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S. C. Lourie Quote

The reason I picked S. C. Lourie quote for todays quote is because this is something I am experiencing first hand. I’ve been making a conscious effort to set clearer and more firm boundaries. As well as confront those that have wronged me in the past. I’m not confronting everyone because there are a lot. I’m just confronting those that I need to in order to heal. And it’s tough and at first it doesn’t feel good. You end up feeling like the bad guy for setting better boundaries and for having basic feelings. Not everyone is going to love you as you deserve to be loved. That’s a hard pill to swallow.

Sorry, that ended up being darker than I thought. It’s not a bad thing to set boundaries or try to heal from past traumas. It’s just important to remember that it’s going to be tough and it’s going to hurt before it gets better.

I promised to share an image of the cat we’ve been taking care of. She’s such a cute little thing but very hyper since she’s still young. She’s in and out of the front door all day lol. Yesterday she was playing with some kids in our compound and thoroughly enjoyed herself. She has such a playful and outgoing personality! I really hope we can find her a loving home.

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116 responses to “S. C. Lourie Quote”

  1. John Avatar
    John

    Boundaries are good, Pooja, set them! The cat looks like a Bengal, people here have them and they are beautiful!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! It’s definitely a beautiful kitten!

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      1. John Avatar
        John

        ❤️❤️☺️☺️

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  2. Bahanur Avatar
    Bahanur

    This was a refreshing post, Pooja 😊 The lovely cat brought a much-needed smile to my face 🥹 🐈‍⬛ I am about to finish my teaching practice, which seemed extremely difficult in the beginning, so I relate to the quote. Positive things suck the life out of you first and then add something valuable to your life 😂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much and so glad it made you smile 😊
      Absolutely, things are always more difficult at the beginning but oftentimes they get better are for the best in the long run.

      Reply
  3. Ludmilla Louissaint Avatar
    Ludmilla Louissaint

    Very good! Setting boundaries brings peace, helps you heal, and also gives you respect.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      That’s so true. It’s tough at first but over time it’s for the best.

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      1. Ludmilla Louissaint Avatar
        Ludmilla Louissaint

        Of course yes!

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  4. Mary Gwyn Avatar
    Mary Gwyn

    Setting boundaries was one of the toughest things I did when I first started my co-dependency recovery many years ago. While it has made me sad at times, I have never regretted it. You have courage! Stay with it.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      It’s incredibly difficult when you’ve spent your life not having proper boundaries. Thanks!

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      1. Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/ Avatar
        Tamara Kulish from https://tamarakulish.com/

        Keep going Pooja! Setting boundaries is incredibly difficult, not the least because it feels incredibly confrontational, even disloyal! The people who cross our boundaries are people who themselves don’t have a clear idea of what they are, and so will give pushback.

        Stand firm, know where you end and they begin. Remember it isn’t your job to fix them or even to get them to understand! We each have that responsibility, so your boundaries, are yours. Even if others don’t understand them or want to understand them doesn’t take away from the validity of you having them.

        In dysfunctional families and communities, setting one’s boundaries can be perceived as rejecting them, so they will push back and try to get you to return to the old ways, because then they can continue on their path without having to deal with their own conscience of hurting others. By setting your own boundaries, you make ripples and even waves.

        Keep going! You’re doing what is right!

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Thanks! I agree, it feels scary and makes you feel disloyal but I think boundaries are important and worth it. Hopefully, over time I’ll get better at it.

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  5. Poet of the Light Avatar
    Poet of the Light

    Once I understood that the apocryphal of others was none of my concern and my attempt to correct its fallacies will only give it more credence and leave me further exhausted. The only way to change one’s psychological default is to reset it by razing it’s landscape to the point that all toxicity has been removed for the foreseeable future. And we must remain vigilant these new borders are guarded at all cost. We owe it to ourselves after paying the dark price others have left for us.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You’re so right. It’s not just about setting the boundaries but also about making sure we keep them up. It’s tough but for the best overall.

      Reply
  6. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
    Daily Interesting Blogs

    Yes, Pooja, we need to set some boundaries. Well-written post!👍👍

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much! 😊

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      1. Daily Interesting Blogs Avatar
        Daily Interesting Blogs

        My pleasure! Pooja😊👍🙏

        Reply
  7. Nicole Smith Avatar
    Nicole Smith

    I love the quote and the cat is adorable.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much.

      Reply
  8. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    Very right Pooja! Setting boundaries is very important. The cat is adorable

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        You’re always welcome

        Reply
  9. Destiny Avatar
    Destiny

    it is hardest at the beginning…
    set your boundaries and keep at it, Pooja. 🤍

    a lovely quote ✨

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, hopefully it’ll be easier over time. Glad you enjoyed the quote 😊

      Reply
  10. drpoonamchaubey Avatar
    drpoonamchaubey

    Traumatic experiences always need time to heal ! so give yourself time.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, it takes a long time to heal.

      Reply
  11. Michelle Avatar
    Michelle

    As a people pleaser, I can totally relate to how hard it can be to set boundaries. But it needs to be done and hopefully it’ll get to the point where it isn’t as hard anymore and it’s just second nature. Love this post🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, I’m a people pleaser too and it’s tough. But yeah, it’s best in the long run. We need clear boundaries. Thanks ☺

      Reply
  12. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    Sometimes we have to make ourselves do the things we don’t want to do, overcome our fears, be bold, be prepared to fail. Out of that comes growth.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I absolutely agree, it’s scary but it’s worth it.

      Reply
  13. Bookstooge Avatar
    Bookstooge

    Pretty much agreeing with others about the boundary thing.
    The thing is, sometimes it is a real battle to keep those boundaries, as other people simply will not respect them. I have a 3strikes and you are out policy. Once I’ve let someone know when they have crossed a line with me, and I have asked them not to do it again, if they do it 2 more times, and I say something each time, I cut them out of my life. And yeah, that doesn’t feel good at first. But I only have so much emotional energy and I can’t be bothered to waste it on someone who doesn’t respect me.

    It helps that I’m not on any social media besides facebook and am introvert, so I don’t have a lot of people in my life already 😀

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    1. Bookstooge Avatar
      Bookstooge

      Ooops. I meant wordpress, not facebook. I quit that cesspool back in ’12 or so…

      Reply
      1. Pooja G Avatar
        Pooja G

        Lol yeah, Facebook sucks 😅

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    2. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, it’s not easy to stick to our boundaries especially when it comes to friends and family. I think the 3 strikes policy is a good idea.

      I don’t have those many people in my life either, it’s just out of the ones I do have some really don’t respect boundaries.

      Reply
  14. DentMistry Avatar
    DentMistry

    I need details

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Sending them soon!

      Reply
  15. utahan15 Avatar
    utahan15

    to quote the inestimable ricky melocke. ya payin fer it nowwwwwwwwwwwwww

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      No good deed goes unpunished 😭

      Reply
      1. utahan15 Avatar
        utahan15

        it does not and john likes sugar. yum and salt . i like my fingers. and on and on your friend on and on john .

        Reply
  16. Milena Alien Avatar
    Milena Alien

    It’s a good quote, change is good. Boundaries are useful for all parties involved. Today at work we had a remote morning session, it was stressful. I don’t miss online teaching

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks, glad you enjoyed the quote. That’s awful but I understand, the years I had to study online were tough so they’re probably even worse for a teacher.

      Reply
      1. Milena Alien Avatar
        Milena Alien

        It sounds about right. Especially when you don’t speak the same language

        Reply
  17. sentikijamir Avatar
    sentikijamir

    This is so true and on point! As I grow older, I realise the importance of setting boundaries. You go, girlfriend!
    And the cat!! Adorable!😭💕

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! I know, she’s such a sweetheart 💕

      Reply
  18. Maryanne Avatar
    Maryanne

    That cat is adorable!!
    I think it’s a great idea to confront people who wronged you. However, do be prepared as people can be egotistical and cruel. For the most part, people don’t like being called out on what they did wrong. I lost as so-called “friend” for doing this. He twisted it all around and made it seem like I was “crazy” and there was something wrong with me. (This is what narcissists do, it’s called gas-lighting).
    Another friend, who I also knew since I was a teenager, is Queen of insert-foot-in-mouth. She’ll say things that just aren’t true and if I correct her I get, “Why are you doing this to me?” (Very dramatic). I’d hate to blow off the friendship because we’ve known each other so long and she is a very kind person, but I can’t talk to her. If I can’t be honest with someone, I feel trapped with them.
    My sister and I don’t always agree, but we can talk it out. Same as with my husband. They are the best relationships I have because they are built on honesty and not holding back. I wish more people could be like this.
    Good luck to you, and I can’t wait to read what happens. Hopefully your experiences are better than mine.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      She is, and so playful too!

      Yeah, you’re so right. I’ve got a few very typical narcissistic responses and that just tells me I need to cut that person out of my life permanently.
      That’s sad, I hate when you can’t have a real, honest conversation with someone. It’s tough to be around them.
      Thanks so much!

      Reply
  19. Eugi Avatar
    Eugi

    Boundaries are important to keep us safe and to help move us further to our goals. That is an adorable cat! 💖

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, for the most part it protects our heart and mind. At least that’s how it is for me. Thanks 😊

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      1. Eugi Avatar
        Eugi

        Most welcome!

        Reply
  20. iambrotherlove Avatar
    iambrotherlove

    definitely, making positive changes wont be fruitful in the beginning, which can always be the challenging part. But once you go through with those changes, then the positive vibes begin. Whether its letting people go, or closing one door to open the next and so forth. It’s all part of growing up

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      True, I think you only see the success longterm.

      Reply
  21. Rita Avatar
    Rita

    Great quote! It’s so true. Love that.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
  22. Belladonna Avatar
    Belladonna

    Great quote! Yes girl set those boundaries and don’t let anyone cross them EVER!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, hoping to do just that!

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      1. Belladonna Avatar
        Belladonna

        Good!!!!

        Reply
  23. Baydreamer - Lauren Scott Avatar
    Baydreamer – Lauren Scott

    That quote is spot on, Pooja, and boundaries are necessary. And that cat is so cute! 🩷

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much and so glad you enjoyed the quote!

      Reply
      1. Baydreamer - Lauren Scott Avatar
        Baydreamer – Lauren Scott

        You’re welcome, Pooja!

        Reply
  24. donnajburkholder Avatar
    donnajburkholder

    Not dark at all. So important to do. You go girl!

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thank you so much!

      Reply
  25. Carl Setzer Avatar
    Carl Setzer

    Yeah, boundaries are critical. I’m glad you’re continuing to grow, Pooja

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much and I agree, boundaries are so important.

      Reply
  26. Rising Star Avatar
    Rising Star

    Greatly agree with the you have quoted. At the beginning of new journey, everything seems to be hard and difficult and we can’t feel it positive, but with the passage of time things get settled and we enjoy its positive impact on our side. BTW as usual, very nice one Pooja G, lol💕😍💕

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. I agree and glad you enjoyed the quote 😊

      Reply
      1. Rising Star Avatar
        Rising Star

        Always welcome dear

        Reply
  27. Rising Star Avatar
    Rising Star

    Can I get a link to my blog post on leadership from your article

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      You would like to link my post on your post?

      Reply
      1. Rising Star Avatar
        Rising Star

        Yes, why not dear, I will reblog your blog posts 🤗

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Thanks, really appreciate it 😊

          Reply
      2. Rising Star Avatar
        Rising Star

        Here’s the link to my blog post

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          I’ve added it, let me know when you’ve reblogged 😊

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          1. Rising Star Avatar
            Rising Star

            Thanks Pooja 🤗💕, you will be informed shortly 💐

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      3. Rising Star Avatar
        Rising Star

        https://idealinspiration.blog/body-language-for-leaders/

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  28. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    Sometimes, it’s better to confront people and make them clear that you won’t tolerate bad behaviour or any nonsense rather than keep it inside and suffer alone. We can’t keep everyone happy and it’s not necessary at all.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, some people just don’t take subtle hints and it’s best to confront them.

      Reply
  29. wingman2023 Avatar
    wingman2023

    Lovely cat. And it sounds like you are really enjoying having it around. Maybe it’s doing you some good. If no one claims her, why not keep her as a pet? It always seems the hardest things to do offer the greatest rewards; at least in my experience.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yeah, she has such a friendly personality and I do plan to take care of her if no one else adopts her. She’s such a sweetheart but I’m trying not to get too attached at the moment because someone may still adopt her and I’ve taken care of strays before, gotten really attached and then they got adopted which sucked lol.

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      1. wingman2023 Avatar
        wingman2023

        I see. Wise approach.

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  30. Shaunelius Sterns Avatar
    Shaunelius Sterns

    Cute little kitty. Yes, boundaries are important and they must be respected.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Yes, she’s adorable and so friendly.

      Reply
  31. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

    I think I forgot to comment 😅
    Great quote 👏🏻👏🏻

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Lol, it’s fine I was too busy to check comment properly yesterday anyway 😅

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      1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
        DEVANG UPADHYAYA

        Actually I liked before
        I forgot to comment 😂

        That’s very unlikely of me especially with site like lifesfinewhine

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Maybe you’re bored of my posts now 😅

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          1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
            DEVANG UPADHYAYA

            I wish I can say that 😛

            I don’t like people with 2-3 posts a day, it’s hard to read and comment on them.
            Your posting schedule is very relaxed, I love that. I’m amazed that you manage to share meaningful things 4-5 days of the week. I get notification about it in the morning, so when I first use phone in morning (7:30 am), I read your posts.

            The variety, oh wow. I’m fascinated with that. However, I just feel bad when you declare you are sick( which is like twice in a month).

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            1. Pooja G Avatar
              Pooja G

              I lead a stressful life and stress comes with sickness, unfortunately. But life goes on as it always does 😉

              Thanks, glad you find my posting schedule relaxed because I don’t lol jk 😅

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              1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                If you don’t find it relaxing, then maybe you need to slow down further.

                However, I have noticed that for last 2 years there isn’t single day when your posts quality went down.

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                1. Pooja G Avatar
                  Pooja G

                  Thanks. I don’t like slowing down, I work best under pressure lol.

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                  1. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                    DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                    Then don’t whine 😛

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                    1. Pooja G Avatar
                      Pooja G

                      But the whining is the best part!! 😩

                    2. DEVANG UPADHYAYA Avatar
                      DEVANG UPADHYAYA

                      Well yeah 😅

  32. A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA Avatar
    A & J PEI Treasures/E Jean Simpson, BEd, BA, MA

    So sorry you had a hard past. I hope you will find a happier future.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. One can only hope.

      Reply
  33. Rising Star Avatar
    Rising Star

    Rebloged and also shared on My Pinterest https://pin.it/Jl8x1SF

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
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  35. Steve Avatar
    Steve

    Hi, I am doing well, thanks. Life has been busy and today feels like a bit of a break from commitments.

    I like the quote and how you relate it to setting boundaries. And you’re right, doing that can expose you to some nasty reactions, but it is still important to set them and look to the future for improvement in that relationship. I hope it all works out for you.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Glad you could take a bit of a break today. I know you’ve been busy recently.

      Thanks so much, hope so too.

      Reply
  36. britcanwrites Avatar
    britcanwrites

    Boundaries are good. And I don’t know much about cats, but it looks like this one has found a new home with good food. 🙂

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much, this one is very friendly for a cat lol. Hopefully, we can re-home it though and if not it’s here to stay I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

      Reply
  37. Jonathan Caswell Avatar
    Jonathan Caswell

    Yes, life’s lessons often do make positive changes via dark periods. Remember Psalm 23—where God is with us in the valley of the shadow of death-? He sets a table before me in the presence of my enemies…! Real tough to do without a Higher Power—we just don’t have the strength or wisdom on our own But thank you for being so inspiring! Is this cat now “re-homed”…with you? 😀

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much and yes the cat now has a new home!

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      1. Jonathan Caswell Avatar
        Jonathan Caswell

        MEOW! 😀

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  38. Gertrude_n Avatar
    Gertrude_n

    Setting boundaries are one of the ways we show up for ourselves, am glad that you are doing that.

    I’ve learnt first hand that many* people don’t like other people with boundaries, as it is difficult to manipulate these people.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Absolutely, I think it’s important to put ourselves sometimes. It’s a form of self-care. True, people don’t like those with strong boundaries as they can’t manipulate them.

      Reply
  39. a-cute-weirdo Avatar
    a-cute-weirdo

    💯I’ve found this to be true. It is hard to accept because we don’t know the future and we can’t see the whole picture, but sometimes, good things start out in seemingly horrible ways. That’s why I choose to trust the One who knows all things

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      I agree, sometimes the worst times can turn into the best. We just have to trust the universe.

      Reply
  40. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
    Cindy Georgakas

    Good for you Pooja on setting boundaries. It’s not easy but essential and it does get easier over time but it can be painful. Now that kitty is so cute. Are you sure it’s not part leopard! It looks like it’s your new pet as far as I can see! ❤️

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much! Haha it’s adorable but has a new home now 😊

      Reply
      1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar
        Cindy Georgakas

        Oh wow! That was fast!!!💕

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        1. Pooja G Avatar
          Pooja G

          Yeah, someone was already interested and just had to confirm!

          Reply
  41. Smile Quotes 24 Avatar
    Smile Quotes 24

    Nice and interesting post, thank you for sharing

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much.

      Reply
  42. Pennize Pics Avatar
    Pennize Pics

    I like that quote and that kitty is cute. I love my 😺. Some of the heartbreak that I have gone through in the past five years would have been harder if I didn’t have the comfort of my cat. Sometimes therapy comes with four paws.

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    1. Pooja G Avatar
      Pooja G

      Thanks so much. Yeah, pets make life a lot better.

      Reply

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