I rarely talk about fashion trends and celebrities because the truth is I don’t care. And I don’t “stan” any celebs although I like some. I try to keep stuff like that off my blog because that’s not what Lifesfinewhine is about. However, there is a new “fashion trend” going around that is terrifying me. If you haven’t heard, apparently being skinny to a point where your bones are showing is becoming a trend again. This was a thing in the 2000’s things changed when BBL’s took over the 2010’s. However, celebs are now going for natural BBL’s and extremely skinny bodies.
TW: In the rest of the post I am going to mention eating disorders and self-harm. If that is something that triggers you please don’t read ahead.
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What Does This Fashion Trend Have To Do With ME?
I’m 25 which means I grew up in the 2000’s and the 2010’s. Two decades when two opposite extreme body types were embraced. I grew up looking up to women like Brittany Spears, Christina Aguilera and the Olsen twins. Wanting to look that skinny. I was always a chubby child. And people were not shy about pointing it out to my face. When I saw women like that look so skinny I wanted to look like that too. Already, even as a child I hated my body.
As I got older, this obsession with hating my body grew. I started to see food as the enemy. Food = calories = weight gain. That’s how I thought of food. I remember one specific moment when I saw this picture of a celeb after having a baby. The magazine was praising her for losing the baby weight so fast and it just seriously triggered me. I must have cried for days after that because I felt like someone could lose so much weight after giving birth and I was still there fat and ugly.
Once, I got a little older, BBW’s became a thing. Now, I the “fat” parts I hated suddenly became something to be praised for. They became my “curves” and were no longer my “fat”. The only problem was that this again took an extreme turn and suddenly I felt like these “curves” weren’t big enough. And the cycle of hating myself started once more.
Luckily, as I became an adult my relationship with my body became better. And as you can tell by my many posts about food my relationship with food became more positive too. There are still days I wish my waist was smaller or my arms weren’t so fat. But most days I like how I look. And that’s a lot.
What Now?
The reason I shared these experiences of mine for the first time publicly is because of this new extremely skinny fashion trend going on. No one protected me from it in the 2000’s. No one ever taught me to love myself and my body. And no one checked up on me when I was crying alone in my room. No one asked me why there were cuts on my arms and legs. (this doesn’t include my friends they were always there for me). I don’t blame anyone though because it is what it is. My hate for my body just kept growing and I know how lucky I am that it didn’t turn into an eating disorder. But not every young woman and young girl is that lucky.
I wanted to write this post to let any young girls or young women reading this know that they are beautiful. Your weight does not define your beauty. Whether you are skinny, plus-sized or somewhere in the middle. As long as you are eating healthy, taking care of your physical and mental health, exercising and feeling good you are beautiful. Don’t let the stupid stuff you see on social media and the internet screw you up like I did. Protect yourself. Love yourself. Embrace your body as it is. You will never look “perfect” because what is thought of as “perfect” changes every decade. Stop chasing perfection or some “fashion trend” and start chasing happiness instead.
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you are gorgeous, I’m never gonna be skinny; I have ass and thighs for days and no matter what I will keep on lovin those parts of mine!!! Fuck the haters chic!!!!!!
Thank you and yes love yourself no matter what!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m sure it will help a lot of people.
Thank you and I hope so.
Try to remember the amazing things that your body accomplishes everyday instead of what size someone who doesn’t even know you thinks is the best.
Yes, absolutely. Our body does so much for us on a daily basis.
You’re right – I’ve noticed the resurgence of it as well. Not just in western media but I’ve noticed it getting worse in kdramas etc too
Yeah I feel like Korean media is even more extreme about it. It’s really sad.
Damn I had to check this post out Pooja because of the fashion you mentioned here. As for me, I hate fashion trends, yes I am into men’s fashion and style but this trend I read here that showing off your bones and being to skinny is on trend in 2022 well that’s just bull in my view, that’s exposing the skin, its ridiculous.
Agreed, some trends are ridiculous and should not be followed.
Pooja, I love this! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing about this. I was not aware this was a thing again (shows how out of step I am with fashion trends) until reading your post, and it terrifies me also. I resonate so much with your thoughts and please keep rocking it!
Thanks so much! I wasn’t aware until I saw something about it on social media. Definitely something to be afraid of. I hate that there will be another whole generation of women who will see extremely skinny bodies in the media and hate their own body.
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I love this blog post. In my case, I have been skinny throughout my school days and junior college days. As much as the people with a curvy body have to go through body shaming inn their lives, so do the underweight people. But now at an age of 26 , I have realized, no matter what , just love yourself. And just cut off those toxic people around you , who make you feel conscious about your own body. There have been times, when such ridiculous people kept teasing me for my small boobs and what not, which made me cry often. But now, I embrace and love myself more.
Yes, I think most body types are criticised and we all have our own insecurities. I’m sorry you went through that. I have a sister who is extremely skinny and went through the same things as you. I think loving who you are is the best way to combat it.
well Pooja i cannot agree with you more. Being a teenager I have faced body shaming a lot and i think it was two years back where i got this sudden craze to loose weight. I stopped eating well and spent hours in gym which was completely unhealthy for my body. But after so long i am finally learning to embrace myself and not give shit to what others think about me .
Sorry you faced that as well. It can be particularly difficult as a teenager. But I’m glad you’re changing your life now and learning to love yourself.
Love the article! I just wanna say though that Kim Kardashian’s body (for example) doesn’t need to represent anything for us, or for anyone. And just because we see it, doesn’t mean we have to become it. Also, some people are naturally skinny without starving or being unhealthy in certain phases of life (or just in general) and that can also be beautiful. All bodies can be beautiful, it doesn’t have to be either/or.
Thanks so much. I totally agree. However, not all women are able to look at bodies in the media and ignore them. Unfortunately, a large number of women feel the need to look like that. And will do anything to get a certain body type.
Yes definitely, all bodies are absolutely beautiful no matter what. As I stated in the conclusion “Whether you are skinny, plus-sized or somewhere in the middle… you are beautiful.”
Yeah, but we give these celebrities and the media way too much power. And we make them responsible for what we go through. I think we can change that! I believe it’s totally in our power to start demanding the change we want to see, and rebel against the expectations put on us.
Totally, if you think about it the reason the media has so much power is because we constantly consume it. I hope one day we live in a world where media has no power over us. But unfortunately we’re not there yet. However, the good news is that we are slowly moving in that direction. For example, the Kardashians/Jenners are slowly starting to fall from fame and are much less popular than they once were.
Also, I don’t disagree with your point, I think you’re totally right… I’m just adding to what you are saying!
Lol no worries, I didn’t think of it as disagreeing more like having a conversation!
Also, I don’t disagree with your point, I think you’re totally right… I’m just adding to what you are saying!
I kind of have a different opinion. My whole life I have been terribly bullied for being skinny. Getting called anorexic, rumors being started that I throw up after I eat. I think the over all issue that needs to be tackled is body positivity for all body types. I wouldn’t say the skinny trend is coming back but the natural bodies are coming back. We have to remember the kardashians paid to be thick they were never curvy besides khloe. Khloe as well has been under tremendous stress, I don’t even think she wants to be that skinny.
I agree about body positivity but the skinny trend is definitely returning. Celebs like the Kardashions, Bella and Gigi Hadid, Julia Fox and more are increasingly losing weight and promoting unhealthy ways to do so ( https://www.thecut.com/2022/10/internet-thin-culture-is-back.html ) You can see thin bodies being celebrated once more in media and fashion ( https://www.byrdie.com/fashion-month-spring-summer-2023-thinness-6750865 ).
Khloe has actually celebrated her current weight loss multiple times on their show so I think she does want to be that skinny. When her sisters told her they were “worried” about how much weight she lost she reacted by celebrating.
Oh wow I haven’t seen these, I think I’m on the bbl side of social media lol
Lol I think bbl’s are still around but are slowly going away or people are getting more natural looking bbl’s.
Thank you so much for sharing the article please keep sharing it…
Thank you so much.
Hey Pooj, it’s funny to admit, I am this skinny chick. People used to hate this about me but what am I supposed to do? It runs in jeans ))) pun intended ))) You are 25, that’s wonderful. I am turning 40 next month. I think of myself as this big and strong person, even powerful sometimes, then I see myself in the mirror running down the street. In my peripheral vision I notice this stick figure and think who is it? the answer is me. Self-perception is not always true, not always objective, and at the end of the day why should I let it rule over? I am much more that just my body. While my sister calls me fat ( sorry I mentioned it already ) my in-laws laugh at me because I am too skinny. What an oxymoron! Both of the sides are wrong, because the truth is somewhere in between.
I think that often when it comes to women’s bodies you can really do no right. You’ll always either be fat or skinny. In my opinion, we just need to accept that we all have different bodies and they’re all unique and beautiful.
Agreed