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I’ve been reediting older posts. And it inspired me to write this one about what no one tells you about blogging. When I first started this blog, it was completely different than what it is today. The reason I started it was because I had a lot to share. I had a lot to write and no outlet. This blog was going to be my outlet to share posts about psychology- which is what the blog was about at the time since I was studying psychology.

But one thing no one prepared me for was the WordPress community. Instead of focusing on just my writing, for the first time in my life I became a part of a community I loved and could fit in. I made friends, I learnt so much and it really helped me fight my fears and get out of my shell.

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Blogging becomes a constant and like a safe space, at least it has for me. Whether I’ve had a good day or bad day, I know you guys are always here for me as I am for you.

So, I’m here to tell you what no one tells you about blogging- it’s so much more than just content. It’s about connection, it’s about finding your people and it’s about finding yourself. It’s about having a place where you can look back and relive your memories. Blogging became a huge part of my life and I’m forever grateful for you all.

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82 responses to “What No One Tells You About Blogging”

  1. Mike Adams Avatar
    Mike Adams

    I enjoy reading your posts, and thank you — they have given me something, maybe motivation or courage – to write my own blog. That is something that 6 months ago I would have never thought possible. Again, thank you!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Omg that’s amazing, I’m so happy to hear that my posts motivated you! Definitely keep going, I really enjoy your posts and with blogging consistency is key.

      Reply
  2. BSw Avatar
    BSw

    A big part of it for me has been working through issues from damage done some time ago. Blogging is an anchor for me so I can moor at certain points

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s great, blogging can really help us better process things and move past them.

      Reply
  3. oliveunicorn Avatar
    oliveunicorn

    Yes the wordpress community is really nice and one of the more welcoming online spaces . My niche is makeup and hair but I’ve made friends here and even got to meet up with someone in real life as well .

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, I think this is the only platform where I feel like we can truly be ourselves and there’s rarely haters or trolls. Oh nice, that’s so cool you got to meet some irl too.

      Reply
  4. Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/ Avatar
    Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/

    I echo your thoughts on finding community here. It certainly surprised me how supportive everyone is. I thought my purpose here would be to sell my books, but instead I found a community of thoughtful and kind people. I enjoy writing my thoughts in posts, and am always grateful for the kind feedback I get. Kudos to you for developing your voice online!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      I think so many of us created blogs for a different reason and ended up getting immersed into the community more than we thought we would. It’s really nice to have this sort of support and kindness. Thank you!

      Reply
  5. L.G. Avatar
    L.G.

    Awesome post, thanks

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much.

      Reply
  6. Nats Avatar
    Nats

    This post reminded me why following you was one 🌈 of my best decisions ever

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you so much 😊

      Reply
  7. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    I agree. I feel the same way. It’s not just a social media BS but a lot more than that .
    I was wondering if you ever got a degree in psychology. I wanted to get one but never had the guts to go back to school. Sigh

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Exactly, people are more authentically themselves here and there are no haters or bots or trolls for the most part.

      I never did either, I ended up majoring in history instead. But maybe someday…

      Reply
      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        Fingers crossed 🤞

        Reply
  8. John Avatar
    John

    And I am here for you, Pooja! I’ve been blogging for at least ten years and have met so many wonderful people on WP, some of which we still follow each other after many years. They become real friends regardless of never meeting in person. I love that! Some of those friends are in other countries and the same thing happens for me on Instagram too. Be well my wonderful friend! 😊❤️

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Exactly, it’s easy to make friends here and the largest majority of bloggers are so kind and easy to get along with. They really do become like real friends and we form connections with everyone here. Thank you and you as well! ❤️☺️

      Reply
      1. John Avatar
        John

        🤙🏻😊😊😊🥰🥰

        Reply
      2. John Avatar
        John

        😊😊😊😊

        Reply
  9. Linda Avatar
    Linda

    Connection over content is SO TRUE – I couldn’t have anticipated it either – yay you for being in tune with the wider world! And all the best for 2026 my friend! Linda xox

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It’s one of those things you don’t realise till you become part of the community! Thank you and you as well, I hope 2026 is amazing for us all!

      Reply
  10. shivatje Avatar
    shivatje

    🙏🌹

    Aum Shanti

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      🙏🙏

      Reply
  11. katiemiafrederick Avatar
    katiemiafrederick

    Yes Dear Pooja WordPress is Practically Free Therapy in So Many
    Ways True No Need for Insurance to Pay For Support Groups Here

    For Our Varied Human Conditions From the Cultures We LiVE iN

    Finding Internationally

    What Unifies Us

    More Than

    Divides

    Us Indeed

    Hehe True Not Unlike
    Some of the Locals Where
    i Live i’m Surely Not Afraid
    of Foreigners These Days

    And It’s Made me Much More
    Proficient in Human Language

    Yes Even Switch Hitting IN Ease
    From Introvert of Old to Extrovert of New

    Yet Still Switch
    Hitting to Before

    This too With SMiLes

    Best of Both Worlds
    WordPress Fosters for me
    ALoNG With Free Dance too

    With
    SMiLes

    Writing Has Always Been
    A Source For Those Outcast
    And Or Oppressed From the

    Localities Where They Live of
    Course With All Other Expressive

    Arts
    too
    With SMiLes
    To Spread Wings

    And
    iFly
    Free..:)

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      True, it’s like free therapy and helps us communicate/process things better. I’m definitely more extroverted thanks to blogging too. I was sooooo introverted when I started this blog, I laugh thinking of that version of me. That too, it’s great meeting people from around the world and realising at the end of the day we’re all just human. I’m glad WP has given us all this outlet and a place to be ourselves unapologetically.

      Reply
      1. katiemiafrederick Avatar
        katiemiafrederick

        With All The Humans Other
        Nature And Tools We Create
        Beautiful it is To Evolve Indeed

        In One
        Lifetime
        Dear Pooja

        With SMiles
        ☺️🙌🌱🎶

        Reply
  12. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    That is my experience too. A wonderful and supportive community- more like an online family here.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, exactly- it feels that way for sure.

      Reply
  13. Carolyn Page Avatar
    Carolyn Page

    I so agree, Pooja. WP is just like a social friend. I do enjoy the widespread variety of people and content. The only downside, if there is one, is that many of the friends I made when first I began my blog, no longer blog anymore. I appreciate that people move on, for one reason or another. However, along the way others have come, friendships have been created, and newness presents in some really original ways. All in all, it’s been a great ride…

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, that’s true- sometimes we make good friends and then they stop blogging which can hurt. But all we can do is be grateful for the friendship while it lasted and make new friends.

      Reply
  14. radiosarahc Avatar
    radiosarahc

    Yes! I did not expect to enjoy being part of the blogging community as much as I do, it’s been an unexpected bonus of blogging and probably why I’m still here 😂

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Same here, I was surprised but love the social aspects of blogging now 😃

      Reply
  15. byngnigel Avatar
    byngnigel

    Ah yes… this is such a wonderful community. And zi coukd spend days just chillin, absorbing the energy of everyone else. Creativity is good for my soul. And we do get familiar with everyone, knowing bits about their personal life, and soon you realize that relationships are building.
    I enjoy blogging… and I think it’s mostly due to the interaction with fellow creatives from all over the world.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Absolutely, there are so many writers on here that inspire me and help better my writing too. It becomes like a real friendship since we share memories, talk about life etc. The social aspects is certainly one of the best parts of blogging.

      Reply
      1. byngnigel Avatar
        byngnigel

        It moat certainly is.

        Reply
  16. kwholley63 Avatar
    kwholley63

    Funny enough, I was thinking about this exact topic the other day and started jotting down my thoughts. Why blog? For me, it began as something I simply wanted to try—a place to say what I want to say and to create something new as I shifted from work life into retirement.
    I do it for me.

    Sure, I love when people follow, comment, or hit that little “like” button, but I don’t lose sleep over the numbers. I just hope that what I share from 60+ years on this planet lands with someone out there. Maybe it helps them understand what retirement really feels like, or what it’s like to pack up your life, move abroad, and start fresh with new places, new routines, and the occasional “Wait… what language was that?” moment.
    And if someone discovers a great book because of one of my reviews, that’s a bonus.

    In the end, the blog is my way of staying curious, staying creative, and staying connected—even if half the time I’m just talking to the internet like it’s an old friend who never interrupts.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      You know, as someone that studied history I always think of future historians going through all our blogs and being both fascinated and amused. I think that would be really cool. Blogging is definitely a great outlet.

      Reply
  17. MaryG Avatar
    MaryG

    So true!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks, glad you agree!

      Reply
  18. Annika Perry Avatar
    Annika Perry

    Pooja, it is a wonder and you’re right, when starting a blogging one has no idea about the connections and the community they are about to enter into, about the enriching friendships, the engaging conversations and the sharing our thoughts and about our craft. A lovely post and reminder to us all!

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It was the same for me, blogging evolved into so much more and I think that’s the case for so many of us. Thanks so much!

      Reply
  19. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    I started blogging to fill the void after I retired, and so glad I did. Not only could I be creative, I found the wonderful WordPress community. Learning and sharing with so many good people is most enjoyable. Bloggers like you, Pooja, make it a wonderful experience. 💖 Hugs!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      That’s amazing, I think it’s such a great way to stay active and creative. Thank you and right back at you. Hugs! 🤗

      Reply
      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        🫠

        Reply
  20. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    it’s good to find a comforting niche.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It really is.

      Reply
  21. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    Enjoyed this blog. Glad you found community here.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much, I am too.

      Reply
  22. TheRhymeRula 🔱✊🏾 Avatar
    TheRhymeRula 🔱✊🏾

    Establishing connections on this platform is something most of us have been fortunate enough to experience. However, we have to maintain those connections, and that will require a lot of work. To be honest, I’d say that the one aspect that I need to improve on is being more involved and engaged with this incredibly fascinating community of bloggers.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, it does take a lot of work to maintain the connections we make here. Maybe it’s something you can do more of this year.

      Reply
  23. emosobriety Avatar
    emosobriety

    I love the WordPress community and the friends I’ve made. It’s crazy to think how many people you meet through blogging.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      So true, it’s so nice to meet new people from around the world.

      Reply
  24. jesusluvsall Avatar
    jesusluvsall

    Because of blogging I connected with you my fellow Jedi 🙂

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It’s so wonderful to be able to connect from all over the world 🙂

      Reply
  25. rootedhabitat Avatar
    rootedhabitat

    Thank you for this post. As a newbie blogger, this is information I didn’t know and am grateful to know. I look forward to experiencing more of this WordPress community. Great to read all of the comments about the WP blogging community.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much, I’m glad the post was informative. Once you grow a bit more and start interacting more blogging will become even more fun.

      Reply
  26. wiseforward Avatar
    wiseforward

    I totally agree with you, it is about the connections and the community. Awesome!

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, that’s a big part of it. Thank you!

      Reply
  27. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    You said it so well Pooja and that is where kindred souls find each other.. you know soul mates.. lol Actually, some do! You have been a pioneer from the early days and we all admire your friendship and gifts, not to mention work arounds -:) and expertise!!! xx

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Haha yes exactly! Thank you so much and so glad to have met my writing soul mate here 🤭😉

      Reply
  28. ianscyberspace Avatar
    ianscyberspace

    Yes we can learn a lot from the work and thoughts of others

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes and it can inspire our writing so much too.

      Reply
  29. Joseph Glidden Avatar
    Joseph Glidden

    Very true. I am grateful for all that you share in your posts.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thanks so much, grateful for your wonderful comments too.

      Reply
  30. Stephanie Avatar
    Stephanie

    For the first time ever, I had the most disturbing comment on one of my posts. It was truly horrible, but I realized there wasn’t much to do about it. 🙁

    Reply
    1. a-cute-weirdo Avatar
      a-cute-weirdo

      Hey Stephanie, sorry to hear that. I think WordPress (or Jetpack, I guess) allows you to delete comments.

      Reply
    2. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Oh no, that’s awful. The first one is always the worst because you’re so surprised and caught off guard. But don’t pay it any mind, there’s always going to be mean people out there. Focus on all the good comments. 💗

      Reply
  31. a-cute-weirdo Avatar
    a-cute-weirdo

    I’m so grateful for you, Pooja❤️

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      So grateful for you as well 🥰

      Reply
  32. The Soul Writes Avatar
    The Soul Writes

    I agree. Blogging definitely allows self growth.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It does. Thanks so much.

      Reply
  33. Mary K. Doyle Avatar
    Mary K. Doyle

    This is true, Pooja. I do feel I have friends here and also trusted sources of information. I love the community, and I appreciate friends, such as you.

    Reply
    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Appreciate you so much as well and I agree, we make connections here and it’s lovely. Especially compared to other online platforms.

      Reply
  34. Pennize Pics Avatar
    Pennize Pics

    I agree with you about the community here Pooj. I spend a lot of time on Substack where I write a lot more content but here on WordPress is where most of my connections have been made.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yeah, I’ve tried Blogger but it wasn’t great for connection. Same with Substack. I know other platforms have their pros but for now I’m here for social aspects.

      Reply
  35. Dawn Avatar
    Dawn

    The connection and support in this community is like none other. 💞

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Yes, exactly- that’s been my experience too. 💕

      Reply
  36. The Introverted Bookworm Avatar
    The Introverted Bookworm

    What you say about blogging is so true; it does foster connection and is a safe space! By the way, I do love your blog – it’s awesome and always leaves me with something to ponder! 🌸🌸

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      It really does and thank you so much, your blog does the same for me! 😊

      Reply
  37. pk 🌎 Avatar
    pk 🌎

    Awesome post ❤️ Thaks for sharing.

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    1. P. J. Gudka Avatar
      P. J. Gudka

      Thank you so much 😊

      Reply
  38. Klausbernd Avatar
    Klausbernd

    Well, we have the feeling you idealise blogging. We are blogging now for more than 15 years and it changed. More and more blogs are a vanity fair and full of senseless infos. And more so the comments. We started blogging because our agents and publishers asked us to. Blogging became more and more a place where no discussions and hardly any critique takes place. Everyone finds their views confirmed; there is no progress in understanding. So blogging became boring and that’s surely one reason that it is a discontinued model. For all the young people we know blogging is an old people’s place in the net.
    The Fab Four of Cley
    🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

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