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The Bane Of My Existence

Six Word Story

You quickly went from being

The love of my life

To being

The bane of my existence

How sweet love is

Where it is new

And yet over time

It does not always get better

Like wine

Sometimes it starts to rot

Especially when held too tight

When it should be discarded

It’s not poetry Tuesdays if I’m not talking about how relationships are stupid. Just kidding, I’m sure many are great. As you know, I just happen to be a chronic pessimist. It is a gift and a curse. By which I mean it is absolutely not a gift and mostly a curse.

Onto this poem. I recently watched the entire season 1 of The Watchful Eye. If you haven’t seen it yet, good for you. It’s awful. Seriously, don’t waste your time. It’s like the dollar store version of Only Murders In The Building. Anyway, a part of the last episode of season 1 inspired this poem. Watching the disaster of a last episode was the cherry on top of a crappy day. But on a more positive note, I hear the next season of OMITB is coming out soon and has so many amazing guest stars. Including the very talented and gorgeous Paul Rudd, so I am extremely excited for that as you can imagine!

What did you think of “The Bane Of My Existence?” Have you watched The Watchful Eye? What are you watching right now? Let m know in the comments below because I would love to hear from you! Or you can simply stop by and say hi!

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104 responses to “The Bane Of My Existence”

  1. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    I love love love Only Murders in the Building!!! My favorite binge. Can’t wait for the new season! Some relationships are great, others, challenging, while others horrifying. It is what it is.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Same, I love that show and am excited for the next season!

      Reply
  2. Barney Rubble Avatar
    Barney Rubble

    I’ve how to play 2 out of 3 ain’t bad, over the last few weeks.
    I remember breaking up with someone, or them breaking up with me, and deciding almost immediately to cut off from them entirely and any mutual friends who were less than helpful. I don’t think that was how she and friends planned it, but I was so shaken to my soul I was determined never to hate or devalue what we had had.
    Now, to tell you the truth… I am ambivalent. I couldn’t care much either way. After that, I had a few women try to get involved and it was too early and I really didn’t feel like it. One of the last things I said when I got dumped by someone I loved and trusted (who tried using my brother’s death as some sort of non-consensual “humiliation or degradation play” it came out of nowhere for me)… I told her I am so much happier alone, and have always been happy competently looking after myself.
    I think a lot of people are very dependent on having a “good job” and appearing a particular way.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s true, a lot of people want to look a certain way to others. I think being happy on our own first is the best. That way we’re happy with or without someone.

      Reply
      1. Barney Rubble Avatar
        Barney Rubble

        Some people need to appear certain ways because the consequences of their actual actions can be offset by making others see them favourably

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  3. Athousandbitsofpaper Avatar
    Athousandbitsofpaper

    Nothing as rotten as love gone sour – nice poem Pooja

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Very true, thank you.

      Reply
  4. John Avatar
    John

    That is basically the way my marriages went, Pooja. No more.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I genuinely think some people are just happier alone. Myself included.

      Reply
      1. John Avatar
        John

        We are alike in that! I guess we would never marry haha! 😂👍🏻

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Hah I guess not 😅😅

          Reply
  5. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    Pooj, it’s time for a romantic hero to show up. I truly believe so. Any ideas?

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I believe so. I’ll think about it and see if I can find one in my imagination.

      Reply
      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        It’s not always an easy one

        Reply
  6. Poet of the Light Avatar
    Poet of the Light

    Its been said because I said it, When the honeymoon is over the reality of love has arrived.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Exactly, it’s all rainbows and butterflies at first but things get harder over time.

      Reply
  7. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    I haven’t watched any of these shows. There are so many wonderful TV shows nowadays, but I just haven’t watched yet.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, there are some great shows out there.

      Reply
  8. vwani Avatar
    vwani

    I have not been watching anything lately, when I get time I’ll try the watchful eye.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I wouldn’t recommend it, I would recommend watching Only Murders In The Building instead. It’s a much better show.

      Reply
      1. vwani Avatar
        vwani

        Thanks

        Reply
        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          You’re welcome.

          Reply
  9. Milo Summers Avatar
    Milo Summers

    I’ve recently started shadow and bone, and am halfway through Avatar the last air bender, which I absolutely love!

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’ve heard of both but never seen either. They sound great!

      Reply
  10. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    love can be such, yet also so much more. 😉

    lovely as always , Pooja🤍

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you and you’re so right, love is very complex 💕

      Reply
      1. Destiny Avatar
        Destiny

        Always a pleasure 🤍

        Reply
  11. Vidah Avatar
    Vidah

    Love is not always sweet!
    The last show I watched was “suno chanda”,as I love this romcom genre😅

    Reply
    1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
      DEVANG UPADHYAYA

      Yeh kya he?

      Isme chanda bheri thi?

      Reply
      1. Vidah Avatar
        Vidah

        Nhi…it was like calling someone with adoration.

        Reply
        1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
          DEVANG UPADHYAYA

          Phr chanda ko pyaar se bulaya to suna kya usne??

          Reply
          1. Vidah Avatar
            Vidah

            You must watch the show as you seem to be very much interested in the conversation 😋

            Reply
            1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
              DEVANG UPADHYAYA

              Now you please translate all this for our dear friend PG here. It’s her blog after all. 😝

              Reply
              1. Vidah Avatar
                Vidah

                🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

                Reply
              2. Pooja G Avatar
                Pooja G

                😅😅

                Reply
    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sounds like a great show!

      Reply
      1. Vidah Avatar
        Vidah

        It indeed is!

        Reply
  12. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    I think most people mistake attachment for true love. When we first are attracted to someone, and they respond in kind, a host of chemicals generated in our bodies creates an addictive response much like what a drug addict would experience. The purpose is to create an intense temporary bond that lasts long enough for procreation. In our modern world, that gets interrupted due to birth control, so the next stages of bonding do not happen. After a while, those chemical responses become less effective, and like the addict, we enter depression and crave another experience to start the cycle again. True love is a selfless act of caring and respect that mutually benefits the relationship. I believe true love can be taught with lessons in trust, respect, and integrity and developed through shared goals and experiences.
    Or true love could come from a kiss from a prince charming
    And they lived happily ever after…. 😊

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    1. Doug Avatar
      Doug

          There does seem to be a bias in the media for extremes of nonspiritual rational-analytical, or of mindless ‘magic’. Even a search for the hormone “oxytocin” yields two very different attitudes: one practical-rational and the other vague or unknown. One result emphasizes its effect in uterine contractions and child birth, the other casually mentions its effect in the brain which is involved in “romantic attachment, parent-infant bonding, trust, recognition, and sexual arousal.”
          In the world of science and medicine, the totally physical approach is a problem. You can see that in a lab rat. They once did an experiment where they put an electrode in the “pleasure center” of the rat’s brain and attached it to a stimulator with a push button that the rat could operate to stimulate itself. It lost interest in all social activity with other rats including sex. It lost interest in eating. It only spent time pushing the button.
          So science looks at us as lab rats who only respond to hormones and triggering cues. No free-will, but just a biochemical machine like AI except using the algorithms of chemical reactions and nerve-net firings controlled by the math and physics of it all.
          On the other hand, when it come to how hormones affect the brain and “the self” they throw up their hands and basically have no answer but to say in effect that it’s magic.

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      1. Doug Avatar
        Doug

        P.S. Your idea of “shared goals and experiences” seems to make sense as a beginning point. Our animal instinct heritage, unfortunately seems to lead us astray and away from our Higher Values which one would hope would be a better mixture of rational, emotional, and spiritual dimensions. The animal instincts seem to be that the stereotypical male looks for a healthy women who can nurture his child and carry on his genes, and the stereotypical female looks for someone who can protect her while she raises the child. I would hope that humans are more than just animals.

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I learnt about that in psychology. That’s why a lot of relationships don’t work out. People expect it to be that way forever but that’s not how it is. For relationships to last you need to genuinely like the person not just be attracted to them physically. And of course, there’s always Prince Charming to save you if everything else goes wrong 😅

      Reply
  13. Shaunelius Sterns Avatar
    Shaunelius Sterns

    Great poem. Love can sometimes be that way.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks and yes if you are with the wrong person it can definitely be that way.

      Reply
  14. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
    Vanya Wryter Consulting

    True love is difficult to find.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, it’s incredibly difficult.

      Reply
  15. Shahbaz Ashraf Avatar
    Shahbaz Ashraf

    This poem again confirms that a writer can get inspiration from anything in the surrounding.
    Yes, love sometimes can become a bane of existence. It’s better to let go then, instead of holding on any longer.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, when you are with the wrong person it feels like that. And true, writers can find inspiration all around them.

      Reply
  16. Feets Avatar
    Feets

    There are a lot of wines that rot and turn into vinegar with age.

    I like the poem, but I can’t relate because I’m not and never been in a relationship.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you. I don’t do relationships much but I like to write about what I see.

      Reply
  17. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    So far so good. But I guess it’s early days. Just fifty-five years. I’ll check to see if the rot is setting in.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m sure you’ll get through another decade like a breeze. When you’re with the right person time flies by.

      Reply
  18. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    Beautiful poem

    I love how smoothly you can write a blog, and then write a poem, then something entirely different.

    Don’t lose hope, there’s always hope, haha!!
    PS- Check mailbox

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much, lol just replied to the email a few minutes ago!

      Reply
      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        Thanks 😁

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          😊

          Reply
  19. Doug Avatar
    Doug

    How sweet your wine, and I
    drank of you until you whined
    and dined with another who was
    more into your music, your food,

    oh jealousy, it is a vinegar that
    only goes well with food, and

    when I can not dine with you, I
    am lost, and I think
    I need a diet

    there was a riot in a ‘Diet’ once,
    a legislature of love gone to the birds

    And when I hear the chirping,
    I don’t think of you in the same way anymore

    It is a sadness to see less.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I love your poem too. Really enjoyed that.

      Reply
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  22. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    to them that feel such things
    love is hate
    kismet karma s fate
    to them that do not
    coldness

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      👏🏽

      Reply
  23. Geoff Stamper Avatar
    Geoff Stamper

    You minimize being in stupid relationships if you exit them as soon as you know they are stupid. Too much time is wasted maintaining the bad out of habit, guilt, laziness, or a fanciful notion that the unfixable can be fixed.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      True, we always think we can fix things that are unfixable.

      Reply
  24. vesnab7 Avatar
    vesnab7

    Oh, loved the poem! 🌺

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! 😊

      Reply
  25. Brian, Snarebox Avatar
    Brian, Snarebox

    I get a small amount of pleasure from watching bad shows and movies while making fun of them in my head, maybe I should check that one out lol. I don’t know if it’s just because I’ve seen so many movies but it’s incredibly difficult for me to find something that’s good.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol bad movies are fun to watch sometimes. I used to watch a lot of horrible horror movies but stopped after I accidentally shaved off my eyebrow while laughing during watching one.

      Reply
      1. Brian, Snarebox Avatar
        Brian, Snarebox

        That sounds like something you’re going to have to elaborate on in a post some time 😂

        Reply
        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I wrote about it a while back 😅 Basically, I was shaping my eyebrows with one of those tiny eyebrow razors and the horror movie was so ridiculous I burst out laughing and in the process managed to shave half of my eyebrow off. It still hasn’t fully grown back 🥲

          Reply
  26. Steve Avatar
    Steve

    Haven’t watched either of those shows. I see ‘Watchful Eye’ has pretty low ratings from critics too.

    Right now we’re watching ‘Peaky Blinders’ which we’re enjoying a lot.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’ve heard of Peaky Blinders, one of my friends is a big fan. Glad you’re enjoying it too.

      Reply
      1. Steve Avatar
        Steve

        Yeah we tend to watch one series until we complete it. One year over Christmas holidays we binge-watched ‘Six Feet Under’ from 10 am to midnight! LOL

        Reply
        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Omg that’s awesome! I love a good binge section lol.

          Reply
          1. Steve Avatar
            Steve

            Yeah a marathon 😂

            Reply
  27. judeitakali Avatar
    judeitakali

    Relationships?😶‍🌫️🤐

    Not watched much this year outside anime on weekends off. I watched Wednesday (that was this year, right?), plus a few Disney animated movies. I really miss a good horror, oh, I did watch Guillermo del Toro’s cabinet of mysteries(was that this year too?) And a series called Chucky recently (2seasons)

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely loved Wednesday and I started watching Guillermo del Toro’s cabinet of mysteries but didn’t love it. I felt like it was so focused on violence that they forgot to add substance to the stories.

      Reply
      1. judeitakali Avatar
        judeitakali

        Yeah, it was more of gore. I watched it all hoping for a good one. The dialogue was exceptional though.

        Reply
        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yes, the dialogue was really good and I enjoyed that. If the story had a little more essence it would have been fantastic paired with the dialogue.

          Reply
          1. judeitakali Avatar
            judeitakali

            Yap, I guess that wasn’t the intention because Guillermo and all the directors of those episodes can certainly tell good stories when they want to. But you’re so right, it would have been epic, though it is hard to squeeze too much essence in one short episode.🙏🏾

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Yeah, I started watching it because I’m already a fan of Guillermo’s work but this was a little disappointing to me.

              Reply
              1. judeitakali Avatar
                judeitakali

                Yeah, not what I expected too.

                Reply
  28. LenoreDallas Avatar
    LenoreDallas

    I tried to watch OMITB when it first started. I couldn’t get into it. I may have to go back and try again…If you like it, then I’ll give it a second shot! lol

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Give it a try, it starts a little slow but gets very good. At least that’s how I felt lol!

      Reply
  29. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    love your poem and the holding on too tight. Awesome lessons and truth! 💞

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! 😊

      Reply
      1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
        Cindy Georgakas

        indeed !!!! 😎

        Reply
  30. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    Loved it…thumbs up!

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you!

      Reply
  31. Gertrude_n Avatar
    Gertrude_n

    When love is new that’s all that matters but with time we start looking for the “more” in our partners and sometimes that doesn’t end well.

    I haven’t watched The Watchful Eye.

    Am currently watching NCIS Hawai’i, The Equalizer and just started following Love is Blind season 4.😄

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I love NCIS, I used to watch it a lot before 😊

      Reply
      1. Gertrude_n Avatar
        Gertrude_n

        That’s good to know.😊

        Reply
  32. atarigen72 Avatar
    atarigen72

    I am watching well just finished watching The Last of Us on HBO max. I’m one of the ones who played the game, so I knew basically what was going to happen. The show did a great job of adapting to the game. The best game to show I have ever seen.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s great, I haven’t played the game but a cousin told me the same thing. I’m glad they did a good job with it.

      Reply
      1. atarigen72 Avatar
        atarigen72

        Are you watching it? Also I was wandering how to pronounce your name is a soft j or a hard j

        Reply
        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, I finished the first season a little while ago and loved it. It’s pronounced like “jah” not “yah”

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          1. atarigen72 Avatar
            atarigen72

            You know the world is getting warmer:)

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Sure is 🙂

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          2. atarigen72 Avatar
            atarigen72

            I didn’t pronounce it with a yah sound I just wasn’t sure if it was jah or I actually don’t know how to spell what I was saying

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Lol it’s okay, I sort of get what you mean.

              Reply
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  34. CEYHAN Avatar
    CEYHAN

    I appreciate you sharing this blog post. Thanks Again. Cool.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much.

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  35. bbshqip Avatar
    bbshqip

    Thanks for this content i love you

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks, so glad you enjoyed it.

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