Cancel Culture- My Thoughts

What Is Cancel Culture?

Cancel culture refers to the popular practice of withdrawing support for (canceling) public figures and companies after they have done or said something considered objectionable or offensive. Cancel culture is generally discussed as being performed on social media in the form of group shaming.
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My Thoughts

Before I give my opinion on cancel culture I just wanted to have a little introduction. The reason I decided to discuss this topic today was because cancel culture is something you can’t get away from right now especially if you use social media. I had been meaning to write this post for a while now but to be honest I had been hoping it goes away and I wouldn’t have to write about it. Unfortunately, it seems that it’s still very much here. I also haven’t done a post where I share my opinions about something for a while and you guys seem to like those kind of posts so I decided to write this post today.
So, I am pretty much going to try and dissect cancel culture and sort of try and break it down into smaller parts and discuss those instead of just talking about it as a whole. I will discuss it as a whole towards the end of the post though because I think that’s also necessary.


The first part of cancel culture is generally calling out a person, people or a company for something they may have done in the past or are still doing. This is the part I agree with because a lot of people/companies have done questionable things and are still continuing to do so. I think when you see an injustice being committed it is your job to call it out and try to bring awareness to it.
What I disagree with is how people are being called out. Yes, some people and companies are being called out as there is solid proof about what they have done, however, due to the way social media works a lot of times you see people being called out for doing/saying something when in reality there may not be any truth to it or what they have said/done may be taken out of context completely. I think if you are going to accuse someone of something the least you can do is find actual evidence of what they have done.
Another problem with these call-outs is that it gives trolls the power to exploit cancel-culture. There are times when someone will go out of their way to fabricate stuff about someone to make it seem like they did/said something horrible when they actually haven’t. And because everyone tends to blindly jump on the bandwagon they end up getting “cancelled” when they actually haven’t even done anything.

2. The Cancellation

Now once someone gets called out people usually use like a hashtag or something to get more peoples attention and eventually the person gets “cancelled.” This is the part I have a pretty big problem with.
I may sound like a bit too much of an optimist when I say this but truth be told I believe that the majority of people out there are good. They may not be fully good but I think most people have at least some good in them. I know that I am definitely not the best person ever and I know that most people have their negatives and their positives. No one is perfect- we have all done bad things and we have all done good things.
I don’t think “cancelling” people is the solution. To be frank I don’t think it’s even solution. I think it does help bring awareness to certain things such as unethical company practices, racist things people/companies have done, misogynistic things people/companies have done but at the same time it only highlights these things instead of coming up with an actual solution to address them.

3. The Results

This is probably the biggest problem I have with cancel culture. They keep calling people out- often quite randomly without any real research- and when the hashtag stops trending people completely forget about what happened. Usually the person/company puts out a- very obviously made by their PR- apology, people criticize the apology, the person/company lays low for a few days and everything goes back to normal.
If you are going to call someone out for their behaviour or actions its also your job to come up with a way to make sure that this behaviour/action does not happen again and that the person or company that is being called out both takes responsibilities and action to rectify their behaviour.
If someone is called out and then completely ignored what’s the point of calling them out. The whole point should be to bring change and to do that you need to keep checking up on that person/company and make sure that they are behaving in a more ethical way. You can’t forget stuff as soon as it stops trending or people stop talking about it.

My Overall Thoughts On Cancel Culture

I don’t want to totally come after gen Z or millennials- being one myself I do understand where their frustration comes from. We are lucky enough to be able to get higher education. access to so much information both online and offline, access to news from around the world and so much more. It’s a privilege but it can also be extremely overwhelming.
When you see everything that’s wrong with the world these days, when you see all the injustices that exist it really makes your blood boil and it does make you want to do something about it and one way we know how to do this is through the internet. And there are some phenomenal people online making a difference by fighting for equality and more.
Unfortunately, there is also a downside to fighting for things online or online activism. A lot of people these days don’t have great attention spans and shock value sells. People need to shock people to really get their attention and I feel like cancel culture is a part of this. It builds outrage for a little while and then people lose their concentration and move on to something different.
Before you blame this on phones, social media, younger generations etc. I would like to point out that this isn’t the only time people have started a movement and then lost their focus. As a history major I know that this happens all the time. Just one example is the 60’s counterculture. What started off as an amazing cause to bring change over the next few years became increasingly fractioned and eventually a lot of it became concentrated on drug use and other things. Many lost sight of what they were fighting for in the beginning. This isn’t the exact same obviously but I’m just trying to bring out a comparison.
One of the main problems I see with cancel culture is that it does a lot more harm than good. Yes, it calls out people but at the same time since there is little actual evidence it sometimes destroys the life of innocent people. Furthermore, it also gives the majority too much power and this power can- and is- being used for evil. A lot of times people call out other people for revenge or because they hate them rather than because they want to make the world a better place.
Even the people who are rightfully called out often don’t face any real life consequences. I admit that some do and that’s fine but a lot of times like I mentioned earlier they make a half-assed apology and then move on with their lives doing exactly what they want to do.
It also encourages uniformity which I hate. It encourages people to follow others or go with the trends but the trends/other people are not always right. You need to do your own research, make your own decisions and do what you think is the right thing to do not what everyone on social media tells you to do.
It also tends to take attention away from real problems that are occurring in the real world. Remember Karmageddon that happened on YouTube? It called out a bunch of people but did it really make that much of a difference? Jeffree Star is still out there living his best life, Tati is still making money off her pills, Shane is laying low but I just know he’ll be back soon and no one will care. A lot of times the things that are called out are real life problems and therefore there need to be real life solutions not an online cancellation.
I also want to mention that cancel culture very often tends to see everything in black and white. People are either good or evil. There is no grey area. However, this is very far from the truth. In reality almost everything in the world is grey. There is always good AND bad with every situation and looking at something/someone in just one light is very damaging.
For example, let’s talk about big companies paying their workers abroad really badly. When you look at it at first you obviously think that’s so unethical and awful- and you would be right if you’re thinking this. It’s awful- people are treated inhumanely and paid barely anything for their hard work.
However, when I studied it in one of my sociology classes I was able to think about it a bit more. A lot of people boycott these companies and therefore the company produces less products which means that the workers who were barely making anything to begin with get completely laid off or in some cases get paid even less than before. In the end these companies are going to do whatever they have to to make a profit- often times these measures are very unethical. As for the workers- they come from very poor backgrounds, many are women and children who absolutely need that- awful and super unethical- wage to survive. When you boycott the company and these people get laid off they lose this income which as small as it seems was very vital to their survival.
I’m not trying to criticise anyone with this example- if you choose to but ethically sourced and made products that is truly amazing and I really respect that. I’m just trying to show that things aren’t always in black and white- in fact they rarely are. Things are a lot more complicated than they seem. What we sometimes hear about and react to without doing our research is often just the tip of the iceberg.
In conclusion, I’ll say that I do understand where the cancel culture stems from and I do understand wanting to be part of the change but truth be told cancelling someone is just not it. We need to find a more realistic way to address things. I am also someone who believes that change is possible and that if we believe in something we should use our words to explain why we believe in that instead of blindly cancelling people. Explain to them why you believe they are wrong in a rational way.
I hope you found this post interesting. I tried to stay unbias and look at both the positives and negatives on cancel culture instead of just fixating on either the negatives or positives.
What are your thoughts on cancel culture? Do you think it’s a good thing? Do you think it’s a bad thing? As always let me know what you think in the comments below. Also let me know if you enjoy these kinds of posts where I try to talk about something in depth. It’s really fun for me because this is kind of what I do with my research papers anyway so it’s great practice but I’m not sure if you guys enjoy these kind of posts. So please let me know- your feedback is super helpful!

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I don’t have a very long or specific post today but I just basically wanted to remind everyone that I’m doing two giveaways on my Instagram- check out my two latest posts to see them- so feel free to enter if you are interested. It’s totally free by the way- I had some people ask me about that yesterday. To check out my Instagram click here.
Also an update on my fingers/hand- it’s doing way better and is almost fully healed. Thank you to everyone for your kind wishes and I will be back to blogging normally starting next week since I can type properly again.

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Use Social Media To Grow Your Blog

Why Social Media Is An Important Part Of Growing/Marketing Your Blog

We all know that social media has it’s pros and cons. Sometimes the cons can outweigh the cons, however, when it comes to growing your blog or marketing your blog social media can really make a huge difference. It can help direct traffic to your blog and in particular it will help you get traffic from outside the WordPress community. If used correctly social media can be used as a tool to help grow your blog and it can also be a great way to meet potential sponsors because a lot of sponsors do look at social media pages/find influencers to work with through their social media. It will also help you build a place to interact more with other bloggers and people interested in your writing and as I always say if you want to grow your blog you have to be active and socialise as much as possible. Here are some way through which you can grow your blog using your social media pages:

Connect You Social Media To Your Blog

This is probably the first thing you should do if you haven’t done it already- connect your social media pages to your WordPress blog. This will help WordPress auto-post on your social media pages every time you post something on your blog if you choose to do so. There is also an option for you to only post specific posts to your social media pages depending on what you want to post. Posting regular links/posts about your blog on your social media account will help remind your followers on social media about your blog because lets be honest people don’t always have the best memory and sometimes when you don’t put your blog in everyone’s face all the time they may forget to check it out regularly. Of course, don’t harass people into reading your posts but this will act as more of a friendly reminder. It will also help bring in traffic to your blog from outside of WordPress and get you more email followers which is always a plus. If you are not sure how to connect your social media pages to your WordPress blog click here.

Be Your Biggest Fan

This is going to feel very uncomfortable and weird at first but trust me when I say it’s necessary. You need to be your biggest fan and your greatest cheerleader and basically just do everything you can to market your blog on social media because if you use your social media pages wisely you can really start gaining a lot more traffic and even more followers to your blog. By marketing what I mean is try to post about your blog on your feed or in your stories on social media more frequently. If you are working on a new post talk about it on your story, post a couple of pictures of you working on the post, maybe tag people if the post is a collaboration. I would also highly recommend posting on your story or your feed every time a new post goes up especially if you know the post is about a topic people on your social media pages will be interested in reading about. For example, my posts about blogging or blogging advice are among the most popular posts on my blog and I know a lot of people on my social media are interested in these kind of posts so even though I don’t always post about all my blog posts on Instagram I try to post as often as I can about posts with these topics because I know for a fact that they will bring traffic to my site.

Schedule Posts

Blogging, social media and just everything to do with growing your blog can take up a lot of time and energy. I think a lot of people don’t realise how much of struggle it actually is to grow your blog and assume that all you have to do is write a post and the traffic/followers will just appear. Of course this is very far from the truth because the truth is writing a good post is only the tip of the iceberg. It takes a lot of time and effort to get a response to your blog and I know a lot of people juggle blogging with work/school and may not have time to do the who marketing part. For people who are struggling to do everything or may not always find the time to post on WordPress and social media I would recommend using Glowupp to schedule your social media posts ahead of time. I recently discovered Glowupp and I have found it super helpful because I don’t always have time to post on social media and my blog. But with this site I can schedule my posts on social media to go up at the same time that my WordPress post is scheduled to go up. You will definitely see an increase in traffic once you start posting about your blog posts/website regularly on social media. For a 30% off Glowupp use the code GETSTARTED at checkout.

Start Specific Pages For Your Blog

If you are planning on using social media to grow your blog I would highly recommend creating specific pages linked to your blog on the social media platforms that you choose to start using. There are a number of reasons starting a new page for just your blog is beneficial. To begin with, a lot of bloggers write stuff that’s very personal and may even write about the people in their lives from time to time and you may feel uncomfortable sharing these personal posts on your existing social media pages that have friends and family on them. I definitely felt like this and that was one of the main reasons I keep my personal pages private and my blog pages public- but away from my private life! Another reason is that people on your other pages may not be interested in your posts about your blog but if you start a page for your blog than you will get followed by people who are interested in viewing posts like these- probably other bloggers or people interested in the topics you write about. This way you get a specific audience instead of a random audience which means they will be much more likely to go over to your blog.

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Do you use social media? Have you been using social as a way to market your blog? If so have you been successful in diverting traffic from social media to your blog? Do you have specific pages for your social media pages or do you use your personal page?

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Why I Prefer WordPress Vs Social Media

WordPress Vs Social Media

I have been on WordPress for over four years now and I’ve been using social media for quite a while as well. Over the years I have found that I much rather prefer my time on WordPress and that social media can be quite toxic in some ways. I think Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest and other social platforms are fun but blogging has been the only way for me to truly express myself and actually form genuine connections with people. Here are all the reasons why I prefer WordPress over social media:

It’s more personal

From what I’ve seen on social media it seems that it’s ironically a lot less social than WordPress. The connections just feel very fake. Like people only comment very basic and non-specific comments on your posts just to get you to check out their page. One thing I absolutely love about WordPress is how it feels like a community and you’re able to have real conversations and connections with people. I feel like I’ve actually made friends here and have connected with people in a way that doesn’t really happen on social media.

The follow/unfollow game

I think this is what I hate most about social media and it’s pissing me off that people have started this on WordPress too although luckily it’s not too bad on here yet. It’s basically when someone follows you for a follow back and when you do follow them back they unfollow you after a while. It’s sad and pathetic and super unethical- also there are apps that help you find unfollowers so you can unfollow them back so like what is the point of it even? Anyway I’m very glad that the majority of bloggers don’t do that on WordPress.

I can express myself better

Since I can post much longer posts on WordPress compared to social media it’s just easier for me to express myself better here. With social media you can’t really post in the same way that you would post on WordPress. I love that I can fully express myself here and that when I do I have so many people responding with genuine comments. There’s also a lot of negativity on social media when you do express yourself which is something I don’t like. It makes me feel uncomfortable and anxious. I have had hate on WordPress but much less compared to social media.

Social media is kind of creepy and superficial 

So like I mentioned Instagram and Twitter are the only social media pages I have for the blog at the moment and I’ve had some creepy encounters on there especially on Instagram. For the most part WordPress is a lot more wholesome. I also don’t like how Instagram in particular can be pretty superficial and puts too much emphasis on outer appearance. WordPress on the other hand feels like an actual community and people actually want to connect with one another. People want to actually talk about stuff, get to know one another and connect.

Your thoughts?

Are you on social media and if you are what are your thoughts on the topic? Do you prefer social media or WordPress and why? I would love to hear your opinion on this so be sure to let me know in the comments below!
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Ask Me Something!

So if you’re on Instagram you’ve probably seen people do the “ask me something” on their story and it’s super fun so I thought we could try it out on WordPress too! To explain it a little better, basically you leave a question in the comments that you would like me to answer- it can be about me, about the blog or pretty much anything and I’ll answer it in a few days in a post with all the questions answered and of course I’ll tag the person who asked the question along with the question and answer! I thought it would be more fun to do on here instead of Instagram because I have a larger following here so there would be more questions and also everyone here isn’t creepy the way people are on Instagram if I’m keeping it real about why I don’t like doing it on Instagram. I also think it’s a fun way to interact with you guys as well which I always enjoy doing!
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The Greatest Gift You Can Give Someone

By Ben Peters
Imagine you are at a fancy restaurant and the person sitting across from you is none other than your childhood hero. That individual starred in your favorite movies. You had a poster of them on your wall growing up. And today you follow them on Twitter and Instagram. I can guarantee your mind would be riveted on that encounter. You might feel nervous, but you wouldn’t be on your phone. You wouldn’t be daydreaming or twiddling your thumbs. And you wouldn’t be thinking about the things you have to do once you finish eating dinner.
Mindlessness happens when the body is somewhere physically but the mind is in a different place altogether—when the lights are on but nobody is home. Mindlessness has reached epidemic proportions in the age of smart phones and omnipresent technology. You’ve all seen the laughable photos of families sitting together with every individual buried in their device. That’s been all of us at some point in the past. As a world, we’re more connected than ever but ironically we feel increasingly alone. Every expert in social sciences will tell you that human beings have a primitive psychological need for love and belonging, neither of which can be felt without the vulnerability present in face-to-face interactions. This is why the controlled, sanitized, often disingenuous connections we form on social media ultimately leave us dissatisfied. Brene Brown said it best in The Gifts of Imperfection:
A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all women, men, and children. . . Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it require us to be who we are. . . [T] rue belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world. . .  
When we decide to put our phones away and be mindful in the presence of another human being, we are showing them that they are worthy of our time. Worthy of our time spent with them that we can’t spend doing anything else or ever get back. Presence is the ultimate respect, and it costs us something.
What we we’re also doing is making it possible for a genuine connection to take place. The kind of quality connection that authors like Brene Brown love to hail. But it can’t happen without mindfulness. And everybody can tell the difference.
If you are having trouble being present, ask yourself how you would behave if you were in the company of your childhood hero. Mindfulness is always possible, even if it takes some creativity on our part. What’s best of all is that when we give others our presence, they tend to return the favor. And it’s when everyone is fully present that genuine human connections can be made.
For more, check out Six Little Stories With Lots of Meaning. You can also check out a list of every article ever published on Creator Villa by visiting the Creator Villa Archives.
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Sunshine Blogger Award #10

Thank you so much to Dr Sarah Mehta Mahajan and Nidhi Mehta from heartypsych for nominting me for this award! If you are interested in reading about posts about mental health do check out this blog it’s really great!

1. How old is your blog?

It’s four years old- it’s still a baby!

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2. What do you enjoy most about blogging?

The interactions I have with all the other amazing bloggers I’m lucky enough to interact with!

3. How important do you think Social Media is for the success of a blog?

Not that important- being honest, real, enthusiastic, hard working and a good blogger is much more important in my opinion.

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4. How would you define a successful blog? In other words, what do you think a successful blog looks like?

For me it’s not about how much they earn or how many followers they have, it’s about how passionate they are in their posts. I also think it’s important to see how many comments and interactions they have on their blog because it’s easy to buy fake followers/likes but what’s the point if you get no comments.

5. Have you ever thought about monetizing your blog?


6. If so, what do you think is the best method for monetizing?

I’m not sure yet I’m still trying to figure that out myself. I want to always make sure that my audience gets the best posts possible and I don’t want my quality to reduce for the sake of money.

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My Nominees

Anyone who wants to do this award please feel free to and use the same questions I did!

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Creepy Messages I’ve Received

So last week I did a post about things not to comment on a blog post and put up screenshots of creepy comments I’ve gotten. I also talked about some creepy messages I’ve received from bloggers on social media and I asked if you guys wanted to see those and some people were interested so I decided to share this creepy convo with you guys.



Let me know in the comments below if you would like to see more messages and maybe I can make this a weekly segment!

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