Blogger Interview With Ominiran

Blogger Interview With Ominiran
I have been a fan of Ominiran’s blog for a while now and I was super excited when she emailed me because I thought it would be so awesome to interview her and of course it totally was! I really hope you guys take a minute to check out her blog because I’m sure you’ll love it.
1. Thanks so much for being a part of this interview. Tell us a little bit about yourself and what your blog is about.
 My name is Ominiran Oluwabukolami. I am a Nigerian. I currently am an apprentice in Fashion designing.  My blog is a lifestyle blog. It’s a blog that doesn’t have a limit to what is being talked about. I take my audiences on a roller coaster of posts that are very informative but fun too.
2. When did you start your blog and what made you decide to start blogging?
I started my blog last year August. I actually started blogging because I wanted a space where I could share my thoughts with people other than the people around me physically. I wanted to share my thoughts and views and also have to hear what other people thought of it.
3. You write about a number of topics on your blog- do you have a favourite topic to write about?
Hmm…. I would love to do a series on the best things in Nigeria. I feel like most people have the wrong perspective on Nigeria as a country. Not their fault though but then I would also love to share the sweet things about being a Nigeria and living in Nigeria.
4. What advice would you give someone who is thinking about becoming a blogger or that just started blogging?
Being a blogger is another life on its own so if you want to be a blogger, you must sure it is a passion. You should have a zeal for it. When I started my blog, I was excited but after a while, I got tired because I wasn’t having so much engagement. The passion I had for it was what helped me later get back to it. It’s not easy especially with all the techy stuffs you have to work with. So you must be ready to research, love what you do and be consistent.
5. What are some of your long term goals for blogging? 
One of my long term goals is having 5k followers… Consistent ones. Possibly earning from blogging and making friends from this space.
6. How do you balance blogging and everything else going on in your life?
Just today, I was thinking of the fact that I did not made a post on Thursday which is the set day for new blog post. This happened because I haven’t had the time to sort out the new blog post. Balancing everything else with blogging is not easy. But time management helps a great deal.
7. What is your favourite food?
My favorite food is Garri… It’s like a cereal… it’s made from cassava and in Nigeria, It’s like the food associated with people who have nothing to eat. But I love it so much because it easy to make and it’s cheap. It can also be taken with milk, sugar, groundnut, fish and chilled water. Just the thought of it is making me crave for it. I also love spaghetti and sauce.
8. What is your favourite childhood memory?
I grew up with my Uncle.My cousins, my sister and I had so much fun memories together. Especially during our summer holidays. I remember the times we became really crazy with Korean movies. We bought so many without my Uncle’s knowledge and I remember trekking a long distance just to buy it. I also remember nights that we pretended to be asleep just to have watch the movies in the midnight on the laptop. And yes, we were caught once.
9. If you could have any superpower what would it be?
I would love to be invincible. The thoughts of what I could do with that superpower 😂

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Blogger Interview With Helen And Matt

Blogger Interview With Helen And Matt

Disclaimer: This interview contains adult information and explicit content. 

Helen and Matt are lovely people and I have really enjoyed chatting with Helen on this interview as well as through WP and email. I truly appreciate how supportive she has been of this blog and is just in general. If their blog is something you would be interested in do check it out- as always it will be linked below.

1. Thank you so much for being part of this interview. Please tell us a little about yourself and your blog,

Thankyou, Pooja, for interviewing us. We are Helen and Matt, a married, openly kinky couple in our thirties from Bristol in the United Kingdom. Normally, our blog is run by the two of us. However, for today, it’ll be just me, Helen, who answers your questions – with Matt’s involvement where necessary!

Two Kinky Cooks is essentially run by us, for our readers. We enjoy sharing, delighting and informing in a way that is relaxed, friendly and informal. We have a combination of different posts, from recipes and international snack tastings, through to mental health and thoughts on the  coronavirus pandemic (from someone who worked for the NHS during the 2009 swine flu outbreak). We also talk BDSM, but with emphasis on kinky relationships that are more relaxed and informal than some others. Matt and I do away with a lot of the common formalities found in BDSM relationships (such as BDSM contracts and collars) and we have flung open the doors to invite our readers to come and see what we do, how relaxed and fun and normal we are, and maybe, just maybe, get some ideas on where and how they can get started for themselves!

2. What inspired you to start a blog?

Two Kinky Cooks was an idea that came about last year in the second UK lockdown. We were working through our Greek snacks tasting and I was talking to Matt about some of the frustrations and challenges that I’d faced over my years of blogging under previous names, especially as I was finding it so hard to manage the social media side of my blog as well, given that I’m not that much of a social media person! Matt offered to help and initially I refused him because it was supposed to be my blog, not our blog. However, later on in our tasting and our conversation, I joked that we were “essentially two kinky cooks”, and that was how it came to be! It went from a passing joke to a project, an ambition, something that we could try with Matt on board and it would be either sink or swim. We could keep bringing the international snack tastings and keep talking BDSM, too. I am proud to say that in just the three months that Two Kinky Cooks has been active, our blog has already been a growing success!

3. You have been writing about trying tasting new snacks which has been so fun to read about. What inspired you to start trying new snacks and sharing your adventures on your blog?

Initially, it probably started with watching Youtuber Emmymade, who we both love. Over time, I introduced Matt to other similar Youtube channels, like HiHo Kids, Dancing Bacons and my latest favourite, Tribal People Try. I used to watch those videos a lot and then Matt told me one day that he’d ordered a box from SnackCrate, and I just sort of shrugged it off. We tried the snacks and that was sort of that. The next time we had a box delivered, I thought I’d write about them on my blog because hey, I have a blog. Why not, right? It’s content. What I didn’t anticipate was it being a very popular post! Suddenly, it went from trying something once a month, to us both subscribing to two different boxes (we can’t agree over which snack box is better!) which we then try, photograph and share our views on every month. We also developed “Winner or Binner” for when we try the snacks, which was inspired by Dope Or Nope on YouTube. More recently, we also cooked up a recipe that had been sent to us from South Africa!

4. What has been your favourite snack to try so far and why?

Oh my goodness.. I think if we’re going by the ones that made me squeal with delight, then it’s the Dutch kaneelstok. For Matt, it was the Dutch stroopwafel.

Why? I defined the kaneelstok as “Christmas in a stick”. It has a sweet, creamy, crunchy centre, rolled in powdered cinnamon. The first time I tried it, it was just like I was walking through a snowy village at night with a Christmas market going on. I could almost taste the snow and the atmosphere of the market and Christmas itself, it was such an immersive experience. As for the stroopwafel, Matt loves the sweet, golden, chewy texture and the hint of cinnamon, which he says goes very well with a mug of hot coffee!

All that being said, I’m still madly in love with nougat from South Africa!

5. Your blog also discusses BDSM and other sexual content. It’s not always easy to talk about stuff like this- what made you decide to start a blog where you discuss topics that are sometimes thought of as taboo and do you get negative comments because of this content?

I’ve been in the BDSM community for almost 15 years now, and it’s been about 13 years for Matt. When I started out, I was very lucky in that I had some amazing mentors who kept me safe and were there to talk to about anything, any time that I needed. There were times that things were really messy, like a Dominant that sent me more than £200 worth of latex clothing that hadn’t been made to fit me. As a newcomer, that could have been a very awkward and scary experience, but my mentors were so great and even helped me get the stuff shipped back and formally end that relationship because I felt that he was a little (okay, a lot!) too much for me. After that, I sort of wanted to pay it forward by being here for the next generation of newcomers, and so on. Over time, the guidance given to newcomers is usually very typecast in a way and doesn’t quite coincide with what I was personally taught. Part of what I wanted to do was to create a blog where I could say “Hey! No! You don’t have to do X, Y or Z if you don’t want to!”, as I had always been taught. Of course we emphasise the really important matters like safety and consent (and safewords!), but when it comes to other areas that a lot of BDSM bloggers tell you you must have or must do (like Dominant hand signals and BDSM slave positions), we at Two Kinky Cooks have a very different teaching. We believe, and have been taught, that you should only have a collar or a contract in your kinky relationship if you want one. Don’t want one? That’s okay! We will talk you through lots of other ways to boost your communication to keep your relationship where you want it to be instead.

Have we received criticism? You know, BDSM is such a controversial topic, and some countries are far more strict about these topics than others. I won’t lie and say that I haven’t had some bad reactions to our blog, but mostly the reception to our work has been overwhelmingly positive. “Interesting”, “fun” and “cool” are words that I hear often, which is frankly very humbling.

Check out this post for more on criticisms about our lifestyle.

6. Has blogging helped you get out of your comfort zone more and try new things in the bedroom?

Mmm no, if anything, I would say the opposite. Not so long ago, I was following a lady who is quite involved in the Daddy Dom kink. It’s something that interested Matt, but after losing my biological father to cancer in 2019, I had a lot of issues with calling my husband “Daddy”. One of the other issues that I faced was the stereotype of the women in these Daddy Dom relationships- the baby talking, the love of colouring books and “stuffies”. I don’t have or do any of those things. I’m 32, and unless I’m being random and care-free (because that happens sometimes!), then I act my age, too. I’m much more comfortable being identified as a strong-willed submissive than as someone who is acting as an “age” that I’m not. It took quite some time, but I stuck to my guns and Matt now understands that it’s just not something that works for me.

7. What advice would you give someone who may want to try BDSM?

Read! Don’t do anything until you’ve learned the areas of the body you shouldn’t hit (the spine, the head, over the kidneys) and how to tie knots safely. I can’t emphasise this enough, if you don’t know what you’re doing and you just jump right in, you could KILL someone!

BDSM practitioners practice a lot before they perform acts on people. Practice spanking on a pillow until you feel confident in how you hold your hand and how much swing you give, and practice your knots by wrapping rope around a pole, even one out in the garden! How did I get so good at my square knots? I used to use them to secure the garden gate – fact!

When you do eventually play with your partner, make sure you have an agreed safeword and you both know and remember it. It doesn’t need to be complicated or fancy, If you use titles (Mistress, Sir etc), you could simply use their real name. A lot of people opt for the traffic light system, using “red” if there is a serious and urgent problem and “yellow” to mean “please slow down”.

Plan for aftercare. Your partner could have any number of reactions to your BDSM activities, so be ready for that. They might laugh, cry, fall asleep, be very snuggly or want to be left the hell alone for a few hours, so have some supplies to hand. Some wipes, a first aid kit (in case there are any accidental scrapes), some water and snacks and a blanket is usually a good starting point. Massage oil and scented candles (to help them relax!) Can be a nice touch, too.

Finally, keep communication open. Your first session won’t be perfect, so make sure you both have plenty of chances to talk and make it better for next time!

8. As someone who suffers from anxiety what advice would you give someone who may also be suffering from something similar?

Get therapy! Seriously, I cannot emphasise that enough. I was scared of therapy too at one time, and even more about the costs of it, but I was able to get ten sessions of CBT therapy for free through the NHS. Medication is okay, but I experienced a whole host of side effects on medication and some of them were truly horrible. I’m not ashamed of that saying I’ve been in therapy three times in my life. I’m not in any way messed up, but I was bullied at school and started believing what the bullies were saying, but therapy helped me find confidence in myself. In 2013, I tried group therapy for OCD but that wasn’t intensive enough, so I had ten sessions, one-on-one CBT therapy. You don’t lay on a couch and it’s okay to get upset. By about my third session, I felt really confident that I wasn’t going completely mad and I could really fight the monster!

Understand HALT, that’s Hunger, Anger, Loneliness, Tiredness. These are the four reasons that most people feel anxious. If  you can identify the cause, then you can think about a solution. Are you hungry? Have a bite to eat. Are you angry? Try meditation. You can see where I’m going with this?

Keep a journal. No matter what you write, just write, every day if you need to! I found that once I wrote them down, my obsessive thoughts seemed random and even stupid, but when you’re ruminating on them, they can feel all-consuming! I just write on Google Docs, but you could try something encrypted like Penzu, if you prefer.

Lastly, a little ASMR hurt nobody 😉 We all need to feel comforted and consoled sometimes!

9. What is your favourite food?

We were jointly agreed on Gousto’s Aromatic Si Lankan Chicken Curry, even without any discussion on this question. It’s easy to cook and it’s delicious, too!

10. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?

That has to be Cornwall! We get down to Cornwall and we just change as people. The wind is all up in your hair and you feel so rugged and alive. It’s a far cry from a tropical paradise, but if you like wild and rugged, it’s perfect. It’s oddly romantic with all of the historic castles and defences and the tin mines are awesome to check out, too. You can’t actually go into them most of them, but they’re still interesting to look at and take pictures of. Can I also recommend a visit to  the sundial on top of the cliffs in Perranporth? There’s just so much to see and do. It’s no wonder we love it down there!

11. What was your favourite subject in high school?

Matt’s a wartime history geek, I was a science nerd. I may or may not have been sad enough to doodle electron diagrams when I was bored.. Hey, at least I turned out okay!

12. Thanks again and please feel free to add anything you would like to share with the readers.

Thankyou for interviewing us, Pooja! I think really, the only thing I’d like to say is that, please don’t think kinky people are in any way weird or broken or have anything wrong with them, mentally. The BDSM community are very resolute about the importance of consent and everything that we do to one another is done with the enthusiastic consent of everyone involved. We have a motto – Safe, Sane, Consensual – which means to say that everything we do is done safely, it’s done sensibly, and everyone who is involved is agreed for it to happen. We are not freaks and weirdos, we are just normal people who do occasionally strange-looking things, but  we do love normal things, too! On Two Kinky Cooks, one of the things that we really wanted to encompass is that we share a love for BDSM and we share a love forgood food too, like plenty of normal people do. It’s all about the senses and for us and many kinky people alike, the two can and do cross over. If you’re into one and curious about the other, come say hi! We don’t bite. Even if you’re into one and not into the other, come say hi anyway because we’d love to share our recipes and really interesting snack reviews with you.

Finally, if you would like to interview us for your blog, please do drop us an email at and we will see what we can do. Thankyou for reading about us!

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Black History Facts You Probably Didn’t Know

Black History Facts You Probably Didn’t Know

Really great information in this post- I would definitely recommend giving it a read.

Tiani Angela

Happy Friday everyone! I hope all is well with you all. I’m feeling pretty good myself. As we near the end of February also known as Black History Month, I wanted to share a few lesser-known and interesting facts about Black History. This is a month that reflects and pays tribute to the achievements of generations of African Americans.


“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

1.) The Black population in the United States went from being 4.8 million residents in 1870 to 43.8 million in 2018.

2.) Black History Month was originally started and celebrated as Negro History Week in 1926 by Carter G Woodson. He chose the second week of February specifically because it covered the birthdays of Abraham Lincoln (February 12th) and Frederick Douglass (February 14th).

3.) The late…

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Musicians I Discovered During My Break From WP

Musicians I Discovered During My Break From WP

As you guys know I had taken a few months off blogging not by choice but because WordPress decided they wanted me off their platform for some reason lol (can you tell I’m still salty about it?)! But I decided to think about it in a positive way and try to do new things to keep myself occupied since I had more free time. During this time I ended up discovering a lot more new (new to me not new in general) music that I was and am still very much into right now.

I know a lot of you really enjoy the posts I make about music because I have gotten a lot of great responses in my older posts I have made about music and I have also gotten a lot of people asking me to make more posts about music so I decided this would be a good time to do it.

I have also for some reason got some pretty negative comments on every one of my music posts so I just wanted to say that some of the songs below contain explicit material. If that offends you than please don’t watch the videos. Since this is my blog I will be posting whatever I enjoy and leaving negative comments isn’t going to change that.

Anyway hope you enjoy these amazing artists!


So I discovered Teamarr at about the same time I made my last post in October. I was feeling kind of down about the whole situation and her music was so funny, quirky, honest and amazing it really helped me feel better! I genuinely feel like me being able to discover her music at that time was a small gift from the Universe because it knew I was going through a lot. What I love about her is how brutally honest she is in her music and it’s so relatable because she keeps it real. She allows herself to be vulnerable which is not easy to do. I also love some of her funnier videos which are still brutally honest but quite funny. Oh and she’s soooo pretty! I really don’t care what musicians look like in general because I’m just here for the music but she is so pretty I was like blown away.

I think you will probably enjoy her music a little more if you’re a millennial or younger but that doesn’t mean you won’t like it if you’re older so give it a try! I’ve added videos to both her more amusing songs and her more serious ones so you can get a feel of what they’re both like.

Willie Nelson

I have heard one Willie Nelson song before which I loved. It’s called Buddy and it’s quite popular so I’m sure a lot of you will have heard it or at least heard of it. I heard it on Parks And Recreation and I was super into it so I listened to it a few times on my own. I never want further than that and really got into Willie’s other music though until recently.

I took a course on Country music last year and although it was amazing I’m mad that we didn’t spend more time on musicians like Willie, Merle Haggard, Johnny Cash etc. We talked about them in passing but I feel like they are such a vital part of country music they deserved more time. That being said I get that the course is only a couple of weeks and the professor probably did not have that much time to discuss everyone.

Anyway back to Willie Nelson. For some reason one of his songs was in my recommended on YouTube and I ended up listening to it and loving it and I started to listen to his other songs and now I’m officially a big fan of his music.

I love the energy his music has- he has such a calming voice and presence. He’s also super funny which I appreciate. I also love the activist work he has done. I feel like I not only enjoy his music but his presence and personality too. Hope you enjoy the videos I’ve added below as much as I have over the last few weeks!

The Kinks

I’ve always been a fan of The Kinks but I hadn’t heard a lot of their music. I kind of had been sticking with the few songs I did like. I discovered them back in High School which I hate to admit was a long time ago and I had kind of forgotten about them until I took a course on The Sixties. I started listening to them again after that and I really got into their music again.

Like the others on this list I just really like their vibe and energy and the lead singer has such a unique raspy voice that I love. My favourite song by The Kinks used to be Well Respected Man but now it’s Lola.

Old School Hip Hop

I have always been into Hip Hop and although there are some amazing artists out there that I really enjoy listening to I just have a soft spot for old school Hip Hop. So I ended up listening to a lot of NWA, Wu Tang, Beastie Boys and more. I love country music but at the moment I’m really into Hip Hop too.

Apart from music I have recently also been enjoying spoken word poetry from the 60’s and 70’s because even though it was obviously written during a different time it is still extremely relatable in a lot of ways.

Nikki Giovanni

Nikki Giovanni is my favourite right now. The first thing I heard by her was Ego Tripping and as a women and a WOC in particular I was obsessed. It just made me feel so powerful and reminded me how strong and incredible us women are. I love anything that is powerful and uplifting so Ego Tripping really hit the spot. Since I liked Ego Tripping so much I decided to look through some of her other work and I have really enjoyed all of it so far although Ego Tripping definitely remains my favourite.

Langston Hughes

The first thing I heard by Langston Hughes was Freedom Train. I heard it in one of my History classes- it was taught by the same professor who taught the Sixties class- and it really stuck with me. After that I started listening to more things by him and I found myself really enjoying his work.

These days I try to listen to inspiring spoken word poetry before I go to sleep because it calms me down but also inspires me to work harder the next day.


Let me know in the comments below what you thought about the videos if you decided to listen to them. Do you listen to any of the artists I mentioned? I would love to know your thoughts or simply say hi in the comments below because I always love hearing from you!

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E.L.F “Bitter” Lipliner Pencil Review

The “Bitter” Lipliner Pencil

E.L.F is a vegan and cruelty free makeup brand- all their products are vegan and cruelty-free. They are also quite affordable and tend to be very good quality for the price.
The lipliner that I tried out in the shade Bitter is no longer available on the E.L.F Cosmetics official page but can be found on Amazon and other sites. I bought it quite a while back but hadn’t tried it till a few months ago.


  • The first pro for me was that E.L.F is vegan and cruelty free- I am trying to only buy cruelty free products at the moment and I love shopping from E.L.F Cosmetics because I don’t have to Google a million things to find out what’s tested on animals and what is not.
  • I thought it was very affordable for a lipliner- I forget the exact price but it was a bit over a dollar if I’m not wrong.
  • The colour is really pretty! I was expecting something more purple because it looked more purple in the picture but I was pleasantly surprised when I realised it’s more of a deep pink colour. If you use very little of it with gloss it looks really natural and if you use more of it you get a really nice more obvious look.
  • It was easy to apply and soft to wear.


  • It’s a bit dry. As someone who already has dry lips this was not the best formula for me. I know wear it with lip balm underneath and lip gloss on top.
  • It doesn’t last very long so if you’re planning on wearing it when going out to eat take the pencil with you as you will need to reapply. However, the pencil is pretty small so it’s easy to carry with you- you can even put it in your pocket.

Final Thoughts

I thought the it was quite good for the price. The colour was pretty and if worn with lip balm/gloss you can easily wear it all day without your lips drying out. However, compared to other lipliners I have bought at a similar price this was not the best- it was pretty average in my opinion and I can see why E.L.F seems to have discontinued it. I will definitely finish the one I have but I don’t think I would buy it again. I would recommend other E.L.F Cosmetics product though- I use almost all of them and I love them!
Also random story about this review: the picture above was taken like months ago and the other two pictures with the pros and cons was taken a few days ago. I used a snap filter for the one above because I looked like crap and had no other makeup on but I realised the filter slightly changed the colour of the lipliner. So, a few days ago I took more pictures with no filter/editing so you could see exactly what it look like in real life. Yes, I was wearing the same tshirt in both pictures for some reason… And yes I have weirdly small hands- everyone (my sister) makes fun of them- but the rest of me is totally average I swear!
Also I hope you enjoyed this review- it’s been a while since I’ve done a makeup review. You can probably tell by the fact that the brand doesn’t even sell this product anymore lol…
Do you like ELF Cosmetics? Did you like this shade? What is your favourite E.L.F product? E.L.F cosmetics or Elf the movie? What are some of your favourite cruelty free brands? As always let me know in the comments or simply stop by and say hi!

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An Update- Kind Of

If you haven’t read yesterdays post I would recommend you do so before reading this one. You can read it by clicking here.
So, I want to start out by saying THANK YOU! You guys are absolutely amazing and I truly appreciate everyone’s support on my last post. I am always so touched by how caring and supportive this community is and that’s why it’s so difficult for me to consider leaving it. You guys have become like family to me and I truly appreciate every comment you guys leave.

WP’s Response

I decided to share the emails with you guys so that you can see for yourselves just how irritating this situation is. When I initially told them about my issue this is the email I received yesterday telling me I had been blocked.

I felt like they were incredibly passive-aggressive about the situation and just started blaming me off the bat without even finding out all the details of the situation. They didn’t even do their research well because they clearly got the number of blogs I follow wrong- by literally thousands…
I tried to politely let them know that they had made a mistake and even sent them a screenshot as proof showing the actual number of blogs I follow which can be found in your wp-admin dashboard.

They completely ignored the fact that they made a mistake, did not even address the issues and pretty much told me to leave and move to a self-hosted site. Except, from my research I have learnt that if they wanted to they could unblock me- they have done so for other people. They just don’t want to. At least they offered to refund me my money for the plan.

My guess is that their site has serious glitches- all my comments were showing up as read on my notifications for a while which I’m guessing is them reading the comments. My Ads revenue went away for a few days and then came back. My traffic page has been glitching for a while now. And it’s not just me- multiple people have been effected.
I read a post online by a woman who didn’t use WP for MONTHS and came back to find she had been blocked from following accounts. How is that even possible when she did not use her account for months. Clearly, their algorithm does not know the difference between spam/bots and actual interaction/blogs. And instead of fixing this they blame the victims for being too interactive which is so weird because blogging is supposed to be an interactive hobby. The interaction is the best part for me.
Also how am I being accused of self-promoting on other blogs when I have literally never commented trying to promote my own blog. I always try to leave comments about the post and only ever leave a link if I feel like the post would help the reader/I have nominated them for something. And that is as RARE as Selena Gomez’s makeup line (can you tell I’ve been binge watching makeup videos online?).
I mean how do you accuse someone of stuff like that without even reading the comments they have left or the posts they have written. Especially when all these comments are sitting in my spam folder- how come they aren’t being blocked?

And let’s be honest- a permanent block is so excessively mean- I mean most social platforms have blocks but it’s usually for an hour/day/month. Permanent blocks with no prior warning is just so awful for people like me who are blocked due to errors on their part.

What Now?

I am considering moving to a self-hosted site but it will be a lot of work so I’m going to wait till I have my mid term break. Till then I guess I will keep blogging as I usually do and not like/follow anything. I will continue to leave comments on your blogs and support you guys as much as I can.
I will write in more detail about moving to a self-hosted site once I do more research because I know some of you may be interested in moving to self-hosted as well.

Some Disturbing Things You Should Know About

  1. They Own All Your Content

No, not some of your content. Not most of your content. They own ALL your content and can apparently do exactly what they want with it whether you like it or not. I found this very concerning because as creators don’t we have any rights to our own content that WE created.
2. They Can Terminate Your Site

They can terminate your site whenever they want without even giving you an explanation. If that’s not super scary I don’t know what is. Can you imagine all your hard work being deleted and never seeing it again? Even if you decide not to move to a self-hosted site I would recommend backing up all your posts so that if your site does get deleted by mistake at least you will still have your posts.
I hope this information helps because I did not know about this before and it’s actually very scary to think that they have this much power over you. I also want to warn other bloggers- be careful with liking/following/commenting. I think recently there has been a lot of spam/bots on WP and they are handling it horribly and I would hate to see what happened to me happen to anyone else. Also please back up all your posts and media- I would hate to see someone lose everything over a mistake on WP’s part.
Also if my blog disappears they’ve probably terminated me for writing this post…


For those of you who already have self-hosted sites could you please tell me more about it in the comments. What host are you using? Would you recommend it? What problems have you run into if any? Did moving to self-hosted effect your traffic and follow in anyway? How would you recommend making the move? Are you up for hire to move my site for me? Thanks I really appreciate any information I can get although I got quite a bit of information on the last post which I truly appreciate!

Random Announcement

This may be the weirdest time and most random post to announce this on but after years of hating on social media I have finally started a Facebook page lol! I won’t be super active on it but I will reply to messages and post updates about my blog so if you are interested feel free to head over and follow the page and friend my profile (that’s how FB works right? I’m not too sure to be honest…) Either way thank you in advance for stopping by and supporting it!

To sum everything up- yes lifesfinewhine will go back to normal posts starting tomorrow and eventually I will move to a self-hosted site. Again thank you for the continued support- you guys are the absolute best!

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I’m Done With WordPress

If you read yesterdays post you probably know that I was having trouble with my WordPress site. I was not surprised because that happens quite often because WordPress does have quite a few bugs it needs to work on. The problem was that I was not able to like or follow other blogs/posts.
I contacted the Happiness Engineers and although they were very nice they were not able to fix the problem and I was told the team was working on it. I was busy yesterday so I just hoped for the best and moved on. Today I did a bit more research and from other peoples experience it says that apparently WP blocks you from from liking and following if you like or follow too many.
Here’s the problem with that- I have about 18.6k followers- obviously I am going to be following quite a few blogs and I get about a hundred comments a day. When someone comments on my blog I generally head over to their blog and also leave a like and comment because I really think WP is a two-way street and the best way to get people to engage with your posts is to engage on theirs. If you have ever liked or commented on one of my posts you probably noticed that I liked/commented on your as well.
Since I get about a hundred comments a day and let’s say like half of them are replies I still end up visiting like 50 blogs a day and leaving likes/comments. Because of my university starting again for the fall semester I have been forced to stick to a pretty tight schedule. I schedule out about an hour every day to like/comment on other blogs that have liked/commented on mine. I also spend like 15 minutes a day going through new followers and follow back blogs I like- usually like 5 a day.  I get about 50 followers a day so I don’t think 5 a day is that bad.
Anyway, since WP’s system sucks- they literally let actual bots and spammers through- I think I have been blocked because you can’t like more than like 15 blog posts an hour and you can’t follow more than a certain amount of blogs overall. Some people online said you can’t undo this block. If that’s the case I’m not sure if I can keep blogging anymore. My favourite part of blogging has always been interacting with other blogs and now I’m scared to even comment on other blogs in case it blocks me from commenting.
I hate how unhelpful the WP system is. It’s so frustrating. They never listen to their followers- like with what happened with the new editor- and they are EXTREMELY unhelpful when you actually need their help. They’re super nice and polite but just don’t seem to be equipped to handle literally almost any situation. They give you almost no information about what’s going on. I’m just super pissed. I feel like years of hard work just went down the drain. I’m done. I’m VERY done with WP. I am going to try and leave comments on all your blogs though even if I can’t like them. Until I get blocked that is- probably going to happen soon I’m guessing. Anyway, sorry I can’t like your blogs but just know that I will still support other blogs somehow- probably by commenting on them considering that’s literally all I can do right now.
If you don’t see any posts from me for a while or in case this is the last time we communicate I just want to wish everyone the best with their blogging and everything in their life. I hope this awful year ends and things start getting better really soon.
Edit: They have blocked me- I got an email. They seem to have mistaken how many followers I have with how many blogs I follow. When I sent them proof of this with screenshots they stopped responding- this was a few hours ago. I am beyond done with this situation. 

How Healthy Is Our Soul?

By Yemi
Most people say I want change, but it does not resonate with their souls. You may be beautiful and physically fit on the outside, yet your soul may be broken and very fragile.
If your external appearance is extremely attractive but your soul is weak you may not always be strong enough to resist the seducer who comes only to deceive.
To generate successful change, we have to be holistically whole. This means being whole in mind, body, and soul. I am focusing on the strength of your Soul in this article as this sets the foundation for the other elements of mind and body.
Do you believe in a creator or God (of the Bible) who made you with his DNA? Our brokenness and wounds are healed completely from this source alone. So how connected are you to this source?
Widow, widower or the bereft, after two or three years of grief you must exercise your will over your flesh to decide consciously and courageously to start thinking of finding your way out of pain. You need to redefine what you want for your future. You can still be grieving yet still decide in your will first, then your actions what you want for your future.
Where there are no vision people perish Hosea. 4:6(ESV). If you do not envisage change in your mind, this means you may remain stuck in your past for years, in a drought, with no visible growth and no gradual healing. The longer you stay in it the harder it is to make that leap.
The way to do this practically and effectively will be to get a friend or use a Coach to draw out of you what direction you would like your future to go. Performing growth exercises by a Coach will gradually get you to your desired goal.
Coaching is the act of being directed on how to draw out your strengths to rebuild and engineer your desired goal. Find one you connect with and decide to do the work with that individual – you will start to enjoy it when you commit to it. Engage one who applies timeless principles from a biblical lens as a point of reference. Change is normally permanent from this framework when you commit whole heartedly.
We need to get help especially when we find ourselves at the cross roads of life and cannot direct the cause ourselves. It is not about saving face and keeping up appearances.
When emotionally vulnerable we sometimes disguise this in presenting a more than perfect external appearance. This makes us prey to those who say they love you but have ulterior motives. We are more vulnerable to these lies when we are emotionally empty but need this hollowness to be filled by another.
While if you adopt a plan of action and seek good people to assist you to implement this, you gradually grow stronger emotionally. The additional bonus of working with another person propels you to succeed as we are born to connect naturally with another human being.
The world places too much of an emphasis on outward appearance and less or nothing on the inside = Soul. The strength of our inner Soul impacts how we navigate our world and succeed in it.
When seeking to move forward in life, may it be dating, marriage, business or a general lifestyle change, the stronger you build your Soul spiritually the more defined do your spiritual qualities become, the higher the chances of success.
Very often I hear of women being scammed on line by evil suitors promising heaven and earth, and how we easily succumb to such false promises, even giving away our hard-earned cash. The more seasoned your soul the more in tuned you will be to identify evil prey
Growing in faith to know God ignites your Soul. You come to understand that no individual can meet all your needs but God. Lacking faith in a creator makes your soul quite weak and vulnerable.
Only God can fill completely that gaping hole you are looking for another individual to fill. Rogues can spot your emotional vulnerability from miles away and exploit.
The spirit to decern good from evil is acquired by developing a faith in a true and real God that develops your spirit then Soul.
The lord looks at the inside of man not on outward appearance.
This needs to be applied to self and when deciding on who to date. The average looking guy with strong spiritual qualities may be the one to prefer than the handsome, wavy and slick haired male with an enticing tongue but no spiritual qualities.
The world is quick to convince us of it being fine to wallow for years in grief and stagnation while others are moving on successfully in life.
The secret is to find solutions and help in navigating the immense hiccups of life.
*Your Soul can be wounded when your emotions have been impacted by loss, disappointment, childhood challenges, mental ill health, relationship breakdown, financial loss, natural disasters, economic misplacement, sexual exploitation and extreme poverty to name a few. The scars left by these need healing, recovery and restoring.

‘With his stripes we are healed’ Isaiah 53:5b

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Korean Fried Cauliflower Recipe

Korean Fried Cauliflower

As you guys may have guessed I love Korean food and one of my favourite things to do is try to make vegan versions of popular Korean food. Korean Fried Chicken or KFC (not that one) is a very popular Korean dish and I always see people eat it in Kdramas so I thought I would try making a vegan version of it.
I decided to use cauliflower wings instead of chicken but you can substitute the chicken with anything you prefer such as soy wings, broccoli or even tofu. I used premade cauliflower wings which I just had to heat in the oven but if you want a recipe for how to make vegan cauliflower wings click here. I used the Wholly Veggie brand cauliflower wings so if you are like me and don’t want to fry your own I would definitely recommend those.
I talked about making this dish in one of my What I Eat In A Day posts and I’ve been meanng to share the recipe since that post but haven’t had the time so I decided to finally share it today.
I hope you enjoy this recipe and give it a try because it is one of my favourite dishes I have made so far!


Soy Sauce
Minced/chopped garlic
Minced/chopped ginger
2 spring onions
Korean dried or fresh red chili peppers- can be substituted with regular chili peppers.
Sesame seeds
Korean red chili pepper flakes- optional


  1. Mix about 2 tbsp. of soy sauce, 1/2 tsp of water, 2 tsp of gochujang, 1/2 tsp of sugar and 1/2 tsp of Korean red chili pepper flakes/powder. Mix everything well until it becomes a liquidy paste. If it’s too thick add a little more soy sauce or water.
  2. Chop the dried or fresh pepper (I usually use one but feel free to use more or less according to your taste) and add it to a pan with about 1tbs of garlic and 1/2 tbsp. of ginger and about 1 or 2 tsp of oil and let it heat on medium high heat for about a minute or two till the ginger and garlic are golden brown.
  3. Now add the mix we made earlier to the pan and let it cook for about a minute.
  4. Now add in the cauliflower and mix well till all the cauliflower wings are evenly coated.
  5. Garnish with some chopped spring onions and sesame seeds. You can garnish it with fried peanuts too if you don’t have spring onions or sesame seeds.
  6. Enjoy on it’s own or with some rice like and veggies like I did!

Tips: Korean food tends to be a bit spicy but if you like more mild flavoured food use less of the peppers, leave out the pepper flakes/powder and use less gochujang. People also usually put in some vinegar but I don’t use vinegar so I didn’t add any but if you want it a bit sour feel free to add a little vinegar too. The soy sauce is a bit salty which I love but if you don’t feel free to add a bit more water to the mix to tone down the flavours more.


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Bibimbap Recipe


“Bibimbap simply translates to “mixed rice with meat and assorted vegetables“.”- Sue from mykoreankitchen
Bibimbap is probably my go-to when it comes to an easy home cooked meal. I love that it’s super easy to make, delicious and also really healthy because it has so many veggies. I make it vegan of course so it pretty much just has vegetables and rice which I think is really healthy.
I also really love Korean food because the flavours are just so perfect for me. I like spicy, sour and savoury food and Korean food is usually the perfect mix of this. It’s honestly so delicious I literally can’t stop eating it.
I also want to specify that I don’t make it the traditional way which is a lot more time consuming. I usually make bibimbap when I’m in a hurry so I make it in a quick, kind of lazy way. It still tastes really good though I promise!


1 Carrot
1 Zucchini
1 bunch of spinach
1 white onion
3 spring onions
1/2 tsp of sesame oil
1 handful of soybean sprouts
2 tbs gochujang
Soy Sauce
Minced garlic
Minced ginger
Cooked rice
Cooking oil


  1. Chop all the vegetables except the spring onions jullienne style.
  2. Put about two teaspoons of cooking oil on a pan and add the chopped vegetables, soybean sprouts, garlic and ginger to the pan and let them cook until they are all well cooked. Add salt to taste. Tip: Add the spinach later on as it cooks faster.
  3. While the vegetables are cooking, mix in a small bowl 2 tbsp of gochujang, 2 tsp of soy sauce and the spring onions chopped into small pieces. Mix everything well until it has turned into a liquidy paste. Tip: Gochujang is a bit spicy so if you don’t like spicy food add less and if you do like more spicy food feel free to add more. Soy sauce is also a bit salty so feel free to add it according to your taste.
  4. When the vegetables are almost done cooking add about 2 medium sized bowls of cooked rice and the mixed paste. Mix everything well until both the vegetable and rice and covered with the paste.
  5. Let it cook on medium heat for a few more minutes- about 2-5 minutes- so that the flavours all blend well together.
  6. Your bibimbap is now ready to eat! You can garnish it with some chopped up kimchi, sprinkled seaweed, seasame oil or seasame seeds- or all three!

I usually don’t use any meat replacements but if you like you can always use ground soy/vegetables, some chickpeas or lentils, potatoes or vegan beef. The vegetables are also all optional- you can pretty much use anything you have in the fridge that you think will taste good.


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