Searching For Peace

Searching For Peace

Searching for peace

Surrounded by chaos instead

A moment of silence

For the hope I once had

It’s always my fault

But it’s always about you

If I express myself than I’m overreacting

But when you do it’s because you’re allowed to have emotions

You can do no wrong

I can do no right

As much as I want to stay

It’s time for me to move on


About “Searching For Peace”:

I’m at a place in life where I am ready to set firm boundaries and protect my peace even when it makes others uncomfortable. For those of you that have ever had any experiences with a narcissist or someone that has narcissistic traits, you know the one thing they hate is boundaries. Sometimes, you love this person and want to maintain a relationship with them but I’m realising there’s truly no point of trying to have rational conversations with irrational and delusional people.

I’ve noticed that when it comes to narcissists, there’s always double standards. If I’m frustrated about something then I’m overreacting but if I call them out about their behaviour I’m told “so I’m not allowed to have emotions?” even when those emotions are expressed in a really unhealthy way.

So I’ve given up trying. If someone wants to communicate and resolve issues they would. I am no longer going to maintain relationships on someone else’s terms. I’m not longer going to burn myself out trying to make others more comfortable especially when they lack any sort of gratitude for it.

Thank you for reading my trauma dump lol. It’s just been tough dealing with so much all at once. Your thoughts are always welcome in the comments.

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100 responses to “Searching For Peace”

  1. Nicely expressed

  2. Well-spoken! I wish you all the peace you deserve.

    1. Thank you so much! With boundaries in place, I’m much more at peace.

  3. The name of the game : I’m right, and you wrong
    So I wouldn’t choose to play it just because I hate losing. I also want some peace of mind once in a while, so people who love frame can go have it some place else.
    Pooja, I support you wholeheartedly. Stay strong!

    1. Honestly, with people like that the only way to win is to not play the game anymore. Thank you so much!

      1. I hope it works out soon

        1. Thanks so much.

  4. Sometimes you just have to remove yourself from harmful relationships. I hope you find your way.

    This right here spoke to me:

    “But when you do it’s because you’re allowed to have emotions

    You can do no wrong

    I can do no right

    As much as I want to stay

    It’s time for me to move on”

    1. Completely agree. If you try and still nothing changes, all you can do is move on. Thank you so much.

      1. You’re most welcome.

  5. That is a solid decision, Pooja! Well done. stand up FOR YOU. ❤️

    1. Thank you! It feels so good to finally put myself first ❤️

      1. Excellent! 🤙🏻❤️

  6. “The Older i Get The More i Understand
    Why People Live In the Woods and Talk

    To Squirrels”

    Saw This Meme on Meta
    Tween All the Continuing
    Hate Like Last Week When
    ‘Brian KILmeade’ Suggested

    Homeless Folks With Mental
    Illness Who Don’t Cooperate
    With Getting Help Should Be

    Euthanized

    Yes Killed

    Shortly Before
    ‘That Other Guy’ Got Shot

    Three Days Later He Apologized
    Yet Still Has a Job at ‘Faux News’ Really

    No Big
    Surprise

    The Squirrels Never Lie
    The Squirrels Never Lie Nor
    Do the Birds With Wings and
    Other Furry Creatures as i Hope

    to Do too

    Dear Pooja

    j am So Fortunate
    i Can Turn the TV Off
    And For Now Still Find
    Complete Sanctity in my Home

    And True the Dance Enveloping me With
    A Shield oF LiGHT Where All the Fan Stuff

    Still
    Spreading

    Just keeps
    Bouncing
    Off of me
    With SMiLes

    i have Some kind of Cold
    or Seasonal Allergy First time
    in Years as my Wife is Currently
    Checking my Temperature 101.4

    How Precious
    Love is When
    It Really Takes
    Care of Us With
    No Gaslit Lies i Wish
    With All my Organic Soul

    You Find Sancity ThiS Way too

    Dear
    Pooja
    With SMiLes..:)

    1. I’m telling you, I would love to move to the middle of nowhere.
      I did hear about that comment about euthanising the mentally ill homeless, ironic coming from the “pro-life” people.
      Sorry to hear about the cold, try lemongrass tea it’ll help so much with allergies and colds.
      I’m so glad you have her and thanks I truly hope I can find someone like that at some point.

      1. As The ‘Orwellian Meme’
        Continues to Grow At
        The Bottom of The
        Top the Human
        Shadow Beast
        For Those So
        Employed

        Continues
        Its Decent
        Into Addictions
        To Fear Anger And Hate

        MeanWhile Dear Pooja in my
        “Eden” my “Eve” Did Soothe

        My Cold With Lemon Herbal

        Tea Thank You For Your

        Kind Wishes How Lovely
        “The Other Place” Exists
        For Real too Where Empathy

        And Compassion

        Simply Give Share
        Care Heal With most
        Respect And Least Harm

        For
        All
        With SMiles☺️🙌🎶

        1. Yes, compassion and empathy does exist for so many of us and it’s important to remember it’s not all bad people out there!

          1. Yes! Cheers! to
            Humanity Wherever
            It Exists SMiles Looking
            For It i Do Still Find It With

            SMiles
            Dear Pooja☺️🙌

  7. Great post

  8. Coincidentally I posted this quote on IG today (paraphrased):
    “Sharing our joy doubles it, and sharing our sorrow halves it!”

    You’re cared about and doing great. xox

    1. I love that quote and I so agree with it, that’s why I’m always on here whining lol. Thanks so much 🙂

  9. What you describe reminds me of people who live with an alcoholic. Sending positive energy your way.

    1. Yeah, it can be similar in some ways like having to walk on eggshells never knowing when the mood will change. Thanks so much.

  10. 🙏🌹

    Aum Shanti

  11. Thins sounds hard.Good move to set boundaries. Well done on the book!

    1. Thank you so much!

  12. You articulated your feelings well in the poem!

    1. Thank you so much!

  13. America is struggling to deal with a narcissist! They are impossible. They believe they are wonderful and perfect when they are blatantly inept. Chin up Pooj. Be strong.

    1. Unfortunately, narcissism is on the rise. Thanks so much.

  14. Oh, I can relate to every word, Pooja. It’s like you read my mind. Well said, and stay strong. 💗

    1. Thank you so much 💕 Sorry you’ve had these experiences too but glad I’m not alone.

      1. You’re welcome, Pooja. I think there are many others that have experienced it too, however, they keep their feelings to themselves. 💗

        1. Yeah, that’s true. 💕

  15. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Having boundaries is healthy. Glad you are discovering how to be healthy for yourself.

    1. Absolutely, we have to protect ourselves too. Thanks so much.

  16. Peace – the most expensive thing in the world which I hope everyone can purchase 🙏

    1. Yes, I so hope for that as well 🙏

  17. Girl, I am here for it. Narissists are the worst. The absolute worst. Don’t be gaslit, peace out and save yourself their chaos.

    1. They are and once you see them you realise they’re everywhere. Thanks so much.

  18. Understanding then conclusion. Affirmation of conviction I think is implied. Needful work to share. There are others in this situation, certainly. To say the least, Well done!

    1. Thank you so much!

  19. I think we all know someone like that. You should do what is good for you.

    1. Yes, unfortunately we do all know people like that. Thanks so much.

      1. Take care. Lots of love to you

        1. Thanks and you as well.

          1. Thank you so much Pooja.

            1. You’re most welcome.

              1. 💕💕💕

  20. Beautiful poem. I wish you much peace.

    1. Thanks so much.

  21. I love your raw honest, painfully true poem that is set with boundaries and conviction. Sadly, sometimes it doesn’t end there but it’s a start and practice in continuing to honor ourselves which is so vital! ❤️

    1. Thank you so much! I so agree, boundaries are tough but we can’t throw our lives away to make others more comfortable. They’re absolutely necessary! ❤️

      1. You’re soooo welcome and you’re sooo right.. It’s a daily job and staying true to that. 🙌🏽

  22. Best not to give narcissistic people room to spread their toxic personalities. Focus upon not having conversations with them – they’ll slay you most every time. And removing yourself from their environment if at all possible. Yep, they can seriously harm, if you let them.

    1. Yes, I think that’s really all we can do. Keep our distance from them.

      1. As females we have an inbuilt desire to nurture, even though we may not realise it. We can feel like it is our position to ‘fix’ our troubled partners. We do this at our own expense with those whose goal is to control the narrative, the environment, our life. If distance isn’t possible, we must learn to not be effected by their tyranny. Not an easy thing to achieve.

        1. I completely agree and I think that’s the main problem that I can be very nurturing. I don’t want to give up on someone but I think sometimes you have to.

          1. Whatever you decide to do, remember it is about you taking command of you and your response/reaction to life. A life-long learning.

            1. Thanks, that’s good advice.

  23. Good one, Pooja.

    I’m still waiting for the WEDNESDAY Season 2 review 😅.

    I started watching the series last night.

    Meanwhile, let me follow my fave on LinkedIn and X

    1. The review will be up today 😅
      Thank you for the follow and followed you back 😊

      1. Seems you’re not active on LinkedIn

        1. Yeah not very active on there.

  24. So well said, Pooja. 💞💞💞 Hard to create boundaries when ever effort is made fun of or treated as if we wronged someone else by doing what’s best for us. Its easy to lose the ability to create them, let alone stand firm on them.

    1. Thank you so much. Absolutely, it’s always been incredibly difficult for me to set boundaries but I think I’m finally learning to put myself first when I need to.

  25. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    I hear you, and this is such a brave step. Protecting your peace is wise, and God honors those who set healthy boundaries.
    Remember, God is your refuge and strength, and He will guide you to relationships that reflect His love and respect. 🙏

  26. Sometimes the hardest part is accepting that some people just won’t change, no matter how much we want them to. You’re doing what’s right for you, and that matters more than anything.

    1. Yeah, that’s absolutely it. We try to help others but some people are okay with being the way they are even if it hurts those around them. In those cases, we have to put ourselves first.

      1. True….at some point, protecting your own peace has to come first.

  27. Well written ❤️

    Grettings regards 🌸🏵️🌷

    1. Thank you so much 😊

    1. Thanks for reading.

  28. Peace is always waiting inside you, waiting to be asked to come out. But it will never make the leap. You must stop first then ask. 🤣😎🙃

    1. That’s very true!

  29. Oh, yes. It definitely sounds like time to move on. May you find your perfect partner, Pooja.

    1. Thank you, I hope I do someday.

  30. Hi P. J. A wife of a friend just passed and in his work with a counselor he has come to the realization that his wife of 40+ years was a narcissist. Complicated story I won’t go into but just to say you recognized that early in the relationship, which is healthy. You seem to have a strong family of support based on the comments I see for this post so although it doesn’t substitute for a personal relationship, it shows that people care for you. BTW I appreciate your liking my post earlier, that’s what led me here. Sending you my best from the Territory…W

    1. I’m so sorry to hear about your friend and his situation with his wife. It’s particularly difficult when they’ve passed on. Thankfully, I’ve actively been in therapy for quite a while now and know the red flags to look out for. Thank you and it was my pleasure.

  31. 🤗🤗🤗

      1. 💌☺️🤗🥰🙌

  32. Poignantly moving poetry and my heart hurts for you, maybe because I have been in this predicament my whole life … “They” don’t and may never understand how painful it is to dim your light, so they are more comfortable. What I will say which has always “helped” me … is this too shall pass. In the interim I believe it behooves you to envision your “dream” place … seriously take just a few minutes when you are completely overwhelmed and visualize in your mind the chair you want and the book your signing (your own), the placement of furnishings and decor, the refreshing drink and the window nearby, plus what’s your ideal “view”?? This will retrain your thoughts and give that quick reprieve you need. You are truly giving Supergirl vibes / energy and should take a vacay!!! Sorry for the loooong comment ~ <3 to you always and happy weekend 😀 !!!

    1. Thank you and I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had experiences with people like this too. I’ve been doing that and it does help to envision the future and the dream life! Thank you and hope you have the best weekend!

  33. Excellent poem Pooja, in these circumstances support from dear ones is precious, I hope you overcome this situation 👍👍👍

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate it 🙏

      1. welcome dear

  34. Pooja, praying that life’s circumstances will find more light to lead you in the coming days. May your journey back to positivity be filled with the Lord’s grace.

    1. Thank you so much, I really appreciate that.

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