24 Thoughts While Turning 24

24 Thoughts While Turning 24

So, I am officially turning 24 today. It’s a weird birthday- perhaps as weird as last year because there is another lockdown in Ontario and I can’t really do much and even if I could I would not do much because I have a 15 page paper due today.

Anyway, back to the point- I’m 24 today. Notice how I used a question mark and not an exclamation mark. Well that’s because I don’t really know how I feel about turning 24. Nothing much has changed, I don’t feel older, I hope I don’t look that much older than I did last year although the forehead wrinkles and grey hairs say otherwise, I don’t sound any wiser that’s for sure. But at the same time I feel like everything has changed. 2020 left it’s mark and 2021 is doing a great job mimicking it.

I feel like I have grown up a lot in the last year, I have learnt new things about myself and the world around me, I know what I want in life, my goals are a little clearer and closer to being achieved. Everything has changed and nothing has changed. I don’t know if that makes any sense but it does to me. However, I must admit I have been working on my research papers for a few weeks now which means I am running on coffee and occasional naps so I am not exactly in the best shape or even fully lucid… But my blog is called lifesfinewhine for a reason- at 24 I fully intend to whine and ramble on till WP tries to kick me off this platform again.

Either way, I wanted to share some things I have learnt or just thought about in the last twelve months. I did this last year too and I really enjoyed it and a lot of you guys did too so I thought I’m not WordPress I’m not going to try to fix something that ain’t broken. I’m going to keep doing what works which is sharing personal details of my life and thoughts to strangers because it’s 2021 and what even is privacy anymore?

  1. Life goes on- one thing I have really learnt over the last few months is that no matter how bad it gets life goes on. Nothing is permanent- not the good stuff and not the bad stuff.
  2. Change is a constant in life. People change, things change and you change. That’s okay and I need to learn to embrace change instead of fear it.
  3. Something are out of our control. I like control and I like to always be in control of things but over the last few months I have realised that we really have no control over anything ever. We think we can control aspects of out life but the truth is we really can’t. And that’s okay because something that’s for the best.
  4. People come and go. Cherish the good memories but don’t hold on to the person because they may no longer be the person that made those memories with you.
  5. Take every opportunity you can get. You may feel like you’re unqualified, you don’t have enough experience, you’ll never make it but the truth is you never know until you try.
  6. Your emotions exist for a reason- even the negative ones. The only way to deal with them is to embrace them.
  7. Ice cream cures pretty much everything. Pizza and fries help too.
  8. Always try to be the best version of yourself.
  9. STOP PROCRASTINATING!! Life moves so fast stop wasting it and just finish your paper already!
  10. Work towards your goals and don’t get disappointed by set backs.
  11. Patience is a virtue. It will take a while to get to where you want to be but keep going.
  12. Cats are the best.
  13. The Universe always has your back- trust it even when times get bad.
  14. It’s okay to ask for help.
  15. Don’t overthink things because it may be too late when you finally make a decision.
  16. Cherish the people you love while you can.
  17. Don’t constantly apologise because you’ll get desensitized and the word “sorry” will begin to lose it’s meaning/importance. Only apologise when you mean it.
  18. When you do apologise don’t add a “but” to it. Take responsibility, learn from your mistakes and move on.
  19. When someone apologises to you don’t say “it’s okay” because they will think their behaviour was okay and they can get away with it again as long as they apologise. Instead, say “thank you for apologising” so they know what they did was wrong.
  20. If someone adds a “but” to their apology they probably aren’t sorry they are just making excuses and trying to manipulate you into thinking they are sorry.
  21. Do what you’re passionate about- forcing yourself to do things you don’t enjoy is only going to make you miserable. Sometimes we have to do stuff we don’t want to- like finish research papers- but when we are able to chose something we love over something we hate we should always choose what we love doing.
  22. Moisturize- just a friendly reminder that I’m not getting any younger and I need to moisturize if I want my skin to keep looking good.
  23. True friends will stay by your side no matter what. Others that you thought would be in your life forever will leave and that’s okay.
  24. Love wins every time. Do everything with love and try to be the most loving and caring person you can be.

Well that’s it for now. Next year when I’m half way to 50 maybe I’ll have some more things to share with you guys but for my 24th birthday this is pretty much it. I hope you guys enjoyed reading those and let me know in the comments if any of them resonated with you. Also let me know what you have learnt in the last few months and what you wish you knew at 24 if you’re older than 24.

I’m going to get back to my paper now- if anyone was wondering it’s about Cuba and the Cold War. The Bay of Pigs invasion happened right around my birthday so that’s an interesting little bit of birthday history.

Anyway, I hope you guys have a wonderful day and since it’s 420 (coincidence? I think not…😂) I hope everyone celebrating has a lot of fun!


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Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award #3

Thank you!

I want to thank Rising Star for nominating me for this award. He has a really interesting blog with inspirational posts, photography and more. Check it out by clicking here. 

Here are the rules:

  • Thank the person who has nominated you and provide a link back to his/her blog.
  • Answer their questions.
  • Nominate up to 9 other bloggers and ask them 5 new questions. (maybe you’ll see your name down)
  • Notify the nominees through their blog by visiting and commenting on their blog.
  • List the rules and display the “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” logo.
  • Provide the link to the Award creator, Rising Star from Ideal inspiration. https://idealinspiration.blog .

Questions:

 What inspired you to start a blog?
A friend of mine who suggested I start blogging as an outlet.

What inspires you to write?
I write a multi-niche blog so basically what I’m interested in at that moment is what inspires me to write.

Who is your ideal person?
Mr. Darcy… don’t @ me (can you @ people on WP??)

How long do you think you will blog?
As long as I can and as long as you guys keep wanting to read my posts.

What else you do along with blogging?
I’m a full time student so I guess I study along with blogging.

My Nominees

If you’re reading this post and feel as though this may be something you want to participate in please consider yourself nominated and use the same questions I did- I would love to read your take on them! And if you don’t want to do an entire post dedicated to it you can leave the answers in the comments below.
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How To Keep A Positive Mindset

This is a collaboration post between Onome and I. I did a post for her blog a while back and she kindly wrote this amazing post for mine. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did and don’t forget to go over and check out her amazing blog in which she writes about mental health, books, lifestyle and much more. The link to it can be found below.

By Onome Erikewe
Maintaining a positive mindset can be difficult to achieve even when all efforts are made. It can seem like an endless battle to hold on to positive thoughts. You might have even experienced feelings of nausea because you feel it is impossible to stay in a place of complete peace
If you are in that situation, then be ready to get your mind right with these tips.

  1. Allow space and time to work the magic – Give yourself the opportunity to stay calm. Don’t try to force the feeling of positivity. It will work naturally. Once your mind is in a place of stability, you will find it easy to focus on the right things.
  2. Listen to your gut- You always have a voice inside of you that tells you exactly how you are feeling. It can either be negative or positive. However, look for those areas that are positive and dwell on them.
  3. Develop a habit of positive self-talk – While it is easy to get stuck with negative thoughts, you should train your mind to think positively. How do you do that? It is a simple trick of becoming self-aware. Your mind works with your brain, so if you can make your brain believe positive things, that will also reflect on how your mind retains information. So quick exercise, try to think of something about yourself that makes you incredibly happy. Then, imagine that you are having that same experience now. How do you feel? Great I guess. Now, train your mind to say that thing out. That is how you master the art of positive self-talk. It comes with consistent practice. So keep practicing until you get better at it.
  4. Fix your mind on the present- It can be a hassle to stay focused on the present. However, fixing your mind on the ‘now’ rather than the ‘next’ could really save you the stress of thinking about the future especially in difficult times. Being anxious does not solve anything, it only amplifies the problem. You can check my page on ways to deal with anxiety where Pooja graciously gave tips on how to overcome anxiety in difficult times.
  5. Have a circle of positive people- This is a vital part of developing a positive mindset. Your network and the people you surround yourself with have a lot to do with your mindset. Make a deliberate effort to be in the circle of people who will encourage you and uplift you.

Did you enjoy this post? Please head on to my blog at https://onomespeaks.wordpress.com/ to enjoy more tips on personal development. I want to say a big thank you to Pooja for this opportunity to write for her blog. Thank you all and I hope you start taking action on these steps.
Cheering for you.
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6 Reasons Why Reading Increases Positivity

By Elli from NeedtoRead
Everyone strives to be more positive, happy, and healthy. It’s a goal we all have in mind, and subconsciously try to work towards day by day.
But what if I told you that reading isn’t always just a pastime, and can actually help you obtain this goal?
#1. Different Points of View
When you’re reading a book, each character will have a different point of view about what’s happening as the story unfolds.
You get to choose what side you’re on based on all of their perspectives and ideas, which is a good tactic to use in reality, as well!
This will help you to understand what other people are thinking in your daily life, and find solutions for yourself based on the different perspectives of the people you interact with.
Being able to sympathize and understand someone else’s point of view of a situation will help you become more positive, understanding, kind, and hopefully give you a better outlook on life.
#2. Inspiring Characters
Have you ever read a book and been inspired by your favourite character to change your habits to more positive ones? To use your kind heart to help others?
Books always find a way to impact how we behave, and the outcome is usually a positive one!
Inspiring characters will help you figure out what your goals are, and what you value most.
#3. Someone Understands You
There’s something about reading that can really take a toll on what you think about yourself.
I used to have a lot of social anxiety, so much that I would even avoid interacting with my closest friends, for the fear that I would embarrass myself.
I began to become more attracted to books as a way to vent my feelings, to become friends with the characters that felt like they didn’t fit in, the same way I did.
Over time, I began to feel my confidence increase. Knowing that how I was feeling was more common than I thought, I was able to fight back, and gain more control over my fear of talking to others.
#4. More Educated
If you want to be more educated about the world around you, reading a variety of books is a great way to learn more.
From reading both fiction and nonfiction books, you will learn more about how the world works, how people think, and more, based on what the book you’ve read is about.
There are millions of books on different topics, so there are definitely some that you’ll be interested in; maybe you’ll even find a topic that you didn’t know you were passionate about until now!
#5. A Feeling of Community
For every series of popular books, there’s always a fan group somewhere. A great place to find people who like the same books as you is through social media!
Talking to other people, even if they’re strangers, about a book that you enjoyed will give you the feeling of community. You’ll also get the opportunity to learn about people from other countries and walks of life, since most online fan groups are international.
#6. Discovering What Really Matters
While reading about a character’s life, you might begin to think about your own on a deeper level.
What’s most important in my life? Who do I want to be?
Reading about fictional people finding themselves will, in a way, inspire us to work towards doing the same. They give us the confidence to keep going, to keep pushing out of our comfort zones until we finally reach where we wish to be.
In the end, we know that reading can’t make us more positive on its own, but it can certainly help. What do you think about reading? Has it helped you somehow?
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23 Lessons In 23 Years

It’s officially my birthday you guys- I’m 23! I was originally going to do a post about how I celebrated my birthday but obviously this year I was not able to celebrate it. So instead I decided to write a post about the things I’ve learnt over the last 23 years.
1. Be patient and understanding. Not everything can happen instantly and you can’t be perfect all the time so be patient and take your time. And always be understanding not only towards others but towards yourself too.
2. Take chances. You would rather not succeed and have tried than not have tried at all.
3. Saying no is important. It doesn’t make you a bad person or selfish. It means that you are your priority and in some cases that is something that’s necessary.
4. Be selfish. It’s okay to be selfish and do what makes you happy. It’s not on you to make others happy and it’s not your responsibility to fix other people. Just stick to working on yourself.
5. Stop apologizing for everything. Apologizing for what needs to be apologized for is great but don’t apologize for everything even things that are not in your control.
6. Be grateful. Always be grateful for everything and everyone you are so lucky to have in your life.
7. It’s okay to be different. This is something I’ve always suffered with. I’ve always been “different” even when I’ve tried really hard to be “normal”.  However, over the years I’ve realised that it’s okay to be different and there is no “normal”. Everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way.
8. Be yourself. Again I had a hard time being my authentic self when I was younger especially in my teenage years. That’s why I love the WordPress community so much- it really gave me a place to figure out who I am and embrace it.
9. Listen to what people are really telling you. Sometimes it’s really about how someone says something and how they choose their words that speaks volumes of truth. I talked about this in my 2020 goals post but what I’ve learnt is when someone apologizes don’t say “it’s okay” because that tells the person that their behavior is okay when it’s not. Another example would be if someone says “I’m sorry but…” and continously makes excuses- they’re not sorry they’re just saying it.
10. Always be kind. Even to those that don’t necessary deserve your kindness. Don’t be a pushover but don’t be unkind.
11. Sometimes silence is the loudest response. You don’t always have to have the last word. Sometimes not saying anything speaks volumes.
12. Who you are constantly changes. As you grow and evolve so does your personality. It doesn’t mean you’ve become a different person it just means you’ve grown.
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13. Make priorities. Priorities are important because you can’t do everything. And if you do try to do everything perfectly you’re going to be in for a rude awakening.
14. Make memories. Work hard but make sure you take some time out to make memories.
15. Always listen to your gut. If something doesn’t seem right get out of there. You’re gut doesn’t lie.
16. Don’t give up. Failure is something you will always face in life and you will always have people trying to bring you down but don’t give up on you. Be your biggest cheerleader.
17. Travel, travel and travel!
18. Always try to keep an open mind. Don’t judge people, instead try to put yourself in their shoes and understand where they’re coming from.
19. Try to constantly be learning something new. Learning new things is important no matter how old you get and whether or not you’re in school.
20. Don’t take things personally. Sometimes it’s not about you- in fact a lot of times it’s not about you. We as humans tend to be a little self absorbed. I’m guilty of it and so is everyone. But it’s important to remember that everything is not always about you.
21. Cut out toxic people. They’re never going to change and they’re going to take you down with them.
22. Work hard for what you want. Don’t let anyone or anything stop you from achieving your dreams. Work hard to achieve your dreams.
23. Happiness should be your priority. A lot of things are important but your happiness should come first. Do what makes you happy.
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