It’s Been A Tough Month

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It’s been pretty hectic recently but I couldn’t resist sharing something on the blog today. I’ve actually really missed blogging. During more difficult moments, I’ve noticed that WordPress has always been my refuge, my safe space. Unfortunately, it’s been a tough month for me. This year really feels like one gut punch after another.

My dad has had some health issues recently and with my mum still recovering from her operations, it’s been overwhelming. Not just physically but mentally too. I’m someone who gets overwhelmed easily and need downtime or I end up burnt out. But with everything going on and never having much of a rest between working full-time, editing and helping with everything else it’s just been a lot. I haven’t had much time to just sit down and relax. There’s barely even a few minutes to journal these days.

I did some blood tests yesterday as I’ve been feeling unwell but thankfully I’m okay and it’s nothing serious. I just need to get more rest. Which is difficult to do when I’m the only one helping my parents out right now for the most part.

So yeah, it’s been a tough month. And things aren’t great. Still, I’m trying to slowly process everything instead of crashing out. I’m so thankful for being in therapy all these years because it gave me a lot of healthy tools to deal with difficult times. If that hadn’t been the case I’m sure I would have had some kind of a meltdown by now.

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172 responses to “It’s Been A Tough Month”

  1. Pooj, for what its worth I give you big virtual hugs my friend. I would love to help you if I could. It’s amazing that the parents raise the kids, then when the parents get older, the children care for the parents. Been there done that very recently, again. Give yourself some real credit and self love for what you are doing for your parents. You are an awesome daughter and woman, Pooj! ❤️❤️😊☺️

    1. Thank you so much. They’ve done a lot for me and it’s only fair I try my best to help them when I can. Yeah, I know you’ve been through it with your dad too and being a caregiver isn’t easy. That’s so kind of you to say, thank you! ❤️🥰

      1. You are welcome Pooja. Have a great new week! ❤️

        1. Thanks, you too! ❤️

  2. Hoping things improve for you all Pooja. Life throws us massive curve balls at times 🙏🏽

    1. Thank you so much, absolutely some days are just tougher than others but we’ll get through it 💕

    1. Thank you 🤗

  3. I hope that you get well soon, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate that.

  4. Always good to read you, Pooja, even when you’re checking in to share tough times. Hope the clouds part for you soon, or at least you find more moments to nap amidst the storms. 💚

    1. Thank you so much. Yeah, I mean nothing lasts forever so hopefully things will get better soon. 💕

  5. Being a caregiver is one of the toughest roles there is. You do it because you have to, and you do it with compassion, but know that there is no “win” when the game ends.

    1. That’s been my life for 14 years.

    2. I agree, it’s really difficult and exhausting and absolutely no “winning.” I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that for so long. I hope you’re able to take some time to focus on yourself too.

  6. I’m sorry Pooja about the health issues both your parents are facing. Hope they recover soon. Sending you love and prayers my friend. Stay well.

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate it.

      1. You’re most welcome. Care giving is a hectic duty. Don’t forget tom look after yourself too.

        1. Thanks, trying my best to but sometimes there just aren’t enough hours in a day.

          1. I understand. Hugs

        2. This is very important too

          1. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

  7. Thinking of you ~ <3 !!!

    1. Thank you so much ❤️

  8. Pace yourself Pooja and always get the rest you need. Nice to hear from you, and hope soon you will feel less overwhelmed!

    1. Thank you so much! I’m trying my best to balance self-care and caring for others which can be tough but it’s the best I can do.

  9. Thanks for the update, Pooj. Remember, take care of yourself as well as of others!

    1. Thank you so much. Yeah, self-care is a necessity right now!

  10. Hey! Just thought I’d throw in a suggestion. I found out recently that I have a vitamin B-12 deficiency, which makes me unbelievably exhausted if I don’t take my supplement. Those were a game-changer for me! Praying for you.

    1. Thank you so much! Yeah, I take B-12 pills regularly as I have a deficiency too. But appreciate that suggestion!

  11. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had so many problems to deal with this year. That can be discouraging if you dwell on misfortunes and we all do that at times. I’m confident it will all work out so you can soon have that pressure removed and enjoy fullness of life.

    1. Thank you so much. Yeah, it’s been a tough time but I’m sure things will get better. I’m trying my best to stay hopeful.

  12. SMiLes Dear Pooja Pay For Therapy Is Great and So Is Therapy

    Of Expressing Emotions Through Art and True Behind Much of

    Poetry is Either a Hungry Heart or One Once Impoverished

    (Like a Stone Bust in a Burial Ground Just Waiting to
    Breathe Again on ‘The Beatles’ “Sgt Pepper’s Lonely

    Hearts Club Band” Album Cover Dating my 7 Years of Age)

    For a Loving
    Peaceful

    Balancing
    Life of Comfort

    Dear Pooja

    Together With
    Others Sharing
    SMiLes Sincere to
    Lift Each Other Up With Warmth

    Indeed Care Giving May Be Such a Drain
    Particularly when there is No escaping the
    Already ‘Reliable’ Grind of Life even more so of course

    For Those
    Who Haven’t
    Cared So Much for Us

    Now That takes a Strong
    Human Indeed One Who is Kind

    And Worthy of the Daily Sacrifice Indeed

    The Best Part of Life my Mother taught me

    Through Her
    Actual Actions

    Was Love Like A Mother
    Unconditionally even for
    the Child Blessed with Tale

    Horns

    And Pointy Teeth

    Hey What Will i Dance Sing She Called
    me ‘Freddy’ and Raised me on ‘Elm Street’

    Happy Halloween! For Real! Yes Literally

    Born on 6.6.60 Some Seconds Minutes
    Days Months Years Forever in Time “Omens”

    Seem Real

    (66 Months)

    Other Days

    (146 Months)

    Yes More Like
    Angel Wings on High

    Hehe Very Painfully
    Re-Attached As Such…

    One Move Forward One Breath Ahead
    Indeed The Curse and Gift Belongs to All of Us

    Best Dance And Sing it All Free
    The Place Where Poetry is Born…

    And
    other
    Human
    HeARTS…

    Horns Pointy
    Teeth and Other Tales

    Of Halloween For Real..:)

    1. Thank you so much, Happy Halloween- my favourite season!

      1. Ah Yes Dear Pooja So
        Much Creativity to
        Express in The
        Halloween
        Season

        Marrying
        The NiGHT
        Merrying The
        Day More With

        SMiles
        👻 🎃 🙌

  13. Thnank you for sharing it is valid and I want to let you know you are strong sending hugs and Prayer from Fiji 🤗

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate it 🤗

  14. I hope your dad is on his way to a speedy recovery and healing, and that your mom will find rest and peace soon.

    Take time for yourself, too, Pooj. Keep yourself healthy, too. 🙏🏾🩵

    1. Thank you so much. 💗

      1. You’re most welcome!

  15. Sending ❤️🙏 to you and your family.

    1. Thank you so much 🙏💗

  16. You got this Pooja
    Hopefully the month of October is better
    Fingers crossed both of your parents get better soon

    1. Thank you so much and hope so too.

  17. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    I’m so sorry you’re going through so much right now. You’re stronger than you know, and I pray God gives you the peace, rest, and strength you need each day. 🙏
    Heavenly Father, surround my dear friend with Your comfort, carry her through this season, and bring healing to her parents.
    In Jesus Name, we Pray.
    Amen …

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate it 🙏

  18. I’m sorry you’re dealing with the stress, friend. Message me anytime. btw I just finished, watching Black Rabbit on Netflix. A really good representation of trauma bonding if I do say so myself.

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate it. Ooh I see, Black Rabbit sounds good. I’ll definitely check it out.

      1. Anytime friend. Cool beans. Lot of swearing just to warn you 🙂

        1. That’s fine, I don’t really mind swearing. But thanks for the heads-up 🙂

  19. I am so sorry about your parents health. Our daughter, who might be close to your age (26) is very worried about our health even though it is good. I did not realize how worrisome this could be to a child.

    1. Thank you so much. Yeah, that’s the age when most people begin to think about their parents health more. It can be stressful to think about.

  20. Hang in Pooja, take extra good care of yourself during this time. Get extra rest when you can, practice being gentle with yourself, always, not just now!

    1. Thank you so much. Will do!

  21. Glad your blood work came back ok. Thank goodness. It is not easy to take care of yourself when you’re taking care of others, but it it’s so important. 💝

    1. Thank you so much. I absolutely agree, it can be very difficult but self-care is what keeps us going 💗

  22. Remember to take care of yourself. The Universe is unfolding as it should.

    1. Thank you so much, yes absolutely.

  23. Get well soon🙏🌹

    Aum Shanti

    1. Thank you 🙏

  24. Glad you are so self-aware, Pooja. I’m sorry about your parents. Take good care!

    1. Thank you so much!

  25. Sorry to hear about this. I pray that God grants you the comfort and strength you need to make it through these times and when you come out on the other side, this will be nothing more than an interesting story you tell of what you’ve overcome

    1. Thank you so much. I truly hope so.

  26. Hi Pooja. Sending you a big hug. Keep strong and in difficult times seek beautiful things. Beautiful moments. Even if they are little things or short moments. 🤗

    1. Thank you so much. Really appreciate it and will do 🤗❤️

      1. You’re welcome, Pooja 🤗

  27. Lie does this and leaves us to deal with it. It’s good that you’ve got healthy coping techniques, keep going. Things will get better.

    1. Yeah, unfortunately so. Thank you so much.

  28. Glad to see a post from you. Hope things are getting better for you soon. I always say I need about 10 clones, but it sounds like you may need way more than that. 🙂

    1. Thank you so much. Haha yes, I think we would all need at least 20. 🙂

  29. Sending blessings and well wishes your way, Pooja. 🤗

    1. Thank you so much. 🤗

  30. Ahhhhh boy, and now your dad, eh? I can totally understand about getting overwhelmed.
    I’ll be praying for you, and don’t worry about even visiting online. You just take care of yourself.

    1. Yup, unfortunately so. Thank you so much, really appreciate it.

  31. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Sorry to hear all the illnesses in your family. Hopefully things will even out for your family soon.

    1. Thank you so much. Hope so too.

  32. Pooja, my heart goes out to you. I hope all improves soon, and I wish you, and your parents, good health. Sending hugs, and healing vibes. 💗

    1. Thank you so much. Really appreciate it 💗

      1. You’re welcome, Pooja. 💗

  33. You and I both, let’s hope for better day xx

    1. Thank you so much. I hope so too, I know you’ve been going through a lot too.

  34. Hang in there! It’s hard watching our parents grow old and develop various ailments. Blogging can wait, we’ll be here waiting when you’re able 🫂

    1. Thank you so much! It really is and really appreciate that 💗

  35. Everything will be OK dear friend

    1. Thank you so much. 🙏

      1. You are most welcome

  36. Wishing you and your parents well! 🙏

    1. Thank you so much! 🙏

  37. Sending you so much love and hugs, Pooja 🫂 I’m praying for the recovery of both of your parents, and that you can feel a sense of relief, too. ❤️ I hope the months ahead can bring more joy.

    1. Thank you so much 🤗 Really appreciate that ❤️

  38. Big hugs to you, friend! Make sure to do a little something for yourself b/c caregiver burner is too real. xoxo

    1. Thank you so much! I’ll try my best.

  39. Best wishes for your parents and you Pooja. Keeping you all.in my thoughts.

    1. Thank you so much.

  40. Sending a lot of restful warmth your way ✨️💛

    1. Thank you so much. 💗

  41. Sending hugs, and blessings your way Pooja. 🤗

    1. Thank you so much. 🤗

  42. Thanks for the post, praying you have strength to keep going! I know what it’s like to have a family member seriously ill, it can be quite draining! I’m deffo gonna give your book a try 🙂

    1. Thank you so much! Yeah, it’s sort of mentally exhausting but we’ll get through it. I really hope you enjoy the book, thank you 😊

  43. I’m glad you’re doing all right, though I appreciate all that’s going on. I’m sorry to hear about your dad. It’s great that you’re involved in caring for your parents, though that’s got to be tiring as well. I’m relieved you’re actively concerned over not crashing out.

    1. Thank you so much. Yeah it’s tiring but I want to help them in any way I can. And keeping my emotions in check and being aware of when I need a break helps.

  44. Rooting for your family and for you, P.J.!

    1. Thank you so much!

  45. I’m sorry for all that you’re going through, Pooj. I hope things get better and your parents recover. I’ve been burned out from blogging too. Take care of yourself. <3

    1. Thank you so much. Sorry to hear that but I understand, blogging can be a lot. Take care of yourself too, take a break if need be.

  46. Hopefully things get better soon. hugs

    1. Thank you so much. 🤗

  47. Sending you some positive energy and good vibes!! Everything passes!

    1. Thank you so much!

  48. I wish you the best, Pooja. You’ve got a lot of people rooting for you!

    1. Thank you so much!

  49. Your post truly resonated with me. This past year has been a whirlwind for me, too – one challenge after another. I want to share some thoughts that may encourage you, as I believe we need to approach our well-being holistically, caring for our mind, body, and spirit.
    First, I’m sorry about your parents’ health struggles, especially your dad’s recent issues. That kind of worry weighs heavily on anyone who cares deeply about their family.
    It’s encouraging that your recent labs came back okay, though I know that’s just one piece of the puzzle when it comes to overall health. You mentioned how valuable therapy has been, and I agree entirely – having those tools makes such a difference in navigating difficult seasons.
    As a Christian, I’ve found that faith provides a foundation of hope and perspective, though it doesn’t shield us from being fully human. Even with spiritual grounding, we still feel pain when life gets overwhelming.
    My abuela always said that healing begins with talking – with sharing our burdens instead of carrying them alone. By reaching out through your blog, you’re already taking that essential first step. Despite our increasingly individualistic culture, we were designed to depend on one another. When we support one another, we all benefit.
    I hope these words bring some warmth to your day. You’re not alone in this season.
    Blessings 🙌

    1. I’m so sorry to hear this year has been difficult for you as well. Thank you so much for sharing that. Absolutely, having faith and the right tools to deal with difficult moments really helps. And of course this space to share my burdens. I think even if our situation remains the same, talking about it eases a lot of the pain and anxiety. Thank you again 💗

  50. You definitely have your plate full and caring for parents by yourself isn’t easy Pooja. I know that well. You also give so much of yourself in your work. I totally get it and know. Sending you lots of love, energy and a beam of love and light to get you through. Lot’s of love and hugs!
    ❤️

    1. Thank you so much, yup it’s been a lot but life will go on as it always does! 💕😊

  51. Sending you virtual hugs Pooja. 🫶🏼❤️
    I hope things improve for you soon.

    1. Thank you so much ❤️

  52. I feel you, been right there too! Get the rest you need Pooja while you care foe your parents and know things will get better (I mean, they will get harder too sometimes but that’s life), -all the best! Hugs and prayers your way! 🫶🤗🙏💪

    1. Thank you so much! Trying my best to balance everything and not end up burnt out. Life certainly does have it’s up and downs but it always goes on! 💕

  53. You would be totally justified in having a meltdown. But of course, I’m totally glad you aren’t. You are staying healthy and finding those very little windows of opportunities to rest, which is crucial. I’m very glad that your blood tests came back with nothing serious too. And I hope your Dad finds his path to full recovery. And I hope that your Mum continues on her path to full recovery too. Taking care of the people you love when they are most vulnerable is one of the hardest tasks to ever embark on in life. I understand it. And I see it. Keep giving yourself some much needed love, care, and grace. I only have one request from you. And that is, whenever you need to feel sad to process everything, please don’t stay sad for too long. Lift your head back up afterward and try to have a smile on your face or even in your heart if that’s all you can give to yourself. Even if it’s only just for a brief moment. We love you over here so much! And we love that you are taking care of yourself during this difficult period. 🤗❤️

    1. Thank you so much for your love and support, all these lovely comments I get here really do help ease the stress and pain. Thank you and you’re right, nothing lasts forever and I never want to drown in the sadness. I try to do little things that bring me joy and focus on the good as much as I can. Thanks again ❤️🤗🥰

  54. You’ve really been carrying so much on your shoulders . It’s good to hear that blogging and therapy are giving you a little space to breathe—it says a lot about your strength. I hope you can find small moments just for yourself, even in the middle of all this. Sending lots of care and gentle wishes your way.

    1. Thank you so much, yes it’s been a lot but I’ve been trying to take care of myself too. Really appreciate your kind comment and thank you for the follow as well.

  55. Sending lots of love and positive vibes. Be well Gudka family

    1. Thanks, Devang, really appreciate it. 💗

  56. I pray for divine restoration of your parents’ health. Take care Pooja!

    1. Thank you so much!

  57. […] month has especially been difficult, I talked about that in my last post so I won’t repeat […]

  58. 💬 “Dear Pooja, sending you a blanket of comfort and strength. What you’re carrying shows such quiet courage—balancing love, duty, and your own healing. Remember, even small pauses are victories, and even tired hearts can glow with hope. Your openness is already a light for many of us. Keep holding on, friend, because better days will surely unfold. You are not alone in this journey. 💕🙏”

    1. Thank you so much, really appreciate it 🙏💗

  59. Sending hugs and strength, Pooja. 💞 Being a caregiver for one isn’t an easy role let alone for two.

    1. Thank you so much. It’s definitely difficult but I’m hoping things will get better this month 💗

      1. I certainly hope so! Praying for you and your family! 💞

  60. I’m sorry to hear things have been tough, you’re a good daughter and I bet your parents appreciate all that you do for them. It’s nice to know you have a safe space in wordpress and I hope it stays that way as that is sorely needed. Wishing you some moments of reprieve and rest, time for you to do the things you love because you deserve it 💗✨️x

    1. Thank you so much! Yeah, I’m happy to have this space and hopefully things will get better soon 💕

  61. Pooj, now that October is here I hope that everything starts to improve for you. The responsibilities that you have right now are a lot. You should feel proud of yourself though for accomplishing all that you have so far. And remember one thing, cherish the time that you have with your parents because they will not be around forever. Love and prayers for you and your family.

    1. Thank you so much, hopefully this month will be a little less stressful. Absolutely, we never know how much time we have with anyone to be honest so I’m trying to be there for them while I can be.

      1. You are a good daughter. Just make sure to take time for yourself too.

        1. Thanks so much, I’m trying to.

  62. Do what you need to do for yourself, and I hope all the other familial situations ease up for you, dear Pooja!

    1. Thank you so much!

      1. You’re very welcome, Pooja!

  63. Sending love and peace to you and your family.

    God bless you 🌹

    1. Thank you so much 🙏

  64. I’m sorry you’ve had a tough month, Pooja. I hope your parents are both feeling well again and that you are, too!

    1. Thank you so much!

      1. You’re so welcome!

  65. Sorry to hear about your dad’s health, Pooja.

    Hope he’s fine now?!

    Don’t lose hope, my friend.

    Everything will be fine.

    Meanwhile, you’ve done so well in handling the whole situation.

    Giving you a BIG HUG

    1. Thank you, he’s slowly recovering.

      1. Thank God for that. Wishing him a quicker recovery.

        Take good care of yourself, Pooja

        1. Thank you 🙏

  66. Hang in there, Sweetie. This too shall pass. Love you much.

    1. Thank you so much. It’s slowly but surely getting better.

  67. Sending love and healing energies! 🙏

    1. Thank you so much! 🙏

  68. Congratulations on the book!

  69. Hi!
    My parents were sick too during september. And I am the one who had to take care of them.

    They have recovered, and are fine at present. Still the age factor is against them.

    1. “My dad has had some health issues recently and with my mum still recovering from her operations, it’s been overwhelming. Not just physically but mentally too.”
    I hope things are under control. I wish them good health.

    2. “I just need to get more rest. Which is difficult to do when I’m the only one helping my parents out right now for the most part.”
    Yeah. Do take enough rest.

    3. “Still, I’m trying to slowly process everything instead of crashing out. ”
    Yeah. Take your time. Give yoursel the space, gaps and breaks required.

    1. I’m so sorry to hear that but glad they have recovered now. It’s hard caring for aging parents but it’s what we do because we love them. Thanks so much and you as well- take good care of yourself too.

      1. Same. Take care of yourself.🧡
        This is amazing — you are posting regularly, and have written so much recently— I congratulate you for this.🎉🎉👏🏼

        Don’t put you on risk to help others!
        Help only when you can, in general. Family is a much complex case.

        1. Thanks and yes I agree!

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