It’s Been A Tough Day

It's Been A Tough Day | About Being An Adult | Understanding Mental Health: The Invisible Struggle

As I mentioned on my last post, I was going to be pretty busy with appointments today. Unfortunately, I couldn’t get to the optician on time but had a great therapy session. It helps a lot to let all the frustrations out. And to have someone tell me that I’m not crazy, my feelings of anger are valid. People are so good at gaslighting us sometimes. They’ll make us feel bad about ourselves even when they’re the one causing drama and tension between everyone.

I hadn’t mentioned this in prior posts but I had been really struggling with my depression recently. It’s probably been the worst it’s ever been. The last few days have been tough. Due to stress and issues I’ve been experiencing. I don’t want to get into too many details but sometimes it’s the people you put your faith in that hurt you most. Creating boundaries when you’ve allowed people to walk all over you before is one of the hardest things. But boundaries are necessary. Even if it’s tough.

And I’m not sharing these details for sympathy or anything like that. I just want to be open and honest about my mental health. Many of us struggle and that’s okay, we need to normalise having days when we’re not doing okay.

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142 responses to “It’s Been A Tough Day”

  1. Hopefully better days are ahead for you, Pooja.

    1. Thanks so much. I hope so.

      1. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

  2. Well Pooj, I get it, I really get it! Right now my anxiety is through the roof, we’re having a storm, and I’m so nervous, storms make me really fearful. Also I had to end up taking some valium so I could calm down, I also made tea, boundaries can be very tough to set, but I’m glad you did, xoxo

    1. Oh no, sorry to hear that. Hope the weather improves soon!

  3. This part:

    “but sometimes it’s the people you put your faith in that hurt you most. Creating boundaries when you’ve allowed people to walk all over you before is one of the hardest things. But boundaries are necessary. Even if it’s tough.”

    All of this! Do what you need to in order to have your peace. 🙏🏾🩵

    1. Thank you! Yes, sometimes we have to distance ourselves from the people we love because they are who they are not who we hope they were. We have to protect ourselves first 💗

      1. Amen. You’re most welcome!

  4. You are a tough girl, tough enough to handle those days, Pooja. Hugs. ❤️

    1. Thank you, it’ll be hard for a bit but I know I’ll be okay ❤️

      1. Yes you will, Pooja. ❤️

  5. Thanks for sharing about your struggles with depression. 🙏 I’m glad you’re able to go to therapy and let it out. Something I’ve been struggling with more lately as well. Here’s to hoping you feel much better soon! 💕 Don’t let anyone steal your peace, either.

    1. Thanks so much. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been struggling too. Hope things get better for us both 💕💗

  6. Thanks for sharing Pooja, the good days and bad with depression can be so frustrating! But like you said it’s important to normalize talking about it. Take care!

    1. Thank you. Absolutely, depression has its ups and downs and normalising that is important. Take care too!

  7. People are so good at gaslighting us sometimes. They’ll make us feel bad about ourselves even when they’re the one causing drama and tension between everyone.

    Your words are relatable, Pooja!

    Do whatever BEST thing you can do for yourself!😃
    More peace to you. More power to you.💪🏼

    1. Thank you. Yes, I’m finally putting myself first and distancing myself from those that attempt to hurt or manipulate me 😄

  8. Hello, Pooja, will be praying for you. My day was busy with our adult son with autism started a new job today. Since his job coach is out of town until January 28, I had the pleasure of watching him being trained. He is a fast learner and was able to perform his duties after only two hours of training.

    1. Thank you so much. That’s amazing, I’m sure you’re very proud of him for the job and for doing so well with training.

  9. Well, Pooj, it’s a really difficult period for many people. I was really down yesterday and today,my brother got conscripted but his health has never been good enough to join the army, even when he was eighteen. Now I feel awful about it when he is 45 and not in any way prepared for such a thing.

    Lots of ups and downs, good things happen all the time and I take them for granted. I want to change that, I want to notice and celebrate all the small victories. It’s my new goal!

    1. Wow, I’m so incredibly sorry to hear that. That’s awful. I wish they would just stop with all these wars, the people suffering are innocent civilians. I’ll pray for him and Ukraine.

      True, we have so much and gratitude for that is important.

      1. Thank you Pooja, I pray that the was ends by the time he has to join the combat

  10. Hey, Pooj!

    I have mixed feelings right now. On the one hand, I’m this close to completing the manuscript of my first novel. I’m trying hard to not muck up the ending! So, I’m happy that this part of my writer’s journey is almost over.

    On the other hand, not only is this step the hardest/most stressful, but the political situation in the U.S. is depressing. Add to that the fact I am not thrilled that I’ve had to move twice in less than a year because the people I lived with (in Tampa and in New Hampshire) were toxic, and you’ll understand why I sometimes focus exclusively on The Novel.

    I hope you get your new glasses soon, and I also wish you luck with your therapy sessions!

    1. I completely understand how you feel. I’m finally done with my manuscript which makes me so happy but everything else in my life has fallen apart which sucks.
      I remember how difficult it was for you and having to move, people can be so disappointing and awful sometimes.
      Thanks!

  11. I am sorry you are having a hard time right now.

    1. Thanks, it’s hard right now but looking at the bigger picture it’s for the best. I would rather feel sad now but continue to set boundaries rather than be walked all over my whole life.

  12. Sorry for your tough day. Love your normalizing the days when we’re not doing okay! Here’s to better days ahead!

    1. Thanks! Yes, we need to normalise not being okay because we all experience ups and downs in life.

  13. Well I know you know you’re not alone Pooja, and glad you sought professional help… I believe in it…many decades ago, I was helped too. The better days will come…they always do.

    1. Thank you so much. Yes, I’ve been in therapy since I was a teenager and it really makes a big difference. I’m sure better days will come, nothing lasts forever.

  14. I’ve been talking clients off the cliff all day today, Pooja and I said ” I know, I get it because it’s a tough time right now for all of us. I can only stand with you on the cliff and together we will get through this. Yes, boundaries are important and I’m happy you’re setting them and getting support. ❤️

    1. That’s such good advice, I think just having someone by your side helps so much. And you always being so sweet to me definitely makes a difference 😊❤️

      1. It sure does and that is why I love you! Awww I’m happy to know that as well darling! 💗

  15. Glad to hear you have an ear to listen, no pun intended. Hope you get your new glasses soon.

    1. Haha thanks. Hope so too, I can barely see these days lol.

  16. Hi Pooja, to start of I’m really proud that you have started therapy and prioritising your mental health. Kudos to you! I really hope that things could get better for you. And it will. Always have that hope in you. Life’s been okay not that great. Even I find myself in a locked up situation with my mind sometimes. But I tell myself that you need to move on or else you’d be stuck in this situation forever which is not okay cause in the end of the day only you can bring yourself out of it. Sending lots of love and hugs your way.

    1. Thank you so much! I’ve actually been in therapy for years and started as a teenager when I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and clinical depression. I’m sure things will get better. It hurts now but I know it will save me a lot of heartache in the future because I need boundaries to protect myself. Yes, everything passes eventually and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of that when we’re feeling low. Hugs.

  17. Depression and PTSD, in my case, can be tough some days. Like you said, sometimes those close to us are the ones who trigger our depression. I’ve learned over the years to identify those who are toxic and don’t add to my well-being, including family members, and cut them out of my life. I really don’t have time for people who don’t add value to my life, so they are not part of it. Placing boundaries is tough, like you said, but they must be in place. Thank you, Pooja, and blessings to you.

    1. I’m sorry to hear that. I’m trying to do the same, I need to keep my distance from people that trigger my anxiety and depression. I don’t want to be around people who bring me down. Thank you so much for your kind words and understanding.

      1. Absolutely keep those away, Pooja, and you’re very welcome.

  18. 🙏🌹☯️💪

    Aum Shanti

  19. Yay, boundaries! And kudos for sharing about mental health issues. It’s really important that we all understand that we’re not alone. ❤️

    1. Thanks! Yes, we need to normalise mental health issues since so many people around the world suffer from them. We are most definitely not alone ❤️

  20. boundaries are important, and though we realise this late and after the hurt, it tends to be a bit more solid because of this .🤞

    wishing happy thoughts and sunshine smiles your way, Pooja…🤍🤗💫

    1. I absolutely agree, it hurts now but those boundaries are vital. Thanks so much 🤗💕

      1. most welcome…🤍🤗

  21. I hope everything will fine soon Pooja, keep positive always.

    1. Thank you so much, appreciate that.

      1. You’re welcome Pooja.

  22. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and honest update. It’s incredibly brave of you to open up about your struggles with depression and the challenges of setting boundaries. It’s so important to have a safe space, like therapy, where you can express your feelings and validate your experiences.

    1. Thanks so much. It’s really hard to be honest about our struggles like this but I think it’s vital so that people know they are not alone. We all have bad days. Therapy has been so incredibly helpful, I’ve gotten so much better because of it over the years.

  23. Hopefully you will feel better after your therapy session. Lots of love to you

    1. I do, therapy was really helpful. Thanks so much.

  24. Hey, Pooja. Great to hear from you

    How was my day yesterday?🤔 I had just come back from a 3-day trip to do an interview for a job I’m not sure I want and it didn’t go well. But I got back to a surprise recognition from my present company. Roller coaster of emotions, really. Then I slept and apparently, I didn’t know how tired I was because I woke up so late this morning but it’s fine cause I don’t have to go the office🙂‍↕️. Thanks for asking, kinda😂

    1. Hey 👋🏼 Looks like you had a lot of ups and downs, hopefully you’ll find a job you feel works best for you 😊

        1. You’re welcome!

  25. Sorry to hear things are going rough Pooja. I hope things turn around for you soon.

    1. Thanks so much, I’m sure they will. Nothing lasts forever and that includes the bad stuff.

  26. I find it uncomfortably fascinating how I can feel like I’m not harboring sadness or that I’m ‘doing really well’, but then just beginning to talk to someone who knows how to listen, shows up some of what’s actually going on. Our psyches are so complex and the deep stuff doesn’t seem to be affected by the same reward system as we are in our outer lives. It can be confusing to have everything going well and feel wrong, or vice versa. Hope this settles for you soon. <3

    1. *as we are driven by in our outer lives.

    2. So true. At the start of the month, I felt great about this year and now I’m kind of in the dumbs. Therapy helped me realise how much anger and resentment I was holding onto. Thanks so much. How is your move going?

      1. It’s going. Would be nice to stop work and just concentrate on the sorting and packing, but I’m swimming along. 🙂

        1. I so understand, doing both is so exhausting 😩

          1. <3

  27. One of the Best Ways to Heal is to Express
    What You Are Going Through Whether that
    Be a Therapist or Your ‘Pen’ Dear Pooja

    Emotions Feelings Yes Senses Intertwined

    From Toes to Head
    True Seeking and
    Finding a Way of
    Healing Flow

    Through
    Meditating
    may Be Soothing True…

    Of Course Just From my
    View
    With
    SMiLes

    Best Wishes..:)

    1. I so agree. I also journal which helps with the expression of feelings. Meditation is amazing too, a lifesaver actually.

      1. SMiles Dear Pooja A FLoWinG
        Meditating Dance
        With Meditative
        Music Hehe Yes
        For 137 Months
        And 21,188 Miles
        In Public Stores
        Has Transformed
        my Whole Body into
        A Musical Instrument
        With Relative
        Free Will
        To Generate
        my Own Joy
        Through Song
        Of Poetry True
        Too Basically
        Remedying Both
        The Negative Aspects
        Of Asperger’s Syndrome
        And Bi-Polar ‘Non Specified’

        (Keeping The Gifts)

        As Verified

        By The Psychiatrists
        And Psychotherapists
        Who Couldn’t Help
        me Yet Witnessed
        What They Literally
        Called A Miracle With
        No Prognosis of

        Recovery
        As Before
        They Had
        No Idea How

        To Help

        me It Was
        Up Yo me to
        Come Out of The
        Dead Zone With
        Greatest Pain And Numb
        As Professionally Assessed
        With 19 Medical Disorders
        In Synergy of
        Life Threat
        In Literal

        Hell

        To Regulate
        my Emotions
        Integrate my

        Senses

        Literally

        Becoming Yes
        A Dance And
        Song From
        Toes To Head

        Nope

        i”ll Never
        Go Back
        To Real Hell

        Again

        Staycation
        In The “Other
        Place” A Way
        Of Free Dance And

        Song
        iNsTruMent

        i
        Am

        Of Bliss
        With SMiLes

        A Way Of Life☺️🙌

  28. fine it s cold bitter blue
    played a joke on tom
    my son a trump lover
    he s a bully
    and does not like push back
    but i m no victim
    and if he thinks he can rub
    his maga morons in my face
    wrong attitude
    war
    and family
    blood and water
    ooof!
    you asked btw lmao

    1. I’m so sorry to hear that. It hurts so much when someone you love turns into a bad person that thrives on negativity. I can relate. Keep fighting back and being yourself. You have to let others down their own path but that doesn’t mean we let them destroy us in the process too.

      1. so we watched greg kelly. and i laughed cos trump is still an fing piece of crap! lmao

        1. I mean, you’re not wrong lol.

          1. listen to ms etta. cryin shame. such laments and pain. i read it. mourn your old self? that which was now upon your shelf! deep stuff gudka!

  29. I really feel for you, and I understand the brutality of it Pooj. It’s been a very tough week in my life too. The depression was just very bad….horrifically bad. So, I know it won’t shock you for me to say you’re not alone in that battle too. I’m very glad you feel safe enough to be vulnerable about this here. I hope you always know how much we all appreciate you here. ❤️

    1. Thanks so much. I’m so sorry you were going through a tough time too. I know how bad depressive episodes can get so I really understand your pain. But we’re in this together and will continue to do our best and support one another. We appreciate you as well, you have been so kind to me and that’s something that has not gone unnoticed ❤️

      1. Of course! Unfortunately, I know you understand my pain. And, I say unfortunately, because, I hate knowing that either one of us would ever have to go through something that painful in the first place. But, as you said, “we’re in this together.” And, I say in return, You’re damn right we are! 💪 I’m also very grateful that you appreciate my kindness in return. And, If I ever was unkind to you, then I would tell you to boot my comment right out of here, and throw me into spam to shut me the hell up! 😂❤️

        1. Yes, at least we’re not alone. Haha I don’t think that will ever be necessary 😅

  30. Boundaries are necessary even when it’s tough….
    I feel this to my core. I’m sorry you’ve been through the wringer emotionally, Pooja. Often times the universe brings us into difficulty to protect us from something down the road. I’m glad you took the time to readjust, reset, and focus on your mental space.
    I’ve been trying to do that the last couple of weeks. Too much happening in my world and I did not feel in control of the situations.
    Thanks for sharing your journey, my dear. Authenticity is always appreciated. 🤗🤗

    1. Absolutely. It hurts to set boundaries sometimes but the truth is they are so necessary. I’m very sure the universe is protecting me and that it’s saving me from much greater pain down the road. Take care of yourself too. Thanks so much 🤗

  31. I’ve had stressful moments too recently, I don’t know, maybe it’s January, and that pressure is getting the most of us. Gaslights are really bad. I think surrounding yourself with positive minded people is the best choice. Take care, and it’s not selfish to care for your mental and emotional well-being. Stay safe

    1. Yeah, January is usually a more depressing month.
      I agree, I want to try to surround myself with people I love and that love me back. Not people who are only around when they need me. Thanks so much.

  32. Hey Pooja. Have you ever heard of 7 Cups? It’s a really great therapy site with forums and chat groups. I’ve been using it since 22 and it’s great. I’m proud of you friend. Thank you for brightening my gloomy days 🙂

    1. I’ll check it out, thanks so much for the recommendation. Aw you’re most welcome and thanks so much for your continued love and support. It means a lot to me 🙂

      1. Absolutely! You’re welcome. I appreciate the comments. Either email or message me on Instagram anytime 🙂

        1. Thanks, will do 🙂

  33. I am sorry to hear things have been tough, Pooja. I never liked January and feel it is a depressing month. With that said, I look forward to spring and new beginnings. People that bring you down don’t deserve your friendship so be done with them. Take care of yourself first and foremost. 💕

    1. Thanks so much. True, January always feels a little gloomy. Absolutely, I want to surround myself with people who genuinely care about me. 😊

      1. You’re welcome, Pooja. 😊

  34. I understand about the difficulty of creating boundaries- even when it’s the best thing. Thank you, Pooja, for sharing about your struggles with depression, too. I know that’s not easy.

    1. It’s definitely not easy but I like to be more open on the blog so people who may be struggling as well know they are not alone. Thanks so much.

  35. Hey Pooja, I hope you feel better soon ❤️❤️

    1. Thanks so much ❤️

  36. Hey Pooja, I’m glad your therapist is helping you to see your thoughts and feelings are valid because they truly are. Depression is tough but so are you ✨️💗x

    1. Thanks so much, therapy has definitely been helping a lot. Haha yes, I can kick depressions butt any day 😅💕

  37. Sorry it’s rough right now. Glad your therapist helps by allowing and thus validating your feelings. Of course, it’s okay to have them. But we’re often conditioned, sometimes condition ourselves, away from that positive reality. I’m taking medication and meeting with a therapist, and I’m grateful for both. You take care, please.

    1. It’s been rough but I know it’s for the best to set boundaries now before it’s too late. I’m glad you’re doing what you need to as well, medication and therapy are both really helpful. Take care too and thank you.

  38. Hang in there! Taking baby steps helps – one thing at a time.

    1. Thank you! Yes, I’m just trying to live day by day instead of worrying too much about the future.

  39. Hope your days ahead are going to be better. It is always good to be open about these things. Boundaries can be hard, but they are really essential for our well being

    1. Thanks so much. Yes, boundaries are hard especially at first but I need to protect myself first.

  40. Depression is a part of the human condition, especially in our noisy, frantic world. Your courage to seek counseling is admirable. We have to be our own advocates and fight for what we need. I hope you feel the love around you, Pooja. There are many more of us who truly care about you than the ones who only take advantage.

    1. Yes, unfortunately so. Thanks so much, absolutely I have learnt that I need to put myself first and take care of myself too. I truly appreciate that and I am so grateful to have so many wonderful people in my life.

  41. Pooja keep strong. People will always try to make you feel bad but that is because they envy you and cannot do any better. We are surrounded by such people. I have a way of dealing with these people and that is to ignore their ignorance and keep doing at what I am best at. A huge hug from across the miles.

    1. Thanks so much. Yes, I think it’s envy and also that some people are just truly miserable people who want to bring others down. I hope to keep my distance from those kind of people and try to be the happiest I can be. Thanks so much, hugs.

      1. You’re welcome. 🤗

  42. Thank you for sharing. I find it interesting how many people seem to have this similar story, yet every one is different (of course). Stay strong!

    1. Thanks so much! My apologies for the late response, your comment was stuck in my spam folder.

  43. Thanks for your honesty. I’ve been struggling the last couple of days too. Helps to just admit that. Thanks.

    1. Sorry to hear you’re struggling too but yes it helps to admit it and try to do what we can to feel better. Thankfully, bad days don’t last forever. It’ll pass for us both.

  44. I’m really sorry to know you had a tough day. Sounds like you have had some of those recently. I hope that with the support you’re getting and the work you’re doing, the feelings will soon ease. Take good care!

    1. Thanks so much, yes it’s been tough but I know things will get better soon.

      1. You’re welcome.

  45. Just saying hello, thanks for the great posts. Some people believe that planetary shifts can cause extra emotions, and we have seen a notable planetary alignment this week. I’m not trying to minimize anyone’s emotions, just something I came across recently. Keep writing! thanks 🙂

    1. Yeah, I do believe that those shifts can affect our mood sometimes. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  46. Gaslighting and coercive behaviour is very debilitating.

    1. Yes, it really can be.

  47. I’d not heard of gaslighting until a few years ago…and looking back I found it was what one person was doing that really bothered me. When I’d object, everything was my fault, and at the time it was easier to just give in than stand my ground. I’ve never been good at setting boundaries to protect me, its been something I’ve been learning the last decade or so.

    I’m sorry this is such a rough patch for you, Pooja. Yes, the people closest to you are the ones that can inflict the deepest wounds. Sending hugs, prayers, and light your way. 💞💞💞

    1. Yes, I think the term only became popular more recently. I can understand your frustration. That’s what I’m going through right now too. I’m only now starting to set strong boundaries and it’s been tough.

      Thanks so much, hugs 💞💕

  48. Cheers to therapy for giving you a place to express yourself freely! Boundaries are hard and especially enforcing boundaries that were previously violated. Both sides got used to the status quo so I wish you luck and I think you’ll do it! Hope you feel better, friend

    1. Yes, boundaries are incredibly difficult but I think worth it in the long run. Thanks so much!

  49. Based on later posts I can see you feel better❤️.

    1. I am, thanks ❤️

  50. Keep looking at the positive side of life as you recover

    1. Thanks, I hope to do just that.

  51. I’ve now in recovery from a huge slump that started just before Christmas, -keep the faith and hope you feel much better soon! We all need a break from other’s sometimes, some more then other’s.

    1. Sorry to hear that but hope you’re feeling better now. Thanks so much, yes breaks are for the best sometimes.

  52. Hello. My day was good yesterday, was at a friend’s birthday party with a chocolate cake, she made muffins with chocolate in them and baguettes with paprika, cheese, mushrooms, salami and ham for dinner.

    1. Wow, that sounds really nice. Glad you had a good day.

  53. I am sorry you are going through a rough patch with depression.

    1. Thanks, I’m feeling a little better now.

  54. Hope you are fine, dream any joyful memory to overcome these tough days. stay healthy and happy always support you Pooja👍👍👍

    1. I am doing much better, thanks so much.

  55. I’m so sorry someone made you feel like this! You can vent to us all you want, we are here for you!!!!! I hope you have the best weekend ever!!!!!!

    1. Thank you, I so appreciate that. Have a great weekend too!

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