’m not experienced with BDSM, so maybe someone with more experience can say… It feels like a Dom-Sub relationship LOL. So it can work with good communication and boundaries. 😉🤐🪢 😅
It’s totally a Dom-sub relationship, trust me… kidding 😂 Or am I? 🙂
Guess we will have to find out 😜😏 🤫👀😈
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Glad you’re off the cough syrup!
Thanks so much!
I think the act of ‘falling in love’ IS the problem… since falling can result in hitting one’s head… walk into love… eyes wide open… and don’t think of honey, or anything sweet…!
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Haha agreed, maybe we should stop falling and instead take small cautious steps 😊
I’m married to a musician. We get it. 🙂
Well as long as you balance each other out 😉
I don’t think we do actually since we’re technically the same! lol
Lol that’s the problem I have in relationships with other creators!
I feel your pain! 😉
Loved the poem. I guess being romantically involved with a writer is a bit tricky. We have a flare for drama, we overthink and overanalyze everything, and we go into a trance when we are inspired to write.
Thanks. Yes, it can be pretty tricky since we give so much time to our writing,
I love it! Esp the last line.
Thanks so much 😊
I especially liked this one. great stuff
Thank you so much.
My husband and I are both writers…and I wouldn’t have it any other way…. 🥰
Aw, that’s so sweet 😊
I fell in love with a beautiful woman who was a writer she was a poet just like me We had the keys to each others hearts and minds we set each others love free
Our words flowed together like two rivers joining together creating a current This was the romantic interlude of love they both dreamed of words of reassurance
They say a writer is hard to fall in love with writing is how they spend their time When these two brilliant minds came together Keeping It Magical was like rhythm and rhyme
In one years time they got married and created a web site a YouTube channel wrote s book and Facebook page Writers know how to feel and what true love really is Keeping It Magical is the new rage
This writer wrote another writer into his world they penned their hopes and desires A romance so beautifully written could inspire the world and set hearts and souls on fire
Kevin Killoren
#keepingitmagical
Wow, it’s really a blessing to find someone you can connect with in that way that you have so much in common with. I don’t know if I’ll ever get that lucky, but I hope so someday.
Fantastic
Thank you so much.
Wow! This is talking to me in a way, though I’ve not broken and been broken I just love my art more than anything else. This is awesome.
Thanks so much, glad it resonated with you.