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Today, I decided to share a different type of post. I used to write posts like this one a lot back in the day. And recently I’ve been editing older posts which helped inspire this one. So, today I’ll be sharing some advice to my younger self that I wish someone had told me then. If you’re younger than me (a teenager or young adult) I hope this advice helps.

Stop Caring So Much

When you’re young, every tiny thing feels like the end of the world. But it’s not. Life goes on no matter how badly you mess up. And I know you like to stare at yourself in the mirror hyper fixated on your flaws. This may be shocking to you, but that’s not healthy. It’s messing up your mental health. Stop fixating so much on your flaws. You’re beautiful but not perfect and that’s okay. No one is perfect and chasing perfection is an absolute waste of your time.

Love Yourself More

I know you really don’t like yourself right now and that’s not okay. You need to stop being so hard on yourself. And love yourself. There’s only one you and you have so many awesome things to offer the world. And please, get help for the depression and anxiety. You’ll feel SO much better when you do.

Everyone Struggles

Literally everyone struggles and no ones life is perfect. I know you may feel like you have really bad sometimes and that’s fine but you’re not alone. Every single person has ups and downs. Those struggles make us stronger and teach us to be better people.

Conclusion

That was pretty much the advice I would give to my younger self. Sometimes I miss being a teenager. Being an adult is tough in some ways and I miss being all to spend all day with friends and not having to worry about the future.

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109 responses to “Advice To My Younger Self”

  1. Poet of the Light Avatar
    Poet of the Light

    I fear I’d have to plead the fifth if I gave my younger self advice today. 😀

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol 😅

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  2. Silent Knight Avatar
    Silent Knight

    Ah, the teenage symphony of overconfidence, pride, and stubbornness playing in full blast during the wild concert of adeloscense! It’s like a chaotic orchestra where the instruments are hormonal changes, and the conductor is a mix of teenage swagger and questionable decisions. Amidst the tumultuous serenade of growth spurts and mind acrobatics, here I am, the seventeen-year-old maestro doling out advice like I’m the wise sage of the playground. Who knew that navigating the rollercoaster of adolescence would turn me into the neighborhood philosopher? Cue the confetti of mixed emotions and let the teenage wisdom flow! 🎉😄

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      With everything happening when you’re a teenager, being a philosopher isn’t bad at all. If anything you’re more ahead than a lot of us are at that age. I mean, I was just a silly kid making bad decisions.

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      1. Silent Knight Avatar
        Silent Knight

        Being ahead in my teens wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be – traded the usual teenage shenanigans for a date with textbooks. All about acing exams, I thought that was the key to happiness. Fast forward to acing the CET, and now I’m the champ at adulting, but the carefree teen vibe? Lost in translation. Seventeen and feeling like I missed the memo on typical teenage fun. Studying was my jam, but now, fitting into the teenage scene feels like searching for a missing puzzle piece. Hormones kick in, and suddenly, I wish I could grow up quick and join the adult fun squad and enjoy what they do😏😚.Life, you sly trickster! 😏

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, I guess that’s the price you pay. In a way, I can relate. Even though I did enjoy my teens I wish I had done more stuff and had some more fun. Still, life can be enjoyed when you get older too. You just need to be open to it 😊

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  3. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    Ahhh well!

    There are lots of things I would like to tell that stupid boy. I wonder if he would listen.

    > make real friends, friends who are sensible and honest.
    Don’t invest in people who are teaching you wrong stuff or are not a good company.

    > invest in health.
    I wonder what if I had started working out at the age of 15. I would have been more capable, I would have been more active and I might not been bullied 😝

    > respect women dammit.
    Wrong company, teaches you wrong things. But again, everyone was same then and no proper guidance from a mentor.
    Make female friends, you will learn a lot about yourself and life.

    I remember year 2018, I made several female friends and that changed my perspective. Made me more respectful. Made me empathetic about women problems and stuff.
    Now, I’m more comfortable in talking to women than with men. I have some good female friends.

    > start blogging, as PooG has already started it and looks like she’s not stopping.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      These are great pieces of advice. And it’s never too late to learn to respect women. Even if that’s something you picked up later on in life at least you picked it up. A lot of people go their whole lives never learning how to respect a woman.

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      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        It’s not like younger Devang was disrespectful to women or anything. I mean he wasn’t any creep or stalker 😝

        But with time I became more respectful and polite in general. More thoughtful.
        I’m thoughtful with few men as well, but otherwise I can be rude to men 🙈

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, I get what you mean. You understood women better as you got older. And became more polite. Lol, same I’m rude to men sometimes but only when they’re rude to me first 😅

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          1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
            DEVANG UPADHYAYA

            I’m rude with 80% of the men.
            If they talk to me very nicely, I’ll be friendly 😉😜

            My red flag. I’m rude at first.

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              Sounds like a green flag to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

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              1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                Haha why? You are a woman that’s why? Or you are same that’s why?

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                1. Pooja G Avatar
                  Pooja G

                  Because I’m a woman and also a bit of an asshole 😅

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                  1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                    You made sure your circle is limited, and that’s the best thing.
                    Don’t want too many people in life
                    Sometimes its headache giving.

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                    1. Pooja G Avatar
                      Pooja G

                      Exactly, a smaller circle is easier,

        2. Silent Knight Avatar
          Silent Knight

          Hey there, reflecting on your teenage years can bring up a mix of emotions, but consider this – those experiences, both good and challenging, have been your teachers. Now that you’re navigating adulthood, every decision carries weight and consequences. The mistakes of the past have become valuable lessons, guiding you towards making informed choices. Embrace the wisdom gained from your teenage journey; it’s the foundation that shapes your path forward. 🌟

          cheers to being a wiser, cooler version of yourself! 🚀✨

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          1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
            DEVANG UPADHYAYA

            Thank you so much 🙏🏻😊

            Reply
  4. Don't Lose Hope Avatar
    Don’t Lose Hope

    Everyone struggles … and that never changes!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Exactly, we all have our struggles!

      Reply
  5. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    I like your advice Pooja! But unfortunately these are the things we realize as we grow and experience life.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! Yes, these lessons are learnt through years of experience so even if we need them when we’re younger we don’t pick them up till later in life.

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        Exactly so. They say that youth is wasted on the young.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          That’s so true. I sometimes wish I could be a teenager again knowing what I know now, it would be a much better experience.

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          1. Sadje Avatar
            Sadje

            Oh yes indeed it would be 😍👍🏼

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  6. Bookstooge Avatar
    Bookstooge

    Yeah, I doubt my old self would have listened to me now. I’d have looked at the future me and thought “How in the world did I end up there?!?” and promptly done the opposite of whatever I would have told me because obviously I don’t want to end up like me.
    Holy toledo, that was confusing to write, hahahahaa.

    In (teensy bit) more serious vein, I’d have told my younger self to never start drinking energy drinks, not even when I needed them for working security overnights. Trying to quit caffeine is way harder than I ever imagined.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Honestly, same. I think teenage me would hate the adult me lol.

      I understand the struggle. I went from drinking coffee daily to cutting out caffeine completely. It was one of the hardest things I did. I felt like crap for weeks.

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  7. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    wonderful advice, Pooja… I think we all wish there was someone who had told us many things growing up….would we have listened or understood… another thing 😬
    Realization and advice as such must come from oneself, I think…as you have done so here…
    again, a lovely share. ✨🤍✨

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Lol yeah, I don’t think teenage me would have listened or cared. But still, I didn’t turn out so bad so it’s fine 😅 Thanks 😊

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      1. Destiny Avatar
        Destiny

        not bad at all, great actually 😉

        most welcome, Pooja 🤍✨

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Aw thanks 😊

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      2. Silent Knight Avatar
        Silent Knight

        Ah, the wisdom of grownups, right? If my future self dropped by to dole out advice, it’s party time if it’s golden nuggets. But, if Mr. Future-Me starts dishing out unwanted wisdom, well, guess who’s getting a one-way ticket back to adulting? Yep, I’ll pucker up for a smooch and kindly escort him back to his time machine. Who says time travel can’t be cheeky and sassy? 😘🕰️

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Lol, I always same time travel is nothing but sassy and cheeky 😅

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  8. Gertrude_n Avatar
    Gertrude_n

    Your advise to your younger self is so spot on.

    I would tell my younger self to live my life to the fullest because I’ve only got one life to live.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. That’s really good advice to your younger self.

      Reply
  9. Nicole Smith Avatar
    Nicole Smith

    I wish I could tell my younger self some things.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, I think most of us feel that way.

      Reply
  10. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
    Vanya Wryter Consulting

    Great reflections, Pooja. If I could talk to my younger self, I would tell myself to value time. It passes by too quickly.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. That’s a good one and so true. When we’re young we don’t realise just how fast time flies.

      Reply
  11. Jasmine ♡ Avatar
    Jasmine ♡

    I love your advice here! ❤️ Truth be told, I still struggle with some of these today, so it was nice to have a reminder. 💗 I too miss being a teenager sometimes, with less things to worry about lol.

    Some advice I’d give to my younger self would be.. have fun, but still spend your time wisely and don’t neglect the special friendships you have! Be careful of who you allow in your life, have discernment. Don’t get caught up in worldly things and bad habits. 😅 Well my parents did always give me that advice, but still lol. I needed to listen better, in some situations. Now I know, I’ve learned a lot 🥴

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you! Haha same, I miss having that carefree life sometimes 😅

      That’s good advice especially about being careful about who you let in. I had some bad influences as a teenager that I wish I had avoided. True our parents try to warn us but we don’t always listen at that age 😅

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  12. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    What advice I’d give my younger self???…. It’s about to get real, so enjoy these moments.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      So true, once you’re an adult everything changes.

      Reply
  13. Jaye Marie and Anita Dawes Avatar
    Jaye Marie and Anita Dawes

    At the moment, Pooja… I am having some serious talks with myself. Better late than never?

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Absolutely, it’s never to late to have a productive talk with oneself.

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      1. Jaye Marie and Anita Dawes Avatar
        Jaye Marie and Anita Dawes

        I actually found myself listening, which makes a change…

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          True, listening is the most important thing.

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  14. Kevin Avatar
    Kevin

    Question: if the younger you had followed that advice, would you be the same great person you are today? Sometimes you have to make the journey there, to come back.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I understand what you mean, I think going through what I did back then is how this blog came about so I guess it’s not the worst thing that I didn’t follow this advice back then.

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  15. Lokesh dhanure Avatar
    Lokesh dhanure

    Thank you!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      My pleasure.

      Reply
  16. muktaverma Avatar
    muktaverma

    I thoroughly enjoyed your post and thanks for sharing your valuable inputs . As for the advice I’d give my younger self, it would be to not be afraid of making mistakes. They are a part of life and often lead to the most valuable lessons

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. And that’s good advice, we all make mistakes and often learn a lot from them.

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      1. muktaverma Avatar
        muktaverma

        Thanks

        Reply
  17. donnajburkholder Avatar
    donnajburkholder

    This was so good. A great exercise. I have to think a bit about what I’d say. Some of the same things as you did, for sure.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much, that’s fine take your time.

      Reply
  18. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    My advice would be that be independent and financially stable in life as fast as you can because it gives you the freedom to do many things that you can’t do without them otherwise.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s great advice, financial freedom is important.

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  19. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    yeah pooj shake that money maker
    not so much of a risk taker
    ka ching!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That pretty much sums me up lol.

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      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        sum of your parts and soul too Pooja. well done. mix and shake shake shake. i won t tell your sister.

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  20. Samantha Burgett Avatar
    Samantha Burgett

    ohhh I love this post Pooja, and you had very good advice to offer your younger self! (It all applies to me too, especially the one about realizing that everyone else has really hard times too.)

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! I think many of us have similar experiences as a teen so we have similar advice to offer our younger self.

      Reply
  21. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    Wonderful post, Pooja! I feel it is good to look back to our youth but we should realize we’re only human and mistakes are a way of learning. It’s not what we did wrong when we were younger but what we learned from our experiences.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! So true, we make mistakes especially when we’re younger and don’t know better but that’s okay. We grow from those mistakes.

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      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        You’re welcome, Pooja.

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  22. Ib Avatar
    Ib

    I’d tell younger Ib that she is the coolest when she’s being herself and not like “the cool kids”

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s something I would tell myself too. The “cool kids” are rarely actually cool. It’s better to just be yourself.

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  23. clcouch123 Avatar
    clcouch123

    I wish I had had some perspective then. I had none except what obsessively in front of my face. Such words as yours would have been helpful from a mentor or a friend. Or maybe me to me. Time machines, anyone?

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      If only we had time machines or the wisdom we have now that we lacked when we were younger.

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      1. clcouch123 Avatar
        clcouch123

        Yes. Thanks!

        (what [was] obsessively–sorry, English teacher correction, not that I catch them all or actually need to)

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  24. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
    Daily Interesting Blogs

    Your post and point of view are always excellent. I love this post👌👌😊🤗🥰🙏👏👏

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, always appreciate your support 😊🤗

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      1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
        Daily Interesting Blogs

        Most welcome girl😊🤗🥰🤗🙏

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  25. jesusluvsall Avatar
    jesusluvsall

    I would tell my younger self I have an ability for languages so get started earlier

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s a good one, learning languages is even easier when you’re younger.

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  26. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Sounds like wise advice.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much.

      Reply
  27. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    Beware of too-nice people. Charmers are usually fooling people.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Oh absolutely, that’s so true.

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    2. Pennize Pics Avatar
      Pennize Pics

      I guess I would tell my younger self that what happened to me as a child was not right and that it wasn’t my fault. That was not real love and you don’t need to do that again for love. Love is given by caring about a person, not self gratification…. It took me years to realize that.

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      1. Rita Avatar
        Rita

        That would be wonderful!

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      2. Pooja G Avatar
        Pooja G

        I’m sorry you went through that and I’m so glad you’ve realised that now. That’s absolutely not love.

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        1. Pennize Pics Avatar
          Pennize Pics

          Thank you Pooja. Many years of my life was wasted in certain ways but also learned a lot.

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  28. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    Great advice for any age. I would tell my younger self to save more for the future and buy Microsoft and Apple stock. Also that the world is not going to end from lack of water, nuclear war, hunger, ice age, no ozone, over population or asteroid by the year 2000.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Haha that’s good and don’t invest in social media platforms ever. They’re so unstable.

      Reply
  29. rachelramdhan Avatar
    rachelramdhan

    It gets better – my piece of advice.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s good advice because life really does improve over time.

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  30. keniatotheworld Avatar
    keniatotheworld

    To my younger self: “love yourself more”

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s excellent advice to your younger self.

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      1. keniatotheworld Avatar
        keniatotheworld

        Thank you

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          You’re very welcome.

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  31. Girl in Her Twenties Avatar
    Girl in Her Twenties

    Dear younger Cassie, you are enough. You always have been and always will be

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s really fantastic advice that I think most teens need to hear.

      Reply
  32. CurvyElvie Avatar
    CurvyElvie

    What a great post. You gave yourself very good advice.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much.

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  33. Janice Reid Avatar
    Janice Reid

    As someone who’s much older than you are, I’d say great advice!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
  34. Mr. Ohh's Sideways View Avatar
    Mr. Ohh’s Sideways View

    You did not include “Laugh More” 🤣😎🙃

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol, true that’s one I need to add to the list 😆

      Reply
  35. judeitakali Avatar
    judeitakali

    You always have such soothing balanced advice 🙏🏾

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks 😊

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      1. judeitakali Avatar
        judeitakali

        😇

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  36. Layla Todd Avatar
    Layla Todd

    A wonderfully self-reflective post with so many good lessons!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
  37. marouabourni Avatar
    marouabourni

    Incredible post, it is good to sit with yourself from time to time and see the development…

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, I agree it helps us grow and better ourselves.

      Reply
  38. TCKlaire Avatar
    TCKlaire

    I would give that same advice to myself in my 20s because I hadn’t grown out of all that crap from my teens then!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol yeah, I feel like I’m just growing out of it in my late 20s.

      Reply

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