Dysfunction is Evidence of Our Humanness (Guest Post)

Dysfunction is Evidence of Our Humanness (Guest Post)

By Dr. Robert F. Mullen 

There is a joke that circulates among mental health professionals. Why do only 26% of people have a diagnosable mental disorder? Because the other 74% haven’t been diagnosed yet.

We are all psychologically dysfunctional in some way. “Mental illnesses are so common that almost everyone will develop at least one diagnosable mental disorder at some point in their life” (Scientific American).

Why do we treat the mentally ill with contempt, trepidation, and ridicule? We are hard-wired to fear and isolate mental illness, and we have been misinformed by history and the disease model of mental health. There are four common misconceptions about psychological dysfunctions. They are (1) abnormal and selective, (2) consequence of behavior, (3) solely mental, and (4) psychotic.

Let us deconstruct these misconceptions, beginning with the latter.

A dysfunctional person is psychotic.

There are two degrees of mental disorder: neuroses and psychoses. When someone sees, hears, or responds to things that are not actual, they are having a psychotic episode. While few persons experience psychosis, everyone has moderate-and-above levels of anxiety, stress, and depression. We are universally neurotic. Since the overwhelming majority of mental disorders are neuroses, we are all dysfunctional to some extent.

A dysfunction is abnormal or selective. 

A neurosis is a condition that negatively impacts our emotional wellbeing and quality of life but does not necessarily impair or interfere with normal day-to-day functions. It is a standard part of natural human development. One-in-four individuals have a diagnosable neurosis. According to the World Health Organization, nearly two-thirds of those reject or refuse to disclose their condition. Including those who dispute or chose to remain oblivious to their dysfunction, we can conclude that mental disorders are common, undiscriminating, and impact us all in some fashion or another. Many of us have more than one disorder; depression and anxiety are commonly comorbid, often accompanied by substance abuse.

A dysfunction is the consequence of a person’s behavior. 

Combined statistics prove that 89% of neuroses onset at adolescence or earlier. In the rare event conditions like PTSD or clinical narcissism manifest later in life, the susceptibility originates in childhood. Most psychologists agree that they are consequence of childhood physical, emotional, or sexual disturbance. Any number of things can cause this. Perhaps parents are controlling or do not provide emotional validation. Maybe the child is subjected to bullying or from a broken home. Behaviors later in life may impact the severity but are not responsible for the neurosis itself. It is not the fault of the child/adolescent, nor reflective of their behavior. There is the likelihood no one is intentionally responsible. This disputes moral models that we are to blame for our disorder, or it is God’s punishment for sin.

A dysfunction is solely mental.

To early civilizations, mental illness was the domain of supernatural forces and demonic possession. Hippocrates and diagnosticians of the 19th century looked at the relative proportions of bodily fluids. Lunar influence, sorcery, and witchcraft are timeless culprits. In the early 20th century, it was somatogenic. The biological approach argues that dysfunction is related to the brain’s physical functioning, while pharmacology promotes it as a chemical or hormonal imbalance. However, the simultaneous mutual interaction of all human system components—mind, body, spirit, and emotions—is required for sustainability of life and sustainability of dysfunction.

The disease model focuses on the history of deficit behavior. The American Psychiatric Association’s (APA) brief definition of neurosis contains the following words: distressing, irrational, obsessive, compulsive, dissociative, depressive, exaggerated, unconscious, and conflicts. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published by the APA, uses words like incapable, deceitful, unempathetic, manipulative, difficult, irresponsible, and incompetent. 

Moralists and the ignorant assume the ‘mental’ are weak and dishonorable, their behavior bizarre and illogical. The urban dictionary labels us silly or stupid. Adolescents derisively assign the term mental to the unpopular, different, and socially inept. These negative and hostile aspersions on our character are supported by public opinion, media misrepresentation, the mental healthcare industry, and the disease model of mental health.

This ‘defective’ emphasis has been the overriding psychiatric perspective for over a century. The disease model is the chief proponent of the notion that the mentally ill are dangerous and unpredictable. We distance ourselves and deem them socially undesirable. We stigmatize them. The irony is, we are them.

  • Over one-third of family members hide their relationship with their dysfunctional child or sibling to avoid bringing shame to the family. They are considered family undesirable, a devaluation potentially more life-limiting and disabling than the neurosis itself.
  • The media stereotypes neurotics as homicidal schizophrenics, impassive childlike prodigies, or hair-brained free-spirits. One study evidenced that over half of U.S. news stories involving the dysfunctional allude to violence.
  • Psychologists argue that more persons would seek treatment if psychiatric services were less stigmatizing. There are complaints of rude or dismissive staff, coercive measures, excessive wait times, paternalistic or demeaning attitudes, pointless treatment programs, drugs with undesirable side-effects, stigmatizing language, and general therapeutic pessimism.
  • The disease model supports doctor-patient power dominance. Clinicians deal with 31 similar and comorbid disorders, 400 plus schools of psychotherapy, multiple treatment programs, and an evolving plethora of medications. They cannot grasp the personal impact of a dysfunction because they are too focused on the diagnosis.

A recent study of 289 clients in 67 clinics found that 76.4% were misdiagnosed. An anxiety clinic reported over 90% of clients with generalized anxiety were incorrectly diagnosed. Experts cite the difficulty in distinguishing different disorders or identifying specific etiological risk factors due to the DSM’s failing reliability statistics. Mainstream medical authorities cite the poor reliability and validity, and inattention to human experience of DSM criteria. The recent head of the National Institute of Mental Health believes traditional psychiatric diagnoses have outlived their usefulness and suggests replacing or augmenting them with easily understandable descriptions of the issues.

Because of the disease model’s emphasis on diagnosis, we focus on the dysfunction rather than the individual. Which disorder do we find most annoying or repulsive? What behaviors contribute to the condition? How progressive is it, and how effective are treatments? Is it contagious? We derisively label the obvious dysfunctional ‘a mental case.’

Realistically, we cannot eliminate the word ‘mental’ from the culture. Unfortunately, its negative perspectives and implications promulgate perceptions of incompetence, ineptitude, and unlovability. Stigma, the hostile expression of someone’s undesirability, is pervasive and destructive. Stigmatization is deliberate, proactive, and distinguishable by pathographic overtones intended to shame and isolate. 90% of persons diagnosed with a mental disorder claim they have been impacted by mental health stigma. Disclosure jeopardizes livelihoods, relationships, social standing, housing, and quality of life.

The disease model assumes that emotional distress is merely symptomatic of biological illness. The Wellness Model focuses on the positive aspects of human functioning that promote our wellbeing and recognize our essential and shared humanity. The Wellness Model emphasizes what is right with us, innately powerful within us, our potential, and determination. Recovery is not achieved by focusing on incompetence and weakness; it is achieved by embracing and utilizing our inherent strengths and abilities.

Benefits of the Wellness Model

  • Revising negative and hostile language will encourage new positive perspectives
  • The self-denigrating aspects of shame will dissipate, and stigma becomes less threatening.
  • Doctor-client knowledge exchange will value the individual experience over the diagnosis.
  • Realizing neurosis is a natural part of human development will generate social acceptance and accommodation.
  • Recognizing that they bear no responsibility for onset will revise public opinion that an individual’s neurosis is the result of her or his behavior.
  • Emphasizing character strengths and virtues will positively impact the self-beliefs and image of the afflicted, leading to more disclosure, discussion, and recovery-remission.
  • Realizing proximity and susceptibility of dysfunction will address the desire to distance and isolate.
  • Emphasis on an individual’s value and potential will encourage accountability and foster self-reliance.

The impact of neurosis originates in childhood; recovery is a long-term commitment. The Wellness Model creates the blueprint and then guides and supports throughout the recovery process by emphasizing our intrinsic character strengths, virtues, and attributes that generate the motivation, persistence, and perseverance to recover.

The biblical adage treat others as you want to be treated takes on added relevance when we accept that we all experience mental disorders. In fact, dysfunction is evidence of our humanness.

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Dr. Robert F. Mullen is the director of ReChanneling Inc, an organization dedicated to the research and development of methods to mitigate symptoms of psychological dysfunction and discomfort.

A referenced copy of this article is available via rechanneling@yahoo.com.

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Awesome Blogger Award #5

Thank you!

I want to thank Manaswi Tanwar for nominating me for this award. She has an amazing blog with posts about a little bit of everything so no matter what you’re looking for you’ll probably find it there. Feel free to go over and check out her blog by clicking here. 

Rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Tag the post with #awesomebloggeraward.
  • Answer the question you were asked.
  • Nominate atleast 5 bloggers and inform them about their nomination.
  • Give them ten new questions to answer.

Questions

1. Describe your personality in one word?

Weird…

2. Which dish do you cook the best?

Kimchi pancakes or chili!

3. Played a prank on your best friend? Wanna share details?

Not really- I’m not a prank person to be honest…

4. What is one weird habit that you want to change?

I want to stop being fidgety.

5. Share details of your first blog post?

It was about the psychology behind cults and you can check it out by clicking here!

6. What do you think about existence of life outside Earth?

There is no way Earth is the only place with life. I mean the universe is insanely huge- it’s insane to think we’re here all alone. 

7. Your go-to outfit?

Red lips and little black dress. 

8. What does fitness mean to you?

Not a fitness person sorry. 

9. Your favorite movie?

Star Wars!

10. Do you like reading my blog? If yes, why?

Yes because you’re interesting and unique!

My Nominees

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What They Don’t Tell You About Anxiety And Depression

By Rachel
Feeling anxious, depressed, lost, stuck, empty (often inexplicably) are very common experiences. We often mask over them, and don’t realise that the people around us are feeling them too.
When healed & whole, we naturally feel confident and purposeful. We know what we want to create in our lives, and easily give our energy to this creation. Fear, anger, and futility become virtually non-existent, as challenges are purposefully confronted without taking a toll.
Everyone has the gifts of fulfillment, clear intuition, self-love, and ease of being. The challenge is to restore free and easy access to these states. The block? Emotional wounds.
Most of us are unknowingly carriers of unhealed early life woundings. Becoming who you want to be, who you know you truly are, is a matter of healing.

“Many people are not readily able to feel confident, content or purposeful. This represents a huge loss, because of the realisable potential within each of us.”

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Contentment, strength, and purpose are natural states of being.

So why is this so often not the case?

Feeling empty, low, flat, stuck, and futile can be feelings that correspond to depression. While worries, nervousness, butterflies, hypervigilence, racing thoughts and hearts, fear of people, are often described as symptoms of anxiety.
I have come to see depression and anxiety as signs of a deeper and often overlooked problem. When the deeper issue is healed, your natural state of wellness and wholesomeness is more readily available to you. In other words, without the chronic hard work you can feel content and enjoy the process of discovering your own life.
Getting the message from the people around you to “buck up” or “shake it off” are entirely unhelpful. These responses amplify self-blame, guilt, and even feelings of shame. Anxiety and depression are not just a matter of power over with will power.

Why can’t I just be happy, what’s wrong with me?!

The truth is that we always orient towards what we think will help. Even the most apparently self-destructive behaviour or negative feeling is a bid for well being. Truly.

What goes wrong?

No matter how many positive affirmations you make, how many times you tell yourself the ‘rational truth’, plan your success strategy, treat yourself to something nice, or go to the gym, the relief is often at best only temporary.
In the long run, these strategies don’t bring you the feelings of wholeness and worthiness that you intend. This apparent failure to be “happy,” is 100% not your fault.
There is a good reason why these techniques only work superficially. They do not clear the root cause of why you feel any combination of low, nervous, worried, reactive, hostile, empty, invalidated, powerless, out of control, helpless, or alone.
The rational mind, will power, and positivity are not the right tools for this healing job. To get out of these painful states and cycles, you need to dive into the belly of the beast and heal the root cause.

You might be surprised…

I have been sharing this with friends, family, and clients for years. You are not the problem, not broken – do not fix. There is nothing missing or defective about you.

What you are experiencing as shame, depression, anxiety, instability, disorientation… is an unrecognised developmental trauma.

In spiritual and energetic terms, this is the wounded inner child. More about that here:

In Psychological Terms – What is Developmental Trauma?

Developmental Trauma is like a block that disrupts our natural balance, leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, low-self-esteem, uncertainty about our role in life, and a chronic nagging feeling that something is “off” without really knowing what that is.
Trauma is also a subjective experience. This is one of the most important things to understand. Trauma has nothing to do with how apparently intense or harsh an event was to people observing it.
It has everything to do with how the adult, teenager, child, toddler, baby, fetus…. experiencing the event felt able to stay safe, valuable, and in control.
Developmental Trauma is an emotional injury that stunts your natural growth. When we endure such an injury as a child, (for example being criticized often, punished too harshly, invalidated emotionally, ignored, controlled, or living in a toxic family home) it does three things when it remains unhealed.

  1. It freezes a part of our consciousness in that traumatising moment
  2. The emotions, sensations, thoughts, beliefs, and wounding of that moment become locked inside of us
  3. We lose touch with our authentic being, which leads to feeling insecure, angry, or disoriented
  4. We form relationships, make life decisions, and favour activities that are driven by the unhealed wounds rather than our authentic nature.

Most Developmental Trauma is Unconscious

We don’t remember what happened, or why we feel the way that we feel. We just feel it. Shadow work is a critical part of healing these unconcious wounds. Our emotional pain in the here and now is the portal to the shadow.
Early life emotional wounding is trapped inside most of us, and relegated to the subconscious. We don’t remember why, but we feel ongoing unhappiness, emptiness, nervousness, low mood, harshness, self-criticism…
The truth of the matter is that many many more people are living with early life emotional wounds than they realise. It only takes one wound to cause unresolveable anxiety. This is because the past echoes into the present. It also means that a single healing can lift a huge weight off.
A single unhealed trauma makes us more vulnerable to future trauma. This is why a relationship break down, an interpersonal conflict, or a bump in the road can knock one person completely off track while another moves through the challenge without a scratch.

Healing Developmental Trauma

Although the body has matured into its adult form with the passage of time, the unresolved wounds of the past are held within as energies that continue to radiate the frequencies of the wound. We can conceptualise this fragment, this trapped energy, this wound – as an inner child.
The goal of healing is integration. We want to integrate the fragments of our consciousness (the lost and wounded inner children that each represent an emotional wound) back into a whole.
We want to bring the pieces of ourselves back into wholeness.
When we access the past trauma and heal it, we can shut off the ‘trauma alarm.’ The scattered mind and negative states are replaced with a feeling of security. In other words, you restore your natural path.

A trauma is frozen energy.

Parts of you are frozen in the past. This is called fragmentation. Not all of you is here and now.
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Negative states and emotions that are rooted in developmental traumas can be difficult to detect, because we are either used to them, subdued by them, or resigned to them and they have become the norm.
This new norm is actually a distortion that makes it difficult to experience natural states of happiness, security, and purpose. A negative repeating pattern in life, a chronic negative emotional experience, ongoing interpersonal conflicts or fears, are a sure sign of developmental trauma.

Although we may grow up in surroundings that are seemingly ‘ok,’ having no need to battle with abject poverty, starvation, or war – the loneliness, emptiness, sadness, and worry can remain intact.

These are telltale signs of an emotionally wounding childhood, are so often symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Healing is a gradual process. Every healing process that you do restores your original wholeness. There is no prescribed way to heal. In fact, different people will require different processes, be drawn to different techniques or schools of thought, and ultimately are able to heal.
I love to combine energy healing with psychotherapeutic work to resolve symptoms of depression and anxiety, by working with the real wounds.
Since we are made of mostly energy (including our thoughts and emotions) it is important to consider that our psychological injuries are non-physical. This makes energy healing an important part of your healing work, including shadow work, and inner child work.
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How To Maintain Balance In Your Life While At University

University is one of those things where if you let it, it can really consume all your time. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of only focusing on work and putting all the other important things in your life on the back burner. However, this is not exactly healthy because you need to have balance in your life because if you don’t have balance it’s easy to get exhausted, suffer from mental health problems and even physical problems. Here are some ways that can help you bring balance to your life while at university:

  1. Plan everything/keep a schedule– I would highly recommend getting a planner or scheduling your time in other ways. It will help to organise your time so that you don’t end up spending too much time on one thing and not enough on another. 
  2. Take…

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DEAR ME: An Open Letter To My 15 Year Old Self

Wow. So you’re finally 18. Legally adult huh?

Struggling with mental issues and self disgust and suicidal thoughts and what not, you made it to 18. I know you used to think you won’t ever make it till even 18, but here you are, a published author and happy as can be.

You owe it to a lot of people. I know. But still, seeing you as happy as you are now, I am really proud of how you managed yourself and made it to this point. And now you’re managing blogs and Instagram accounts and got an impressive follower count for a beginner.

You know, you never gave yourself enough credit. You know how to take care of yourself and others too. You have got a great set of friends now. I mean you used to be so scared of making friends and talking to people, didn’t you? Now look at yourself. And don’t worry, the rest of the transformation will come as you get through college and get a job. Interacting with people becomes easier with time, don’t worry.

Now my last piece of advice for you is that don’t worry so much, enjoy. Enjoy life as much as you can because you only get one life, don’t waste time worrying. And besides, you’ll never be as young as you are now. Leave the worrying for the adults and go have fun!

Continue writing and reading books. Do more of what makes you happy.

And to everyone who is struggling like me, I’d like to say, just hang In there. Everything works out in the end. Don’t ever lose hope. No matter what.

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Self Confidence! (Guest Post)

EE Cummings wrote that “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit”… These words resonate well with exactly what Self Esteem is and why it’s important for an individual to possess.

 
Brief explanation what is self confidence?
 
In her book The Portable Therapist (1992), Susanna McMahon explains that self-confidence is “a way of being in the world that allows you to know yourself and to take care of yourself.” Mary Welford (2013) says that it’s about being aware of when we’re struggling and having the strength to commit to doing something about it. Anneli Rufus (2014) asserts that self-confidence involves self-respect and having the courage to tell the truth about who you are, what you like, and what you believe.
Self-confidence, then, is the courage to know yourself, believe in yourself, and act on your beliefs. A definition of self-confidence is a positive feeling about oneself and the world that leads to courageous actions born out of a sense of self-respect.
Article – https://www.healthyplace.com › Web results What Is Self-Confidence? | HealthyPlace
“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson
 
Tips to improvement self confidence?
 
  • Thinking positive and focusing on what you do best .
  • Allowing yourself to think of things that you best at , giving yourself a chance to prove it
  • Look at yourself in the mirror (self-talk ) tell yourself you can do it!
  • If you doubting speak to a friend or family for opinions .
  • Been comfortable and confident you got to act it , smile and laugh. The way you physically show it by posture , standing upright with a smile.
  • Always love yourself , look at things that you love of yourself , you capable of many things this will make you confident in proving in yourself “ YOU CAN DO IT.
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Maltz
 
Don’t put life on pause , having a low esteem will set you back . To build confidence, you have to practice confidence. Trying out new things in life but you afraid , be confident in yourself to give yourself a chance taking the step forward without been negative .
Always believe in yourself never bring yourself down in what other people say or do to bring your confidence low.
 
  • Self-esteem is an essential human need that is vital for survival and normal, healthy development
  • Self-esteem arises automatically from within based on a person’s beliefs and consciousness
  • Self-esteem occurs in conjunction with a person’s thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and actions.
Points from the below link-
https://positivepsychologyprogram.com › …Web resultsWhat is Self-Confidence? + 9 Ways to Increase It [2019 Update]
Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals.

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Emotional Ups And Downs: What To Do To Manage Them

From Give it a Spin

“Knowing how to manage emotional ups and downs is one of the key skills we must work on, regardless of whether we regularly visit the psychologist’s office or not.”

On the other hand, to assume that we can not modulate our emotions is to limit ourselves in an unnecessary way, especially when these tend to change quickly and we become very sensitive to what happens to us.

In this article we will see a series of tips to know what to do in the face of emotional ups and downs, adopt strategies against instability of this type, and adapt ourselves in the best possible way to the environment and to life in general.

What are the emotional ups and downs?

The existence of emotions makes sense, among other things, because they do not arise through our conscious control. Thanks to them, we do not have to go through a long period of reflection to know how to position ourselves before an idea or event; simply, we adopt an attitude automatically, and sometimes in a matter of fractions of a second.

However, in some cases the dynamic nature of the emotions can become emotional ups and downs, which appear when minimal changes make the mood change completely.

This emotional instability cannot only generate discomfort in the person who experiences it first-hand; It can also negatively affect their way of socializing, since it facilitates the appearance of misunderstandings and communication failures. Therefore, it is normal to look for solutions, either by looking for a psychologist (for cases in which the quality of life is worn out) or by changing certain routines from day to day.

How to manage emotional instability

Below we will see several ideas to apply in case you are not attending psychological treatment, although reading them and trying to follow them by oneself can not replace the work of a mental health professional.

1. Look at what situations feed emotional ups and downs

Does this emotional instability appear in any situation, or does it remain linked to a specific context or scope? The answer to this question can give you clues about the extent to which ups and downs are facilitated by elements of your environment.

2. Learn about Bipolar Disorder

As with any type of psychological disorder, Bipolar Disorder can only be diagnosed by mental health professionals through personalized evaluations. However, the simple fact of reading about it can help us understand what happens to us, comparing its symptoms associated with what happens in that case.

Specifically, Bipolar Disorder is characterized by stages of mania, in which the euphoria and extreme optimism and motivation prevail, with another depressive type. These stages are usually long (several days in a row, or weeks), and the symptoms are very extreme and relatively independent of what happens to us.

So, if the emotional ups and downs are not extreme and do not last more than a day, there is no reason to think that this may be the phenomenon that affects us, while in the opposite case it is advisable to attend a psychological evaluation, even if note that it does not have to be Bipolar Disorder. Also, keep in mind that there is a tendency to identify with the symptoms of mental disorders, even though this relationship really does not exist or is exaggerated.

3. Sleep well and eat properly

In many cases, emotional instability is due to frustration fueled by poor physical condition. People who can not afford the energy cost their daily life demands tend to have higher levels of anxiety, which causes them to react in a more extreme way to negative stimuli.

For that reason, to sleep the necessary thing and to take care of the feeding will favor that it does not happen that deficit of energy, which is reflected in the emotional state.

4. Learn to surround yourself with the right people

There are times when emotional ups and downs arise from flawed relational dynamics, perhaps because of conflicts with another person, memories associated with someone and that we would prefer to forget or simply because the predominant attitudes in a group do us no good.

That is why it is important to be clear that if a relationship does not make us feel good, it is totally legitimate to cut it off, even temporarily until we recover.

5. Do not force the appearance of other emotions

If you try to “force yourself” to feel differently, that will only cause you frustration, since it will not work. Instead, it is much more useful to indirectly influence how you feel by exposing yourself to environments that convey the way you want to feel.

Anyway, in the case of emotional highs and lows this can not be the definitive solution either, since it can only be effective when the sudden change has already appeared that you want to avoid that is repeated constantly.

6. Take some time to disconnect

Entering a phase in which the ideas that obsess us and the environments that bombard us with reasons to worry are no longer important, is very positive, since it allows us to recover our strength and take up those daily challenges with renewed energy.
In order to be, change places, so that your physical environment does not remind you of what makes you experience stress.

7. Go to the psychologist

If you can not adequately manage emotional instability, do not blame yourself; The field of emotions works through processes that do not depend on our voluntary control, and we can only influence it indirectly, modifying our way of relating to the context. In the latter, psychological therapy works very well.

So, it is important to look for a psychologist or team of psychologists and let yourself be advised and helped. Working from the consultation sessions and through the routines indicated by the professional we will be doing what is necessary to improve significantly in a matter of weeks.

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I Have Escaped The Rocks!

It’s official I no longer have to learn about rocks (kinda technically)! I switched my Earth Science course and now I’m taking a different Earth Science course about cosmology!! I hope it’s like Cosmos (the show) because I loved that!

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I’m so excited for it!

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I’ll let you guys know how it goes!

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Also I am still doing all my other subjects so nothing has changed there. And I am still really loving them!

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Ewww Midterms

So I have midterms next week and I’m busy revising so I may not be posting that much this week. I have midterms for Sociology and Earth Science and a quiz for Psychology. For History and Philosophy I have assignments. It’s going to be a busy few days/weeks but worth it!!

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My Classes And Joining A Club

Philosophy– Okay so this is my new favourite subject!! It’s so deep and interesting and it’s the only subjecting where having multiple existential crisis actually helps you get good marks! And the cherry on top? My professor is absolutely hilarious and looks like George Lucas!

Psychology- So we’re basically learning stuff I’ve learnt in High School again which is awesome because it means I don’t have to work excessively hard and I already understand what the professor is talking about!

Sociology- It’s REALLY interesting!! I am going to learn about Karl Marx soon which I’m really looking forward to!

Earth Science- Okay I’m not going to lie it’s a lot more difficult than I thought it was but it’s also really interesting! Minus when we learn about rocks. That’s kind of boring to me.

History- Okay again I’m not going to lie the course I’m taking right now is boring. It’s not horrible it’s just a bit boring. I mean how much can you know about The British Isles? Apparently a lot.

And the club I joined was of course *drum roll* CREATIVE WRITERS CLUB!! The boy who’s in charge of it looks a bit like Augustus from The Fault In Our Stars 😂 I really hope he doesn’t read this post…

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