This year has been an interesting one with some major highs and lows. Through it all, I’ve learnt so many lessons and decided to create this post about the major ones that stood out to me. Here are ten lessons I’ve learnt in 2025:
Ten Lessons I’ve Learnt In 2025
1. Some people will only want you around when you’re at your lowest
The biggest thing I’ve learnt this year is that a lot of people will only want you around when you’re struggling, not everyone will be happy for you when you’re doing well. It’s not something I even considered before but this year has really shown me that not everyone wants what’s best for you. A lot of people want you to be at a low point mentally and physically because it’s easier for them to control you when you’re already struggling.
2. Boundaries are vital.
Boundaries are literally so important. I’ve always been a people pleaser by nature and it’s been tough to set boundaries but I’m glad I’ve started to. I need to protect myself and my peace. I’m no longer willing to tolerate bad behaviour, especially when it’s constantly repeated. And I’m no longer going to chase people and try to work things out with them when they show zero effort in maintaining a relationship with me.
3. Not every battle needs to be fought.
This is something I was discussing with my therapist this week. We were talking about how far I’ve come in the recent months. There was a time when I had to deal with a narcissistic person being extremely abusive towards me and my parents and I would constantly get triggered by their behaviour. And although I’m still forced to deal with this person, I am no longer as triggered and responsive. I’ve learnt that silence holds so much power and that to win some battles you have to choose not to fight.
4. The only thing you control is you.
I haven’t talked about Stoicism lately but it’s still a big part of my life. I try to do my readings at least once a day. And what Stoicism and actually practicing it on a daily basis has taught me (along with therapy) is that we have no control over anything other than ourselves. Don’t expect anything from anyone, don’t expect other people to change, don’t expect the world to cater to you, don’t expect things to go as planned. Live your life knowing everything could change at the drop of a hat. Focus on the present, that’s all we truly have.
5. Jealousy and resentment changes people.
When things started to look up for me and I actively began working on bettering myself, I never thought the closest people around me would be the ones that would hold so much resentment towards me. Would show so much hate and jealousy. Unfortunately, that’s what ended up happening and it got to a point where our relationship will never be mended because I can no longer see the person I used to love and be close to. They’ve become a bitter, miserable and hateful version of themselves and I can’t get sucked into that world again.
6. The truth will eventually come to light.
Because I chose to set boundaries and distance myself from the narcissistic person in my life, they decided to retaliate by choosing to talk about me behind my back to our mutuals in an attempt to tarnish my name. I wasn’t aware of this until someone reached out to me and told me about it and eventually multiple people told me something similar. I’m thankful they did because I was able to clear up a lot of things. And that’s how I learnt that you can lie all you want but eventually the truth will come out. And the only person that will look bad is you.
7. Good doesn’t always win over evil.
I wish we lived in a world where good always wins, like in movies and TV shows and books. But that’s not the case. Let go of that belief that good will eventually win, that people will eventually change and be better. That’s not always the case and having blind optimism is just as bad for our mental health as being blindly pessimistic. It’s important to be realistic. It helps save us from a lot of pain and disappointment.
8. Focus on the positives.
There’s always going to be negative and positive things in life. No one’s life is perfect all the time. However, wallowing in misery is not the answer. Try to focus on the positive and do your best. Again, don’t be blindly optimistic. Process the negative stuff. But don’t let it hold you back.
9. Live your life for yourself and while you can.
Life goes by so fast, so incredibly fast. Live it while you can, do what makes you happy instead of always worrying and thinking about others. Of course, it’s not a bad thing to consider others. But don’t sacrifice your life and happiness. It’s just not worth it.
10. Move in silence.
In the eternal words of Lil Wayne,”Real G’s move in silence like lasagna.”
I’m not a G, sometimes I’m a B and occasionally a C. However, I have learnt to move in silence. I used to be so excited to share good news and progress by narcissistic abuse has taught me to keep things to myself. I noticed that every time something was about me, my achievements or even just if I’m speaking this person would go out of their way to interrupt me and make important moments in my life about themselves. That’s why I rarely share good news with anyone anymore. I would rather keep it to myself.
Final Thoughts
Those are the main ten lessons I’ve learnt in 2025. And even though pain is the reason for some of them, I’m happy that through these lessons I’ve been able to grow as a person.
What lessons have you learnt in 2025? Let me know in the comments below because I would absolutely love to hear from you. Or simply stop by and say hi!
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