Last week, I had a very illuminating therapy session which I thought I would share here. I came to an epiphany that maybe some of you have already reached but for me it was super eye opening. It had to do with expectations and how expectations can warp reality.
For the longest time, I judged others based on myself. Because I had no ill will towards them, no jealousy towards them, had empathy towards them, I expected them to be the exact same way toward me. But when someone constantly lets you down, shows a concerning lack of empathy towards others, is never happy about your success or achievements, it’s important to accept them as they are.
And I don’t mean be rude to them or anything. Just don’t expect them to be good people when their actions have shown you that they aren’t.
Being able to put this into practice has helped save me from a lot of heartache because I’m not longer ruminating, wondering why they’re behaving so badly towards me or those I love. Now, I understand that’s how they are and don’t expect any different.
And I’m not saying I’m perfect, I’m not. But at least I try to be a decent person. Some people don’t. And it sucks to accept that but that’s the only way we can stop hurting ourselves through our own expectations.
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