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My Biggest Mistake

My biggest mistake
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You were my biggest mistake

Years later

And I still believe

We were meant to go our separate ways

Leaving you

Was the smartest decision I made

There was no future for us

We just were not meant to be

You were my biggest mistake

And yet I regret nothing

Not a single thing

I cherish our memories together

If I had to I would do it all again

About “My Biggest Mistake”:

I was pretty busy most of today which is why I assumed I wouldn’t be able to post and even said so on my last post. However, here we are. I just can’t stay away from my blog for long. I always end up missing you guys even though I know you’re technically just internet strangers and could totally be serial killers. If you are, in fact, a serial killer I would urge you to find a new hobby. I hear knitting is peaceful and calming.

Back to the poem. “My Biggest Mistake” is about those relationships you know won’t last long term but you still cherish the moments you have together. It’s always difficult to let go and leave but you just know you have to at some point. *sigh* Love can be so complicated sometimes. Well, not for everyone, maybe it’s me…

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92 responses to “My Biggest Mistake”

  1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
    Daily Interesting Blogs

    Pooja, when I read your blogs. There is always some meaning in it. This is so well written, girl!😊🥰👌👌👌👌👌👌

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much, so happy to hear that! 😊

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      1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
        Daily Interesting Blogs

        My pleasure, Pooja!!😊🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

        Reply
  2. Clurichaun Avatar
    Clurichaun

    I have been in several relationships like that with wonderful women.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, sometimes people are great it’s just not meant to be.

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      1. Clurichaun Avatar
        Clurichaun

        Very true

        Reply
  3. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    There’s also crochet and knitting…also good hobbies 😉

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol yes, I hear those are great hobbies too 😅

      Reply
  4. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    I have always been a bit naive and believed at the time that things would last. I believe it is part of living and growing. I just wish I was not such a slow learner, lol.
    Thanks for the knitting tip. My Grandmother taught me to knit. The nine mil stainless steel needles bend very little and clean up nicely. Fresh carrots are best for practicing stabbing techniques 😉

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Unfortunately, some lessons take a while to learn.
      That’s so cool. One of my neighbours taught me to knit when I was a kid but I never got into it. May take it up again now though since I see some carrots in the kitchen…

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      1. Maryanne Avatar
        Maryanne

        If you knit me a carrot, maybe you will learn to love them! (Ha-ha!) I knitted too as a kid. It was fun.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Lol, I would hate them even more! Jk. Yeah, it’s a pretty fun hobby but I think I never had the patience for it as a child. Maybe I should take it up again as an adult and see if anything has changed.

          Reply
      2. Joseph Glidden Avatar
        Joseph Glidden

        Ha, ha.

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  5. Poet of the Light Avatar
    Poet of the Light

    Knitting instead, you say??? Well- back to the drawing board for me again. 😉

    There are teachers I’ve forgotten and teachers I’ll remember all my days. We all interchange our roles but if we’re lucking enough, we can share our journey with a mirroring type of shadow that happily tags along with us.

    We touch passing water in a river but once to quench our intriguing minds, however, we are at our best when we can submerge ourselves (body and soul) once we’ve come across the right body of accepting water.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Well, there are a lot of fun less murderous hobbies out there 😅

      That’s the perfect way to put it. I think some people leave a mark and some don’t. But when we find the right person we should give it our all.

      Reply
  6. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    A person who doesn’t like carrots sounds more of serial killer to me 😂

    You take care buddy!!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I mean, I never said I wasn’t…. 🥕🔪

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      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        Carrot killer maybe!

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Carrot killer, always 😈

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    2. Maryanne Avatar
      Maryanne

      LOL! Touche! 🙂

      Reply
  7. True Love Never Dies – Watashi °+NO NAME+° WO

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  8. Ranjana Avatar
    Ranjana

    I am sure there are no killers writing blogs. Writing liberates the frustrated person. 😊
    About the poem, I think no one can force someone to be friends and letting go is always better for both the parties. Time and relocating to a new place also changes people and relationships.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha, let’s hope so 😅
      I very much agree, we can’t force it and it’s best to just move on.

      Reply
    2. Maryanne Avatar
      Maryanne

      Strangely killers do write blogs. About 15 years ago there was a tool called Live Journal. A young woman, 16 at the time, manipulated two male friends into killing her mother. She spent a few years jail time. I believe she still updates that journal. Her voice is still as cold as it was back then. I’d share the link, but I couldn’t do that to someone, it would definitely put your heart in a down zone, maybe even give you nightmares. It’s a crazy world we live in sometimes.

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      1. Ranjana Avatar
        Ranjana

        Interesting! This really spins my head.

        Reply
  9. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    If you know my culture, you’d know that once married young (23) there was only one relationship for me. It’s mostly good, though sometimes we have our disagreements. But then he surprises me with a thoughtful/ kind gesture. 💝

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s wonderful, I think all relationships do have ups and downs but he sounds very thoughtful and sweet.

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        He is! And it took work to make this relationship successful, but we were suited to each other from the start.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yes, I think it takes a lot of work and understanding on both sides. But I’m glad you got on well from the start.

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          1. Sadje Avatar
            Sadje

            So am I, my dear friend.

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  10. Gertrude_n Avatar
    Gertrude_n

    Yes I’ve been in relationships before.

    So some years back before my internship, I decided to work in this organisation so that I could know about the work place before intern.
    This one man liked me and my workmates made it look like they would make my work there easy if I dated him.
    So I dated him for the time I worked there, he was a great guy who respected women. I just didn’t like the fact that i had to date him to be treated well by my workmates.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Oh I see. I understand, sometimes even when someone is nice you don’t want to be pressured into dating them just so your colleagues are nice to you.

      Reply
  11. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    Knitting or infamy as a serial killer??? 🤔
    Relationships that I regret.. probably all of them. But then I saw the value in the friendship. Not everything is meant to head down a path of romance. I am also learning as I get older, that all that glitters ain’t gold.
    But there is regret for wasting time pursuing the idea.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      It’s a tough choice but choose wisely 😅
      That’s exactly it. Sometimes you like someone as a person but may not be meant to be together in a relationship.

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  12. Happy Panda Avatar
    Happy Panda

    I think we’ve all been in such relationships..I think the important part is knowing when to leave! Cause if you overstay in a relationship that isn’t meant to be, the scars are harder to heal.
    Beautiful poem!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree! The longer we stay the more traumatic is is. Thanks!

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    2. Maryanne Avatar
      Maryanne

      And that goes for pseudo friendships too. Know when to leave for sure!

      Reply
  13. The Different Woman Avatar
    The Different Woman

    The serial killer part 🤣🤣🤣 We’re not all serial killers and I’ve got a hobby and I’ll prove it to you by sending an email to you.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol, well I’ll have to see the email to believe it 😅😅

      Reply
      1. The Different Woman Avatar
        The Different Woman

        Sent. 💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Awesome, I’ll check and respond 😀

          Reply
  14. Maryanne Avatar
    Maryanne

    I’m a cereal killer. I stomp on boxes of cereal so kids can’t eat them. Parents thank me because their kids have a perfect bill of health. Ha-ha!
    Okay, enough of my silliness.
    Yes, I had a few relationships that didn’t work but I cherished the memories. My favorite ex was my friend Vinnie. We dated a little over a year when I was a teenager. The problem was, he wanted to get married. I felt I was too young (and I was!) I felt trapped and smothered.
    The lesson here is you don’t “own” your partner. This guy felt he owned me and it was scary.
    Nevertheless, he was a cool, fun person and after the hurt wore off, we became good friends. It was no longer “romance.” He was more like a brother to me. (I wish this type of friendship for everyone, it was surely unique and special).
    Vinnie died during Covid (of a heart attack) and his loss was a big one for me.
    My husband thought Vinnie was great. Vinnie was over our house a few times, usually during our Christmas parties. Vinnie was the life of the party. Everyone loved him.
    Vinnie was the kind of friend you never had to second guess. He was always there for you. I could also say anything to him. I often told him how stubborn he was. But REAL friends can talk to each other that way and still love each other.
    I miss him so much. He was one of a kind and his death left a huge hole in this world.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha, I love that! Cereal is literally the worst thing to give your kids for breakfast and is so packed with sugar.
      I’ve had some like that too. And similarly I felt it was moving too fast as well. I think we all have relationships we cherish the memories of but were not right for us. Vinnie sounds like he was a wonderful and vibrant person. So sorry he’s no longer with us. It’s such a sad thing when we lose someone so dear to us.

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  15. msafriyie Avatar
    msafriyie

    I feel i’m about to experience this. Lovely one

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much. Sorry about that but at least you’ll have good memories to cherish. When we’re in the moment it hurts a lot but after we’ve healed we realise it’s best to move on.

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      1. msafriyie Avatar
        msafriyie

        Yes and i hope i’m able to heal faster

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I’m hoping the same for you. I hope you heal quickly and are able to move onto something better.

          Reply
  16. BabyFunbo Avatar
    BabyFunbo

    Yes I did have a relationship like that and honestly I think if the odds weren’t against us I think we would have worked out in the end.

    Also, I would love to pick up crochet as a hobby. But with a very tight schedule, I just can’t make extra time for another hobby. 😅

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sorry to hear that. I think sometimes it’s external factors that keep us apart rather than each other.

      I’ve been wanting to crochet too, it sounds so fun but I know I don’t have the time either 😩

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  17. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    You are too funny … thanks for the morning laugh. I love what Maryanne said, “I’m a cereal killer. Maybe that will be my morning breakfast today. lol. I’ve had a few that were just confusing and yet i think we filled a need in each other’s lives for a time. Life as we know it is a reflection of what we’re going through what cast of characters we might need to make sense of things at the time.
    Sometimes my heart gets sad at having wasted precious time in what I thought was a reciprocal relationship. Blind sidedness wakes you to reality.

    Great poem Pooja❣️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! I agree, we all have confusing relationships and those that don’t work out. Not just romantically but other relationships too. And it does suck having wasted time with someone who doesn’t care about us the same way we do but at the end of the day we learn from it and try to do better in the future.

      Reply
  18. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    Love is complicated… it’s not just you 😋
    … and your poem expresses it beautifully too.
     
    now this…  “and could totally be serial killers”… we’d really never know 🤣

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much 😊

      Lol, we’ll never know unless I find one of you on the news 😅

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      1. Destiny Avatar
        Destiny

        🤣😂… true

        most welcome 🤍

        Reply
  19. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    Some relationships are not meant to be and I wish we knew beforehand. I have found, through the years it is best to walk away from a toxic relationship because life is too short to be unhappy. I had a difficult time trying to leave a comment so I hope this one goes through.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I absolutely agree. I think most of us have experienced toxic relationships at some point and leaving is really for the best.
      Sorry about that, a number of people told me there was an issue leaving comments. I think there was a glitch but I talked to them and it seems to be fixed now. But do let me know if there’s an issue again.

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      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        I was able to leave a comment on your site later on.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Good, I’m glad it was fixed.

          Reply
  20. JR Avatar
    JR

    Yes ! lol

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha!

      Reply
  21. iambrotherlove Avatar
    iambrotherlove

    yes, relatable. I say we all had those kinds of relationships before. While I can’t say I regret the mistake, because in a way i dont, as moving on from it did help me to grow as well in the long run. But its always best to walk away from bad ones, and toxic ones too, even if you miss it at the same time

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, it’s incredibly difficult to walk away from bad or toxic relationships but it’s best to do so. They never lead to anything good.

      Reply
  22. bigskybuckeye Avatar
    bigskybuckeye

    Thank you for sharing your honest look at life’s relationships. Hopefully, we grow from such encounters.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, I think it’s best if we learn and grow from them.

      Reply
  23. David Avatar
    David

    As long as we keep learning, no loss is without purpose.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Absolutely agree, those relationships may not be longterm but we can learn a lot from them.

      Reply
  24. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    You can trust me, I like animals 😂😂.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I can definitely can trust you then 😅

      Reply
  25. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    Mistakes are part of life, you can’t learn if you never make them. Growth is impossible without making mistakes, this is what I teach my students in class. Every day we make mistakes at home and at work, perfectionism is only good in theory. In love there is no right or wrong, in my opinion, yet people will judge you anyway. My main goal is to stop judging myself.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Absolutely, mistakes teach us and help us grow into better people. That’s a great goal, I think we can often be our worst critic.

      Reply
  26. Full-Fat Blah Avatar
    Full-Fat Blah

    These wonderful relationships also help in the development of ourselves! As long as we go into them with full awareness of them coming to an end, then like you said, no regret at all. Only good new memories.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree! As long as you do your best you won’t have any regrets. Just memories to look back on and learn from.

      Reply
  27. Feets Avatar
    Feets

    Yes, but nothing romantic. I already am insufferable to myself and my peers, why force someone in my crap?

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I don’t think you’re insufferable but I don’t date these days for the same reason.

      Reply
  28. Steve Avatar
    Steve

    Each relationship I’ve had has been helpful in making me the person I am today. I don’t regret them, and try not to focus on what went wrong as I was a different person back then. Also, not a serial murderer.

    Reply
    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s wonderful and I feel similarly. I hold no negative feelings for those I am no longer in contact with. That’s exactly what a serial murderer would say… 🤔

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      1. Steve Avatar
        Steve

        😳

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  29. The Wheelchair Teen Avatar
    The Wheelchair Teen

    To quote Little Mix: “shout out to my ex… you made my heart break and that made me who I am.” Break ups can be tough, but at the end of the day, every relationship makes us who we are. I’ve never been in one I knew wouldn’t last, but even though they didn’t, I learned a lot about myself along the way.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I very much agree with you, I think breakups are always hard but when we take the time to heal we realise that we learnt a lot from the relationship even though it didn’t work out.

      Reply
  30. Baydreamer - Lauren Scott Avatar
    Baydreamer – Lauren Scott

    I can totally relate to your poem in days before I met my husband, Pooja. Your words are universal for most people I would assume. But when I read your note following your poem, why did I laugh when I read “serial killer?” That’s not funny, but I think your candid words caught me by surprise. And yet, you are so right. None of us know each other, but after a long time of corresponding via our blogs, I think we get a sense of the kind of people we’re interacting with (or at least I do). Anyway, I always enjoy your posts! ❤️🤗

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, I think the poem can be relatable as most of us have had relationships like that.
      Haha yeah, I think in general we usually know what kind of person we’re corresponding with but you just never truly know 😅 Just kidding! ❤️

      Reply
      1. Baydreamer - Lauren Scott Avatar
        Baydreamer – Lauren Scott

        😂😂

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  31. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    So true. Some people are wonderful, but it is just not meant to be. It is so much better not getting into a unsuitable relationship. Women of past generations had to jump into a (good or bad) relationship no matter what. However nowadays women don’t have to do that.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      So true. I think a lot of women settled back in the day but now we have the ability to be on our own and not need to be in toxic relationships. I was reading something recently that said single and childfree women are the happiest and honestly that makes sense lol.

      Reply
  32. Belladonna Avatar
    Belladonna

    Not us being serial killers! LOLOLOL
    You are probably right about a few folks though (slowly moving away from my window and locking doors)

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol yes, keep those doors locked!

      Reply
      1. Belladonna Avatar
        Belladonna

        Right! LOLOLOL

        Reply
  33. R Carter Avatar
    R Carter

    Thanks pooja for sharing this powerful poem, brings back some memories

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      My pleasure, glad you liked it.

      Reply
  34. dustyreviewer Avatar
    dustyreviewer

    Anytime I ever start feeling regret over a bad relationship, I eventually game out what I might do differently if I could time travel. I inevitably end up deciding that I’m probably better off where I am, with my current experiences, and current knowledge. Then I think of that “Bless the Broken Road” song and I start over because I hate that song.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha, it’s a bit of a toxic cycle but personally I’m finally at a place where I’m at peace with my ex’s. I’m trying to do this new thing where if I can’t do anything about it I let it go.

      Reply
      1. dustyreviewer Avatar
        dustyreviewer

        That’s a very wise thing for which to aspire.

        Reply

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