I’m Debi Adams. Thank you for allowing me to share my story with your blog. I must say, I really enjoy your posts. You are so engaging, and so much fun. I want to let your readers know about my book, which is being released on Saturday, March 18th on Amazon. The title is “Winning Over Shame- Overcoming sexual, emotional, and psychological abuse.”.
It is a heavy topic, with a hopeful and useful ending.
Abuse and Consequences
The book traces the origins and ramifications of my abuse. It begins very early, when I found my father in the bathtub during a botched suicide attempt. This was in close proximity to finding our family puppies dead from eating glass because someone left the door unlatched. Between them, I came to believe I was “wrong” and shouldn’t be.
If we fast forward to when I was 9, my father abducted my younger sister and me from our mother’s custody. It was a dark and frightening time. Much of my shame originated during that 6-month period.
When I was in my early 20’s I met my now ex-husband in a psychiatric ward. We were together for 12 years. Over that time, the marriage grew to mirror my early life. This included having an open marriage.
When I was finally out of the marriage, I began to search for meaning and purpose in my life. I tried several jobs, all of which ended badly.
Once again, I faced that black feeling of being “wrong” and I that I should not be. Once again, I ended up in psychiatric care. What started as an attempt to prove there was no hope for me turned into the beginning of my healing.
Healing, Skills, and Tools
Some of the key tools I had were a stable therapist and a truly outstanding support group. Between them, I learned the beginnings of trust. I found many people carried this shame inside of themselves; a shame that properly belonged to their abusers.
I was given, and developed, many skills that allowed me to heal. My past no longer crippled me. I did not simply learn to live with my broken parts. Instead, I healed and became whole.
The climax of the book shows me finally capable of being happy. Though initially the feeling was frightening, I found a way to embrace and enjoy the feeling. Knowing that feelings, good and bad, pass.
One skill I developed was a coping box. A physical tool, prepared before overwhelming emotions. The box includes items that engage all the senses. Items that work when you need to ground yourself and items that work when you need to lift yourself up from your emotions.
Get a Copy of the Book
I hope that this resonates with some of your audience. If they would like to read the book, they can download it from Amazon for $.99 starting on the 18th . I don’t know how when that price will go up. If they prefer paperback to an eBook, They can use this link to purchase it: https://mailchi.mp/9bc14ef1a090/winning-over-shame-book
If they are interested, but not sure whether the book is for them, I invite them to find the downloadable coping box kit. It includes two mini posters, perfect to remind them of the options available.
After all, I know when I am in emotional overwhelm, I can’t remember all the choices available to me. Also, there are instructions and suggestions for what to include in their box. They can download the coping box at:
Thank you again for allowing me to share with your audience. I believe this book can help professionals and lay people to better understand shame and the ramifications that reverberate throughout a person’s life.
If they have experienced abuse in their childhood or in a romantic relationship, I truly believe this book can help them.
As you have guessed by now, this is a guest post written by a fellow blogger Debi Adams. She is one of the wonderful people I have met thanks to blogging and her story of survival and winning over shame is truly amazing. I really hope that all my readers will support her and her upcoming book. It would mean a lot to me if you did.
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