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I was really struggling to decide what to write about today. As you guys know, I’ve been in a bit of a funk lately. Well, I call it funk but most call it an existential crisis. One of the biggest reasons for that crisis is that I’ve been feeling a bit lonely. But then I realised, I do have someone to chat with. In fact, I have over twenty-six thousand people to chat with on here. So on today’s post, we’re just having a little chat.

For the last few days, the weight of what it truly means to be an adult has been crushing me. When I was younger, I pictured myself having a certain type of life but I realise now that was nothing more than a dream. These days, everything costs an arm and a leg and maybe a kidney.

One of my biggest dreams was to go back to university and get my Masters. And to be honest, if studying wasn’t so expensive I would probably want to get my doctorate someday too. I genuinely thought that by thirty I would have made enough money to go back to Canada or some other country I’ve always wanted to live in for a while and get my Masters. But that’s starting to look less and less likely. The job markets all over the world are overly saturated, educations costs way too much and I just don’t know if that dream is realistic anymore.

Some dreams you eventually have to give up on. I guess it’s not all bad, it makes room for new dreams. Maybe my new dream will be to be a best selling writer and Netflix buying my story. Yup, that’s the new dream!

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175 responses to “Just Having A Little Chat”

  1. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    There are many other venues open to young people these days. I hope you find a way to satisfy your creative urges and find new goals. All the best Pooja 🥹😍🤗

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You’re absolutely right, thanks to technology we have many other options and I’ve been looking into them hoping to find something that fits. Thanks so much 🤗

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        You’re most welcome my friend. 😍

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  2. cityodysseystl Avatar
    cityodysseystl

    Awww Pooja,I can so relate to the funk and life not going the way you expect it to.Even though I’ve only been reading your blog for a short bit,I’m constantly inspired by your ability to be consistent regardless of what’s going on with you.You inspire so many of us and I’m so proud of you.Sending you good energy as you go through this transition.Nothing lasts forever.💕

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, that truly means so much to me 💕

      Reply
  3. John Avatar
    John

    I hope that you can return to beautiful Canada in the future, Pooja, you were in Canada when I began following you. It’s a beautiful country, I lived there in the early 80s. I’m glad to be one of those 26,000 folks that you can chat with! I never achieved all of my dreams but at 63 and being retired, it’s been a good ride! Hugs, my friend. ❤️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks and I hope so too. Yes, I remember and I’m so glad we were able to become friends thanks to this wonderful platform. Being retired and living your best life in your 60’s is pretty great 🤗❤️

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      1. John Avatar
        John

        It is, thanks Pooja! 💕💕💕

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          💕😊

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  4. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    My father used to say: the problems that can be solved with a bit of cash are no problems at all. I didn’t get it then. Now it makes a lot more sense. I’m reading the memoir Educated to realize I never had problems in my whole life. Born with a silver spoon or something, holy cow, those kids were in trouble during to their parents choices. I guess I’m living a dream, I misuse the article on purpose. My dream is way bigger and it’s okay, we need dreams to get us out of bed every morning. We need to dream big and grow slow, and evolve (buzzword).

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    1. Goin' the extra...aaamile Avatar
      Goin’ the extra…aaamile

      Milena, your father indeed was a wise man! I loved that little quote you shared with us, I’ll keep it close to my heart and probably pasted on a wall so i can see it everyday.

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      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        Thank you for your kind words! I’m glad you find them true

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      He sounds like a smart person and I think in a lot of ways he’s right. You’re right, dreams are necessary even if they take time to achieve.

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      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        Once you achieve your dream, it feels like you didn’t because a bigger one is on your mind. It’s an endless quest leaving you exhausted and wanting more always

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          That’s exactly it, it’s never enough.

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  5. Karima Hoisan Avatar
    Karima Hoisan

    Now that I already have lived a big long life, my honest advice to Pooja…don’t give up too quickly on your dreams..You have a noble dream, you are young…there is still time to go for it:)

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks, I very much appreciate your advice and I’ll keep trying to achieve my dreams and see where it leads to.

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  6. Darryl B Avatar
    Darryl B

    Pooja, I’m sorry things haven’t turned out as you would have liked. But you have a big heart, a loving, kind heart, and an ability to communicate that’s amazing… your dreams may have shifted a bit from your original course… but it’s OK to tighten up on the mainsail and make a 20 degree course correction. Just hang on your kind nature and writing ability, and I’m sure all will turn out ok in the end.

    And in the words of John Lennon “… if not, then it’s not the end.” 😎❤️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much for your kind words and that wonderful quote. I think it’s definitely far from the end, perhaps just time to adjust my dreams a bit 😊❤️

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  7. Stephanie (SingingGecko) Avatar
    Stephanie (SingingGecko)

    What rough feelings to contend with. Now I understand a little more, why it might be hard to see this as a growth challenge. It’s more that your potential seems hindered by the current world’s circumstances, rather than any lack (of desire or ability etc.) on your part. Maybe there will be a way to patch together something different from the first big vision, but moving in the same direction? Maybe some steps toward your Masters where you are, just for a while?

    Netflix is not a bad Plan B, though. 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I think adjusting the dream instead of giving up completely may help. I’m looking into online options as I can still transfer those credits in the future.
      Haha yes, if nothing else there’s always Netflix.

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  8. Aparna Raavi Avatar
    Aparna Raavi

    Excellent

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you.

      Reply
  9. selectionsfrombarb.com Avatar
    selectionsfrombarb.com

    Life is what you make of it. It travels by so fast! Learn to enjoy and find ways to achieve your dreams.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much and you’re right, life flies by.

      Reply
  10. Melodi Umoh Avatar
    Melodi Umoh

    It can be very difficult experiencing an existential crisis, but the good news is that we usually come out on the other side with a deeper knowledge of ourselves. I know it’s hard, but I agree with you; new dreams will rise and sometimes they’re better than the old ones. When we’re stuck to our plans, we might miss out on the things that we discover purely by accident. I always thought I was going to be a novelist when I was a young child. I still love writing (obviously) but now I want to be a librarian. I always loved libraries, but I never even thought about working in one until I finally did. When I was able to stay there for years before moving on (I had to leave because I was part-time and needed more hours) I realized I had found something I could do without getting bored of it. I realize that was the key. Every other job I’ve ever had has made me restless. It’ll be a lot of work to get the degree I need to work in the field full time, but I’m ready.
    You’ll find your way. It just takes time.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I think so too. And I think it helps us achieve our more realistic dreams too. I’m so glad you found the right career path for you and I hope you’re able to get the degree and work as a librarian full-time. That actually sounds like a great job for someone who loves reading and writing.

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  11. Alan Conrad Avatar
    Alan Conrad

    The climbing cost of education is depressing to watch, and can’t lead anywhere but downhill. But keep in mind that self-education is free, and never has to end.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, it’s become ridiculously expensive to even get a degree these days. True and thanks to the internet there are a lot of ways you can educate yourself.

      Reply
  12. Grab a drink and Chill with me! Avatar
    Grab a drink and Chill with me!

    If you ever need to chat, I’m totally here for you! On here, email, phone or whatever. I’ve also been in a funk lately, especially today. Today was a hard one.
    Take a deep breath, do something you love that makes you feel better, listen to music, take a hot shower, whatever it is!
    You got this! <3 Much love.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks, I so appreciate that. Sorry you’ve been feeling down too but I know we’ll both get through it and better times will be here soon. ❤️

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      1. Grab a drink and Chill with me! Avatar
        Grab a drink and Chill with me!

        Amen to that!!!! I feel like these days, there is a lot of this going on and we definitely need to more resources and ways to vent and talk. Sending you so much love and so many hugs! 🙂

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Oh absolutely. Thanks so much! 🤗

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  13. Warren Avatar
    Warren

    to be 18 forever, or again…..if I could turn back time?…..but, to be happy where I am. you have that dream and those goals…..go for it!…..you don’t want to at some point to look back and say, I wish I had…

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I would love to be eighteen again. Best years of my life. Thanks, I’ll try my best to go for my dreams even if it takes longer than expected!

      Reply
  14. sandysbookaday Avatar
    sandysbookaday

    Some days, Pooja, I think our brains and bodies just need to rest. And you’re right – sometimes we have to put a dream aside for other dreams, or maybe just to realise that it is not achievable at this point in our lives. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it is never going to be achievable. I am in my late 60s and have two similarly aged friends who are currently attending university, getting degrees, because they were unable to do it when they were younger. While we are breathing, there is always hope. 🤗💕

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, you’re so right. Sometimes we need to rest. True, it’s never too late to learn and get your degree. Thanks 🤗💓

      Reply
  15. Kevin Avatar
    Kevin

    Sorry you’re still feeling a bit low, Pooja. There’s a few ways to look at this. You are still young and have a lot of time ahead of you. That Masters or doctorate don’t have to be dead dreams. There is still time, and things can change very rapidly in a short time. I don;t know your exact situation, but perhaps there is a way to take a few courses now so you don’t need so many credits later?

    The other way to look at it is, even if that door is closed, that just means another one, or several, opened. On a slightly simpler scale, as you know, I was out of work three months ago. That was one of the reasons I started blogging. To kill some time, get some shit out of my system, and maybe help people in some way. Anyhow, I was out of work for a spell, started pursuing some other interests, and now, here I am next week starting a new job that is very close to home with a much better schedule. I have ambitions to use that extra time to pursue other education, maybe pursue some professional art or writing, and maybe even motivational speaking. I’m a minute or two older than you, but if I can still chase dreams, so can you.

    And as for the topic of putting off dreams? Yes. For about 20 years. My wife was very, very ill for a lot of her adult life, and honestly, those years were sometimes just a struggle to survive. I am not complaining. We do what we have to do and what’s right.

    Bottom line: You are a beautiful, talented, kind and caring woman. You are not at the end of any road unless you want to be.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks and you’re right, I still have time. I always assumed I would do it earlier but it’s okay. Things don’t always work out perfectly. I have been looking at some online options so I can get credits that I can transfer later.

      Yeah, sometimes we find new dreams or our dreams evolve and that’s okay too.

      Sorry that you had to experience that and it can’t be easy to have seen her go through all that but life often throws things at us we are not prepared for but have to experience.

      Thanks again 😊

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  16. Jixi Fox Avatar
    Jixi Fox

    I feel you… was having the same kind of a day.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      So sorry you’re having a crappy day too.

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  17. Jixi Fox Avatar
    Jixi Fox

    adjusting and adapting to the world motion is quite a task. Changes popping up left and right. Job markets definitely over saturated. It’s like you have to catch a trend quick these days or to push further that’s long term, it’s locked and gate kept. I have been spending more time watching industry news, and accept my good days and bad, but ultimately select a path that is within means now and now give up on the others. Consistency, ambition and adapting is a crucial lesson and technique to grow in.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, the world is constantly changing and we have very little control over our lives and destiny. True, both are vital in today’s world.

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  18. Christopher Avatar
    Christopher

    I can definitely relate. I’ve been struggling with an off and on existential crisis myself for the last three years. You really aren’t alone in that battle. There are times when I feel like I’m finally going to be over it. Only for it to eventually resurface even stronger than it ever has before. It’s been a rough ride, that’s for sure.

    Here’s what I think. First off, I love that you are so genuine, kind and ambitious. Second, Those qualities about you that I just mentioned will truly make a difference in the lives of others, regardless of whatever direction life’s circumstances may lead you. I just hope that whatever path life leads you down, that you will find fulfillment in it.

    I know that what I’m about to say is always easier said than done, but please don’t ever give up. Keep on blooming out that beauty that’s flowing inside of you even in really dark times like these. 💕

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Existing isn’t easy especially these days when the world is changing so much. Sorry you’ve been experiencing that too. I hope you feel better soon too.

      Thank you so much, I truly appreciate you saying that. 💕🤗

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      1. Christopher Avatar
        Christopher

        It’s definitely my pleasure! 🤗💕

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  19. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    Yes, this is a challenging era to find work in any country now. I’m sure you will come out of this depressive cycle and understand just what a positive future is ahead of you.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, very much so. The market for most careers is so overly saturated. Thanks so much.

      Reply
  20. Goin' the extra...aaamile Avatar
    Goin’ the extra…aaamile

    Well, Pooja… If you’re gonna grab Netflix, I guess I will have to settle for Disney-Hotstar. Let’s enjoy making our money through stories.
    You know how beautiful writing gets, when words spill out straight from the heart… just like what you’ve done.
    Who needs all the flashy AI generated content or even conversations about the serious things in life… it’s the simple topics that touchh our heart the most.
    Have a wonderful day ahead

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha that’s fine with me, I’ll leave Disney to you.

      So true, writing is such a beautiful thing. AI could never give us what human experience can in terms of storytelling.

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      1. Goin' the extra...aaamile Avatar
        Goin’ the extra…aaamile

        It is so sad indeed how the world is truning out, the biggest disappointment however are the people and their priorities…

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  21. Nicole Smith Avatar
    Nicole Smith

    I’ve been down too. Intrusive thoughts holding me hostage. I get the whole adult thing, I keep trying to explain to Pammy the world is only before you for a certain amount of time before you get caught up on adulthood

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m so sorry to hear that. Yes, the years you spend in uni are pretty much the final years before you’re a full adult and have different responsibilities and priorities.

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  22. Mthobisi Magagula Avatar
    Mthobisi Magagula

    Excellent blog post Pooja. I am glad to read your blog post and it is very sincere. Sharing your dreams online is a brave thing, some never do that. It shows that you are a brave woman💯

    Also, as for dreams,I do have them, I am turning 25 next month and by this age, I hoped to have a better job like a full time position with a better salary but the jobs I had in the past are really depressing in terms of Payment, I was grateful for having them don’t get me wrong but I was also sad that I can work so many hours and get so little pay. I recently quit fighting for this job I was caught in January, I did a bit of a bad thing so I knew that was the end for me.

    Anyways, I have finished school, I have my Associate Degree with me and I thank God for that. I hope to be a Head of Marketing one day(By age 35 or so)

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much. Wow, those are great dreams and I truly hope you are able to achieve them. Yes, most jobs don’t pay well these days and it’s a shame since the cost of living keeps increasing.

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  23. LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙 Avatar
    LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙

    Pooja, I hope you find your way back soon to a better place. Keep going, don’t give up! You got this. 🥰💐

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, I appreciate that! 😊

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  24. thomasstigwikman Avatar
    thomasstigwikman

    I have to admit I don’t understand why so many people want to go to Canada. Anyway, since I grew up in Sweden my education was paid for, that’s the Swedish system, and then later when I came to the US, the US Department of Energy paid for my PhD in robotics. Also the cost of education was much lower. Today education has become very expensive, at least here in the US, and the opportunities for grants have become very competitive. My kids are not getting the breaks I did. It’s really tough now. I feel sorry for today’s youth having to struggle with the cost of education. I don’t know why this has happened. However, I wish that you will get your masters and PhD one day.

    As for me, I really wanted to become a physicist or an astro-physicist when I was young, but the opportunities for that were slim even in my day.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I guess I was personally considering Canada since I’ve lived there before and have friends there. So wouldn’t have to start from the bottom. Plus, people are really nice there. At least in my experience.
      I see, that’s really interesting. Yeah, the cost of everything has increased a lot recently and things like education cost way too much. Thanks so much.
      Sorry you couldn’t pursue physics but I do understand. Not many job options in that field.

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  25. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    some dreams are worth holding onto…as some are meant to remain dreams to make way for new ones to come true…. better ones…here’s to wishing your best dreams true, Pooja…

    bounce back …like you always do…sharing smiles and laughter with your humor and wonderful presence here…we appreciate you 🤗🤍

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, that’s exactly it. Thanks so much 🤗💕

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      1. Destiny Avatar
        Destiny

        so welcome 🤍🤗

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  26. Christine Godwin Avatar
    Christine Godwin

    I guess life throws a lot at an adult and suddenly we become different, distant for many unsaid reasons. For me I have had to give up on my dreams and create new ones and I take it one step…. at a time.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, very much so. I think as soon as we’re done studying things become a lot more complicated. One step at a time is best. I wish you the best with it.

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      1. Christine Godwin Avatar
        Christine Godwin

        thank you Pooja G. I wish you the best gifts that life offers

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Wishing you the same.

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  27. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    I think it’s time to sort out a career and get out and meet more people. What career do you have in mind? Get on line and sort out possible careers. Do one of those career questionnaires. See what qualifications/experience you may require, look at filling the gaps. Get applying.
    Life is going past.
    It’s a tough market out there but you don’t stand a chance unless you put your feet in the water. I think you have too much time to brood. Get moving.
    Sorry!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, I think that’s something I definitely need to think about. Thanks!

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  28. Bookstooge Avatar
    Bookstooge

    When I was in highschool, I had 3 goals. To get married, to own my own place and to have a steady job.

    The job one happened first. Got into land surveying and here I am, 24 years later, still plugging away. Even the bad days are better than working somewhere with a big group of people. So I’ve checked that box, probably about 5 years after starting 🙂

    I bought a condo in ’06, right before the housing bubble collapsed and our economy took a total nosedive. But once again, I am still living here and it will be paid off in a couple more years. So not a house, but I’ve come to realize that I’m a condo guy. If I had a house, it would turn into one of those “white trash” houses, with uncut grass, and everything falling apart 😀

    Thirdly, I met Mrs B in ’05’ish and we were married in ’08. Still going strong 😀

    I worked hard, in all areas, to make those things happen. I scrimped and saved. I worked with people who were complete jackasses and in situations that were terrible. I only saw Mrs B once every 6 months from when we starting courting until we got married because we lived on opposite sides of the country. None of it happened by accident.

    So don’t give up. Work hard and have a good attitude. It’ll help.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Wow, that’s amazing and I’m very happy that your hard work paid off and you were able to achieve your dreams. Thanks so much, I’ll keep working hard and let’s see where it takes me.

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  29. writinstuff Avatar
    writinstuff

    They call it a backburner for a reason. Some dreams get put on hold while you pursue others and when/if the time is right, it’ll be a smoother path to achieve old dreams. I went to school and got the advanced degrees first only to learn that my heart wasn’t in the career I thought I wanted and decided to pursue my long-held writing dream. I’m self-published with a good following and this year’s goal is a bestseller but if that doesn’t happen I’ll have shared more of my stories with the world so focus on another dream/goal. And hey if you’re looking for inspiration there are tons of authors who do things like live writes if you’re interested…

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I think so, some dreams take longer to achieve and that’s okay. I really hope you’re able to achieve the dream of having a best seller. That’s one of mine too. That definitely sounds interesting, will check out live writes.

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  30. judeitakali Avatar
    judeitakali

    For some reason it makes me sad that you’re lonely. But I guess I’m not one to talk, being in the same boat, albeit by choice. Have you tried applying for a scholarship. I’m guessing your worldliness will be very hard for universities to resist.
    I was going to say you’re going to be a bestseller but then I smiled when I found you’d said it at the end.
    I think in all my life I’ve only ever really had one big dream, and I’m doing and will be doing it for life now. As long as I’m doing that everything else seems to fit into place, albeit very slowly. Other dreams now just feel like periodic desires.
    I have a very very strong feeling that you’re going places. In fact you encourage me to work hard so that maybe we’ll run into each other in those lofty places where I’m sure you’ll be.🖤🖤

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I think loneliness is unfortunately a part of adulthood. I have been looking into scholarships and will continue to do so.
      I have no doubt we’ll both have bestsellers one day 😊
      Let’s keep working hard so we can travel EA together 💕

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      1. judeitakali Avatar
        judeitakali

        💕Ai-Ai cpt🫡

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  31. J M Negi Avatar
    J M Negi

    Much aligned thoughts really. Thanks for the share.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Really appreciate that.

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  32. Stella Reddy Avatar
    Stella Reddy

    Awe Pooja, it isn’t easy giving up on something you wanted for so long… But you will have many dreams to work on and I have no doubt you will reach them!

    I could write a book on dreams I have given up on, mostly because of my mobility issues.

    Growing up, I wanted to be a Nurse for as long as I could remember. Then I had children that put that dream off for a bit but as they got older, I started working towards that dream. That was what I was doing when the fire I had happened in 1991, getting the rest of my Credits for a High School Diploma as I needed one for Nursing School.

    The house fire I had in 1991 ended that one as with my damaged legs I couldn’t handle the physical rigours of Nursing anymore. It took me a few years to get over having to give up that dream… But I found others and even attained quite a few over the years.

    Since I retired, I have found more dreams to work towards… My new dream is pretty lofty but I have hope I will see it come to fruition… I have faith…

    Hope you have a fabulous day today Pooja! 🌹

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m so sorry you went through that and had to give up on your dream of nursing but I’m glad you didn’t give up and achieved other dreams instead. I wish you the best with your new dream. Thanks so much! 💕

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  33. soliarsh.tsa Avatar
    soliarsh.tsa

    Hi,

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Hi 👋🏼

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  34. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    The funk is real.. not gonna even put a positive spin on it. Adulting slaps you with so many realities. But you do have a remarkable niche. A fantastic avenue to share and capitalize on your creativity. What youve been offering to 25 thousand peeps cannot be taught with a master’s degree. You’re an amazing creative. You are living a writer’s dream too.
    Remember growth is challenging and painful. Give yourself some credit. Applaud the journey, embrace it. This is the fun in living.. (apparently 😅)
    As for the personal dreams.. we never give up on them. The timeline may not be of your own choosing, but when it’s been placed in your heart, it means at some point it will happen.
    It is just delayed at the moment.
    Stay the course PoojaG. 💪💪💪

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, adulting sucks sometimes but you’re right. I have a lot to be grateful for. And a great niche to work in.
      I think in some ways it’s growing pains and that sucks but also is necessary to evolve.
      Thanks so much 😊

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      1. byngnigel Avatar
        byngnigel

        Indeed.. you’re part of a wonderful community. I’m glad you do not hesitate to reach out. We rally always. 🙏

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          So thankful to have found such a supportive community 💕

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          1. byngnigel Avatar
            byngnigel

            It is truly supportive. I feel the same. 🙏

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              😊💕

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  35. Manisha Reddy Avatar
    Manisha Reddy

    Hi Pooja am here in WordPress after a very long time, as I opened I saw your post. At times everyone feel alone Pooja, sometimes we feel like lost. You just remember your good times and loved ones you will be slowly fine. You are really talented as being your reader from last seven years. In life if one way gets closed other way opens hence you will definitely have a great future. I was very studious and academically strong but still am not working today due to some personal reasons. I am happy as a homemaker, blogger and doing things which I love. As I have immense support from my family and in-laws. I really wish good luck to your future Pooja.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m happy to see you back here, it’s been quite a while. Yes, you’re right. There are times we all feel lonely and that’s okay. Things never remain that way forever. I’m glad your family is supportive and you’re happy doing what you love. Thanks so much.

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      1. Manisha Reddy Avatar
        Manisha Reddy

        Ya its really exciting to be back here and I feel really great to be here. Ya my family has been always by my side. Nice to read your post and I hope you are doing good:)

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          That’s wonderful, hope you continue with sharing posts. I’m good, thanks 🙂

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  36. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    dreams suck
    i m glad to be alive
    to do something
    one thing for others
    good post darling

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks and yeah dreams are not the best because it hurts so much when you have to give them up.

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      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        give them up? i have no dreams save that it seems sister julie is dead and gone to heaven. who knew?

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      2. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        seein the world thru an evil eye. and not to deceive ya ooof

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  37. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Not sure if this is useful info or not, but you could do MA online on a course by course basis. It might take awhile. It would allow you to work while earning the degree. Just an option to consider.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yup, definitely helps thanks. I’ve been looking at online courses or partially online courses so that may be an option.

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  38. Mary K. Doyle Avatar
    Mary K. Doyle

    I’m sorry you are discouraged, Pooja. It isn’t an easy world to live in right now. But please, don’t give up. So many wonderful jobs came my way “accidentally.” My brother, Mike, always reminds me to, “Just do the next right thing.” Before you know it you’re on a great path. We don’t have to worry about what to do our whole life long. Love to you, my friend.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much for sharing that. Yes, I think sometimes things come to us when we least expect it. We have to give up control and let the world do what it does.

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  39. Alex Diaz-Granados Avatar
    Alex Diaz-Granados

    My current dream, honestly, is to (a) complete the novel I’m currently working on and publish it this year; and (b) that more folks buy my novella (Reunion: A Story) and post reviews on their blogs or on Amazon. Yes, I need the royalties, but I also want my work to be read and (hopefully) enjoyed.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I wish you the very best with your dream and wish you lots of success.

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  40. Barbara Stroud Avatar
    Barbara Stroud

    Hey Pooja, I wrote this quote a while back with a quote by Frederick Buechner in mind… it helps when things don’t go the way you hope they will. Perhaps our new path will lead us to a new and exciting place – I wish this for you!

    “There has never been a day JUST LIKE TODAY, and there will never be another just like it. You’ve reached TODAY by following the path called life. No matter what has happened, good or bad, it propels you forward on your path. Your path is #yourstory and it’s uniquely yours. BE AWARE of how precious every single day is. We all assume we’ll be here for a finite number of days. Nothing is promised. So treat every single day as if it were your last. Dance. Love. LAUGH. Be kind. Be the light you want the world to see – it starts with you.”
    barbara stroud | artfoodhome.com

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much for sharing that quote, I think I really needed to hear it today.

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  41. DentMistry Avatar
    DentMistry

    Aww pooj, no matter what, we’ll always be there for you! Keep on working on that dream, hard work always pays off…plus its really hard to get literally anything done before your 30s so don’t worry boo xx

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks, boo! True, there’s still lots of time 💕

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  42. donnajburkholder Avatar
    donnajburkholder

    Your possible new dream sounds pretty amazing but sounds like you’re grieving a former dream. What would you like to get a Master’s in?From where I sit, it seems you can still make any dream come true. You’re only 25, super smart, resourceful, and seemingly w a lot of agency. I would encourage you not to toss away any of your dreams. Having said all that, sometimes our dreams shift and that’s ok too. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, I think I’m grieving my old dream and it’ll take a while to move on since it’s one I’ve and for a few years now. I’ll be 27 in April but I get what you mean. I still have lots of time and maybe I’ll achieve new dreams or even continue to chase this one.

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  43. clcouch123 Avatar
    clcouch123

    There are funded Master’s programs that offer assistantships. You most likely know this, and I don’t need to tell you. (Sorry.) As soon as I saw the title of your post, I thought of the song from Man of La Mancha that goes “A little gossip, a little chat–a little idle talk of this and that.” It’s an endearing song. Well, I could whine. I haven’t been sleeping well, and I’ve been having trouble looking at the computer screen. I don’t know what to do when I grow up, which invokes another song about “ain’t that a kick in the head.” And I could go on. I think you express yourself with clarity and also in a way that engages. Your book at hand–is it nonfiction? To say the least, you have a gift for narrative. And there is my rambling for now. For me, it’s rambling. For you, it’s adept storytelling. It’s Easter weekend coming up–I hope it’s a pleasant holiday for you.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I have been looking at Scholarships etc but thanks for the reminder. That sounds like an interesting song, I’ll check it out.
      I’m sorry you’ve been experiencing that. Have you tried Ashwagandha? It’s a herbal medicine and helps immensely with sleep issues and anxiety/depression. I’ve been taking it for a few months now and it’s made a huge difference especially with sleep. It’s like taking a sleeping pill minus the side effects etc. Would definitely recommend it.
      Thanks so much. My upcoming book is a poetry book based on my life and experiences.
      I always enjoy your “rambling” even though I never see it as rambling.
      Have a very happy Easter too.

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      1. clcouch123 Avatar
        clcouch123

        Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll look for Ashwagandha.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          No problem, it’s helped me a lot and hopefully it’ll help you too. You’ll start seeing proper results after a week or two. And if you decide to start taking it I would recommend taking it with warm milk instead of water. You can use plant based milk if you don’t take dairy.

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  44. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    I’m sorry about your dreams! That’s disheartening. I had a dream of being a famous writer. I wanted to write the great American novel! Instead I wrote and published a children’s book. I am extremely proud of my little book, but it is not what I imagined. I also wanted a lovely marriage and children. I got the lovely children but not the marriage. And I’m lonely. So very lonely. But then there is this very nice man at my Church. So maybe…new dreams!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Life gives us new goals and I’ll move on soon. So sorry you didn’t achieve some of your goals but life will sort itself out. At least that’s what I believe. And go for it with the nice man from Church! He sounds great!

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  45. Brian, Snarebox Avatar
    Brian, Snarebox

    University is expensive in the US; I don’t know what going in Canada looks like to someone not from Canada but I imagine it’s also expensive. I wouldn’t have been able to get my degree without putting myself into massive debt that I’ll most likely never pay off. I don’t even think about it, it’s just set to autopay every month and I just pretend I don’t have that money lol.

    If I wasn’t in a relationship we could 90 Day Fiance it to get you citizenship so you could go to school here, if you’d even want to be a US citizen. 😅 There has to still be a way for you to fulfill this dream, even if it’s not something you can achieve by the deadline you set for yourself. I didn’t get my bachelor’s until my 30s and I’m doing pretty well now. You’re a lot more of a “go getter” than I am though so I understand that missing this goal is probably killing you.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, it’s pretty much the same in Canada. And pretty expensive if you’re an international student. I’ve been looking at Europe too cos that’s a little less expensive and better job opportunities. But it has its own issues like language barrier. Urgh sorry about that, having to go into debt for education is so sad imo.

      Lol if you’re ever single (hope not and hope things work out with your gf but just in case!) hit me up 😅

      I think it’s like I always achieve my goals so it sucks to have to let one or two go. But that’s life. It’s never perfect.

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  46. Margaret from soulfood101blog Avatar
    Margaret from soulfood101blog

    All my dreams came true but then I woke up and realized that was just a dream 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Haha that sounds about right 🙂

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  47. SiriusSea Avatar
    SiriusSea

    Keep the dream alive and hit the snooze button (lol) … one of my fav memes. I truly believe, Pooja <3 you can accomplish all of the above !! As for me … I will be watching your Netflix and chillin' … then scream out, "I know her!!!!" What are you going to do, when you have 26,000 comments (ahhhh) !!?

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Aw, thanks so much- I so appreciate your support! Lol yesss you can be like I’m friends with her! Lol at 26000 comments I may have to finally give up responding to them all 😅

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      1. SiriusSea Avatar
        SiriusSea

        Noooo, you’ll just need a really good assistant (wink-wink) 😉 !!

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Lol yes of course!

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  48. Michele Lee Avatar
    Michele Lee

    Dreams may shift with the passing of years but if it is a burning desire, don’t let anything or anyone prevent you from moving forward. I sincerely believe those type of dreams are there for a reason and there is always a way! Without selling your soul or a kidney! I believe in you, Pooja. Thousands of others do too. 🙌🏻

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I think what I need to do is maybe modify my dream a bit or start on a new dream. I don’t want to give up on dreaming altogether. Thanks so much! 🤗

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      1. Michele Lee Avatar
        Michele Lee

        You are the writer of your life, revise as needed, just don’t censor your heart. 💖🤗

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  49. Peter Avatar
    Peter

    The funk is REAL. I hope all of us who go through it get out of it quickly ! Nice post for someone who had nothing to write about 😂lol

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, it happens and it sucks a lot but life goes on. Funnily enough I always have more to write when I have to nothing to write about 😅

      Reply
  50. LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙 Avatar
    LoveLifeHappiness&More💙💙

    My pleasure. 💞

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  51. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    I get in a funk sometimes too but I’ll never give up, and you shouldn’t either. You still have time to do what you want to do. Timing is a major part of life.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, really appreciate your encouragement. Yes, I think there’s still time so I’ll keep my fingers crossed and keep hoping.

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      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        You’re most welcome, Pooga!

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  52. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    I had many hopes and dreams that didn’t work out so far, but I keep my optimism alive. Clarity of purpose and focus are probably the two biggest keys to achieving a dream. Adequate funding never hurts either :).

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m glad you’ve decided to stay optimistic. I’m trying to remain that way too. Adequate funding can go a long way lol but not everyone is that lucky. In fact, most of us are not.

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      1. Joseph Glidden Avatar
        Joseph Glidden

        Some of the greatest artists in history were funded by wealthy patrons. The Catholic church was probably one of the largest patron of the arts, although in the early days an artist had to carefully follow the rules imposed.

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Oh yes, that’s right. And a lot of the art was for the churches so it had to be religious too.

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  53. Geoff Stamper Avatar
    Geoff Stamper

    I have never considered the language “giving up on a dream.” The process of growing up and writing your book of life includes quite a bit of editing as you continue to grow. Before we were married, my wife said she wanted a horse and a corvette. Many years later when I was in a position to make those two dreams come true, she did not want them any more. She had other priorities. Keep changing.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I think oftentimes our dreams change and evolve as we do and that’s okay.

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  54. Pramod M Avatar
    Pramod M

    Definitely you will succeed, one day you will become the most wanted writer of Netflix 👍👍👍

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, appreciate that.

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      1. Pramod M Avatar
        Pramod M

        You are welcome

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  55. Baydreamer - Lauren Scott Avatar
    Baydreamer – Lauren Scott

    Hi Pooja, I’m sorry to hear you’re in a funk, but you’re not alone. I get in funks too, and so does everyone. It doesn’t matter how old you are. 🙂 And It’s okay to change from one dream to another. But also, if there’s something you really want to happen, then I know you can make it a reality. It’s unfortunate that education is so expensive. I think my kids would’ve pursued a masters too if the cost wasn’t so steep. Anyway, whatever you decide to do, you can do it! Just hold onto this thought, and don’t think any other way. Hugs, Lauren 🤗

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You’re so right, funks are a part of life just as ups and downs are too. It’s a real shame because these days education is so vital for work but so expensive too. But it is what it is. I’ll try to save and see what happens and if not my dreams will change. Thanks 🤗

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  56. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    Education is getting out of reach from people because of the increasing cost of education day by day. In my opinion, education and healthcare facilities should be free or affordable for everyone.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, the cost of education has become ridiculously high. True, they should either be free or affordable.

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  57. Mark Edward Jabbour Avatar
    Mark Edward Jabbour

    Hey Pooj, I think I’ve got a solution. [for you and me :-)] It enables you to earn money (lots?) doing what you love – helping others, teaching & writing about what you like (History), and working from home. Where you live!
    ~ Here’s the deal. Read my book ‘Election 2016’ and write a review (helps with processing what you read). Then design an online zoom class (a semester?) about its content and context. You’ll see that it’s a history book about what, why, and how the election of 2016 in the USA came to be. But not only that! its also about the land and people where you live now (Africa & Lake Victoria) as well as land and people all over. How it all ties together. You’ll get it once you read the book. Okay?
    ~ What have you got to lose? Be well.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      There’s no harm in trying so I’ll definitely check out the book. Thanks so much.

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      1. mark jabbour Avatar
        mark jabbour

        Great! That’ll work. You can contact me via my homepage . I’m excited. Bye by blues.

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  58. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    Oh dear PG
    I hope there is some way for you dear friend.
    I feel bad to see you like this, tho.

    Won’t be giving you some half baked advice or suggestion.

    I wish I could help you
    But yes life sucks.

    I do feel lonely….. most of the time.
    Its one thing about adulthood. When we are child, we think of growing up, but now there’s no going back to childhood.
    I even look at my phone and see with whom I should share.
    Someone with whom I became very vulnerable, left me…. so yeah this is life.
    I now wish not to include anyone in my life, but I think I made a mistake by loving/trusting/relying on some. Happened twice, what a fool I am.

    I always tell myself, keep on holding, you should also keep on holding dear, this is life.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yes, being an adult is tough. It’s lonely, not like when we were young.

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  59. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    Funks are never fun but part of growing. Don’t give up on that dream too fast.. Maybe there’s a creative solution here. You might need to step away a bit and let it unfold and come in to fruition. Maybe it’s the dream you thought you wanted and maybe there are parts of it you want. Re-evaluating is a good idea! life is a constant look and see process. Your best selling book awaits you… let’s see what that brings, Pooja💓. Hugs and love❣️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, unfortunately growing up comes with its ups and downs. That’s so much, yes I think I need to reevaluate and rethink some things. And that’s okay.
      Thanks so much! 🤗💕

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  60. Steve Avatar
    Steve

    Sorry you’re in a funk, Pooja. I hope it lifts. Changing dreams is a good thing, it means we still want to reach for something even if the original is unattainable.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, yeah I think it’s best to change dreams rather than giving up on them.

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      1. Steve Avatar
        Steve

        Yes, changing means you’re still moving… just in a different direction, maybe a better one!

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, I think everything happens for a reason so maybe a new goal will help with that.

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          1. Steve Avatar
            Steve

            Here’s to hope!

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  61. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
    Vanya Wryter Consulting

    A masters degree can be expensive. I have no interest in getting one. I would rather start a business. For sure I get in a funk sometimes especially when I don’t have any creative ideas.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, it’s crazy expensive to get any degree these days. A business is a better investment.

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      1. Vanya Wryter Consulting Avatar
        Vanya Wryter Consulting

        It’s also a lot of time invested. And the question is how much will your income improve as a result of that degree?

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yes, that’s another important thing to consider.

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  62. Ib Avatar
    Ib

    I just concluded my 4th year of Uni and I’m about to start my Compulsory IT program which is going to last for 6 months! I’m very nervous to get back into a work routine cause last time I worked was 2 years ago when my school was on a strike. I’m just trying to not get to overwhelmed and ease into it well!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Oh wow, I can understand how scary that must be but don’t worry you’ve got this! It’ll all work out okay in the end.

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  63. The Fairy Within Avatar
    The Fairy Within

    I usually have one existential crisis a week so trust me you’re not alone with that! I too struggle with having big dreams yet circumstances don’t line up with my vision. Mind you in my case, the main culprit is my childhood trauma from growing up with a narcissistic mother. I’m pushing past though and finally made a wordpress account to blog about my trials and triumphs despite my mind screaming nooooo and pumping the breaks as I try and move forward.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m glad to hear I’m not alone with that! Childhood trauma is one of my issues too. It’s tough being an adult when that stuff still haunts you. I’m so glad you decided to start blogging and I had a look at your blog. I look forward to reading more of your posts.

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  64. dumbestblogger Avatar
    dumbestblogger

    Best selling writer isn’t the worst idea.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Nope, not at all. I think it’s time for me to really go for it with writing.

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      1. dumbestblogger Avatar
        dumbestblogger

        Absolutely!

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  65. da-AL Avatar
    da-AL

    I’m frustrated now because I’m having family issues as well as so far not finding a literary agent for my 3 novels. my 20s, however, were a special sort of hell – here in the US, they tell you can accomplish anything, which is not entirely true, but takes a while to come to grips with. also, it’s about learning to be an adult. for whatever it’s work, however, I’ve often found it best to stay positive & flexible, because often in hindsight I find I’m ever so lucky I didn’t get all the things I thought I desperately wanted. life is a journey & anyone who says it’s not a bumpy one is lying lol. we’re all rooting for you dear <3

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I’m so sorry to hear that. Are you planning on self-publishing or publishing through someone? I’m working with Wild Ink for my first book and they’re great so far.
      Yeah, it’s the same for me. Accepting that my dreams/accomplishments are limited sucks. But staying positive is definitely the way to go. Thanks 😊

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      1. da-AL Avatar
        da-AL

        I’m hoping for traditional. Will consider self publishing if can’t attract a good agent. I think self publishing works best for niche genres and nonfiction. Regardless they require promotion and know how that I prefer to avoid so I can concentrate on writing

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          That totally makes sense. All the best and hope you find a good agent soon.

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  66. Carol anne Avatar
    Carol anne

    I dream of any things, big and small! I had a dream I’d move to the USA, but that never happened, I dream of what my life would be like if I wasn’t diagnosed with complex PTSD and did. Your dream of becoming a bestselling author might just happen, and if it doesn’t, well, your already a bestselling blogger, with over 26.000 followers!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sorry you didn’t get to live your dream but unfortunately that is the harsh reality of life. Thanks so much! I am so grateful for all my followers!

      Reply
  67. Pennize Pics Avatar
    Pennize Pics

    I can understand feeling lonely especially if you want someone special to share experiences with. But, as a experienced woman, not all happiness comes from someone else. As you have even mentioned in the past, happiness comes from within us first. I’ve had many dreams in the past but try not to dream too much anymore. I just do what I can at the moment with hopes that more will come out of what I do.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, I think I need to focus on myself and my own happiness for now. I think keeping dreams to a minimum helps.

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      1. Pennize Pics Avatar
        Pennize Pics

        That’s true. It’s nice to dream but then reality sets in.

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