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What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

This is today’s WordPress prompt and I don’t generally answer those but I felt like I was going to talk about red flags on another post anyway. So may as well. To be fair, I was going to talk about my own red flags not the red flags of others but whatever. Close enough lol. So, I think these are the main personality traits in others that raises a red flag with me:

  1. People who are cruel to animals. This instantly tells me everything I need to know about them.
  2. When people are unnecessarily rude to others. Especially to staff that are just doing their job. I’ve seen so many people be rude to servers etc when there’s no reason to do so. 
  3. When people are constantly selfish but expect everyone else to be selfless. 
  4. When people are negative all the time. I’m not an optimist but I try my best to be positive as much as possible. And when people constantly just point out negative stuff it’s annoying and says a lot about them.
  5. When people hate things just because they don’t understand them or because they’re different than the norm. 
  6. When people speak the loudest but never listen. This is a huge red flag for me. Intelligent and good people take the time to listen to others and understand their pov. 
  7. People who feel like they need to one up everyone else. We all know these people. You tell them you got a necklace on sale and they tell you they got ten for free.
  8. People who like carrots. Not a personality trait, just a huge red flag in general… #carrotssuck (kidding!)

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181 responses to “Red Flags In People”

  1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
    Daily Interesting Blogs

    Excellent post, Pooja! You covered all the main topics😊🥰👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! 😊🥰

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      1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
        Daily Interesting Blogs

        My pleasure, Pooja😊🥰🙏🙏🙏🙏

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  2. Robert F. Mullen, Ph.D. Avatar
    Robert F. Mullen, Ph.D.

    Great post, Pooja, and a well thought out list (carrots?).

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Lol yeah, I just really hate carrots.

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  3. SiriusSea Avatar
    SiriusSea

    Carrots …. hahahaha <3

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol, they’re just so gross I can’t 😅

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      1. Maryanne Avatar
        Maryanne

        Heh, you’re like my husband in a few ways, sleeping late and now the anti-carrots! LOL! 🙂
        It’s funny though, when I send him out for carrots, he’ll get the loose ones with the greens on top and is so proud of himself for getting me the “Bugs Bunny carrots.”

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Lol, those are the type of carrots I like because they remind me of cartoon carrots! I still don’t like the taste but they look cute haha.

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  4. Layla Todd Avatar
    Layla Todd

    Loving this post, Pooja! You hit on so many important things to notice in a person that are also a no for me. Love that you added in that last one to lighten things up a little too! <3

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed that!

      Reply
  5. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    I was in top administration for most of my working years and you can usually sum up a person on their first meeting with you but it pays to hold back first impressions until you’ve had a chance to observe them in action and listen to their philosophy of life before making a final judgment.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That makes a lot of sense, not everyone makes a good first impression but some people are really great once you get to know them.

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  6. jeannettehaupt Avatar
    jeannettehaupt

    Canceling plans

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, especially when they do it continuously and last minute.

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    2. Maryanne Avatar
      Maryanne

      I don’t mind that because life happens, but if it’s at the very last minute and the plans were something expensive, like front row concert tickets, so not cool.

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  7. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    Number 3 is my pet peeve, I know so many folks who just expect you to be this absolutely altruistic angel, giving and forgiving all the time, I am not a fan of those, big time, I mean big red flag.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yup, that’s a huge red flag. It’s okay to expect something but you can’t always expect things and never give.

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      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        I agree, I learned to see them recently.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Me too, and now I notice them a lot more.

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          1. Milena Alien Avatar
            Milena Alien

            Ha-ha, exactly

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  8. Warren Avatar
    Warren

    oh yes……….

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Glad you agree haha…

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  9. dumbestblogger Avatar
    dumbestblogger

    I like carrots.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Huge red flag right there…

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      1. dumbestblogger Avatar
        dumbestblogger

        I thought it was only fair that you knew.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I will be avoiding you as I do carrots from here on.

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          1. dumbestblogger Avatar
            dumbestblogger

            Fair.

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  10. LakshmiPriya Avatar
    LakshmiPriya

    Well written Pooja ♥️ totally agree with the 5th and 6th points 👍🏼

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much ❤️

      Reply
  11. Hilary Tan Avatar
    Hilary Tan

    100% agree with your list except the last post. Don’t be hatin’ on Rebecca Rabbit for liking carrots 🥕😂 (A Peppa Pig reference)

    P.S I hate 1-uppers more than you do. I hate them 10x more than you. And if you hate them 11x more than I do then obviously I hate them 12x more! .-. These people are what I like to call the 1-UP mushrooms 🍄 The kind of mushroom that Mario eats and grows really big, like how a person’s ego is inflated.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol I love Peppa Pig! Still hate carrots though 😜

      I know how out feel, one uppers are the worst, I can’t stand being around them at all 😡

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      1. Maryanne Avatar
        Maryanne

        I don’t know if this counts as a “one upper” but what if someone tries too hard to be like you? That’s a red flag too.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          True, that’s a big red flag. That’s happened to me before and it’s never turned out okay.

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          1. Maryanne Avatar
            Maryanne

            It’s scary because they put you on a pedestal only to knock you down. In both instances I thought I had a friend for life because they “love bomb” you with compliments, then they go for the kill. And I never understood what I did to trigger that. My husband kept reminding me, “You did nothing.” (One drank too much, and the other was just a very disturbed individual who put so many people down; she thrived on hurting others actually).

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Yeah, “love bombing” is quite common especially for narcissists and it’s a method of control. Unfortunately, when we’re not aware of that we can take it as someone being kind or admiring you. It’s really not you, it’s just the way they are. Nothing you did right or wrong. But it can be traumatising to experience such a thing.

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  12. singlikewildflowers Avatar
    singlikewildflowers

    Totally agree on all your points! It’s so helpful to be aware of red flags, because it can save you a lot of trouble and heartache.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! I so agree, with someone people you just know they’re no good and it’s best to stay away from them.

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  13. mycreatorscreation Avatar
    mycreatorscreation

    I also agree with your points Pooja. I like the one where you said you got a necklace for sale and they say they got 10 for free. So funny, they are people like this all over the world. Though we all do have personality traits, I do believe that some people do have them worse than others.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, there are one uppers everywhere and it’s best to avoid them. Some people definitely have more negative traits even though we all tend to have a few.

      Reply
  14. John Avatar
    John

    I agree with all of your traits, Pooja, but not about carrots. Soft, seasoned carrots in a pot roast, or carrot cake. Mmmm 😂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Nooo, carrots don’t belong in cake 😅🥕

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      1. John Avatar
        John

        Have you tried carrot cake?

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I have but I hated it 😩

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          1. John Avatar
            John

            Oh, I’m sorry, Pooja. Didn’t mean to rile you up.

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Oh no, that’s fine, I rarely get riled up these days 🤭

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              1. John Avatar
                John

                Good. 😂❤️❤️❤️❤️

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                1. Pooja G Avatar
                  Pooja G

                  ❤️❤️

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  15. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    Pooja… the last one made me read over 🤣

    all these points are valid to raise that flag… the carrot one is questionable 😋

    great share🤍

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha I’m just a carrot hater 🥕🤭

      Thanks so much 😊

      Reply
  16. bacchorpererro Avatar
    bacchorpererro

    All of the above, though not sure about the carrot one!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      The carrot one is huge red flag for me lol jk!

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  17. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    I agree with everything
    Except carrot one

    I love carrots
    Gajar ka halwa, gajar ka juice 🥕🥕
    Gajar ki sabji 😁 🥕

    My red flag is how people treat women
    Especially their wives. Like if they are in public, and if they are not allowing her to speak or they are showing dominance, that’s a red flag.

    Smoking and drinking, I’m against that and I don’t like people who smoke, drink.

    People who break rules, like for instance they are driving on the wrong side. That clearly means they don’t care for rules, time and safety of others. Also like I hate clowns who do circus on roads, just to show themselves manly. Poor fools, don’t know what real man is 😂

    People who waste water, or litter or spit or throw trash on red are another red flags according to me. That shows they don’t respect the earth, environment and nature in general.

    You’ve also pointed out how people don’t let speak, that’s a red flag too. I mean, that shows they want to prove themselves right always and you cannot reason with them.

    The burn you caused with dislike for carrots is deep. I may need carrot ointment for the wounds.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s a huge red flag, carrots are awful and gross 😜

      I don’t care about drinking and smoking unless it’s excessive but agree very much with the rest. Men who need to be aggressive or treat people/women badly just show the world how insecure they are. And those aren’t men, those are little boys because real men show kindness towards everyone 😀

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      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        Gajar k achaar!!

        I forgot to mention

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          To be fair, everything tastes good as achar so I can’t complain about carrot achar 😅

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          1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
            DEVANG UPADHYAYA

            My mother make
            Gajar + shaljam ( turnip) + gobi (cauliflower) achar

            Then
            We have gajar in one more thing, I wonder how to describe it
            It’s mustard water with carrots and potato.

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Very interesting, I’ve never had that but it sounds very healthy. My mum makes the achar with green beans, carrots and mirch.

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              1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                Then eat that aachar and stay happy 🙂

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                1. Pooja G Avatar
                  Pooja G

                  I need it in juice or smoothie form 😩

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                  1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                    😅

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  18. muktaverma Avatar
    muktaverma

    Cruelty towards animals and unwarranted rudeness are, unfortunately, becoming all too common. The red flags you’ve highlighted are not just simple observations but a deeper reflection of the values and morals that underpin our society.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You’re so right, we see this more and more in these days which is so sad. Thanks so much.

      Reply
  19. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    Greta post… I think the red flags that send me running, are numbers 3-4. Selfish people naturally suck the life out of me, because I’m a giver. And negative people just drive me up a wall..I try to keep my mental space healthy..one has enough darkness of their own to deal with. 😂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Same here, I’m a giver and have had people take advantage of that before. It sucks so now I have to avoid them. Lol true 🥲

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      1. byngnigel Avatar
        byngnigel

        Keep avoiding them. I do try to set boundaries now.. but I find it difficult. 🙏

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, it’s not easy for people who are naturally givers.

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  20. Poet of the Light Avatar
    Poet of the Light

    First, I find the invasive prompts merely an AI program being used to profile us users and sell our information off to others and therefore I ignore them all together and wisely follow my own internalized prompts. Since WordPress’s addition of prompts, I’m often solicited by publishers, but I ignore as well.

    That being said, for me, there are a multitude of scenarios daily where red flags jump out all the time… now, that I’m authentic and much more self aware. In my younger years, I was very dismissive and deaf of those nuance that spoke volumes. Today, I pretty much let other people set the precedence of my relationship value and with them. I always note those they speak the worst of an absent party may well be speaking about me in another conversation I wasn’t invited to. I trust in what people do more that what they claim they’ve done or do.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m pretty sure most prompts and AI related stuff is stealing our information, content, human mannerisms etc. It’s pretty creepy. That being said, I don’t mind them learning my red flags lol.

      I really like that you mentioned that those that speak ill of others when they aren’t around will do the same about you because you’re so right. I’ve seen that gossips only speak negatively about others and when you’re out of earshot they will do the same for you.

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      1. Poet of the Light Avatar
        Poet of the Light

        True character can be masked but people often reveal themselves whenever they feel overly confident and comfortable.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Absolutely, that’s often when you see the real them.

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  21. Saji Varghese Avatar
    Saji Varghese

    Exactly 💯

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much 🙏

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  22. O.D. Avatar
    O.D.

    Lol! I looove carrots Pooja.

    I think my main red flag is lying. And I know everyone lies, but here’s the thing. People can sometimes tell you they lied to their boss about something or they lied to their brother or sister to get what they want. That is super concerning on so many levels. If they’ve grown comfortable enough to boast about lying then whoever is being told is next on the chopping block.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol nooo carrots are gross… jk!

      That makes sense, we all lie but some people get pleasure out of it and do it constantly.

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  23. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    My biggest red flag is racism. Then it’s bigotry, nationalism, facism, patriotism and Trumpism. They all go together.
    I’m an internationalist. One world.
    I’m an environmentalist so thoughtlessness towards nature is a big one.
    Then it’s religion. I see it as another power structure and controlling institution. The worst invention we ever invented.The sooner we jettison that the better.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s fair, we all have our preferences.

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  24. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    I like carrots 🥕😂
    But I agree with the rest of your list completely. 👍🏼

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha thanks 😅

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        😄😄😄

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  25. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    instinct

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s fair lol

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      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        as we learned from scotty, the ship felt wrong

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  26. Maryanne Avatar
    Maryanne

    I LOVE THIS! And thank you for putting animals on the top of the list. I love you for that!
    I’m a carrot person, so don’t hold that against me, ha-ha! 😉

    Re #6 is the hardest one for me. I don’t like being “talked at” and have no patience with those types of people. I am working on it though. I truly believe we can help people evolve in a positive way. Sometimes they actually “listen.” It worked a few times for me, winning over the babblers and encouraging them to be good listeners. 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks! I feel like people not liking animals or worse being mean to them is a huge red flag.
      Haha that’s fair, I know most people love carrots I just can’t no matter how much I try 😫

      It’s worth trying. From my experience I try to talk to people who don’t really listen. Sometimes they listen and sometimes they don’t. If they don’t I just let it go and if they do that’s great 🙂

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  27. Stefanie Neumann Avatar
    Stefanie Neumann

    I agree with you on the first seven points, Pooja.
    Also, I admire you for taking on the prompt. When I read it, I was put off, right away – possibly, because I have seen too many of those red flags in people in the recent past.

    We need to talk about carrots, though, because I like them and won’t have it to be judged about it! *lol*

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yeah, I had a lot more but shared the first few that came to mind. It’s sad that so many people have such deal breaking red flags.

      Lol, nooo carrots are absolutely disgusting!

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      1. Stefanie Neumann Avatar
        Stefanie Neumann

        You can dislike carrots as much as you want, I’m still not going to unfollow you. (I’m also not going to make you eat them; more for me – win-win!)

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Haha, it’s a perfect win for us both!

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  28. Maryanne Avatar
    Maryanne

    Okay, here’s another big red flag — Women who put themselves down. (Because it’s only a matter of time before they will put you down too!) Self depreciation is very close to jealousy. When women start pointing out their own flaws, it’s because they lack confidence. They don’t appreciate who they are and want better. This is very unhealthy. And because they don’t like how they look, they will look for flaws in YOU — sad to say!
    URGH! I hate that!!! (I once went to a concert with a girl who out of the blue started making fun of another girl. After the show, I made a vow to never hang out with that girl again. And I stuck to it!)
    We’re all beautiful in our own ways and it’s important to recognize that. I’m not saying you can’t enhance yourself by exercise or make up or hair or clothes — but rather appreciate that you are special and unique.
    That is why I LOVED when you wrote that you are grateful for your ass. I said to myself, “Now here is a woman who is confident; and someone I could be friends with in real life (if we didn’t live an ocean apart!!)”
    Women who are confident make the BEST friends! They are the ones who lift others up. They are the thinkers. They are positive. They give other women the most compliments.
    Confidence is the number one good quality of a friend. Anti-confidence is a major red flag. Avoid these types in order to not get hurt because they will blindside you during your vulnerable moments.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s what I meant by the negative thing and I agree it’s a huge red flag! All they see is flaws and they pull you down with them. In general, I think it’s important to surround yourself with positive people and not negative ones because our company affects us too.
      I’m forever grateful for my ass lol! And yeah, confident people make the best friends and I love confident women because they pull you up and make you feel better about yourself. Confidence is contagious but so is anti-confidence.

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  29. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    I can relate to all of these, especially #7. I’ve known way too many of these types. Also, those that criticize other to make themselves look good. Ugh.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, that’s a big one too. If you have to make others feel bad to make yourself feel better you need to take a good hard look at why that is.

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      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        You’re welcome, Pooja.

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  30. a-cute-weirdo Avatar
    a-cute-weirdo

    This carrot thing is the first we’ll disagree on😂

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    1. a-cute-weirdo Avatar
      a-cute-weirdo

      #CarrotsRule

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      1. Pooja G Avatar
        Pooja G

        #carrotsstillsuck

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      It’s the hill I’m willing to die on 😅

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      1. a-cute-weirdo Avatar
        a-cute-weirdo

        😂😂

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  31. judeitakali Avatar
    judeitakali

    I definitely do not agree with the carrots bit. We may come to blows on that one😂. But yeah, I agree with pretty much all your list.
    I used to skirt negative people, but there is almost always quite the baggage behind that negativity. I’m more accommodating to their negativity now, but I do love to keep my positive peeps as close as can get to balance it out.🪷🖐🏾

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      The carrots one is a hill I’m willing to die on 😅
      I think that’s a good balance. Protect your own positivity too.

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  32. tianiangelahibbert Avatar
    tianiangelahibbert

    I completely agree with these traits, oddly enough I’m seeing them more and more and great way to use the prompt!

    PS. Omg the carrots threw me off and I burst out laughing 😹

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Me too, that’s so odd. Like I see so many more red flags now and I don’t know if it’s because I’m more aware now or because people suck more now lol 😅
      Haha, my hate for carrots seeps into all aspects of my life 😜

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  33. Mark Edward Jabbour Avatar
    Mark Edward Jabbour

    Closed-mindedness and dishonesty. Passive aggressive, too. A big turn=off.

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    1. Maryanne Avatar
      Maryanne

      Bingo on all three! 100 percent agree.

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yup, agree with all of those.

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  34. iambrotherlove Avatar
    iambrotherlove

    agreed, although i neither like or hate carrots haha. But I can relate to number two, the rude people i did encounter in a previous job, or got snappy when I couldnt give them what they wanted, they probably forgot that im just the employee.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, people forget that employees are just doing their job and don’t have all the answers or solutions. It sucks when people treat people badly especially in service jobs.

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      1. iambrotherlove Avatar
        iambrotherlove

        very true, just gotta do the best to handle the situation in the moment

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Exactly, that’s the best way to handle it.

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  35. Avatar
    Anonymous

    I agree, except for the carrots – I love carrots! How to cook soup or stew without good carrots?!!! The one I would add is anyone who is possessive. That’s a huge red flag for me, since it indicates someone who is probably also abusive. Scary stuff! I also don’t like people who are gross just for the sake of being gross, ie talking about inappropriate subjects. Well, no thank you! Have some respect for me and for yourself!

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    1. Rita Avatar
      Rita

      Ok. That was from me. I’m not sure why it didn’t show my name!

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      1. Pooja G Avatar
        Pooja G

        I assumed it was you just by the comment and I was right haha!

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You add other veggies in, pumpkins are a good replacement!
      True, a lot of abusive relationships start with one partner being possessive and it escalates from there.
      Yeah, people being gross makes me cringe!

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  36. clcouch123 Avatar
    clcouch123

    I think it’s a cogent list. I mean, people who are negative all the time–anymore, I can’t take the push against my own quantity of energy. But, shucks, I’m sorry: I like carrots.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Haha nope, carrots are awful and nothing can convince me otherwise.

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  37. ren Avatar
    ren

    LOVE your list pooja! with the exception of the carrots. 🙂 <3

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha thanks, nooo carrots are awful! 😅

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  38. Avatar
    Anonymous

    Number 4 rang a chord with me, only because I have been that negative person. Most, not all, of these personality traits do not come out of thin air. There is always a reason that people are the way they are. In my case, I grew up with a parent that suffered from severe depression and bipolar mood swings. There was negativity abound in my home.
    This is a tough nut to crack because many people who have this tendency do not have many friends, are lonely and isolated and this only feeds the negativity. It is rare that anyone in your life is going to sit down with you and explain that this negativity is pushing people away and so many just move through their lives alone and bitter, without a clue that their outlook IS the problem.
    If you are lucky enough to have this insight, it is another matter to turn it around. Positive feedback from others is rare since your life to date has been lacking in any real human contact. It’s easy to just slide back down into despair. It’s been over 30 years since I had my epiphany and I still fight these demons every day.
    Carrots are OK as long as they are not overcooked. 😀

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You’re right, a lot of these are a result of the environment you grew up in. Or as a result of trauma of some sort. I was once the negative person too and I’ve tried so hard to change. That’s one of the reasons I avoid overly negative people because I don’t want to slide back to being that way and lose all the progress I’ve made.
      Lol, it’s a total no for me with carrots 😅

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  39. Mark Roberts Avatar
    Mark Roberts

    Hi Pooja: I have just posted a reply to this but for some reason, it is identifying me as “Anonymous”. I was signed in to WP when I sent the reply. Anyway, mine was the comment about Number 4.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks for letting me know, not sure why that’s happening sorry about that.

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  40. Gertrude_n Avatar
    Gertrude_n

    Yes I agree with those red flags and 3 & 6 easy to bump into in real life.

    My red flags are;
    1. People who take advantage of people younger than them.

    2. People who care mostly about how they feel but never even consider how they make other people feel.

    3. People who are not willing to make themselves better in any area of their lives.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I agree with yours too. So many people take advantage of those younger than them. And many dismiss other peoples feelings.

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      1. Gertrude_n Avatar
        Gertrude_n

        You are welcome and thank you.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          You’re very welcome.

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  41. Steve Avatar
    Steve

    I think you covered my main ones, though I like carrot people. 😂 I’d add people who drive aggressively, especially when they’re around cyclists or other vulnerable road users.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol nooo why is everyone suddenly a carrot fan 😂
      So true, some people drive so carelessly and aggressively. They could seriously hurt someone.

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      1. Steve Avatar
        Steve

        Carrots FTW! 😂
        Yes, very true. 🤬

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  42. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    Those are all red flags for sure and I have one word for those people.

    ……….. NEXT❣️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Exactly, thank you next!

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  43. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    You’re right to question people who are cruel to animals, most turn out to be homicidal maniacs 🤣.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      For sure, I hear a lot of serial killers start out like that 😳

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  44. CurvyElvie Avatar
    CurvyElvie

    Hey you got it all covered for me and some I didn’t even think about.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks, I guess we see eye to eye on this.

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  45. MsSummers2U Avatar
    MsSummers2U

    I was 100% on board until the last one lol I love carrots! 😂 enjoyed the read

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol nooo, carrots are awful 😅

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  46. Celerbrate Recovery Avatar
    Celerbrate Recovery

    Denial

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, a lot of people have that one.

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  47. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    As long as you don’t abuse, torture or are mean to carrots I can still follow you. Have you tried this recipe for carrots? https://www.theflavorbender.com/easy-carrot-curry-recipe-sri-lankan/

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’ll try it but can’t promise I’ll like it lol.

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  48. Rochelle | Adventuresfromelle Avatar
    Rochelle | Adventuresfromelle

    I agree with all of these, minus #8 😆

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha to each their own 😅

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  49. Ranjana Avatar
    Ranjana

    There could be a number of reasons people are rude to others. Some inherit it from their parents, others are insecure. For me the biggest red flag is how the person talks behind their back. Some people wear masks of goodness but their actions sooner or later reveal their true selves.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, a lot of people learn it from their parents or have old traumas. True, what someone says when you’re not around shows their true colours.

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  50. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
    Vanya Wryter Consulting

    I like carrots. But I agree with the rest.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. To each their own haha.

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  51. Happy Panda Avatar
    Happy Panda

    I love carrots 🥺
    Agree with the rest of your list! I hate when people only want to talk and not listen. I went on a trip with such a friend and I went crazy in 3 days. She spoke 98% of the time we talked and it was so frustrating cause she would just cut me short when I tried to talk.
    Red flags –
    1. People who don’t own up to their patterns/behaviours.
    2. People who play the victim/martyr card all the damn time.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Nooo, carrots are gross 😅
      Thanks! I so agree, some people just make everything about themselves and it’s exhausting. I’ve had a friend like that too but glad she’s no longer in my life.
      Agree with both of those.

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  52. msafriyie Avatar
    msafriyie

    OMG! I love carrots lol

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Nooo, why they’re so bad haha

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  53. Geoff Stamper Avatar
    Geoff Stamper

    Cruelty to animals, rudeness, and negativity were great choices. Name droppers and place droppers bug me.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks and that one bugs me too.

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  55. Feets Avatar
    Feets

    I don’t think you missed any, these are my opinions:

    People that claim to be health nuts and pro mental health or whatever but only for their own gain. They’re constantly judgmental and annoying.

    People who are anticulture and anti religion because those hurt people, especially marginalized identities, but support things that hurt people.

    People that act like a certain level of awareness and activism isn’t enough and to be a real activist or do something is to go march outside or go in congress.

    Anti Americans that are American that are too depressed and disillusionistic to do ANYTHING, even talk, about things that affect them.

    People telling me not to judge people for what they’re like and who they are but trash talk people and say “that’s in human nature to talk crap/or whatever they say.” If it’s not a real problem, there’s no reason to talk about it.

    People that constantly talk about their personality in person like they’re a character list and try to tell me how they’re like instead letting me observe them.

    People that act like all countries expect people to change their language and culture and assimilate and that’s not just the US…

    Last red flag:

    People that only listen to handsome and pretty people for everything and expect people to automatically be nice to them and cool to them and help them improve in life. Also, the people that vote for a president or similar because and think if they vote for particular people then they’d automatically get their privilege and riches… shame…

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yup, nodding along to all of these. A lot of “health” influencers are like the first one you described and they’re unbearable. They know nothing about real health, claim they’re experts and just try to push their sponsored products on their followers.

      I’ve met some activists like the ones you described too. If you don’t agree with them on every single thing and participate in every single thing they shun you and act like you’re the problem. Different types of activism exists and people have their limitations.

      That last one makes me so mad. Especially when people support their favourite famous people just because they’re good looking. Like they can be the worst people doing the worst stuff and people will still stan them which is so annoying.

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  56. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    For me, it is those people who are too sweet, dominating and arrogant and who treat people below them badly.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, those are a big red flag. We all know people like that.

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  57. The Wheelchair Teen Avatar
    The Wheelchair Teen

    HARD AGREE with the selfish one. I’d also add people who are racist, sexist, homophobic, or transphobic. Unfortunately I can’t add ableist to the list because almost everyone is due to ignorance so I can’t really blame them for that since they probably don’t know better.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, those are definitely huge red flags. It’s true, most people are ableist without realising it. I wish we had more resources to combat that and to teach people about ableism.

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      1. The Wheelchair Teen Avatar
        The Wheelchair Teen

        ME TOO. I’ve tried to reach out to numerous places like school educators, the news, and newspapers to try and do just that but ableism just doesn’t seem to be something people care as much about trying to educate people about to help it stop.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          That’s so sad. Educating students when they’re young about ableism would helps so much.

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  58. LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙 Avatar
    LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙

    💯

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  59. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    I think my biggest flag is that I was brought up in a narcissistic family. So the kind of people that I feel familiar with can also be narcissistic. So I am very cautious. Whenever I feel that I have detected many familiar traits, like self aggrandizing, love bombing etc., I feel that I may need more time to check out the person. Of course many normal people can say boastful things or love bomb a person. Normal people make mistakes too and can behave like narcissists. So it is an interesting thing I have to engage in whenever I meet people. LOL.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      It’s so true that when you grow up in an unstable environment such as with narcissists you look for that when you grow up too. That’s why people who grew up with abusive parents are much more likely to be in abusive relationships. I think the main difference between actual narcissists and normal people with some narcissistic traits is that real narcissists don’t feel empathy or understand that what they’re doing is wrong.

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  60. haoyando Avatar
    haoyando

    I mean normal people can behave like a narcissist from time to time and even normal people can be a little narcissistic.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      True, a lot of people have some narcissistic traits even if they aren’t full narcissists.

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  61. Belladonna Avatar
    Belladonna

    This is a good lis! Selfish people are a huge red flag for me.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks! Agreed, they’re a huge red flag.

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  62. girlintheemeraldscarf Avatar
    girlintheemeraldscarf

    i completely agree with all those red flags. Super cool post!!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

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  63. Samuel Marchand Avatar
    Samuel Marchand

    Well, I think those are all red flags (except for liking carrots lol). I will add 2. 1 is people who tend to quickly leap to conclusions or assume things are a certain way based on very limmited information or because that is “the way it’s supposed to be” without actually knowing what they are talking about. Basically people who can’t admit what they are unsure of or that there is always some uncertainty in life.

    Another red flag (so number 2) is people who frequently use logical fallacies in language or are otherwise often manipulative, -even when seemingly otherwise fair minded and caring people. I am very independent minded but I also value humility as I try to be these things too, not always successfully mind you and that’s why ocasionally doing these last two things isn’t a red flag to me, but doing them regularly is. Your carrot red flag had me laughing out loud btw!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Very much agree with both things you mentioned especially that first one because I’ve met so many people like that who just jump to conclusions with little to no information. And it’s so frustrating talking to them.

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  64. Reaseaorg Avatar
    Reaseaorg

    I don’t mind the odd carrot shock horror but with you on a lot of these

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha thanks.

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      1. Reaseaorg Avatar
        Reaseaorg

        Welcome 🙂

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  65. maycol Avatar
    maycol

    Every man can be, if he wants to, the sculptor of his own brain.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, absolutely.

      Reply
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